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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.
Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.
Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first"
Affine. Wtf. Offline.
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"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.
Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them
Whats other peoples opinions ?"
My personal opinion is they are ok if the person has engaged in conversation before and asked for permission. I get disappointed when someone requests but has neither had conversation with me or has any content at all on their profile. So carry on just deleting as it’s not your loss but theirs for not being polite. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them
Whats other peoples opinions ?
My personal opinion is they are ok if the person has engaged in conversation before and asked for permission. I get disappointed when someone requests but has neither had conversation with me or has any content at all on their profile. So carry on just deleting as it’s not your loss but theirs for not being polite. "
Refreshing to hear from a single ? Guy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least "
We generally block them after deleting the invite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I delete.. Cos I cba
My profile says so clearly under the rant.. Lol"
I tried stating not to send a request on my profile, but guys don't read, or choose to ignore |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I delete.. Cos I cba
My profile says so clearly under the rant.. Lol
I tried stating not to send a request on my profile, but guys don't read, or choose to ignore"
The majority does seem to come from single? Guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes single.
I feel winks are fine. They are a way of declaring interest. They are available for all. If unwanted my friends content to be available to all then they would be public. People should have a little respect. What I do is ask them to add me if they wanted. I don’t send a request myself but respond to one I’ve asked for. |
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I get annoyed by the people doing this and it rarely if ever come to anythas hing positive in 10 years here - probably hundreds of them.
I occasionally wink them.
Most want to look at pics without scrutiny of their compatibility with us and our needs. Chancers, opportunists - who wants them?
I'd prefer someone to write and say that they are useless with messages but find me interesting than a silent request.
When I removed my private pics for a while, these requests stopped. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get annoyed by the people doing this and it rarely if ever come to anythas hing positive in 10 years here - probably hundreds of them.
I occasionally wink them.
Most want to look at pics without scrutiny of their compatibility with us and our needs. Chancers, opportunists - who wants them?
I'd prefer someone to write and say that they are useless with messages but find me interesting than a silent request.
When I removed my private pics for a while, these requests stopped. "
Unfortunaltly I think wecare going to have to place filters on our account and possibly place more of our pics in our private ot friends only album |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think also that people want you added as a friend to bank you for future sex opportunities, rather than adding to their hotkist "
The only thing they can bank on is a delete and block lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them
Whats other peoples opinions ?a friend in need is a friend in deed  "
But not if the friends request is not in need |
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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago
Gleam Street |
"Again... wait for them to go offline.. accept, nosey (as thats exactly what they were doing to me) then delete.
Lol we never thought of that  "
It's often funnier than having a real hobby |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Someone winked at me. And we had a really long nice chat. Chill it's only human!"
Not saying its wrong to wink to show interest and possibly strike up a conversation if all parties are interested mate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Again... wait for them to go offline.. accept, nosey (as thats exactly what they were doing to me) then delete.
Lol we never thought of that
It's often funnier than having a real hobby "
Lol |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least
We generally block them after deleting the invite"
Thats harsh, some people interact / flirt in different ways and want to see more before a chat and assume that’s what it’s for |
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By *wentMan
over a year ago
blackpool |
"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.
Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first
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everyone has view on this and their own wayof dealing with requests but to look from the other side,single males can spend time and effort typing a message only to recieve no reply,so the time and effort just pressing friend requst is quick and easy and if there was ever gona be forward intrest then the acepptance of friends can lead to chat.people would moan if they didnt get them and yea i get some dont want single men but weather profile hasnt been read or its ignored its not crime of century,how many mail asking if one is bi or asking to meet when 100 miles away its same that profile hasnt been read,majority of men go on pics anyhow.if u dont like it then im sure its not hard effort to block and then problem solved. |
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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago
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Unequivocally it's a delete & block for us. Says on our profile no friend request if we haven't at the very least messaged.
I think the fact a couples profile sent a cursory message & friend request which was swiftly revoked without comment by them once we accepted confirms this approach for us.
Too many picture collectors and egos out there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least
We generally block them after deleting the invite
Thats harsh, some people interact / flirt in different ways and want to see more before a chat and assume that’s what it’s for "
I find that a lot of users on here who are constantly whining in their status to “read their profile and don’t send friend requests or you are blocked” have such long profiles that the people reading them probably get bored and just press the friend request button anyway. Personally if I come across a profile with such a status or long profile I just ignore them as why would I want to bother communicating or even meet with someone with such high demands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them
Whats other peoples opinions ?a friend in need is a friend in deed
But not if the friends request is not in need"
true but they can't do the deed if they ain't a friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i just leave them there in a little pit... occasionally someone who hasn't bothered to read the profile tries to add us. I just block them because it a very obvious they haven't read the top bit of the profile.
For the most part they not spoke to us just wanting a perv at the private pics... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't accept, I don't get annoyed and I don't think about. Has no impact at all, they just sit there. Not sure why anyone gets their knickers in a twist about it to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often have a look at the profile then often just leave the invite as stops another being sent from that profile for a while at least
We generally block them after deleting the invite
Thats harsh, some people interact / flirt in different ways and want to see more before a chat and assume that’s what it’s for
I find that a lot of users on here who are constantly whining in their status to “read their profile and don’t send friend requests or you are blocked” have such long profiles that the people reading them probably get bored and just press the friend request button anyway. Personally if I come across a profile with such a status or long profile I just ignore them as why would I want to bother communicating or even meet with someone with such high demands."
You only have to read the top line of my profile to know I am not meeting, and my profile isn't that long that you could miss the part about blocking random friend requesters... If I get one, it means my profile hasn't been read so why would I want to add or even talk to someone that has no idea what I want or why I am here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just ask people to re read our profile..weve specified no immediate friends request.. At that point they either delete the message or start with the abuse.. So we just block |
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"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I delete. Other times I wait for them to go affine, add them, peak their friend only pics, them delete the friendship.
Personally I think its rude to send a request if you've not exchanged a few messages first"
Hahaha so we aren't the only ones that do this then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them
Whats other peoples opinions ?"
Delete as why would we want to share our private photos with people who we don’t even know? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them
Whats other peoples opinions ?"
If from a single guy then 99% always delete. An opening well written message first goes a long way.
If a couple or female we generally accept . |
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"we have had a few of these and generally we delete them
Whats other peoples opinions ?a friend in need is a friend in deed "
But a friend with is better...
Disclaimer. Referring to a song not 420 friendly |
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Get a few despite reminders not to send them.
Ignore and wait to see if they follow up with a message or not.
It does appear that if we post a new pic the requests arrive, why are they not interest any other time ?  |
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By *stoppMan
over a year ago
Durham |
I usually at lease 10 in a week if I post a new pic, if the profile interests me I’ll accept be that male or female.. profiles without pics etc get a instant delete because I perceive them to be photo collectors.. |
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