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"Cause they ain’t getting it at home " I agree and also chasing a form of excitement  | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx " People like, variety of lovers, variety of sexual experience, the buzz of the risk, adding notches to their bed post, maybe they have a considerably higher sex drive than their life partner etc etc. | |||
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted." 100% agree.... | |||
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted." Pretty much this. In my case it was a long thought out process before I took the plunge and joined. And no, I don’t feel an ounce of guilt. All the people I have met on my Fab journey have enhanced my life in many aspects.  | |||
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted." A friend of mine is currently getting divorced for precisely this reason | |||
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted. A friend of mine is currently getting divorced for precisely this reason "A much better choice than being dishonest and cheating. | |||
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"Why the musing? Your profile is quite clear that it's not for you." I muse about lots and lots of different topics. I didn’t ask for profile feedback. | |||
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"Perhaps because that emotional connection they may have shared has died? Perhaps for physical and medical reasons? Perhaps they just like the thrill of something new? Perhaps because love dont live there any more? I'm sure each will have their reasons. Whatever those reasons are are up to each to decide for themselves. We cannot see anothers life in the way they have to live it... Perhaps peace, compassion, love even, are worth searching for, maybe even on fab?"  | |||
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted." This. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a partner open-minded enough to allow play outside of the marriage. Some will just stay in a physically empty relationship under the impression that is how marriage goes in the end. | |||
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted." This ^
There is no one reason that fits all, everyone has their different reasons. What annoys me is when people say ‘just leave’ it’s not that black and white simple
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted. This. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a partner open-minded enough to allow play outside of the marriage. Some will just stay in a physically empty relationship under the impression that is how marriage goes in the end." Surely everyone know that marriages do not go that way in the end?? | |||
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"Before this post ends up in the inevitable slanging match that they tend to I’m one of those married guys... My wife has a very low almost non existent sex drive she’s said many times if we never made love again she wouldn’t be bothered she’s also due to her upbringing very vanilla... Sex used to be one of the few things we argued about - since I found fab this isn’t the case - itches that wouldn’t get scratched together are taken care of - different more kinky things like group sex and “oral” are sorted elsewhere... Would I want her to find out of course not an I risking things yes of course - but it has stopped the “pressure” interestingly enough during lockdown these pressures have started to raise their heads again - I want sex more than twice a month and for it to last and not just be something to be over as quick as possible- we are intimate and close in many other ways but sex is something that rarely happens... So why do men come on fab? Many reasons, and I don’t judge anyone - I take as I find and try and see good in all - the people I’ve met through fab on the whole are good people and now my fab friends... stay safe guys and if you can make someone smile x "A lot of reasons. Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? | |||
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"The risk of getting caught, maybe they like being secretive or purely it’s a loveless marriage which should point to one thing, the big D (Divorce) why be in a marriage where both parties aren’t happy. " Sexless doesn’t equate to loveless, so divorce may well be a sledgehammer to break a nut (or rather, bust a nut  ) in those cases. | |||
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Fix what's broke or get a new car(s). Or if it's 'not that black and white" etc as has been said already or there are kids/access/financial/control issues then keep it in your pants until you've tackled those issues in a positive way and come out the other side. Sex with strangers is gonna be a messy and risky distraction if you don't have a solid foundation.....  | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair?" No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? | |||
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"Before this post ends up in the inevitable slanging match that they tend to I’m one of those married guys... My wife has a very low almost non existent sex drive she’s said many times if we never made love again she wouldn’t be bothered she’s also due to her upbringing very vanilla... Sex used to be one of the few things we argued about - since I found fab this isn’t the case - itches that wouldn’t get scratched together are taken care of - different more kinky things like group sex and “oral” are sorted elsewhere... Would I want her to find out of course not an I risking things yes of course - but it has stopped the “pressure” interestingly enough during lockdown these pressures have started to raise their heads again - I want sex more than twice a month and for it to last and not just be something to be over as quick as possible- we are intimate and close in many other ways but sex is something that rarely happens... So why do men come on fab? Many reasons, and I don’t judge anyone - I take as I find and try and see good in all - the people I’ve met through fab on the whole are good people and now my fab friends... stay safe guys and if you can make someone smile x
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Do you think being dishonest to her is fair?"You obviously have strong thoughts on this subject hence my opening statement as you’ve mentioned this twice already. Being fair probably not - but not arguing about it and having a happy home life means a risk - and I appreciate it is a risk - I’m prepared to take .. I just think that there are many reasons some half valid some not at all... | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed?" Yes | |||
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"And as this fab I am “honest” about my marital status here so it’s up to others to decide - I do not agree with married people who hide it on fab - I think that is unfair to any meets - at least be clear here - some ladies/couples prefer a married guy as they tend to be very discreet and are unlikely to turn into a stalker.... " What we don't understand is if honesty is important and people want to appear honest, how on earth can they be dishonest to their chosen life partner so easily?? And how can you trust a dishonest person to be 'discreet'? | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed?" On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want?? | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want??" Why do you assume I didn’t? I asked, with the help of professional counselling. The reason for cheating (a word that’s a bit like introducing the defendant in court as “probably guilty”) is that the alternative total honesty can be horrific. I’d spare someone I love the horror and lie instead. | |||
