"Worst party I've ever been to. We were continually followed, hassled, they pushed into our room as we were trying to entertain a nice young man, grabbed without asking etc. Never again."
Sorry to hear that we went to one and all the men was very respectful.
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I thought it was beautiful minxes for cock, no wonder I got odd looks  |
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"wow sorry to hear that really wow maybe the guys need to learn from your experience if you don't tell it how it is nothing will chance .."
It was at Radlett. The 1 guy that followed us around was d*unk and he was told continually to leave us alone but took no notice. The partner of the lady running the night + the security guard were the worst though: They barged into the room (even though the sign said "if the door is closed, don't open". They made lewd comments and were just generally rude.
1 guy grabbed my bum and tried to put his finger where it wasn't wanted and then grabbed my boobs when I turned around to tell him off. We weren't there an hour before we stormed out. Ruined our night and we promised never to return. I'm sure BMFC do have great nights but we won't be there to see them.
We now attend a black men for women party in Sutton and have found it much more respectful and fun. |
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"wow sorry to hear that really wow maybe the guys need to learn from your experience if you don't tell it how it is nothing will chance ..
It was at Radlett. The 1 guy that followed us around was d*unk and he was told continually to leave us alone but took no notice. The partner of the lady running the night + the security guard were the worst though: They barged into the room (even though the sign said "if the door is closed, don't open". They made lewd comments and were just generally rude.
1 guy grabbed my bum and tried to put his finger where it wasn't wanted and then grabbed my boobs when I turned around to tell him off. We weren't there an hour before we stormed out. Ruined our night and we promised never to return. I'm sure BMFC do have great nights but we won't be there to see them.
We now attend a black men for women party in Sutton and have found it much more respectful and fun."
That has been my experience at almost every party I’ve attended, be it BMFC or otherwise. I don’t think it’s specific to BMFC. |
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over a year ago
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"wow sorry to hear that really wow maybe the guys need to learn from your experience if you don't tell it how it is nothing will chance ..
It was at Radlett. The 1 guy that followed us around was d*unk and he was told continually to leave us alone but took no notice. The partner of the lady running the night + the security guard were the worst though: They barged into the room (even though the sign said "if the door is closed, don't open". They made lewd comments and were just generally rude.
1 guy grabbed my bum and tried to put his finger where it wasn't wanted and then grabbed my boobs when I turned around to tell him off. We weren't there an hour before we stormed out. Ruined our night and we promised never to return. I'm sure BMFC do have great nights but we won't be there to see them.
We now attend a black men for women party in Sutton and have found it much more respectful and fun."
"That has been my experience at almost every party I’ve attended, be it BMFC or otherwise. I don’t think it’s specific to BMFC."
Wait, really? That's fucked up. My impressions of the scene were much better than that, like I thought these club horror stories were rare one-offs and more a thing of the past? Naive, I guess... |
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"wow sorry to hear that really wow maybe the guys need to learn from your experience if you don't tell it how it is nothing will chance ..
It was at Radlett. The 1 guy that followed us around was d*unk and he was told continually to leave us alone but took no notice. The partner of the lady running the night + the security guard were the worst though: They barged into the room (even though the sign said "if the door is closed, don't open". They made lewd comments and were just generally rude.
1 guy grabbed my bum and tried to put his finger where it wasn't wanted and then grabbed my boobs when I turned around to tell him off. We weren't there an hour before we stormed out. Ruined our night and we promised never to return. I'm sure BMFC do have great nights but we won't be there to see them.
We now attend a black men for women party in Sutton and have found it much more respectful and fun.
That has been my experience at almost every party I’ve attended, be it BMFC or otherwise. I don’t think it’s specific to BMFC.
Wait, really? That's fucked up. My impressions of the scene were much better than that, like I thought these club horror stories were rare one-offs and more a thing of the past? Naive, I guess..."
The past few parties I’ve been to I’ve had guys walk into a room with a closed door (only not locked because there wasn’t one) and join in by either touching, fingering or licking me without so much as a heads up that they’d come in the room nevermind asking if it was ok to join in.
So I’m not really going to parties anymore because I’m sick of it. Then when you go mad because they’ve just helped themselves to you without permission they either laugh at you or make out like you’re the crazy one. It’s awful. I’ve no idea where these guys get the idea that it’s ok to touch someone intimately without asking. In every case these were people who I’d never seen before, so there’s no chance they mistake an earlier chat as a green light. I think clubs/hosts need to do more to keep women safe tbh. |
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"wow sorry to hear that really wow maybe the guys need to learn from your experience if you don't tell it how it is nothing will chance ..
It was at Radlett. The 1 guy that followed us around was d*unk and he was told continually to leave us alone but took no notice. The partner of the lady running the night + the security guard were the worst though: They barged into the room (even though the sign said "if the door is closed, don't open". They made lewd comments and were just generally rude.
1 guy grabbed my bum and tried to put his finger where it wasn't wanted and then grabbed my boobs when I turned around to tell him off. We weren't there an hour before we stormed out. Ruined our night and we promised never to return. I'm sure BMFC do have great nights but we won't be there to see them.
