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Why are we struggling to meet a single guys ??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets  maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
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"So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
Sits on coffin "
Is this a wind-up or something? Struggling to meet single guys on Fab when we have people complaining of being bombarded with messages from single guys, most of which wont even read profile before asking for a meet  |
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By *ouplemidzCouple
over a year ago
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we dont get many meets with single males either, we do get alot asking us to play on cam or asking to be friends but when we say we only do meets or we only add friends we have met they so oh ok and nothing else lol
and ur def not freaky ur both lovely cript xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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we dont get many meets with single males either, we do get alot asking us to play on cam or asking to be friends but when we say we only do meets or we only add friends we have met they so oh ok and nothing else lol
and ur def not freaky ur both lovely cript xx"
lol thanks we don't even get asked to play on cam not that we would been there done that moved on to the real thing now well if we could get a meet that is lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most of them arnt really single. They are married and shit themselves when someone wants to meet. Most are on here to cam wank"
oh had lots of them contact us over the years lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of them arnt really single. They are married and shit themselves when someone wants to meet. Most are on here to cam wank"
I'm single I'm single...pick me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we dont get many meets with single males either, we do get alot asking us to play on cam or asking to be friends but when we say we only do meets or we only add friends we have met they so oh ok and nothing else lol
and ur def not freaky ur both lovely cript xx lol thanks we don't even get asked to play on cam not that we would been there done that moved on to the real thing now well if we could get a meet that is lol
Sits on coffin "
A small point, but could you clear up the ambiguity in your question 'Safe sex - yes or no?'...... Do you NOT want safe sex? As a single guy that would be a BIG BIG question mark......
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"maybe they dont find your profile and pictures attractive like a said maybe we are just to freak for them
Sits on coffin "
Why are the people I want to meet the other side of the country? 
Freaks are lovely :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"maybe they dont find your profile and pictures attractive like a said maybe we are just to freak for them
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Why are the people I want to meet the other side of the country?
Freaks are lovely :D"
Actually that's s good point - the more specialist the requirement, the further you have to be prepared to go to get it.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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we dont get many meets with single males either, we do get alot asking us to play on cam or asking to be friends but when we say we only do meets or we only add friends we have met they so oh ok and nothing else lol
and ur def not freaky ur both lovely cript xx lol thanks we don't even get asked to play on cam not that we would been there done that moved on to the real thing now well if we could get a meet that is lol
Sits on coffin
A small point, but could you clear up the ambiguity in your question 'Safe sex - yes or no?'...... Do you NOT want safe sex? As a single guy that would be a BIG BIG question mark..
Sits on fence "
safe sex ever time
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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know why our joint profile is inundated with them when we post meets we now have a separate profile for single guys. It might just be that they are all attached most of the ones who message us are |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe the can't travel/accommodate confuses them.  "
Maybe if they could read they'd know we only meet at our local club. Reason for carnt travel / accomodate
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"Maybe the can't travel/accommodate confuses them. Maybe if they could read they'd know we only meet at our local club. Reason for carnt travel / accomodate
Sits on coffin "
Maybe they don't like club meets?...we certainly don't like meeting at a club first. If we are meeting someone new, we want to give them our undivided attention and expect the same in return.
Also, The Attic, where you meet, has so many bad reviews, that may be off-putting too?
Just a couple of possible reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"maybe they dont find your profile and pictures attractive like a said maybe we are just to freak for them
Sits on coffin "
Personallyu, I dodn;t think that youi are that freaky. But you seem to want to be perceived as such and that would put me off.
As would the frankly weird watys you sign off each forum post.
Plus personally if I message someone I want to tell them about me and not answer a short questionairre...
To a degree though I think it is the goth thing. It massively narrows the potential on here, I think at a club like Anti-Christ you'd be a huge hit, here people in the main seem to be more normal/traditional so your market is massively reduced.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe the can't travel/accommodate confuses them. Maybe if they could read they'd know we only meet at our local club. Reason for carnt travel / accomodate
Sits on coffin
Maybe they don't like club meets?...we certainly don't like meeting at a club first. If we are meeting someone new, we want to give them our undivided attention and expect the same in return.
Also, The Attic, where you meet, has so many bad reviews, that may be off-putting too?
Just a couple of possible reasons."
yeah maybe clubs arnt everyones cup of tea. We also like to meet up for a drink at our local pub some times, then move on to the club if everyones happy to
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's almost certainly the club thing rather than the goth thing"
Only reason we use the club is we got so fedup with arranging meets hotels, pubs, there place, just to be let down. So started going to club to meet like minded but that doesn't alway work out lol a guess you just carnt win. Oh well.
