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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m have been told that I am too polite to be a swinger and that’s holding me back. I have no problem with socials before meeting, I wait to be invited to play at parties rather than “steam straight in” and don’t interrupt conversations in clubs. Is this the reason why people avoid chatting to me? I’m shy by nature but I’m a chatty person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi OP.
I guess being polite might not get you to the front of the queue against those that are more pushy but it might make you some more longer lasting friends who will want to meet you again.
I always look to meet people over a long period of time and being polite seems to work  |
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"I’m have been told that I am too polite to be a swinger and that’s holding me back. I have no problem with socials before meeting, I wait to be invited to play at parties rather than “steam straight in” and don’t interrupt conversations in clubs. Is this the reason why people avoid chatting to me? I’m shy by nature but I’m a chatty person."
If you wait to be invited to play you’ll be waiting a long time. There must always be people who aren’t already engaged in conversation. It must be nerve wracking for a single, but a “hi how are you” could start a conversation. There’s no such thing as too polite, we’re only interested in polite friendly people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m have been told that I am too polite to be a swinger and that’s holding me back. I have no problem with socials before meeting, I wait to be invited to play at parties rather than “steam straight in” and don’t interrupt conversations in clubs. Is this the reason why people avoid chatting to me? I’m shy by nature but I’m a chatty person."
Anyone who "steam straights in" or "interrupts" would be declined straight away.
Manners and politeness goes along way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m have been told that I am too polite to be a swinger and that’s holding me back. I have no problem with socials before meeting, I wait to be invited to play at parties rather than “steam straight in” and don’t interrupt conversations in clubs. Is this the reason why people avoid chatting to me? I’m shy by nature but I’m a chatty person."
I’m exactly the same. I prefer to be known for my politeness than be rude rash and get my end off. |
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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago
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"I'm blunt and kind of don't have time to sugar coat every single sentence... Life is too short, if you get offended easily, grow a pair."
Having said that, it doesn't mean that I'm not polite, I just don't sugar coat bullshit. |
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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm blunt and kind of don't have time to sugar coat every single sentence... Life is too short, if you get offended easily, grow a pair."
And how is that working out for you in the context of your Fab experience? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m have been told that I am too polite to be a swinger and that’s holding me back. I have no problem with socials before meeting, I wait to be invited to play at parties rather than “steam straight in” and don’t interrupt conversations in clubs. Is this the reason why people avoid chatting to me? I’m shy by nature but I’m a chatty person."
I try to be polite as possible when chatting to a lady, after all curiously costs nothing. I do tend to find you get friend zoned on a regular basis, but better that than blocked. |
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I've been told I'm too polite by *club owners*, so yes, apparently that's a thing within the context of swinging.
That said, I'd far rather be too polite and miss out on the opportunities available to the more forward than misjudge anything and upset someone. |
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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago
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"I'm blunt and kind of don't have time to sugar coat every single sentence... Life is too short, if you get offended easily, grow a pair.
And how is that working out for you in the context of your Fab experience? "
So far so good, obviously I wouldn't drop you a message saying "I want to fuck you balls deep" because that's rude as fuck. I don't know how things work in fairy land, but bluntness and rudeness are completely different concepts.  |
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