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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are we think ok looking people. We send face pics with messages and have a full profile yet we can't get a meet. Its really knocking the other halfs confidence, as when my pic is sent they want us and then we put his on and then we get a no thanks. He isn't bad looking, but its getting him down. There must be a couple in our area who would find us acceptable! He is just about ready to give up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are we think ok looking people. We send face pics with messages and have a full profile yet we can't get a meet. Its really knocking the other halfs confidence, as when my pic is sent they want us and then we put his on and then we get a no thanks. He isn't bad looking, but its getting him down. There must be a couple in our area who would find us acceptable! He is just about ready to give up "
we are local to you but your age is what puts us off.... sorry .... but we, and lots of other people, do have a problem with people who are younger than their own children.
dont mean this to put you off, you will find someone on here eventually.
try going to clubs or socials, maybe you will find what your looking for there ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm considering packing it in too......can hardly get a chat even.Maybe we should start up a site for unsuccessful swingers!!!!!!!I don't think I'm that bad looking but it seems that things are stacked against me having fun!!!!It can really knock your confidence.....which I used to have in abundance!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go to swing clubs ... chat and know people its alot of fun ..How do you know you would like and wish to swing if you did meet people from here ? its all luck really and you go to a club like chams theres 100s of people ... and you get to pick at times . I think you need pics on the profile if looking to meet here .. it helps and i know you send if asked .... just some will not ask thay just look , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could be a variety of reasons.
Girl 22, a lot of peoples fantasy
Male 35, with a beard, not so much
I notice your fella has a face pic on his own profile
If you aren't bothered about showing his face, then show it here too and then people can see before messaging.
It didn't take me long to read your profile and find it but others might not be as 'thorough' and just simply message.
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I'm confused Oralcouple.
You say you aren't successful having meets, yet the headline on your profile says you had a great MMF last night, and you posted this just 30 minutes before you started this thread.
Seems like you are having meets after all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm confused Oralcouple.
You say you aren't successful having meets, yet the headline on your profile says you had a great MMF last night, and you posted this just 30 minutes before you started this thread.
Seems like you are having meets after all"
maybe loved that meet and wish to have alot more and cant get them easy . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If anyone wants the face pics I send then message me privatly and I will attach them.  "
but in fairness, you state it is not your pics that are the deal breaker, it is your mans
he has a public pic on his own profile, so could he not have one here
that may prevent people messaging who will only say 'no' when they have seen his face pic anyway
doesn't solve anything but certainly might cut down on 'the admin' of it all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Will get him to change his piccy. I don't take much notice of his solo profile. We had a mmf last night because we got let down by a couple after sending face pics. A single man was easy to find, that's why we went for a single man. We don't usually do that and we want couples really. Hope that explains everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Will get him to change his piccy. I don't take much notice of his solo profile. We had a mmf last night because we got let down by a couple after sending face pics. A single man was easy to find, that's why we went for a single man. We don't usually do that and we want couples really. Hope that explains everything. "
In that case, I refer you to my initial comment
You are likely to be more attractive to the male of the couple than your man is to the female.
And unless both like the look of you both you're buggered.
I rarely fancy both members in a couple and am not one of them that would meet with both unless I was willing to play with both.
Some couples might also be put off by his bi status - pics aside - not all, but some. |
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even though we would be a little concerned about fems age, we would happily meet for a drink and see where it goes.
cant just judge people on ages as some have a maturity beyond their years.
just keep at it |
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I'm surprised this doesn't happen more often. Never understood why couples seeking other couples only have the female half on show. If both of you are in the picture people can see straight away if you're for them.
Getting interest on the female alone is leaving yourself open to having your confidence knocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm surprised this doesn't happen more often. Never understood why couples seeking other couples only have the female half on show. If both of you are in the picture people can see straight away if you're for them.
Getting interest on the female alone is leaving yourself open to having your confidence knocked."
You right
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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cant just judge people on ages "
i do 
nah its not a case of judging, i wouldnt meet a 22 year old simply becaise i feel im to old, i dont feel im judging them its more about how it would make me feel and to be honest sat in a pub chatting up a 22 year old would make me feel like a sad old women
Tho saying that if they are interested in them till they see him id say its not her age putting them off its obviously someone on his part and what i have no idea as i have never spoken to or seen him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We felt in the beginning we had trouble getting meets, but its a big networking thing,, if you don't go in the chat rooms - get on cam, talk to people, go to socials, go to clubs/parties its very hard to come across well on here when your an average looking couple ( and i don't mean that in a bad way - we are decidedly average)
We have had people meet us at clubs/parties and play who would never have even thought about it looking at our profile because of my age (fem) but have had a fantastic time.