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The problem I am finding is the opposite. I contact couples or respond to meets and get totally ignored, they don't even bother to check my profile. Maybe its something I'm saying but I do try to be as friendly polite and none pushy. |
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"It's almost certainly the club thing rather than the goth thing Only reason we use the club is we got so fedup with arranging meets hotels, pubs, there place, just to be let down. So started going to club to meet like minded but that doesn't alway work out lol a guess you just carnt win. Oh well.
Sits on coffin "
Well think of it this way. You have a large number of single guys who want to meet you (by default, because we single guys are horny bastards who want to meet everyone)
Every criteria you add reduces the amount of guys who will A) meet your requirements and B) want to meet you. Going through your profile:
- You don't want married guys, that strikes out a huge number of guys
- you want someone local to Derby, again that cuts out a massive number of people, depending on your definition of local
- Someone verified. Well, most people are, but still that filters out a few.
- Safe sex only. Well, again I would imagine most people on here would agree with/accept that, but a couple won't, so you're whittling down your pool of potential meets again.
- and then the club thing, which apparently takes care of the rest of the guys out there.
Nobody's saying you can't be picky about who you meet, but it's a little silly to want everyone you meet to have followed a seven-point selection process and then wonder why nobody wants to contact you.
The single guys who can't get meets aren't necessarily the ones who meet the criteria you want, it's not a case of "well, there can't be that many guys out there wanting meets if I can't meet any". It's up to you whether you want to compromise your standards to get more guys, or stick to your principles
Anyway, now you've posted on the forum you'll probably get some meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's almost certainly the club thing rather than the goth thing Only reason we use the club is we got so fedup with arranging meets hotels, pubs, there place, just to be let down. So started going to club to meet like minded but that doesn't alway work out lol a guess you just carnt win. Oh well.
Sits on coffin
Well think of it this way. You have a large number of single guys who want to meet you (by default, because we single guys are horny bastards who want to meet everyone)
Every criteria you add reduces the amount of guys who will A) meet your requirements and B) want to meet you. Going through your profile:
- You don't want married guys, that strikes out a huge number of guys
- you want someone local to Derby, again that cuts out a massive number of people, depending on your definition of local
- Someone verified. Well, most people are, but still that filters out a few.
- Safe sex only. Well, again I would imagine most people on here would agree with/accept that, but a couple won't, so you're whittling down your pool of potential meets again.
- and then the club thing, which apparently takes care of the rest of the guys out there.
Nobody's saying you can't be picky about who you meet, but it's a little silly to want everyone you meet to have followed a seven-point selection process and then wonder why nobody wants to contact you.
The single guys who can't get meets aren't necessarily the ones who meet the criteria you want, it's not a case of "well, there can't be that many guys out there wanting meets if I can't meet any". It's up to you whether you want to compromise your standards to get more guys, or stick to your principles
Anyway, now you've posted on the forum you'll probably get some meets."
Nope still looking lol  maybe if a changed our avatar pic to one of me with big cock in my mouth and a face coved in loads of cum might get more interest lol joke !! Well almost
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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We don't have any trouble finding single men and we are in the same area as you....in fact we got offered two meets tonight.
Granted, we only do more intimate meets rather than clubs, but there seems lots of males about who want to play.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"maybe they dont find your profile and pictures attractive like a said maybe we are just to freak for them
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Actually you don't freak me out at all. Infact, Donna I think you look fantastic. You both do. Shame I'm way to far away for you. Oh well. Good luck though. |
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"Maybe the can't travel/accommodate confuses them. Maybe if they could read they'd know we only meet at our local club. Reason for carnt travel / accomodate
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Maybe they don't like club meets?...we certainly don't like meeting at a club first. If we are meeting someone new, we want to give them our undivided attention and expect the same in return.
Also, The Attic, where you meet, has so many bad reviews, that may be off-putting too?
Just a couple of possible reasons. yeah maybe clubs arnt everyones cup of tea. We also like to meet up for a drink at our local pub some times, then move on to the club if everyones happy to
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Is there a reason meets have to end up at the attic?...why can you not meet at either your place or the persons you are meeting?....The Attic has somewhat of a reputation, be it rightly or wrongly, and not everyone may wish to go there or indeed to other clubs. We know you are not far from us and have ben very tempted about meeting you ( ref: the gothic arch mirror we informed you about), but we are somewhat put-off by your obsession with the Attic. It may apply to others too, limiting your audience? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"look bloody good to me. next time i'm up that way i will get in touch."
If we had a pound for every time we get told that well you know the rest .... But yeah sure 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know where your coming from as I struggle too.
Yes, women get overwhelmed with messages, but usually only one genuine offer in every 25-30 messages.
It's almost like they send ridiculous messages just so they get ignored or a no thankyou because really they have no intention of ever meeting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The problem I am finding is the opposite. I contact couples or respond to meets and get totally ignored, they don't even bother to check my profile. Maybe its something I'm saying but I do try to be as friendly polite and none pushy."
