Personally I'm a bit unusual in this as I tend to prefer switches because I like a bit of fight in someone. A bit of a battle of wills. Its not fun if it's given up too easily. Also don't treat me like a kink vending machine. If I want a list of demands I'll find a Dom  . |
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Somebody I feel that I can connect with and I feel is comfortable enough to be clear in their communication with me.
Somebody who I feel a mental bond before anything else.
The dynamic has to feel natural and for me personally it's not something easy to find.
I have to know them a little bit in person in order to even be able to consider if a dynamic may grow between us like that.
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"The overwhelming desire to please me  "
I totally get that, for me my desire to be submissive is more about the needs and wants of the domme rather than my own kinks/likes. I want it to about doing what someone else wants because that's absolutely what they want as opposed to being instructed/forced to do something because they think it's what I want to happen.
I've probably not made much sense there at all.... |
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"Personally I'm a bit unusual in this as I tend to prefer switches because I like a bit of fight in someone. A bit of a battle of wills. Its not fun if it's given up too easily. Also don't treat me like a kink vending machine. If I want a list of demands I'll find a Dom ."
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"Somebody I feel that I can connect with and I feel is comfortable enough to be clear in their communication with me.
Somebody who I feel a mental bond before anything else.
The dynamic has to feel natural and for me personally it's not something easy to find.
I have to know them a little bit in person in order to even be able to consider if a dynamic may grow between us like that.
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I can totally relate to that. As you know most of my experience to date has been with my dominant side expressing itself. I'm still impressed by the fact that during one of our conversations you spotted that part of me hidden beneath the surface.
A Domme for me is still a fantasy but if I ever met the match right for me I would fully embrace it with her. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
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"Somebody I feel that I can connect with and I feel is comfortable enough to be clear in their communication with me.
Somebody who I feel a mental bond before anything else.
The dynamic has to feel natural and for me personally it's not something easy to find.
I have to know them a little bit in person in order to even be able to consider if a dynamic may grow between us like that.
I can totally relate to that. As you know most of my experience to date has been with my dominant side expressing itself. I'm still impressed by the fact that during one of our conversations you spotted that part of me hidden beneath the surface.
A Domme for me is still a fantasy but if I ever met the match right for me I would fully embrace it with her."
The right match is the hardest part for me as it can be a complicated dynamic with full trust involved. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
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"The overwhelming desire to please me
I totally get that, for me my desire to be submissive is more about the needs and wants of the domme rather than my own kinks/likes. I want it to about doing what someone else wants because that's absolutely what they want as opposed to being instructed/forced to do something because they think it's what I want to happen.
I've probably not made much sense there at all...."
That makes total sense to me. |
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"Somebody I feel that I can connect with and I feel is comfortable enough to be clear in their communication with me.
Somebody who I feel a mental bond before anything else.
The dynamic has to feel natural and for me personally it's not something easy to find.
I have to know them a little bit in person in order to even be able to consider if a dynamic may grow between us like that.
I can totally relate to that. As you know most of my experience to date has been with my dominant side expressing itself. I'm still impressed by the fact that during one of our conversations you spotted that part of me hidden beneath the surface.
A Domme for me is still a fantasy but if I ever met the match right for me I would fully embrace it with her.
The right match is the hardest part for me as it can be a complicated dynamic with full trust involved. "
But oh so worth the wait if found. My fantasy Domme would need to be accepting of other aspects of my sexually so the dynamic with her would need to be self contained if you see what I mean. |
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"The overwhelming desire to please me
I totally get that, for me my desire to be submissive is more about the needs and wants of the domme rather than my own kinks/likes. I want it to about doing what someone else wants because that's absolutely what they want as opposed to being instructed/forced to do something because they think it's what I want to happen.
I've probably not made much sense there at all...."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Compliance?
I think it’s more than that.... in a nutshell... submission?
Seems reasonable to me for a sub like me to submit xxx"
As opposed to sublimate. I hate it when they transition directly from a solid to a gas  |
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"Somebody I feel that I can connect with and I feel is comfortable enough to be clear in their communication with me.
Somebody who I feel a mental bond before anything else.
The dynamic has to feel natural and for me personally it's not something easy to find.
I have to know them a little bit in person in order to even be able to consider if a dynamic may grow between us like that.
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This for me too.
Chemistry. |
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"The overwhelming desire to please me
I totally get that, for me my desire to be submissive is more about the needs and wants of the domme rather than my own kinks/likes. I want it to about doing what someone else wants because that's absolutely what they want as opposed to being instructed/forced to do something because they think it's what I want to happen.
I've probably not made much sense there at all...."
Makes sense to me. |
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"Somebody I feel that I can connect with and I feel is comfortable enough to be clear in their communication with me.
Somebody who I feel a mental bond before anything else.
The dynamic has to feel natural and for me personally it's not something easy to find.
I have to know them a little bit in person in order to even be able to consider if a dynamic may grow between us like that.
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I think this goes both ways. I find it hard to submit to someone who I haven't connected with. |
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"Somebody I feel that I can connect with and I feel is comfortable enough to be clear in their communication with me.
Somebody who I feel a mental bond before anything else.
The dynamic has to feel natural and for me personally it's not something easy to find.
I have to know them a little bit in person in order to even be able to consider if a dynamic may grow between us like that.
I think this goes both ways. I find it hard to submit to someone who I haven't connected with."
Talk about making it difficult for yourself ... ive wanked about a lotta stuff in my time . Some of which ive even had to have a word with myself about after , but i aint ever had a wank over a mindful connection ...When did lust ever leave BDSM ? ... Go on im sure you could if you tried |
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By *litterbabeWoman
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We look for different things and the poster who started this thread was asking for what a dominant women may look for in a submissive man so I gave my answer.
Obviously nothing is a one-size-fits-all so I wouldn't expect what works for me to work for others necessarily. |
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