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I do not like your face!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? |
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"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
Be honest.
If someone isn’t to your taste tell them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
Always tell the truth ??????? |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
Ask if they need to go to specsaveers. |
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Good question and really tricky ... Especially if you've built up some rapport ... But I know for us it's not C, we hate being hurtful or negative towards people but in the end I think it's got to be the gentlest version of A possible  |
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I won’t chat before seeing a face pic, for this reason. They might also not like my face, so best to know who you’re talking yo straight off the bat.
I have been caught out before and I think I just ghosted  |
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"I won’t chat before seeing a face pic, for this reason. They might also not like my face, so best to know who you’re talking yo straight off the bat.
I have been caught out before and I think I just ghosted "
I don't think you'll have much problem after having a look at your pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't ignore them after being sent a face picture and wouldn't tell them the truth if they were not attractive looking to me. I think that would be a terrible thing to say to anyone.
What I do is try to get a conversation going, because I'm more than looks. I think I'm a bit of a sapiosexual or whatever you call it lol. If we don't click then the conversation would eventually ghost.
I remember someone once asked me for a face picture and in her words she said..
"send me a face pic because I could be talking to a minger"
Charming I thought, but I sent one and then she replied with..
"you look like shit" and blocked me 
Now that could really hurt someone with issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why if I feel like I really want to meet someone I ask for a face pic within the first 2-3 messages. At that point it isn’t awkward to say sorry not for me. Whereas in the past i’ve got chatting. Chatted for ages and then yes it is awkward to say “yeah we get on really well but you’re not for me”. I feel like that’s more of a letdown too. |
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"I wouldn't ignore them after being sent a face picture and wouldn't tell them the truth if they were not attractive looking to me. I think that would be a terrible thing to say to anyone.
What I do is try to get a conversation going, because I'm more than looks. I think I'm a bit of a sapiosexual or whatever you call it lol. If we don't click then the conversation would eventually ghost.
I remember someone once asked me for a face picture and in her words she said..
"send me a face pic because I could be talking to a minger"
Charming I thought, but I sent one and then she replied with..
"you look like shit" and blocked me
Now that could really hurt someone with issues. "
 what an awful person she must be. You had a lucky escape. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd just be up front and honest. If they take it on the chin then great, if they whinge and abuse we count it as a lucky escape. Not everyone is attracted to everyone one else. We've been told no thanks plenty of times, so would always treat as we wish to be treated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People should be honest and just say, kindly, that they're not interested. What usually happens is people either ignore you, or more commonly, they block you.
In my view that's one of the many problems with rudeness on this site.
People aren't brave enough to be honest, and an awful lot of people don't take rejection well.
Both parties are at fault. |
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Forums aside, I don't contemplate replying to a message unless I like the face picture. If it isn't on the profile or in the message it definitely won't get a response so that takes away the issue of having to have the awkward conversation.
Reading that back, I'm such a fab entitled woman but being attracted to a face is more important to me than the rest of the package. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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D haha
More to somebody than just looks, I think there is always something in a person you don't like. They might be ugly but have the best heart and personality or the best sex you have ever had. I'm very open till I get to know somebody. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won’t chat before seeing a face pic, for this reason. They might also not like my face, so best to know who you’re talking yo straight off the bat.
I have been caught out before and I think I just ghosted "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feels awkward rejecting if you've been talking awhile but it has to be done.
I was so timid and anxious to upset anyone when I first joined.
Now although I still hate it I'm honest if there's no attraction and generally cut the conversation there.
Kind of helps the amount of times I've got abusive messages back or arrogant guys telling me I'm missing out.
Sorry dude if I don't like what I'm looking at then it doesn't matter if you are a god in bed... I ain't going to get turned on to enjoy it. Plus pity sex isn't fun for anyone.
Rejection is hard to give and receive but the worst thing anyone can do is ask why 
Most of time I can't give a reason other than I'm simply not attracted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My face pic usually results in pretty speedy A! But honesty would always be my pref...
I also get B and C as well though...which provides a little variety if nothing else  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
Always A.
B is just being cowardly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok what if you love their body and photos but not their face? "
Pretty much 9/10 I'll like a guy's body when I view a profile on here... But also 9/10 I then find I'm not attracted to their face so the same applies... Tell them they're not my type.
I think everyone is different though, some people can go past that and have sex.
I just can't, I need all three boxes of attraction ticked - face, body and mind. |
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From my experience Alot of people tend to delete the message without response or even block me which I think is so childish
If I'm not your cup of tea just say we're all adults on here.
A polite response goes far |
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"Ok what if you love their body and photos but not their face?
Copious amounts of beer or wine ? Lol "
I don't drink... But yes wize move is say I'm no longer interested... But when i say that... They ask why... Awkward |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok what if you love their body and photos but not their face?
Copious amounts of beer or wine ? Lol
I don't drink... But yes wize move is say I'm no longer interested... But when i say that... They ask why... Awkward "
Yeah that’s not much fun , to be fair if people say not for me I don’t ask why , far to awkward lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my experience Alot of people tend to delete the message without response or even block me which I think is so childish
If I'm not your cup of tea just say we're all adults on here.
A polite response goes far "
...adults should be able to pick up on non-verbal/non-literal cues though
'no response' is a response and quite a polite one imo |
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"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
Be nice, but be honest, just say you're not for me, sorry... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my experience Alot of people tend to delete the message without response or even block me which I think is so childish
If I'm not your cup of tea just say we're all adults on here.