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"I am upfront on here and to my wife!! We was on here as a cpl and still have our profile but my wife’s health as seriously deteriorated over last few years!! And I’m now her full time carer We love each other lots and we communicate and are happy in our life but unfortunately due to her health there’s no physicality between us!! We both know I’m on here with my own profile and of which is rare I get a chance too meet or chat to anyone I inform my wife and she knows at all time’s about me having a possible meet!! She’s feels that it’s unfair on me to miss out on the fun that can be found on here and she’s happy that I maybe able to find fun and exciting experiences on here!! At no point am I hiding anything from her and at no point would I meet without her knowing so Xxx" That certainly is not cheating, and THAT is what we would call honesty to your life partner. Sorry to hear about her health. | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want?? Why do you assume I didn’t? I asked, with the help of professional counselling. The reason for cheating (a word that’s a bit like introducing the defendant in court as “probably guilty”) is that the alternative total honesty can be horrific. I’d spare someone I love the horror and lie instead." We didn't assume anything of you. Shouldn't it be her choice whether she wants to face the horror? And why cheat on someone that you love? The two words just don't go together. Love & cheat. | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want?? Why do you assume I didn’t? I asked, with the help of professional counselling. The reason for cheating (a word that’s a bit like introducing the defendant in court as “probably guilty”) is that the alternative total honesty can be horrific. I’d spare someone I love the horror and lie instead. We didn't assume anything of you. Shouldn't it be her choice whether she wants to face the horror? And why cheat on someone that you love? The two words just don't go together. Love & cheat." I’m really pleased you don’t have experience of this, honestly. However I don’t think you’re going to see another viewpoint either so I’ll probably stop here. | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want?? Why do you assume I didn’t? I asked, with the help of professional counselling. The reason for cheating (a word that’s a bit like introducing the defendant in court as “probably guilty”) is that the alternative total honesty can be horrific. I’d spare someone I love the horror and lie instead. We didn't assume anything of you. Shouldn't it be her choice whether she wants to face the horror? And why cheat on someone that you love? The two words just don't go together. Love & cheat." Watch you dont fall of your high horse | |||
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"I know this isn’t the case for everyone But in my opinion not every man/women who cheats is not getting it at home not every man/women’s partner doesn’t understand them it’s the oldest cliche in the book ..Not every person who cheats has some sob story as to why they do it some people are just selfish and want to have there cake and eat it..." We agree totally, but most cheats aren't honest enough to admit that, and they say that they are somehow saving their partners from getting hurt. The truth is, that 99% of the time the cheat themselves do not want to face the consequences. | |||
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"I am upfront on here and to my wife!! We was on here as a cpl and still have our profile but my wife’s health as seriously deteriorated over last few years!! And I’m now her full time carer We love each other lots and we communicate and are happy in our life but unfortunately due to her health there’s no physicality between us!! We both know I’m on here with my own profile and of which is rare I get a chance too meet or chat to anyone I inform my wife and she knows at all time’s about me having a possible meet!! She’s feels that it’s unfair on me to miss out on the fun that can be found on here and she’s happy that I maybe able to find fun and exciting experiences on here!! At no point am I hiding anything from her and at no point would I meet without her knowing so Xxx That certainly is not cheating, and THAT is what we would call honesty to your life partner. Sorry to hear about her health." Thank you That’s appreciated X it’s not ideal but we have been married 30 yrs this coming November!! So I’m not going anywhere I’m just trying to keep her happy whilst maybe finding some fun for myself!! X | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want?? Why do you assume I didn’t? I asked, with the help of professional counselling. The reason for cheating (a word that’s a bit like introducing the defendant in court as “probably guilty”) is that the alternative total honesty can be horrific. I’d spare someone I love the horror and lie instead. We didn't assume anything of you. Shouldn't it be her choice whether she wants to face the horror? And why cheat on someone that you love? The two words just don't go together. Love & cheat. Watch you dont fall of your high horse" What high horse? You agree that you love someone so much that you lie and cheat on them? Really?? Maybe it is us who have misunderstood about loving someone. | |||
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"And as this fab I am “honest” about my marital status here so it’s up to others to decide - I do not agree with married people who hide it on fab - I think that is unfair to any meets - at least be clear here - some ladies/couples prefer a married guy as they tend to be very discreet and are unlikely to turn into a stalker.... What we don't understand is if honesty is important and people want to appear honest, how on earth can they be dishonest to their chosen life partner so easily?? And how can you trust a dishonest person to be 'discreet'? " The point I’m making is that I’m being open on fab about being married - there are many single guys who are not - there are also many couples who are single guys.... you are free to speak & meet to whoever you wish - all I’m saying is that with me you know I am what I am - with another “single guy” you may not I guess.... | |||
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"And as this fab I am “honest” about my marital status here so it’s up to others to decide - I do not agree with married people who hide it on fab - I think that is unfair to any meets - at least be clear here - some ladies/couples prefer a married guy as they tend to be very discreet and are unlikely to turn into a stalker.... What we don't understand is if honesty is important and people want to appear honest, how on earth can they be dishonest to their chosen life partner so easily?? And how can you trust a dishonest person to be 'discreet'? The point I’m making is that I’m being open on fab about being married - there are many single guys who are not - there are also many couples who are single guys.... you are free to speak & meet to whoever you wish - all I’m saying is that with me you know I am what I am - with another “single guy” you may not I guess.... " Let's spin that round. Does your life partner know that you are what you are? Surely you can see that? If you can lie to your wife, you can lie to anyone. We have seen it all happen before. And in Devon as well! | |||
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"Before this post ends up in the inevitable slanging match that they tend to I’m one of those married guys... My wife has a very low almost non existent sex drive she’s said many times if we never made love again she wouldn’t be bothered she’s also due to her upbringing very vanilla... Sex used to be one of the few things we argued about - since I found fab this isn’t the case - itches that wouldn’t get scratched together are taken care of - different more kinky things like group sex and “oral” are sorted elsewhere... Would I want her to find out of course not an I risking things yes of course - but it has stopped the “pressure” interestingly enough during lockdown these pressures have started to raise their heads again - I want sex more than twice a month and for it to last and not just be something to be over as quick as possible- we are intimate and close in many other ways but sex is something that rarely happens... So why do men come on fab? Many reasons, and I don’t judge anyone - I take as I find and try and see good in all - the people I’ve met through fab on the whole are good people and now my fab friends... stay safe guys and if you can make someone smile x "I’m not married either, I don’t believe in it. But I am in a very good long term relationship. However I agree entirely with the above sentiments and can relate.  | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want?? Why do you assume I didn’t? I asked, with the help of professional counselling. The reason for cheating (a word that’s a bit like introducing the defendant in court as “probably guilty”) is that the alternative total honesty can be horrific. I’d spare someone I love the horror and lie instead. We didn't assume anything of you. Shouldn't it be her choice whether she wants to face the horror? And why cheat on someone that you love? The two words just don't go together. Love & cheat. Watch you dont fall of your high horse What high horse? You agree that you love someone so much that you lie and cheat on them? Really?? Maybe it is us who have misunderstood about loving someone." I'm not getting into an argument but being so morally judgemental about any topic is an extremely unattractive trait to present | |||