Same for me. Be polite and not rude or pushy they ignore you. Be rude and they ignore you. Try try and try again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do think the fact you can only meet in a club will be an issue to some single males.
They are renowned for charging high membership and entrance fees for single blokes and most guys don't want to fork out £50-£100 for the prospect of meeting.
If you meet at The Attic, then maybe you could highlight that they don't charge membership and £20 a visit for single guys.
I think more than any other group on here, single males want the idea of a meet to be as uncomplicated and easy as possible with as few conditions as possible.
The more you put in, the more drop outs you get.
I am not for one minute suggesting anyone alters their criteria or what they are comfortable with here, but the more stipulations you have the less interest you will have.
I have an alternative profile now (not here) for the 'meet' aspect of my life and that lists all my expectations and what i will and won't do.
Add those to the fact that I am best described as a niche market and the messages I get are few.
BUT, those that I do get are, in the main, bang on and from someone I can progress an intitial message to a meet with.
I hope you find some special guys to sit on ur coffin with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
Sits on coffin "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe ending every post with sits on coffin annoys people! Imean do you really have a coffin and do you really sit on it? If you got off it maybe people would be better abkle to meet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
Sits on coffin
Add me to the list "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do think the fact you can only meet in a club will be an issue to some single males.
They are renowned for charging high membership and entrance fees for single blokes and most guys don't want to fork out £50-£100 for the prospect of meeting.
If you meet at The Attic, then maybe you could highlight that they don't charge membership and £20 a visit for single guys.
I think more than any other group on here, single males want the idea of a meet to be as uncomplicated and easy as possible with as few conditions as possible.
The more you put in, the more drop outs you get.
I am not for one minute suggesting anyone alters their criteria or what they are comfortable with here, but the more stipulations you have the less interest you will have.
I have an alternative profile now (not here) for the 'meet' aspect of my life and that lists all my expectations and what i will and won't do.
Add those to the fact that I am best described as a niche market and the messages I get are few.
BUT, those that I do get are, in the main, bang on and from someone I can progress an intitial message to a meet with.
I hope you find some special guys to sit on ur coffin with "
. If you meet at The Attic, then maybe you could highlight that they don't charge membership and £20 a visit for single guys. We do tell everyone that message us and ask about the attic. We offer to meet up for a drink defore hand then go on the the attic if that's ok with everyone.
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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago
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"So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
Sits on coffin
Add me to the list "
You'll enjoy being on the list kev, these 2 are a very good laugh and very sexy looking Goths. X |
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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe ending every post with sits on coffin annoys people! Imean do you really have a coffin and do you really sit on it? If you got off it maybe people would be better abkle to meet"
If you read their profile you would realise that its a sign off so you know which 1 of them has just posted.
Also to some of the other posts, Don't knock the Attic if you haven't tried it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
Sits on coffin "
I'm too old Donna |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
Sits on coffin
I'm too old Donna "
And you've got a really odd shaped head sorry couldn't resist lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No its not a wind up in fact we don't get that many messages
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maybe its you sitting on coffin thats putting them off? Now if you said sitting on there C---k thay would mail , lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would love to meet you. Maybe the can't travel or accommodate on your profile is a bit of a stumbling block, only really leaves club meets of which I see you have had a few. When I am in your neck of the woods will be sure to contact you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nip down rock city on a saturday night bound to be loads of guys down there you can pull ive had more shags roudn back of that stage than in any sex club lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nip down rock city on a saturday night bound to be loads of guys down there you can pull ive had more shags roudn back of that stage than in any sex club lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nip down rock city on a saturday night bound to be loads of guys down there you can pull ive had more shags roudn back of that stage than in any sex club lol
omg "
i had a very miss spent youth 
was only a suggestion tho |
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By *eaboMan
over a year ago
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"look bloody good to me. next time i'm up that way i will get in touch. If we had a pound for every time we get told that well you know the rest .... But yeah sure
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i'll bring a pound. |
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You might try putting your rough location and your wants more clearly, widen your search or narrow closer to you, also on this site check out the PICS box that somtimes is a good place to look, or you could just like me go to a club, I go to Gems near Yeovil where you could meet me cutegen1, take care and good luck. |
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"So where are all the single guys that say why carnt I get a meet on here after sending hundreds of messages out. ?? If there are so many out there why carnt we get any meets maybe we are just to freaky for them.
Add your name to this if your a single guy that carnt get a meet.
Sits on coffin "
Add me to your list. (I doubt if you will because of my age)
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By (user no longer on site)
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i only wish that the couples that are struggling to meet single guys would come up to the north west as it,s harder than rockin horse shit to even get a reply from a couple never-mind a "meet" .and as a postscript any single str8 guy over 50 has only 2 chances on here - a dogs chance & no-chance. |
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