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It's a question mostly for the guys but I'd love to hear the opinion of couples too.
How hard is it for you guys to find the "right" couole?
In my case, because I tend to find one couple and stick with them and the rest of the time I don't really spend that much time on fab, it's quite a chore.
Although, some of the previous couples I've met or arranged meets with have been spectacular.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crickey its a hard one (excuse the pun)but its a bit of trial and error to find what suits, its such a personal thing and managing expectations and also integrity plays a big part, you dont click with any tom dick or tracey !!as they say, but to find people on the same wave length can be done so dont give up too easy, the experinace is off the scsale and worth the effort  |
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"We never set out to find a regular guy or ‘bull’ but one gent who we got along with and started to meet regularly just grew into the role naturally over a few years. "
Makes perfect sense, a lot of couples are actively looking for one though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People think it is easy for a female or couple to find a bull.
Well let me just say right now it's not
Not easy at all.
Me and my hubby have been looking for a very local bull who can accommodate for a couple of years
For meets with just me as we are into cuckold.
Can easily find a meet or even fun in a club as one off but regular local and accommodate
Like rocking horse shit
Ha ha
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By *ammy lynWoman
over a year ago
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"People think it is easy for a female or couple to find a bull.
Well let me just say right now it's not
Not easy at all.
Me and my hubby have been looking for a very local bull who can accommodate for a couple of years
For meets with just me as we are into cuckold.
Can easily find a meet or even fun in a club as one off but regular local and accommodate
Like rocking horse shit
Ha ha
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Well put it's certainly not easy as you say.
Plus a lot of guys think it's a way to an easy fuck, mostly just telling lies to get a one night stand a true bull is very hard to find xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard work locating the right couple. Initially a single guy needs to appeal to both members of a couple, either physically or with their particular set up. Then the messaging needs to go well, then a social etc.
There is an over lap with couples seeking a hotwife set up, but who advertise as cuck. Then as a bi male I either appeal massively or not at all.
I do enjoy looking though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found some lovely couples who play this lifestyle.
But you have to work at it and find a couple that suit me and a couple that suit what I have to offer
Need 3 people to be in agreement
Get it right and it is lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find it really difficult to find guys that understand cuckolding!
We would love to find someone regular for cuckold play but it seems no guys actually want to get to know us and chat etc,
A cuckold relationship with a true bull is not just all about sex lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife and I came on here as a couple about four years. We called ourselves Rufus and Penelope.
My wife has heterosexual needs and my needs are homosexual. I had explained to her that I found the idea of a Cuckold relationship, extremely erotic. We were not looking to swing with different men. My wife's needs were paramount. She wanted one man, who she felt a mutual connection with, as well as chemistry and who we could trust.
We were lucky to find one mature guy of a similar age to us. The dynamics of the arrangement worked really well. He became more like a lover and a close friend to both of us.
It lasted over a four year period. Unfortunately he is no longer available.
The disadvantage of this type of exclusive cuckold arrangement, has meant that my wife, will now find it extremely difficult to find another man, who could replace her previous man friend, who was clearly very special. |
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My experience is that their is a huge range of expectations out there from couples who are into the heavy end cuckold scene where the lady wants to see her partner humiliated to quite vanilla scenarios where a partner for a threesome is required and the couple might never have heard of the term “cuckold”.
As a guy meeting couples for the first time , I see my role as trying to navigate through this and understand where everyone is coming from before any flesh is bared.
I’ve met and played with a lovely married couple where it is clear he just wants she to have a fantastic time and to experience dp in a safe environment. But I’ve also met and played with a couple several times where he wears a cock restraint , is teased and tormented by her, sometimes but not always gets to watch and is generally belittled and tormented. Each to their own.
