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Males ruin it for the genuine!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Today i witnessed something truly unbelievable. I have noticed since i have joined this site that i have sent alot of messages to girls and couples that i have been interested in of course with the full intention of meeting either or as they would I of course {swinging} we are all swingers!! Also provided by the assumption we are most likely to get on with each other and will probably have no apparent reasons for why we may not. 9 out of ten at a push maybe a response I honestly believed the were not interested?, and being me i wondered how could that be without even responding?? im not getting a fair chance!!! Well OMG to all u girls and couples im sorry!! i have seriously misjudged the reasons for why i now believe i never got a response. I met a couple 2day as you do..... And the things they told me about what they were dealing with these past years which honestly completly shocked me beyond belief!!! The staggering amount of wasters that swamp them with messages 48 unread when i seen it last,{in the space of two hours} replying to a meet at theres destination given requiring a genuine well endowed male to join in a mmmf meet A.S.A.P others possibly found them while browsing. Well you had to see it to believe it! What is wrong with u lads i talk of?, Required details given specifically, a golden opportunity to come to a genuine private meet today {bank holiday monday} with along side myself and as i watched as their total waste of time theory proved beyond doubt and what made it worse is i was convinced they had to be wrong argued they had to be wrong!! well of course they did know alot more than i did, they were spot on! With the overwhelming majority of the dreaded male response, all no doubt full of cum and fairytale fantasies about meeting imaginary people!! A lightning response it was to be, so immediate and powerfully convincing it was totally pathetic i thought in the end! Total jokes! one guy just remembered he was working after about 57 msgs another lads budgie died suddenly just as he was leaving i mean theres pages of them!!! What a total JOKE! Surly this site cannot sustain this sort of behaviour there must be more filters, or something available to try and contain what is happening!!!Ok lads i do know about having a dose of d ole horn and just getting off is totally fine but there are thousands of free porn sites for this amongst numerous other ways im sure! Instead you have especially both mf couples and single girls looking for single males swamped with so many messages packed with zero intent, that is has to be near impossible to sort, to identify those of us that are completly genuine making a fairly good case for why they will be happy to have taken the time and seen maybe what pics we might have, or learned a bit about us 2 start with at least! Then maybe reply to us fairly confident that if it was`nt to be them it was for anything other than the most common assumption in my _iew perceived in that they are all Timewasting or liars and your being fooled again anyway, ways the point!! where cud i even begin, this guy has sent four in a row!! he has to have noticed the STOP THINK AGAIN PAGE do i reply to the first or fourth? such confusion!!! there are just too many!! what is the difference anyway? i cant be bothered with all this today again!!!!! You see we cannot even be identified for who we are and judged on that or any other reasons like compatiblity, humour or charm loads of things!! instead most have to cross their fingers that maybe get lucky they might see the cock pic, that cud just give me a squeak!! that is not how it works! Amagine a large swarm of bees, were do u start? it is outrages!! At least if you know you either dont meet the requirements, or for some other reason and knowing the number 1 vital necessity to a response or a random message to another the most important of all!!!! in not ever having the intention anyway of meeting anyone regardless!! Come on lads, decide! i call on both every girl and mf couple especially that has this very serious infection to call out there bluff asap Make it crystal clear to anyone who wants to make contact, if a man has any intention of meeting from the very first message sent then he will send his number for example, yes he will be a bit edgy but if you think about it, i go to my meets and tell myself the people or person is just like me, they want what i want if im nervous then the too are, They dont want their business broadcast just i dont, why on earth would they bother to do that??? So any genuine reservations can be dismissed and a chance taken that it is all what it seems to each party and not some load of shite that destroys it for everyone else. Of corse this is one suggestion and i now hope that all you genuine people out there find more direct and to the point measures to quickly identify the wasters and sort the men from the boys!! maybe not for good but im sure it can only help!! Please dont feel that i have singled anyone in particular to all guys gals couples and T.V bulshitters pisstakers!! you all no who you are and this is directed at you only! For all the rest true play mates then bear in mind yes it is a swinging site people! we generally meet others providing it works well it will lead to most probably a sexual encounter with the srong possibility of between more than two people at a time in the same room!! this is why we are here to try and satisfy these disires, for anyone who have just realised its not for you then maybe a dating website may suit you better??? and maybe not, thats up to you! Ok im gonna bed i will look forward to reading your _iew!

