Out of curiosity how many other people write a message to someone, only to overthink about the reaction it might get and end up deleting it instead?
Or do you not even give it a second thought and just send and hope for the best? |
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over a year ago
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Excellent question and I believe it’s all dependent on where you are in the conversation.
If it’s reasonably early I think it’s easier to send instead of running it through your mind multiple times. |
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Messages can never portray all you want or need to say like a long face to face meeting can. They would need to be galactic in size. Hence people will and often do misinterpret them or read between the lines and come to the wrong conclusion before conversation has truly begun (or even way down the line). All you can do is be careful, check twice before sending, think how they might interpret, and hope they are intelligent enough not to make false assumptions... |
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"Messages can never portray all you want or need to say like a long face to face meeting can. They would need to be galactic in size. Hence people will and often do misinterpret them or read between the lines and come to the wrong conclusion before conversation has truly begun (or even way down the line). All you can do is be careful, check twice before sending, think how they might interpret, and hope they are intelligent enough not to make false assumptions..."
Now I know I'm completely guilty of reading between the lines only to come to a completely different conclusion to what was actually intended. |
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I always read the profile the people I message to try and get an understanding of them, but you can over think it.
I go through phases of long winded blurb and then the opposite of 2 lines.
I also use wink to see if that sparks an interest, unless profile says no winks. |
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"The opening message is the one I find most difficult and sometimes overthink.
Trying to catch their attention and get some humour in there can be very tricky. "
No doubt just when you think it's perfect and send it, it either doesnt get read or deleted anyway and you end up thinking why did I even bother. I've done that a couple of times. |
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"The opening message is the one I find most difficult and sometimes overthink.
Trying to catch their attention and get some humour in there can be very tricky.
No doubt just when you think it's perfect and send it, it either doesnt get read or deleted anyway and you end up thinking why did I even bother. I've done that a couple of times."
This definitely happens and you have to brush it off and not take it personally. I don’t think people have the time or want to spend the time chatting.
Got to appreciate those who do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We take our time but the messages we receive are seemingly sent without any thought to how they might be received hah, honestly half these guys are never going to meet anyone let alone have any sex |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I've certainly been guilty of sending a message and then thinking "I shouldn't have said that, or I should have said this" but have come to realise that to those that it really matters what they think, it doesn't matter so long as I've been open and honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get really nervous sending messages as it's difficult to understand if the receiver will get your sense of humour. I worry incase anything gets taken out of context etc but feel like an absolute bore with a 'play it safe' message. Hard to get the right balance! X |
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