So the 2nd guy in the relationship really has to be flexible, patient and a good communicator. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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other problems are alot of guys just dont understand the basics of cuckold and that not all cuckold couples are the same...
not all cuckold couples are exclusive to a bull or lover ... no 2 couples are the same every message i get nearly all are from guys who's idea of cuckolding is porn film based or of a poly relationship real cuckold couples will be like other swinging couples .. different
i get sick of the well with my last couple we did this n that and i say but we dont and then get the classic we'll your not cuckold then ??? yet we (couples profile)are a full on cuckold couple...
guys just because you watched a film or had one cuckold friendship does not make you an expert we've been swinging for 20 ++ years before cuckolding (the last 2 years)and stll learning how amazingly different we all are even within the scene's of the scene ...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We find it really difficult to find guys that understand cuckolding!
We would love to find someone regular for cuckold play but it seems no guys actually want to get to know us and chat etc,
A cuckold relationship with a true bull is not just all about sex lol"
Was very fortunate to have been involved with a couple, for around three years. The long term, was very erotic for us all. Many boundaries tested, and much more was fulfilled than it ever would have been, had it been a one off  |
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I got lucky met a fantastic couple near me.... not really heard of cuckhold before meeting them. they explained what got them both off - meet regularly and mix up different scenarios to keep it fresh
Luck me all 3 of us get what we are after |
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"Real" cuckold couples are become more into the cuckold scene now. I think the stag/vixen tag has allowed couples who really just want a threesome to differentiate themselves. There are still so many different multi layers to the cuckold couple and the BUll.
I always enjoy chatting to the couple, asking as many questions as possible to fully understand their desires, motivations, stimulations, likes and dislikes so I can work out what makes them tick. I've been meeting cuck couples since my early 20's when I was the young stud, now I'm more the knowledgable mature guy. Most guys forget about the cuck and think its all about the wife. I find, especially initially, the wife will only accept you as a potential Bull if you can understand and meet the needs of the husband first.
Always happy to chat with likeminded couples.
Bobby |
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By *eediousMan
over a year ago
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It’s certainly a delicate balancing act of location, convenience, true open-mindedness and respecting boundaries for all concerned. From my experience, each person’s and each couples’ idea of cuckolding varies and is tailored to their individual sexual and mental needs.
I was lucky to enjoy such a relationship years ago with a couple in Sheffield and it was very intimate, emotional and sexually satisfying. There was a lot of listening, taking stock and getting to know each other before anything physical happened.
It’s a great thing if you achieve it but can be quite rare to do so..
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"It’s certainly a delicate balancing act of location, convenience, true open-mindedness and respecting boundaries for all concerned. From my experience, each person’s and each couples’ idea of cuckolding varies and is tailored to their individual sexual and mental needs.
I was lucky to enjoy such a relationship years ago with a couple in Sheffield and it was very intimate, emotional and sexually satisfying. There was a lot of listening, taking stock and getting to know each other before anything physical happened.
It’s a great thing if you achieve it but can be quite rare to do so..
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Pretty much this, I was lucky enough to have found a couple and pretty much my experiences with them were insanely satisfying.
Unfortunately things move on they left the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I noticed not many married men on here are available or given permission to go off with other women? Mainly single men? "
Some of us have permission but it's hard to find a couple who both want a regular guy for the wife that is more than just sex. For me it's about the whole situation for everyone that makes it exciting. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Real" cuckold couples are become more into the cuckold scene now. I think the stag/vixen tag has allowed couples who really just want a threesome to differentiate themselves. There are still so many different multi layers to the cuckold couple and the BUll.
I always enjoy chatting to the couple, asking as many questions as possible to fully understand their desires, motivations, stimulations, likes and dislikes so I can work out what makes them tick. I've been meeting cuck couples since my early 20's when I was the young stud, now I'm more the knowledgable mature guy. Most guys forget about the cuck and think its all about the wife. I find, especially initially, the wife will only accept you as a potential Bull if you can understand and meet the needs of the husband first.
Always happy to chat with likeminded couples.