Regards,

Captainspunk

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

Personally, I don't like White Knights. Trying to ingratiate yourself to couples/single woman by slagging off your fellow single men is ugly in my _iew and doesn't show you in a good light.

We're all adults and learn from life experiences. If we keep repeating bad practices it's no ones fault but our own: we don't need Sir Galahad riding to the rescue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with you...A true gent never slags anyone off... He persists and builds up a reputation and then does not let anyone down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

u deserve a shag for that rant

goodluck

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By *he one you wantMan over a year ago

kidsgrove

"I agree with you...A true gent never slags anyone off... He persists and builds up a reputation and then does not let anyone down.

Well said! A genuine single bloke has to take it all in his stride, it pays off eventually!

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By *rs kemeaCouple over a year ago

angus

Gave up trying to decipher that about a quarter of the way through so not sure what exactly the OP was ranting about.

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By *rs kemeaCouple over a year ago

angus

Gave it another go but still couldn't finish it.

Am I right in thinking that this couple have been showing messages to this guy? Not very discreet of either party if so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually took the time to read this 'document'. Summary: Some guys get their rocks off from fantasising about meeting a couple and then are too frightened to go through with it. Hope that helps?

We know it happens and it's terrible. That's life. Take precautions.

Adam

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I actually took the time to read this 'document'. Summary: Some guys get their rocks off from fantasising about meeting a couple and then are too frightened to go through with it. Hope that helps?

We know it happens and it's terrible. That's life. Take precautions.

Adam"

Did you read the bit about how balloons can be lighter than fairies (sometimes)?

Someone needs to lighten up (OP)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had it been easier to read I might have persisted, but I think I got the jist after the first couple of lines.

In essence there is and always will be fantasists and dreamers of all sexes, couples and sexualities, filters and more filters will not prevent it, just make the site more cumbersome to use.

If it isn't broken don't try to fix it, the genuine guys and gals will always rise to the top ( eventually )

The end

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Gave it another go but still couldn't finish it.

Am I right in thinking that this couple have been showing messages to this guy? Not very discreet of either party if so. "

I got that far down and worked that out, anything after that was nonsensical ramblings

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you read the bit about how balloons can be lighter than fairies (sometimes)?

But the important question is, are either of them lighter than a duck?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you read the bit about how balloons can be lighter than fairies (sometimes)?

But the important question is, are either of them lighter than a duck?"

Bloody quackers!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Holy wall of text Batman.

Yes, we all know that there are people out there who don't read profiles, messages, meet requests etc etc. Not breaking news. And yes, we all know there are people who don't turn up or cancel last minute.

But the ones who really get my goat are the ones who post or reply to posts like this saying 'well I would NEVER do that! Look at me, I am so reliable and wonderful, and I am aghast anyone DARES to let others down'. To the OP - you have no idea why people can't turn up, and maybe one day you will be that person.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...i'm all confused....again!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Holy wall of text Batman.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members."

Is your goat a swinger too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

blahuddyhell... did you even draw breath? I too gave up a few "poorly" constructed sentences in.. my brain hurt from trying to sort your rant out into coherent, legible paragraphs.

no idea what you were trying to convey but I hope you feel better for getting it off your chest!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you read the bit about how balloons can be lighter than fairies (sometimes)?

But the important question is, are either of them lighter than a duck?

Bloody quackers!"

Quit complicating things already

....some ducks can actually be lighter than fairy balloons *faints*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Holy wall of text Batman.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members.

Is your goat a swinger too?

Are goats capable of being lighter than ducks (balloon form permitted)

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman over a year ago

amersham

Say that again mate...didn't quite get it the first time !

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I read it.

some are a tad silly in their approach to swinging but that is not exclusive to guys.

couples and single females don't walk across the English Channel on their days trips to France.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read it.

some are a tad silly in their approach to swinging but that is not exclusive to guys.

couples and single females don't walk across the English Channel on their days trips to France."

Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhushittttttttt you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To the OP- fantastic rant!!

Yes we've heard it all before but still.... I imagined you ranting on a box by the Thames with people throwing money and phone numbers at you.

It made me smile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Holy wall of text Batman.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members.