We now attend a black men for women party in Sutton and have found it much more respectful and fun.
That has been my experience at almost every party I’ve attended, be it BMFC or otherwise. I don’t think it’s specific to BMFC.
Wait, really? That's fucked up. My impressions of the scene were much better than that, like I thought these club horror stories were rare one-offs and more a thing of the past? Naive, I guess...
The past few parties I’ve been to I’ve had guys walk into a room with a closed door (only not locked because there wasn’t one) and join in by either touching, fingering or licking me without so much as a heads up that they’d come in the room nevermind asking if it was ok to join in.
So I’m not really going to parties anymore because I’m sick of it. Then when you go mad because they’ve just helped themselves to you without permission they either laugh at you or make out like you’re the crazy one. It’s awful. I’ve no idea where these guys get the idea that it’s ok to touch someone intimately without asking. In every case these were people who I’d never seen before, so there’s no chance they mistake an earlier chat as a green light. I think clubs/hosts need to do more to keep women safe tbh. "
That's just plain sexual assault. Jeez I think I'd actaully be on the phone to the police |
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One person's experience won't be everyones experience.
There are wrong 'uns everywhere. On the whole I have the the ub scene to be respectful and great fun!
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"wow sorry to hear that really wow maybe the guys need to learn from your experience if you don't tell it how it is nothing will chance ..
It was at Radlett. The 1 guy that followed us around was d*unk and he was told continually to leave us alone but took no notice. The partner of the lady running the night + the security guard were the worst though: They barged into the room (even though the sign said "if the door is closed, don't open". They made lewd comments and were just generally rude.
1 guy grabbed my bum and tried to put his finger where it wasn't wanted and then grabbed my boobs when I turned around to tell him off. We weren't there an hour before we stormed out. Ruined our night and we promised never to return. I'm sure BMFC do have great nights but we won't be there to see them.
We now attend a black men for women party in Sutton and have found it much more respectful and fun.
That has been my experience at almost every party I’ve attended, be it BMFC or otherwise. I don’t think it’s specific to BMFC.
Wait, really? That's fucked up. My impressions of the scene were much better than that, like I thought these club horror stories were rare one-offs and more a thing of the past? Naive, I guess..."
Not to take anything away from the above poster's experience, behave been to BMFC parties for years and found them to be very well run with no BS taken by the team that run them.
I'm not saying every attendee is perfect but we have found 99% of them to be respectful.
In fact Frisky feels so comfortable that they are the only parties she will attend without me. |
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I've been to dozens of interracial parties and it's horrible to hear of anyone not respecting boundaries. It's a total abuse of trust and out of order if not criminal.
It is a problem at all clubs. I would say, however, that BMFC is the best I've been to for taking the issue seriously. The fact that it's a female-run club is perhaps a factor in this - the hosts know what it's like to be a female at a club and do their best to make things safe. |
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By *INTONIC300Couple
over a year ago
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We have been to two BMFC events held at No3 Chorley.Staff were excellent in showing us around the club and stressing the club rules. No problems at the club had to ask someone to leave a room which he did without question.Would definitely return  |
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"I've been to dozens of interracial parties and it's horrible to hear of anyone not respecting boundaries. It's a total abuse of trust and out of order if not criminal.
It is a problem at all clubs. I would say, however, that BMFC is the best I've been to for taking the issue seriously. The fact that it's a female-run club is perhaps a factor in this - the hosts know what it's like to be a female at a club and do their best to make things safe."
Yes, I have to say that when I had a problem at BMFC I reported it to security and they asked the man to leave. |
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"wow sorry to hear that really wow maybe the guys need to learn from your experience if you don't tell it how it is nothing will chance ..
It was at Radlett. The 1 guy that followed us around was d*unk and he was told continually to leave us alone but took no notice. The partner of the lady running the night + the security guard were the worst though: They barged into the room (even though the sign said "if the door is closed, don't open". They made lewd comments and were just generally rude.
1 guy grabbed my bum and tried to put his finger where it wasn't wanted and then grabbed my boobs when I turned around to tell him off. We weren't there an hour before we stormed out. Ruined our night and we promised never to return. I'm sure BMFC do have great nights but we won't be there to see them.
We now attend a black men for women party in Sutton and have found it much more respectful and fun."
Wow that sounds awful, especially from the lady who was supposed to be running the event. We've no interest in attending BMFC but we have attended countless parties and never had an experience like that. |
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"ffs really theres us wanting to try xtasia bmfc when opened again"
Good thing about xtasia is that you have lockable rooms plus they don't stand for any rubbish there. TBF I've never seen anyone acting disrespectful. It's always a small minority that makes everyone else look bad. ? |
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By *.LBCouple
over a year ago
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"Worst party I've ever been to. We were continually followed, hassled, they pushed into our room as we were trying to entertain a nice young man, grabbed without asking etc. Never again."
Sounds horrible, and very unusual for BMFC parties, I'd be more inclined to agree with what's been said previously that it's the venue, and not the party hosts where the blame lirs, don't let one incident put you off attending BmFC parties, |
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