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"Do you think being dishonest to her is fair? No. Do you think going to couples counselling sessions was fair, giving her the feeling that she wasn’t good enough? Do you think divorce is fair, leaving a huge hole where her best friend of the last 20 years is leaving? Do you think it’s fair that she now can’t afford to live in the house that she’s contributed to for the last 20 years? Is it fair to feel the shame and embarrassment from family that the marriage has failed? On that same note, is it fair for the cheater to make that decision without even asking their unknowing partner what THEY actually want?? Why do you assume I didn’t? I asked, with the help of professional counselling. The reason for cheating (a word that’s a bit like introducing the defendant in court as “probably guilty”) is that the alternative total honesty can be horrific. I’d spare someone I love the horror and lie instead. We didn't assume anything of you. Shouldn't it be her choice whether she wants to face the horror? And why cheat on someone that you love? The two words just don't go together. Love & cheat. Watch you dont fall of your high horse What high horse? You agree that you love someone so much that you lie and cheat on them? Really?? Maybe it is us who have misunderstood about loving someone. I'm not getting into an argument but being so morally judgemental about any topic is an extremely unattractive trait to present" No offence, but we are not slightly worried about who finds us unattractive. In fact we are happy that it would put some people off contacting us. We have a friendship group of like-minded honest people in this lifestyle, and we are perfectly happy with them thanks. We are simply expressing our opinion on dishonesty, just as everyone else is on here. | |||
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"And as this fab I am “honest” about my marital status here so it’s up to others to decide - I do not agree with married people who hide it on fab - I think that is unfair to any meets - at least be clear here - some ladies/couples prefer a married guy as they tend to be very discreet and are unlikely to turn into a stalker.... What we don't understand is if honesty is important and people want to appear honest, how on earth can they be dishonest to their chosen life partner so easily?? And how can you trust a dishonest person to be 'discreet'? The point I’m making is that I’m being open on fab about being married - there are many single guys who are not - there are also many couples who are single guys.... you are free to speak & meet to whoever you wish - all I’m saying is that with me you know I am what I am - with another “single guy” you may not I guess.... Let's spin that round. Does your life partner know that you are what you are? Surely you can see that? If you can lie to your wife, you can lie to anyone. We have seen it all happen before. And in Devon as well!" As usual in these threads people become very entrenched in their views - yes I could lie but on here I’m not... it’s therefore up to any prospective meets to make their choice of whether to meet me or not - you only meet couples so you do not have the same issues to a degree - if I was going to lie on here and say I was a single guy that would improve my chances of getting a meet.. I think we just agree to disagree don’t you ? Happy fabbing.... | |||
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"And as this fab I am “honest” about my marital status here so it’s up to others to decide - I do not agree with married people who hide it on fab - I think that is unfair to any meets - at least be clear here - some ladies/couples prefer a married guy as they tend to be very discreet and are unlikely to turn into a stalker.... What we don't understand is if honesty is important and people want to appear honest, how on earth can they be dishonest to their chosen life partner so easily?? And how can you trust a dishonest person to be 'discreet'? The point I’m making is that I’m being open on fab about being married - there are many single guys who are not - there are also many couples who are single guys.... you are free to speak & meet to whoever you wish - all I’m saying is that with me you know I am what I am - with another “single guy” you may not I guess.... Let's spin that round. Does your life partner know that you are what you are? Surely you can see that? If you can lie to your wife, you can lie to anyone. We have seen it all happen before. And in Devon as well! As usual in these threads people become very entrenched in their views - yes I could lie but on here I’m not... it’s therefore up to any prospective meets to make their choice of whether to meet me or not - you only meet couples so you do not have the same issues to a degree - if I was going to lie on here and say I was a single guy that would improve my chances of getting a meet.. I think we just agree to disagree don’t you ? Happy fabbing...." Of course we agree to disagree chap. We both have our views and are perfectly entitled to express them, We haven't been rude to each other, just said it as we see it. Enjoy your journey. | |||
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"I know this isn’t the case for everyone But in my opinion not every man/women who cheats is not getting it at home not every man/women’s partner doesn’t understand them it’s the oldest cliche in the book ..Not every person who cheats has some sob story as to why they do it some people are just selfish and want to have there cake and eat it..." This. Might get some backlash from this but in my experience many have made up sob stories in order to gain sympathy and justify their cheating, and it’s turned out to be complete lies. I’ve seen it on here and several dating sites, I’ve heard it also. I would never trust the words of someone who is being dishonest to the most important person in their life. I won’t abuse them or ridicule them for their choices, but I won’t entertain it either. | |||
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"Whatever their reasons are, it’s up to them to make the decision. As long as they’re honest about being in a relationship, it’s up to others to choose whether they want to meet with them or not. I don’t think it’s anyone else’s business what their specific reasons are. There’s no excuse for lying about being in a relationship/marriage and misleading others. " As I've said many times, if someone is prepared to lie to their life partner about something very important to them, lying to randoms on the Internet is, morally speaking, pretty small beer. Personally, we don't want to know about a guys home life. Much prefer attached guys who keep quiet about it rather than expecting kudos for "honesty". | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx " I think there can be massive guilt but the need to get what they are after from meeting others overwhelms that. Its never a simple choice to decide to cheat and risk relationships and family, and I dont think many do it from shear selfishness and malice,I really dont. No-one will ever agree rights and wrongs and there is never a way out of it where someone isnt going to be hurt, but a lot of bad decisions come from trying not to hurt initially. | |||
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"Being married does not automatically mean getting love, attention and sex. We all need to be touched and feel wanted." Exactly this | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? " I have come across married people that feel extremely guilty afterwards and others that have no remorse whatsoever and even justify their actions and blame their spouse. Each to their own I guess, I dont judge! | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx " Not getting any at home. Not getting ay at home because other half is bored with them in bed. Not getting any at home because they are shit in bed. They want to prove to themselves they are still attractive to the opposite sex. They think swingers are an easy shag. They simply cannot be faithful in a relationship. They think singers are sluts who will do anything sexually. They think meeting somebody on fab will be easy and can hide it from their other half. they enjoy the danger to outside relationship sex. They are callous bastards who don't care about cheating or their partners feelings. | |||