Is your goat a swinger too?

Are goats capable of being lighter than ducks (balloon form permitted)

It's not a question I have asked myself, Maybe that's where I have been going wrong .......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Holy wall of text Batman.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members.

Is your goat a swinger too?

Are goats capable of being lighter than ducks (balloon form permitted)

It's not a question I have asked myself, Maybe that's where I have been going wrong .......

I'm thoroughly disappointed I'll have you know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sorry i sure u have a very valid point to make but i couldnt read it all , needs to be broken up to make it readable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Holy wall of text Batman.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members.

Is your goat a swinger too?

Are goats capable of being lighter than ducks (balloon form permitted)

It's not a question I have asked myself, Maybe that's where I have been going wrong .......

I'm thoroughly disappointed I'll have you know

It's a gift I have......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Didn't get beyond a couple of sentences. Just looking at that block of words put me off going any further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

did you actually get to the end, i didnt lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't get beyond a couple of sentences. Just looking at that block of words put me off going any further."

well said!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

did you actually get to the end, i didnt lol"

No....... Got bored, and decided putting the kettle on was more interesting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Holy wall of text Batman.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members.

Is your goat a swinger too?

Are goats capable of being lighter than ducks (balloon form permitted)

It's not a question I have asked myself, Maybe that's where I have been going wrong .......

I'm thoroughly disappointed I'll have you know

It's a gift I have......

I'm sure you'll "correct" your ways at some stage

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

did you actually get to the end, i didnt lol

No....... Got bored, and decided putting the kettle on was more interesting"

milk no sugar thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Holy wall of text Batman.

In the mean time, stop dissing your fellow Fab members.

Is your goat a swinger too?

Are goats capable of being lighter than ducks (balloon form permitted)

It's not a question I have asked myself, Maybe that's where I have been going wrong .......

I'm thoroughly disappointed I'll have you know

It's a gift I have......

I'm sure you'll "correct" your ways at some stage

It's a Tip I had from my Ex, maybe the stage has been set for change

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

So for single guys to prove they are genuine, they need to give their numbers out in the initial message??

Ridiculous. Sorry OP I was going to be nice and constructive as I did read the whole post, unlike others, but this idea us flawed to.

If someone has no intention of meeting, them giving their number out will do nothing to change their motives and will just result in them having your number after you have text them. People can get PAYG sim cards free these days and so this wint even be their actual number. They could change it as much as they want.

If you want to play thus game you have to accept that there are people out there who get off on pretending to meet up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So for single guys to prove they are genuine, they need to give their numbers out in the initial message??

Ridiculous. Sorry OP I was going to be nice and constructive as I did read the whole post, unlike others, but this idea us flawed to.

If you want to play thus game you have to accept that there are people out there who get off on pretending to meet up. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's all part of the game if you are true and meet, others will find you relax!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

Personally, I don't like White Knights. Trying to ingratiate yourself to couples/single woman by slagging off your fellow single men is ugly in my _iew and doesn't show you in a good light.

We're all adults and learn from life experiences. If we keep repeating bad practices it's no ones fault but our own: we don't need Sir Galahad riding to the rescue.

I couldn't be arsed to read all that, but will trust your opinion - you are usually right about these things.

Idiot single guys come in many forms, they don't ruin anything for me, they make it easier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

Personally, I don't like White Knights. Trying to ingratiate yourself to couples/single woman by slagging off your fellow single men is ugly in my _iew and doesn't show you in a good light.

We're all adults and learn from life experiences. If we keep repeating bad practices it's no ones fault but our own: we don't need Sir Galahad riding to the rescue.

I couldn't be arsed to read all that, but will trust your opinion - you are usually right about these things.

Idiot single guys come in many forms, they don't ruin anything for me, they make it easier. "
its not just single guys that waste time ether a lot of couples do it aswel but most who say they want to meet do have genuine reasons for having to cancel we have had to cancel many a time due to one of our kids becoming ill and they will always come first over swinging

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

did you actually get to the end, i didnt lol"

No, I have a short attention sp...oooh, shiney things...!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a cock! (don't mail me

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its getting scary being a single male onhere

just waiting on the first one to be burnt at the stake

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree with you...A true gent never slags anyone off... He persists and builds up a reputation and then does not let anyone down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And I thought that bloke in the pub last night had had one too many!

