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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i wouldnt meet any one while i was with him we were together years ago and when i used to mention little things i wold enjoy doing he used to tell me i was disguting lol x dont think its going to be an easy one  |
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"i wouldnt meet any one while i was with him we were together years ago and when i used to mention little things i wold enjoy doing he used to tell me i was disguting lol x dont think its going to be an easy one "
Could be tough but he may have changed a little on this subject, broach it and see how he reacts. Z |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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it is probably making it worse me siting here and fucking stewing about it lol
i dont want to leave here i have had loads f fun and met ome amazing people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i wouldnt meet any one while i was with him we were together years ago and when i used to mention little things i wold enjoy doing he used to tell me i was disguting lol x dont think its going to be an easy one "
Then decide which one you world rather live without because it sounds more like choosing between the 2 than breaking the news to him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it is probably making it worse me siting here and fucking stewing about it lol
i dont want to leave here i have had loads f fun and met ome amazing people"
You probably only need to tell him that you joined a swinging site while you two weren't together and you'd like to carry on. |
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"it is probably making it worse me siting here and fucking stewing about it lol
i dont want to leave here i have had loads f fun and met ome amazing people"
it's a tough one - why not stay quiet about you swinging till you see how the relationship develops - if you see a great future with him broach the subject, but if it doesn't go anywhere he's non the wiser and you can carry on swinging! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "
Male here i played before i met my now wife, and i was worried how to approach this subject aswell however, i put some daft late night programme on like sexetra or simalar, and swinging came on it so we got talking about fantasies and would you be curious to what went on etc etc and thats when i found out she was open minded enough to try and had little fantasies about simalar, so yeah i was lucky, so maybe try both the fantasies swop or see if any late daft programmes are on and joke about the subject first and see response, if its a no then your in a differcult position, but after all this scene doesnt replace love? so do you have feelings enough to stop? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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you were a single female when you met him so nowt wrong with being on a site like this, he may have been at some point.
just be honest and if he reacts badly, you may not be as suited as you feel.
note use of MAY.
good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "
this is why i always say its best to tell people on a first date
Lots say to leave it a while but i think the sooner the better that way if he dont like the idea and does a runner its less hurtfull on you than if he does that now after you have grown found of him
To be honest now i think you have two choices, either stop and dont tell him or just tell him out right, or a 3rd option but depends how honest you want to be, you could put swinging to him as a suggest that you both try together making out its new to you as well just means you cant meet anyone you met before you started with him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ?
this is why i always say its best to tell people on a first date
Lots say to leave it a while but i think the sooner the better that way if he dont like the idea and does a runner its less hurtfull on you than if he does that now after you have grown found of him
To be honest now i think you have two choices, either stop and dont tell him or just tell him out right, or a 3rd option but depends how honest you want to be, you could put swinging to him as a suggest that you both try together making out its new to you as well just means you cant meet anyone you met before you started with him "
I would never tell someone on a first date, I'd have to get to know them a bit first. I would have to be sure I could trust them not to blab it all over the place. My private life is private, definitely don't want everyone knowing my business.
I'd go with option 3 if it was me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ?
this is why i always say its best to tell people on a first date
Lots say to leave it a while but i think the sooner the better that way if he dont like the idea and does a runner its less hurtfull on you than if he does that now after you have grown found of him
To be honest now i think you have two choices, either stop and dont tell him or just tell him out right, or a 3rd option but depends how honest you want to be, you could put swinging to him as a suggest that you both try together making out its new to you as well just means you cant meet anyone you met before you started with him
I would never tell someone on a first date, I'd have to get to know them a bit first. I would have to be sure I could trust them not to blab it all over the place. My private life is private, definitely don't want everyone knowing my business.
I'd go with option 3 if it was me. "
i pretty much feel the same but i just think the longer you leave it the harder it gets so to get it out in the open straight away seems the easiest way to me, but as you point out they could blab it about....suppose its a catch 22 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but i still wana swing how can i break it to him ? "
This guy doesnt know how lucky he is.if he has any problem with it he must be mad. just wish there were more ladys like you out there . all the best .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or you could talk dirty to him whilst getting intimate, tell him all the things you'd like to do to him, then incorporate a second or third person into the story and see what reaction you get, if it turns him on or not.
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if she did tell him I hope they arew still shagging each other senseless at the thought of both swinging....or maybe they rushed off to a club and are now to knackered to reply  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do you want to be with him of he thinks swinging is disgusting?
Either way, a decision needs to be made and stuck to.
I don't think a relationship will last if you get with him and still want to swing.
What is it that you really like about him? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey well its good news guys he can round and after we fucked I told how much I would like some one to join us he wouldn't mind  tbinks it will be fun woooop woooop I'm going to leave meets for what while unroll we are both settled with each other then get a couples profile! He ain't the best guy in bed so need some experienced ladies to help me train him up ha ha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey well its good news guys he can round and after we fucked I told how much I would like some one to join us he wouldn't mind tbinks it will be fun woooop woooop I'm going to leave meets for what while unroll we are both settled with each other then get a couples profile! He ain't the best guy in bed so need some experienced ladies to help me train him up ha ha x "
Yay you, such a relief I bet!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes lol it was awfully when I said it things went quiet for a few seconds felt like a few mins lol x but he seems game and no I won't reach him about the forums lol x |
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