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"My hb has zero sex drive. I’m actually ashamed to say how long we’ve gone without sex and it’s a very, very difficult conversation to initiate. I’m very much a free spirit and a bit hippy minded and I truly believe that you can’t get and shouldn’t expect, everything from one human alone. Our relationships in life with partners and friends pick up various needs emotionally and socially and I very much want my hb to be the one that I share our family with, our emotions with, long term memories with and life with; but my physical needs are fulfilled elsewhere. I also don’t believe that any counselling would solve our problem - our relationship is not about sex and to try to force it would be false. I know that this should be a conversation I need to have with him, but it’s honestly so hard. I don’t seek out relationships or anything we have from anyone else and whilst that doesn’t make it ok, it makes it easier for me to live with. I don’t feel guilt, maybe I should. But why should I feel guilty for loving sex and mutual, sexual experiences with lovely people. I’ve sacrificed so many years of life to bring up a family, this is a little bit of life I’ve put aside for me and my vagina and it doesn’t interfere with anything else! I would want nothing more than to have an official open marriage and give my husband the freedom to do the same. People ask me how I’d feel if he was on here. In all honesty, I’d be delighted for him - I don’t think he should go without sex either! " Maybe he is asexual. | |||
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"My hb has zero sex drive. I’m actually ashamed to say how long we’ve gone without sex and it’s a very, very difficult conversation to initiate. I’m very much a free spirit and a bit hippy minded and I truly believe that you can’t get and shouldn’t expect, everything from one human alone. Our relationships in life with partners and friends pick up various needs emotionally and socially and I very much want my hb to be the one that I share our family with, our emotions with, long term memories with and life with; but my physical needs are fulfilled elsewhere. I also don’t believe that any counselling would solve our problem - our relationship is not about sex and to try to force it would be false. I know that this should be a conversation I need to have with him, but it’s honestly so hard. I don’t seek out relationships or anything we have from anyone else and whilst that doesn’t make it ok, it makes it easier for me to live with. I don’t feel guilt, maybe I should. But why should I feel guilty for loving sex and mutual, sexual experiences with lovely people. I’ve sacrificed so many years of life to bring up a family, this is a little bit of life I’ve put aside for me and my vagina and it doesn’t interfere with anything else! I would want nothing more than to have an official open marriage and give my husband the freedom to do the same. People ask me how I’d feel if he was on here. In all honesty, I’d be delighted for him - I don’t think he should go without sex either! " Mayb you should offer him the choice. | |||
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"My hb has zero sex drive. I’m actually ashamed to say how long we’ve gone without sex and it’s a very, very difficult conversation to initiate. I’m very much a free spirit and a bit hippy minded and I truly believe that you can’t get and shouldn’t expect, everything from one human alone. Our relationships in life with partners and friends pick up various needs emotionally and socially and I very much want my hb to be the one that I share our family with, our emotions with, long term memories with and life with; but my physical needs are fulfilled elsewhere. I also don’t believe that any counselling would solve our problem - our relationship is not about sex and to try to force it would be false. I know that this should be a conversation I need to have with him, but it’s honestly so hard. I don’t seek out relationships or anything we have from anyone else and whilst that doesn’t make it ok, it makes it easier for me to live with. I don’t feel guilt, maybe I should. But why should I feel guilty for loving sex and mutual, sexual experiences with lovely people. I’ve sacrificed so many years of life to bring up a family, this is a little bit of life I’ve put aside for me and my vagina and it doesn’t interfere with anything else! I would want nothing more than to have an official open marriage and give my husband the freedom to do the same. People ask me how I’d feel if he was on here. In all honesty, I’d be delighted for him - I don’t think he should go without sex either! " Yes it is a conversation you should have with him, you are correct about that. | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. " That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door. | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door." We are curious. Do mental health and relationship counsellors advise you to cheat? Really? ? | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door. We are curious. Do mental health and relationship counsellors advise you to cheat? Really? ? " Yes. Because they weigh up all the options and look at likely outcomes. You seem to be extremely confident of yourself considering you aren’t in this position. | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door. We are curious. Do mental health and relationship counsellors advise you to cheat? Really? ? " You may be a little surprised to hear advice that is offered by people there to help,rather than to judge then. | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door." I never said I was judging you or anyone else on here, I’m simply giving my thoughts, as you are too which is what the forums are about. What about the vows you made in a ceremony, the promises you gave to her? Why do they now mean nothing? Maybe you have created a good excuse to yourself for cheating on your partner and put it back to members here to give you the reassurance that you are doing the right thing by saying we don’t know what you are going through. Yes maybe we don’t know what you are going through. I’m merely trying to find out more about what drives people to cheat. This is not about getting at anyone. I’m not judging you, It’s about trying to understand. | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door. I never said I was judging you or anyone else on here, I’m simply giving my thoughts, as you are too which is what the forums are about. What about the vows you made in a ceremony, the promises you gave to her? Why do they now mean nothing? Maybe you have created a good excuse to yourself for cheating on your partner and put it back to members here to give you the reassurance that you are doing the right thing by saying we don’t know what you are going through. Yes maybe we don’t know what you are going through. I’m merely trying to find out more about what drives people to cheat. This is not about getting at anyone. I’m not judging you, It’s about trying to understand. " Intresting you mention the vows made in a wedding ceremony, I've not been to any wedding that has had the vow you can fuck whoever you want as long as I know or are involved. Or maybe I've just been to boring weddings | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door. I never said I was judging you or anyone else on here, I’m simply giving my thoughts, as you are too which is what the forums are about. What about the vows you made in a ceremony, the promises you gave to her? Why do they now mean nothing? Maybe you have created a good excuse to yourself for cheating on your partner and put it back to members here to give you the reassurance that you are doing the right thing by saying we don’t know what you are going through. Yes maybe we don’t know what you are going through. I’m merely trying to find out more about what drives people to cheat. This is not about getting at anyone. I’m not judging you, It’s about trying to understand. " Vows - I’d love to keep them, I kept them for ages. However she changed, do the vows still count? Should I keep the vows or is it more important to try and be happy (or at least not suicidal)? The choice to go from one to the other is definitely not taken lightly. If anyone thinks that being married and cheating on here is easy and a convenient excuse, have a look at the dozen threads on here every week where we are ripped apart for it. | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door. We are curious. Do mental health and relationship counsellors advise you to cheat? Really? ? Yes. Because they weigh up all the options and look at likely outcomes. You seem to be extremely confident of yourself considering you aren’t in this position." Interesting. My sister is a counsellor so I will have to ask. It will make a very interesting conversation. We have never even thought of cheating as helping two people. Usually it is just the one. | |||