A polite response goes far "
All I can say to that is on a day where is get 200+ messages expecting me to reply to them all is a bit excessive.
Site rules explain a deleted message means not interested...saves so much time or I'd be here all day telling people I'm not interested.
I would have thought that it is self explanatory though! A delete or no reply is answer enough...
Most of those who block instantly just cba with the backlash you get for not liking someone.
I can't entertain people who ask me why I'm not attracted to them so blocking is sometimes easier |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t really engage in conversation without a face pic. Put people in the unfair position that you mention. If you don’t want the face pic on your profile (for whatever reason) that’s fine but it’s only fair to include it on the first message if you instigated it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my experience Alot of people tend to delete the message without response or even block me which I think is so childish
If I'm not your cup of tea just say we're all adults on here.
A polite response goes far
...adults should be able to pick up on non-verbal/non-literal cues though
'no response' is a response and quite a polite one imo"
I always wondered.... is a “ Sorry we are not a match “ message better for the ego?
No response is still a no....... So why do people find it rude if someone doesn’t respond?
You are never going to interact with this person again... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my experience Alot of people tend to delete the message without response or even block me which I think is so childish
If I'm not your cup of tea just say we're all adults on here.
A polite response goes far
...adults should be able to pick up on non-verbal/non-literal cues though
'no response' is a response and quite a polite one imo
I always wondered.... is a “ Sorry we are not a match “ message better for the ego?
No response is still a no....... So why do people find it rude if someone doesn’t respond?
You are never going to interact with this person again..."
True.
I think for some people an act of acknowledgement from
someone, even from a stranger, positive or negative is desperately needed for them to feel 'noticed' and 'valid'
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no need to be rude if you don't find them attractive. An example of what I (Mr) said to someone before:
"I have to be honest, there was no initial attraction for me. I've enjoyed talking to you but I guess this just happens sometimes"
She didn't reply which is understandable but I'd rather be straight up and tell the truth. I've had people reply and say I appreciate you being a honest and not just blocking / ghosting and we say goodbye on good terms. Anyone with a bit of maturity will understand that not every person is going to find them attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my experience Alot of people tend to delete the message without response or even block me which I think is so childish
If I'm not your cup of tea just say we're all adults on here.
A polite response goes far
...adults should be able to pick up on non-verbal/non-literal cues though
'no response' is a response and quite a polite one imo
I always wondered.... is a “ Sorry we are not a match “ message better for the ego?
No response is still a no....... So why do people find it rude if someone doesn’t respond?
You are never going to interact with this person again...
True.
I think for some people an act of acknowledgement from
someone, even from a stranger, positive or negative is desperately needed for them to feel 'noticed' and 'valid'
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Ok.... I never thought of it that way...
I always thought getting a inbox full of no thank you’s would be far worse than the unknown.... |
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"There's no need to be rude if you don't find them attractive. An example of what I (Mr) said to someone before:
"I have to be honest, there was no initial attraction for me. I've enjoyed talking to you but I guess this just happens sometimes"
She didn't reply which is understandable but I'd rather be straight up and tell the truth. I've had people reply and say I appreciate you being a honest and not just blocking / ghosting and we say goodbye on good terms. Anyone with a bit of maturity will understand that not every person is going to find them attractive. "
Exactly this |
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"I like to get face pics out of the way very early on, the longer I chat I find it more awkward to tell them that they're not my type."
This. Cant get past someone who you are never going to be attracted to. Dont think its fair on the people you are chatting to either.
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It is a hard one, especially when you’re new to it all. We have kindly said - no thank you and sometimes still chatted away as we may meet them again in a club or so forth. It’s not in our natures to be rude. However, we need to be attracted to them for it to continue in a playful way.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
Say thank you for the lovely photo, however, we are not a match after all.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they remind you of a close relative...hair, eyes, that sort of thing. Then say the resemblance is too close for you, then wish them well, with their next meet."
We have done this a few times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be an adult and say not for me & wish them good luck in what they are searching for.
If chat was going well id tell them Im still happy to chat witn them tho if they wanted to . "
Definitely this. |
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As I always say Everyone isn’t for Everyone..
Sometimes you just have to take it on the chin if your face doesn’t excite someone lool
Can you imagine if every single person that saw your face got exited??? It would end up always being a very long day lool |
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"So, you’re messaging, you swap face pictures, the face picture isn't to your liking do you.....
A) tell the truth?
B) keep talking but ghost later on?
C) ignore the face dislike and plan to get shagging?
What would you Fabbers do? "
Men would choose option C, women would choose option A. I would choose option A. |
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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago
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Again, I'm realising that I'm very different to most! I find it really odd when a guy sends me a face pic when first messaging me, as if I'm expected to say something positive back?!
I prefer to chat, see if we're compatible and meeting up is something that we both want to do (rather than just wishful thinking) before sending any picture of my face. I don't know how that person will store / delete my face and I don't need it to be hanging around or to accidentally send it to someone connected to work! X
I also don't care about face as much as personality and their overall body look. Plus men can often take a picture that doesn't capture how handsome they are in real life, or maybe that's because I fancy them more now after having spoken  |
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We've also had the "not our type" reply, everyone smiles and goes there own way.
I'll be option A though.
Most women seem to just fail to commit to a meet, with or without a face pic anyway.