People seem to judge less on the superficial stuff ( age, photos, what profession you are etc) in real life when you can have a conversation and promote yourself in the best way, than they do online!
So get yourself out there and have as much fun as you can with each other and other people will naturally be drawn to you because your fun and interesting, not because of your age, photos, number of fabs etc etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These forums are a good place to start networking I have found, I have been in the chat rooms and it's a bit hit and miss for me.
Socials are good also, gets your face known and your personality can be truly shown....... Takes time and I'm sure you'll reap the benefits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive always found the chat rooms have worked better for me in regards of getting meets, i have met many people from chatting in the chat rooms, or by then mailing me becaue they have seen me on cam in there, i have never met anyone as a result of using the forums, i have always had the impression people who use the forums are more the type that just come on to keep in touch with old friends rather than looking for new meets where as people who go in chat are more looking for meets
I could be wrong but thats always the impression i have had
Personally i think if your looking for a meet, get in the chat room and both sit on cam, that way people can see you both, i dont mean getting naked, i know going on cam isnt for everyone but i have found i always get far more interest when im on cam, people are just far more likely to mail you if they can see you both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ive always found the chat rooms have worked better for me in regards of getting meets, i have met many people from chatting in the chat rooms, or by then mailing me becaue they have seen me on cam in there, i have never met anyone as a result of using the forums, i have always had the impression people who use the forums are more the type that just come on to keep in touch with old friends rather than looking for new meets where as people who go in chat are more looking for meets
I could be wrong but thats always the impression i have had
Personally i think if your looking for a meet, get in the chat room and both sit on cam, that way people can see you both, i dont mean getting naked, i know going on cam isnt for everyone but i have found i always get far more interest when im on cam, people are just far more likely to mail you if they can see you both"
I find I get ignored in the chat rooms.........maybe it's just me lol
Most of meets have come from socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i suppose it maybe a difference between being men, women and couples, maybe different parts of the site work better for different groups of people
i dont drive so i dont do socials as theres never any close to me
Tho i do find clubs easier than looking for meets on here so i tend to use clubs quite a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i suppose it maybe a difference between being men, women and couples, maybe different parts of the site work better for different groups of people
i dont drive so i dont do socials as theres never any close to me
Tho i do find clubs easier than looking for meets on here so i tend to use clubs quite a lot"
And there is another difference, I won't go to a club on my own, been with a fb years ago to chams, but wouldn't dream if going in my tod..... But socials I will...... I'm just odd lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like clubs i just find them a safe and easy place to meet
I arrange to meet a lot of guys in clubs off here as that way if they cancel or dont show i havnt had a wasted night as im at the club so just carry without them, theres also a chance you may not like each other so again no loss as your at the club anyway
I do understand why men dont want to go alone tho, its hit and miss for guys, some seem to do ok some just walk round all night being ignored
I do think as a couple tho its a good option, most clubs now have couples night so maybe a idea for the OP to look at going down that road |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do understand why men dont want to go alone tho, its hit and miss for guys, some seem to do ok some just walk round all night being ignored
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Oh you seen me then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do understand why men dont want to go alone tho, its hit and miss for guys, some seem to do ok some just walk round all night being ignored
Oh you seen me then "
clubs are wierd places for guys, ive seen some absolutely gorgeous men in there that i could trip over my tongue looking at and they get no attention at all, and im totally shocked when at the end of the night if i talk to them they say they didnt get to play
Then theres me, Mrs Average lol stretch marks, saggy bits, wrong side of a size 12, wrong side of 30 lol and i could get 20 shags in a night if i wanted, i know women just do find it easier than men but sometimes i just look at some guys and think......how could nobody wants you 
So tho i like my single guys in clubs i do understand why a lot dont like going alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm confused Oralcouple.
You say you aren't successful having meets, yet the headline on your profile says you had a great MMF last night, and you posted this just 30 minutes before you started this thread.
Seems like you are having meets after all"
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I've found the same thing. All seems to be going well until I send a face pic. I know I'm no George Clooney and am developing a thick skin. Fact of the matter is us guys are always going to find it an up hill struggle. No doubt about it, persistence pays off. So hang on in there |
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