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"What I would like to know is if the married people ever feel guilt when they return home to their unsuspecting life partner after they have cheated and if so how do they ‘deal’ with it? Yes - before, during and after. Dealing with it is extremely difficult if you love your partner. Straight answer to your straight question. I don’t think they truly love their partner if they are going behind their back cheating on them. Not judging, I’m just being ‘honest’. That’s ok, but you’re completely wrong. If I didn’t love her I’d have left years earlier instead of trying to hold things together at the expense of my mental health. As I said, many cases, many people, many reasons. Some of them are extremely complicated despite the “simple solution” that some want to hammer over it. I’ll take my guidance from mental health professionals and relationship counsellors rather than the judgemental ones here thanks. Happy to help with an insight if you want it, feel free to say you would do it differently of course but don’t dismiss what I’ve gone through and am still going through. To those who “know cheaters” and can fix others relationships easily - set up as relationship counsellors and charge £500 an hour. If it’s as easy as you think you can sort them out in 30 minutes and everyone will still beat a path to your door. I never said I was judging you or anyone else on here, I’m simply giving my thoughts, as you are too which is what the forums are about. What about the vows you made in a ceremony, the promises you gave to her? Why do they now mean nothing? Maybe you have created a good excuse to yourself for cheating on your partner and put it back to members here to give you the reassurance that you are doing the right thing by saying we don’t know what you are going through. Yes maybe we don’t know what you are going through. I’m merely trying to find out more about what drives people to cheat. This is not about getting at anyone. I’m not judging you, It’s about trying to understand. Vows - I’d love to keep them, I kept them for ages. However she changed, do the vows still count? Should I keep the vows or is it more important to try and be happy (or at least not suicidal)? The choice to go from one to the other is definitely not taken lightly. If anyone thinks that being married and cheating on here is easy and a convenient excuse, have a look at the dozen threads on here every week where we are ripped apart for it." Why did she change? Are you blaming her for you cheating? Happy? You clearly are not happy if you are cheating? We can’t give you the answers. Are you are putting this out to members so you feel better about cheating? Lots of unanswered questions here. | |||
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"I find it funny that the social justice warriors are flocking in like vultures. You should be ashamed of preying on this guy! Who are you to judge him?" Who is preying on anyone? I see people engaging in a debate. Everyone judges, unconsciously and consciously, it’s a natural human thing to do. The “judgemental” comment only comes up when people don’t like what they’re reading, we all judge, you’re doing it now in regards to the above conversation lol. | |||
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"I find it funny that the social justice warriors are flocking in like vultures. You should be ashamed of preying on this guy! Who are you to judge him?" If you read back chunky fella I am not judging this ‘guy’ or anyone else here that is married so why do I need to be ashamed? | |||
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"Boobs - I think its quite horrible that a man/woman attached in any form would want to be on here effectively cheating on their significant other by asking for discreet NSA fun etc. I'd rather they left me before embarking on something like this tbh. I'm of the mindset that anyone actively meeting these kinds of people are just as bad for enabling it to, but that is simply my opinion" Finally a sensible voice. | |||
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"Boobs - I think its quite horrible that a man/woman attached in any form would want to be on here effectively cheating on their significant other by asking for discreet NSA fun etc. I'd rather they left me before embarking on something like this tbh. I'm of the mindset that anyone actively meeting these kinds of people are just as bad for enabling it to, but that is simply my opinion Finally a sensible voice. " | |||
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"As my probation period is up I can contribute to the Forums. Before I was admitted to the club I read the various posts on the most bizarre topics. I suppose if you pop your head above the parapet then you are a target? Funny old world but the source of great amusement for the innocent bystanders! " You need a good hard hat | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx " Am a married man I can give my situation and reasons why I am here but everyone will be different. So I am here as a married man who has the knowledge and consent of my wife. We used to swing as a couple but found that we could never agree on couples to meet. So we decided it would be better to play separately. I joined fab as we already have a couples profile but felt that using it to get meets for me didnt feel right. I have no guilt as have not been deceitful. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. " I'm pretty sure they'd consider swingers as swingers. Cheating is when the other person isn't aware of what you're doing. That is the actual term for what's going on here in most cases, why deny it? It's like pointing at a cake and calling it a book. Using a legit term to describe something that fits the description is not being childish. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. " I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. | |||
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A much better choice than being dishonest and cheating. "Sometimes it’s not as black and white.... some marriages are still going because the pressure of keeping up a non satisfying sexual relationship is no longer there.... For some - impotence is a factor and so the sexual side is satisfied elsewhere.... For those who are bi and in same sex marriages - it fulfils the penchant for the opposite sex.... So many reasons We shouldn’t judge I think | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I'm pretty sure they'd consider swingers as swingers. Cheating is when the other person isn't aware of what you're doing. That is the actual term for what's going on here in most cases, why deny it? It's like pointing at a cake and calling it a book. Using a legit term to describe something that fits the description is not being childish. " Ok so what is a swinger? | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. " There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I'm pretty sure they'd consider swingers as swingers. Cheating is when the other person isn't aware of what you're doing. That is the actual term for what's going on here in most cases, why deny it? It's like pointing at a cake and calling it a book. Using a legit term to describe something that fits the description is not being childish. Ok so what is a swinger?" Well technically it's used to describe people who swap sexual partners within a group setting. If you're not bringing your partner to the group then you ain't swinging. To be clear. I am not a swinger by any means. I'm just saying let's call it what it is. It's cheating. Even if the reasons you're doing it are justified in your opinion yadda yadda yadda. It's still cheating. You just don't like the negative connotations the word carries; that's a different matter entirely. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. " It is that simple. A man or woman seeking sex elsewhere without their spouse knowledge is cheating. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. " Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act? | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. It is that simple. A man or woman seeking sex elsewhere without their spouse knowledge is cheating." Thought you weren't judging? Your tone says different | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act?" Its the simple fact people are making it so black and white. Why be on a site like this if your opinions are so black and white. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act? Its the simple fact people are making it so black and white. Why be on a site like this if your opinions are so black and white. " It’s not an opinion. It’s a fact. If you’re having sex behind your partners back it’s cheating, if you’re not okay with others choosing to address it as such maybe it’s you who needs to rethink being on this site. Because people are entitled to their opinions. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act? Its the simple fact people are making it so black and white. Why be on a site like this if your opinions are so black and white. " Black and white or fucking pink, purple or blue. The reasons for it are irrelevant. The literal dictionary definition of what's going is called cheating. Maybe you should address your obvious issues with that word. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act? Its the simple fact people are making it so black and white. Why be on a site like this if your opinions are so black and white. It’s not an opinion. It’s a fact. If you’re having sex behind your partners back it’s cheating, if you’re not okay with others choosing to address it as such maybe it’s you who needs to rethink being on this site. Because people are entitled to their opinions." Why would I have to rethink being on this site? You have no idea of my situation. I'm just stating my opinion about people being so black and white on a site such as this. Many people have stated there reasons but people would rather see broken homes, people struggling to survive, rather than people looking for discreet fun. Btw if you having sex while married or in a relationship in the views of vanilla life thats cheating | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act? Its the simple fact people are making it so black and white. Why be on a site like this if your opinions are so black and white. Black and white or fucking pink, purple or blue. The reasons for it are irrelevant. The literal dictionary definition of what's going is called cheating. Maybe you should address your obvious issues with that word. " Wow. Anger issues | |||
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"For me it's the lack of intimacy at home. It's the fact that I know my husband is cheating on me. Have caught him more Dan once. I've dealt wit it d best I could. I luv my husband but I'm not in love wit him. We hav a great friendship n r good 2gather in most ways wit the exception of sex. I've thought about leaving. We even talked about it but rite now for d sake of my kids I'll stay." My husband cheated on me for 2 years. I caught them quite early in their relationship and asked him to stop it- I didn’t agree with it. At this point I had been completely faithful for 15 years. He said nothing was going on. Months later he just said I’d have to accept it and just live my life... I took heed of that. And have had the most amazing experiences and have met the most incredible people. His affair ended a year ago quite badly. But I’m not ending my fab life... | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act? Its the simple fact people are making it so black and white. Why be on a site like this if your opinions are so black and white. It’s not an opinion. It’s a fact. If you’re having sex behind your partners back it’s cheating, if you’re not okay with others choosing to address it as such maybe it’s you who needs to rethink being on this site. Because people are entitled to their opinions. Why would I have to rethink being on this site? You have no idea of my situation. I'm just stating my opinion about people being so black and white on a site such as this. Many people have stated there reasons but people would rather see broken homes, people struggling to survive, rather than people looking for discreet fun. Btw if you having sex while married or in a relationship in the views of vanilla life thats cheating " Because you are telling others to do that. Maybe the problem lies with you and not others addressing cheating. Whether it’s black and white or not the fact of the matter is if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others, it’s cheating. If you can’t accept that that’s what it is, you’re probably not 100% comfortable with what you’re doing. | |||
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"Love how it is always down to that word cheating. Its an adult site. Be adults and stop acting like children. Just because you are in a relationship that is a swinging couple or single playing on here doesn't give you the right to judge others. Many people would consider swingers as cheaters in a vanilla life. I’m not judging anyone on here. I’m simply wishing to know what drives people to cheat. There you go with the cheat word. As many people have said its not that simple. Whether it’s simple or not, if your partner doesn’t know you’re having sex with others it’s cheating. Why are you uncomfortable with the word? Is it the word that’s the problem or the actual act? Its the simple fact people are making it so black and white. Why be on a site like this if your opinions are so black and white. Black and white or fucking pink, purple or blue. The reasons for it are irrelevant. The literal dictionary definition of what's going is called cheating. Maybe you should address your obvious issues with that word. Wow. Anger issues " It's not anger it's just frustration that everyone is trying to explain to you that you are mixing up people being judgemental with the use of the word "cheating". I'm trying to be as straightforward as possible and explain to you that you could have the best reasons in the world but the word for the act is still "cheating". You're totally right in that it's not black and white. But that doesn't stop it being cheating. I just don't understand what it not being black and white has to do with the actual word itself? | |||
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"For me it's the lack of intimacy at home. It's the fact that I know my husband is cheating on me. Have caught him more Dan once. I've dealt wit it d best I could. I luv my husband but I'm not in love wit him. We hav a great friendship n r good 2gather in most ways wit the exception of sex. I've thought about leaving. We even talked about it but rite now for d sake of my kids I'll stay. My husband cheated on me for 2 years. I caught them quite early in their relationship and asked him to stop it- I didn’t agree with it. At this point I had been completely faithful for 15 years. He said nothing was going on. Months later he just said I’d have to accept it and just live my life... I took heed of that. And have had the most amazing experiences and have met the most incredible people. His affair ended a year ago quite badly. But I’m not ending my fab life... "Sometimes these things just hav 2 b done. We aren't here for a long time so may as well do what makes us happym | |||
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"For me it's the lack of intimacy at home. It's the fact that I know my husband is cheating on me. Have caught him more Dan once. I've dealt wit it d best I could. I luv my husband but I'm not in love wit him. We hav a great friendship n r good 2gather in most ways wit the exception of sex. I've thought about leaving. We even talked about it but rite now for d sake of my kids I'll stay. My husband cheated on me for 2 years. I caught them quite early in their relationship and asked him to stop it- I didn’t agree with it. At this point I had been completely faithful for 15 years. He said nothing was going on. Months later he just said I’d have to accept it and just live my life... I took heed of that. And have had the most amazing experiences and have met the most incredible people. His affair ended a year ago quite badly. But I’m not ending my fab life... "My mum stayed married to my dad throughout his 15 year affair. I wish she'd taken a leaf out of your book. | |||
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"For me it's the lack of intimacy at home. It's the fact that I know my husband is cheating on me. Have caught him more Dan once. I've dealt wit it d best I could. I luv my husband but I'm not in love wit him. We hav a great friendship n r good 2gather in most ways wit the exception of sex. I've thought about leaving. We even talked about it but rite now for d sake of my kids I'll stay. My husband cheated on me for 2 years. I caught them quite early in their relationship and asked him to stop it- I didn’t agree with it. At this point I had been completely faithful for 15 years. He said nothing was going on. Months later he just said I’d have to accept it and just live my life... I took heed of that. And have had the most amazing experiences and have met the most incredible people. His affair ended a year ago quite badly. But I’m not ending my fab life...