Bobby"
I completely agree. |
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"We got a guy we have know for years the first couple of year was a condom till we got to know him well now he leaves is load in me every time and hubby loves it and he knows who he is John xx"
Essentially this, it's a relationship in the end. |
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"We got a guy we have know for years the first couple of year was a condom till we got to know him well now he leaves is load in me every time and hubby loves it and he knows who he is John xx
Essentially this, it's a relationship in the end."
you then don’t know the meaning of cuckold sex pleasure his only for fun day to day life is real we are bonded the cuckold is a relief from the modern day stress and we enjoy it lol so when we sat in are armchairs when we are old at least we will have some things to talk about so your wrong in so many ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We got a guy we have know for years the first couple of year was a condom till we got to know him well now he leaves is load in me every time and hubby loves it and he knows who he is John xx
Essentially this, it's a relationship in the end. you then don’t know the meaning of cuckold sex pleasure his only for fun day to day life is real we are bonded the cuckold is a relief from the modern day stress and we enjoy it lol so when we sat in are armchairs when we are old at least we will have some things to talk about so your wrong in so many ways "
You have it exactly right as it was like that with the couple I used to play with. It was never a relationship just a kinky break from normality |
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I have played the bull role and the cuck role in a previous relationship. I enjoy both but if im honest i love the cuck role more. Nothing more sexy than seeing someone you love being pleasured by another man. I d like to join in at some point, usually last so whether that makes me a real cuck or a stag i dont know but i did love it when the ex would occasionally go off on her own then come back for reclaim sex. Would love to find a vixen or hotwife to enjoy this with again. |
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We would like for find a request guy to come play with us as a couple or with female alone while male at work however we just haven't found anyone who fits that bill yet application welcome how ever we are very picky and maybe the guy we are looking for doesn't exist on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would like for find a request guy to come play with us as a couple or with female alone while male at work however we just haven't found anyone who fits that bill yet application welcome how ever we are very picky and maybe the guy we are looking for doesn't exist on fab "
That was how I played with the couple I knew, it worked very well for quite a while  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well yes nearly impossible these day now to find so called proper understanding bull or as we call it a FAMILY FRIEND,
most guys think If they meet a cuckold hotwife couple the lady just a slut nothing else, or most common thing they think its only quick sex nothing more xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People think it is easy for a female or couple to find a bull.
Well let me just say right now it's not
Not easy at all.
Me and my hubby have been looking for a very local bull who can accommodate for a couple of years
For meets with just me as we are into cuckold.
Can easily find a meet or even fun in a club as one off but regular local and accommodate
Like rocking horse shit
Ha ha
Perfectly summed up!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We definitely like aspects of cuckold and have had a few experiences, which we really enjoyed hence why we want to explore it more, but yes finding the right guy does seem very difficult or we are very difficult to cater for? A bit of both maybe.
I'm sure we'll strike gold sooner or later |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a bull myself It is essential that right from the start you find out exactly what the couple are looking for, this is about me fitting in with them and giving them both what they are both looking for. Not me imposing on their relationship Communication is key, I have had meetings in the past ,where it has been more the man than the lady that wants this.I have had a lady start to cry as we were about to have fun, she didn’t want it at all it was all hubby,
Social meeting first get to know one another, this lends its self to the best fun ever.
I find on Fab that there is definitely and age thing so many ladies / couples cut off at 49 
I’m 50 so time for the knackers yard then ......
Not, I can perform as well as any 20 year old and have more experience  I.
Decent bulls are out there keep looking
I’m midlands based so never too far away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m nearly 60 and I’m still managing to find some lovely couples who want to share some sexy fun with me.
I agree with other comments - it is all about communication and finding out what you are all expecting.
Once you know then it is so much easier to get it right
All we need now is this virus to leave us to have fun xx |
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I’m a bull for cuck couples , and would like to say there’s more to it than just banging the arse of the gem partner , every couple have different needs and situations , one couple I meet , the hubby is diabetic and has erectile problems . He loves his wife and happy for her to indulge in full sex with another guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our considerable experience most bulls don't seem to understand they aren't really in charge lol well only as long as they give the couple what they want ! Which isn't just a big dick that is pleasing itself LOL
It is very frustrating trying to get guys to understand the dynamic, as most are really just interested in emptying Thier balls. |
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From my experience just got lucky... answer the call for a guys looking to get his wife sorted and tbh I’d not really know what Cuckhold was all about, so after a fairly run of the mill meet and message the following day for feed back possibly a 2nd etc, to which he replies thank you you made a very good impression and would like you to come next week as I’m in Spain on the golf course.... I want you to look after her needs
So weekend came I’m delighted that I’m fucking his wife alone .... so we are a few minutes in and the phone comes out, he wants to watch from Spain !!!