Looking back - he was probably making waaaaaay more sense than the OP - and he was trying to justify why we should all be eating pigeons!!!

Note to self - in case of extreme delerium caused by malaria/food poisoning/absinth - lock laptop away and never ever consider posting on forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good grief....is this one still running????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

did you actually get to the end, i didnt lol

No, I have a short attention sp...oooh, shiney things...!

PMSL!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, I nodded of about half way through your tirade. If you'd used paragraphs it may have been easier to read.

did you actually get to the end, i didnt lol

No, I have a short attention sp...oooh, shiney things...!

PMSL!!!

My Precious........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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Genuine people wil shine through regardless of the behaviour of others

The type of people that like to mess people around are not going to be the type to take any notice of what anyone else tries to advise them anyway

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By *arnaclebillMan over a year ago

Robin Hood County

I honestly don't know how anyone could trawl all the way through that drivel. Get a life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh my eyes... will have to wait till I get new specs to attempt that again

... whatever it was..um... hope you feel better OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

some people read two lines and gave up? i barely made it past two words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

..oh just as an aside, OP can you give the number of your speed dealer?

...that was a joke obviously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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oh my eyes... will have to wait till I get new specs to attempt that again

... whatever it was..um... hope you feel better OP

I only read the title,it told me all I needed to know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"..oh just as an aside, OP can you give the number of your speed dealer?

...that was a joke obviously

judging from his profile he seems to be on crack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh my eyes... will have to wait till I get new specs to attempt that again

... whatever it was..um... hope you feel better OP

I only read the title,it told me all I needed to know

I wished I'd stopped at the title ....my eyes are still smoking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

judging from his profile he seems to be on crack"

I just got this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

judging from his profile he seems to be on crack

I just got this!

in your own time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh my eyes... will have to wait till I get new specs to attempt that again

... whatever it was..um... hope you feel better OP

I only read the title,it told me all I needed to know

I wished I'd stopped at the title ....my eyes are still smoking

pmsl! I would love to hear him say it all! can we book him for an event?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

judging from his profile he seems to be on crack

I just got this!

in your own time

well I hadn't read the profile.. my eyes were still hurting

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM) over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.

my eyes got sore too!,gave up very easrly as seing double and very blurry!.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

judging from his profile he seems to be on crack

I just got this!

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...i'm all confused....again!

there, there ...strokes head gently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That made my eyes bleed. At least structure the text

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i get winks when i ask specially dont wink or friend invite. the guy had a massive.............profile and decided to wink then emailed me telling me im arrogant x they are the spoilers. he said hed wink me in 30 days.

wish i could disable the winks and ivites - just message me x then i can say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

Sometimes you just gotta get things of your chest and just let it roll

I hope he feels better for it

Hes probably soaking his aching fingers right now!

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By *its The Spot AlotMan over a year ago

Plymouth

Well i read most of it

At the end of the day I know the other half gets 50 messages to my one

So she has to sort thro them and try and get a good one to play with lol thats just tuff !!

I like most guys have to work the other way trying to get one message back.

If i dont bother then turning up that would be my silly fault.

Some people should lighten up it's all spose to be FUN !!! ha ha

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I honestly don't know how anyone could trawl all the way through that drivel. Get a life"

Some of us are polite and made the effort. Shane not everyone took a few minutes out before insulting the OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"its getting scary being a single male onhere

just waiting on the first one to be burnt at the stake"

Ah - I have a couple of candidates I'd like to offer up to the flames...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

couples can be ungenuine to.

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple over a year ago

Yorkshire

anyone transalate this into 3 small paragraphs? my head hurts and my eyes are ruined trying to read that drivel.

does it basically boil down to "single male bashing" yet again!

for what its worth we rarely advertise for single males, but when we do we have had no problems at all in finding 1, 2 or a few.

maybe its the way you respond to them in emails, "get yoursen round here for a fuck" will hardly work as the gent is probably more wary of having his time wasted and turning up to someones house who has no idea of a meet or potentailly not even on fab.

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By *uslaffMan over a year ago

manchester

When's the new film out Borat ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

one word.....

paragraphs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has anyone read that opening thread ?

Do I need to ?