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" My mum stayed married to my dad throughout his 15 year affair. I wish she'd taken a leaf out of your book. How do you know she didn't?" Because I know. | |||
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"For me it's the lack of intimacy at home. It's the fact that I know my husband is cheating on me. Have caught him more Dan once. I've dealt wit it d best I could. I luv my husband but I'm not in love wit him. We hav a great friendship n r good 2gather in most ways wit the exception of sex. I've thought about leaving. We even talked about it but rite now for d sake of my kids I'll stay. My husband cheated on me for 2 years. I caught them quite early in their relationship and asked him to stop it- I didn’t agree with it. At this point I had been completely faithful for 15 years. He said nothing was going on. Months later he just said I’d have to accept it and just live my life... I took heed of that. And have had the most amazing experiences and have met the most incredible people. His affair ended a year ago quite badly. But I’m not ending my fab life...
My mum stayed married to my dad throughout his 15 year affair. I wish she'd taken a leaf out of your book.
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" My mum stayed married to my dad throughout his 15 year affair. I wish she'd taken a leaf out of your book. How do you know she didn't? Because I know. " 15 years, I think she might have had something else. Even if it was just flirting with a friend | |||
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" My mum stayed married to my dad throughout his 15 year affair. I wish she'd taken a leaf out of your book. How do you know she didn't? Because I know. 15 years, I think she might have had something else. Even if it was just flirting with a friend " I'm not going to sit here and go into intimate detail of my family's dynamics just to satisfy your desire to be right. If I'm telling you I know it's because I 100% categorically know that nothing else went on due to reasons I'm not going into on here. Sometimes it really is that black and white. | |||
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" My mum stayed married to my dad throughout his 15 year affair. I wish she'd taken a leaf out of your book. How do you know she didn't? Because I know. 15 years, I think she might have had something else. Even if it was just flirting with a friend I'm not going to sit here and go into intimate detail of my family's dynamics just to satisfy your desire to be right. If I'm telling you I know it's because I 100% categorically know that nothing else went on due to reasons I'm not going into on here. Sometimes it really is that black and white. " I'm not trying to be right in any way. I just know life throws a lot of shit at you and things just happen | |||
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"Blimey OP this is some musing. Gone through the whole thread and pretty much the same passionate answers from all three different sides. Nothing unexpected or surprising there. I have made my opinions clear on these thread topics over the years, but it's been a while so I will contribute at a more convenient time for new forum users and lurkers. If thread gets filled up I will find another one. Posting in here for future reference. For now the three different sides are: 1) Cheater 2) For, will meet cheater 3) Against, won't meet cheater To be continued..." and you forget the fourth, someone who doesn’t mind what another individual is up to and falls into none of those clear cut categories | |||
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship "Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc | |||
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship
Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc "Yeah I have my views and reasons on not meeting attached men but I'd be constantly thinking is he on fab or another site etc would give me major stress | |||
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship
Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc
Yeah I have my views and reasons on not meeting attached men but I'd be constantly thinking is he on fab or another site etc would give me major stress"Yep and then I'd probably join fab myself to try and catch him out and have the added stress of not being caught myself and be accused of cheating  | |||
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship
Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc
Yeah I have my views and reasons on not meeting attached men but I'd be constantly thinking is he on fab or another site etc would give me major stress
Yep and then I'd probably join fab myself to try and catch him out and have the added stress of not being caught myself and be accused of cheating "Aww see I'm lucky one of my friends has skills fit for the FBI! She can find anyone on social media/online  | |||
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship
Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc
Yeah I have my views and reasons on not meeting attached men but I'd be constantly thinking is he on fab or another site etc would give me major stress
Yep and then I'd probably join fab myself to try and catch him out and have the added stress of not being caught myself and be accused of cheating "That made me laugh!
Ladies I am trying to catch up on my late night forum entertainment and this thread keeps getting bumped up to the top of the list on my page.
Can I just say don't worry or overthink it because what goes on around you will always be happening so you can't put your life on hold... you have to trust your gut instincts... learn from these threads and others... be true to yourself and there is every possibility your suitable/preferred match will be on Fab.
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship
Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc
Yeah I have my views and reasons on not meeting attached men but I'd be constantly thinking is he on fab or another site etc would give me major stress
Yep and then I'd probably join fab myself to try and catch him out and have the added stress of not being caught myself and be accused of cheating
That made me laugh!
Ladies I am trying to catch up on my late night forum entertainment and this thread keeps getting bumped up to the top of the list on my page.
Can I just say don't worry or overthink it because what goes on around you will always be happening so you can't put your life on hold... you have to trust your gut instincts... learn from these threads and others... be true to yourself and there is every possibility your suitable/preferred match will be on Fab.
There are more couples/singles that don't cheat then their are those that cheat. As you were. I am off to continue my browsing "Bump, just thread again! At least its ended making someone laugh | |||
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship
Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc
Yeah I have my views and reasons on not meeting attached men but I'd be constantly thinking is he on fab or another site etc would give me major stress
Yep and then I'd probably join fab myself to try and catch him out and have the added stress of not being caught myself and be accused of cheating
Aww see I'm lucky one of my friends has skills fit for the FBI! She can find anyone on social media/online "Oh bloody hell FBI !! Yikes !! Switching my phone off and taking battery/chip out | |||
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"These cheating threads make me really anxious about finding a partner and being in a relationship
Honestly same. I don't think I'd ever feel truly at ease. I'd always be paranoid I was doing something wrong, not giving him enough sex, etc
Yeah I have my views and reasons on not meeting attached men but I'd be constantly thinking is he on fab or another site etc would give me major stress
Yep and then I'd probably join fab myself to try and catch him out and have the added stress of not being caught myself and be accused of cheating
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"Simple: they are with the wrong person. We tend to over complicate things and stay where it’s safe and comfortable. When you truly love someone, cheating on them would cause internal pain. It’s not possible - intimacy is much more than sex. Best to let each other find a happier path. " Eek! That was quick. Are you _arbells FBI friend? Your post is different. I like that. It really does give a different angle on things and makes sense. | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx " its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth    | |||
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"Simple: they are with the wrong person. We tend to over complicate things and stay where it’s safe and comfortable. When you truly love someone, cheating on them would cause internal pain. It’s not possible - intimacy is much more than sex. Best to let each other find a happier path. Eek! That was quick. Are you _arbells FBI friend? Your post is different. I like that. It really does give a different angle on things and makes sense." Nope people do what people want to do. No snooping is necessary. Trust is everything.
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth "Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? | |||
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"Simple: they are with the wrong person. We tend to over complicate things and stay where it’s safe and comfortable. When you truly love someone, cheating on them would cause internal pain. It’s not possible - intimacy is much more than sex. Best to let each other find a happier path. Eek! That was quick. Are you _arbells FBI friend? Your post is different. I like that. It really does give a different angle on things and makes sense. Nope people do what people want to do. No snooping is necessary. Trust is everything.
If my gut Told me different I’d leave. Why live with such anguish and turmoil. I choose people who choose me #namaste "#Namaste boom! 2/2 posts now. Agreed. Trust is everything. Choose people who choose you! I would have already posted and expanded on my thoughts if I had known you were coming in. I won't have anything left to add if you keep coming up with these valuable points! | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? "I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy "A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. "true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory. | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory. "You can have sex with many... check the site out - it’s sex. But, I’d never want to spend my life with someone I didn’t or couldn’t lose myself in. Intimacy, on all levels, is where the magic happens. #There can be only one | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory.
You can have sex with many... check the site out - it’s sex. But, I’d never want to spend my life with someone I didn’t or couldn’t lose myself in. Intimacy, on all levels, is where the magic happens.
#There can be only one "i thought that to but maybe i was wrong........... have you not found the one yet then? | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory.
You can have sex with many... check the site out - it’s sex. But, I’d never want to spend my life with someone I didn’t or couldn’t lose myself in. Intimacy, on all levels, is where the magic happens.
#There can be only one i thought that to but maybe i was wrong........... have you not found the one yet then? "I’m quoting Highlander
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory.
You can have sex with many... check the site out - it’s sex. But, I’d never want to spend my life with someone I didn’t or couldn’t lose myself in. Intimacy, on all levels, is where the magic happens.
#There can be only one i thought that to but maybe i was wrong........... have you not found the one yet then?
I’m quoting Highlander
I’m a swinger ... there is but many "really lol never seen it..... highlander that is........ and i may have had sex with many who knows | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory.
You can have sex with many... check the site out - it’s sex. But, I’d never want to spend my life with someone I didn’t or couldn’t lose myself in. Intimacy, on all levels, is where the magic happens.
#There can be only one i thought that to but maybe i was wrong........... have you not found the one yet then?
I’m quoting Highlander
I’m a swinger ... there is but many really lol never seen it..... highlander that is........ and i may have had sex with many who knows "Haha Chase has pretty much covered this topic. If she can say anymore final wise words to close thread off... Unless my post closed it already...  | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory.
You can have sex with many... check the site out - it’s sex. But, I’d never want to spend my life with someone I didn’t or couldn’t lose myself in. Intimacy, on all levels, is where the magic happens.
#There can be only one i thought that to but maybe i was wrong........... have you not found the one yet then?
I’m quoting Highlander
I’m a swinger ... there is but many really lol never seen it..... highlander that is........ and i may have had sex with many who knows
Haha Chase has pretty much covered this topic. If she can say anymore final wise words to close thread off...
Unless my post closed it already... "Thank you Adam.... My final words of wisdom: fuck who you want, but hurt no one is process... unless they ask you too Be Alert | |||
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"Good afternoon, So I’m musing today. To all of you absolutely wonderful people on Fab, please tell me why do you think married people cheat on Fab? I’m interested to know. I’m not calling out any individuals, it’s a general question, it’s not about who here is married, it’s not about having a go. I’m merely wondering if there is any guilt etc they feel, why they do it and what made them join Fab to do it? Was it a long thought process to decide to or not? Open to both the ladies and the gents. Answers in the thread only please. Thank you Bhubaysi xx its the thrill of it, its taboo, its naughty, its satisfying, to have something you're not allowed because its against your vows which you never believed in anyway, its a sense of achievement, you haven't had any for years and now you're getting some if you're a woman you're getting more than a guy mind, its clarity and a feeling of self worth
Can I ask what you mean by ‘clarity’? I'm not married and I've never cheated I'm musing but i guess clarity comes from the feeling of being worth another persons intimacy
A moment of clarity but a barrel of sorrow. How devastating is that; to live your life without true connection to someone. Self-worth seen in snippets of temporary desire. No one should feel that way. true but it seems you can be happy with the person you love and you married but don't have intimacy with but enjoy another who you do have that with, maybe we weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives, i can love the memory.
You can have sex with many... check the site out - it’s sex. But, I’d never want to spend my life with someone I didn’t or couldn’t lose myself in. Intimacy, on all levels, is where the magic happens.
#There can be only one i thought that to but maybe i was wrong........... have you not found the one yet then?
I’m quoting Highlander
I’m a swinger ... there is but many "many conquests oh well i wish you luck with your grey knickers | |||
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