Ahh so this is the world of cuckhold ! She made him watch the whole session, suffice to say these are a regular couple that mix up the whole cuckhold scenarios |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In our considerable experience most bulls don't seem to understand they aren't really in charge lol well only as long as they give the couple what they want ! Which isn't just a big dick that is pleasing itself LOL
It is very frustrating trying to get guys to understand the dynamic, as most are really just interested in emptying Thier balls. "
Most people seem to think it's just fucking the wife, which is a shame as there is so much more excitement and fun to enjoy for all 3 people if only they took the time to understand it properly.
Taking time to get to know the couple and finding out what everyone wants from the situation is part of the build up. |
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"In our considerable experience most bulls don't seem to understand they aren't really in charge lol well only as long as they give the couple what they want ! Which isn't just a big dick that is pleasing itself LOL
It is very frustrating trying to get guys to understand the dynamic, as most are really just interested in emptying Thier balls.
Most people seem to think it's just fucking the wife, which is a shame as there is so much more excitement and fun to enjoy for all 3 people if only they took the time to understand it properly.
Taking time to get to know the couple and finding out what everyone wants from the situation is part of the build up. "
We posted on here a bit about cuckolding, 2 weeks ago, but guys aren't really into it, they just want to fuck.....  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"We find it really difficult to find guys that understand cuckolding!
We would love to find someone regular for cuckold play but it seems no guys actually want to get to know us and chat etc,
A cuckold relationship with a true bull is not just all about sex lol"
Doesn’t language give it away, or the Understanding of the psychology When looking? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to meet a couple like this (pre virus) and it was awesome. All he wanted was photos and a phone call during sex. But it's not just sex: it took 4/5 meets to get to know them and listen to what they actually wanted from the "relationship". Example, I am asked to take the lady out for a meal, drinks, maybe a dance then hotel for sex. But sometimes she only wanted a few drinks, not sex. She wanted companionship sometimes and rampant sex other times ! That's what suits them and I'm happy to oblige. Now, all I have if cam phone and naughty texts from her - can't wait for our next meet (whenever that will be). Every couple will have different wants. Listen to them and enjoy ! |
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"We find it really difficult to find guys that understand cuckolding!
We would love to find someone regular for cuckold play but it seems no guys actually want to get to know us and chat etc,
A cuckold relationship with a true bull is not just all about sex lol"
well put, building the trust getting to know and find out everyone's little likes and dislikes, working on it and trying to make it awesome for all 3, there are many kinds of cuckold fun, and finding the right bull guy for the sexy couple is just as important as the couple finding the right guy, for them, we have had long term fun and every time you meet up and play things get better and so much more memorable, than a one of and a year later no recollection of him, but long term, you arrange and all are looking forward to the door bell ringing and the he is stood at the door with big smile and big bulge in his trousers, then there is the relaxed kissing of the wife by him as I fix him a drink, but to busy to drink, yes long term is great and his friendship is as important as the sex,, but at the end of the day, it is about the sex, that's why we all ended up meeting in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is one squarely on my bucket list. Full control tho, humiliation of the cuck too. I've chatted to a few couples but they generally have turned out to just want the thrill of the chat (which I see nothing wrong with) or live too far away. One day tho..... |
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over a year ago
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"You'd think more guys would be wanting this "
Lots of guys like the idea of fucking another mans wife, but when it comes to the cuckold side of things. getting to know them, finding out what they want as well, taking the time to understand and adapt so everyone is happy turns out to be way to much hard work for just a quick shag.
As i said before for me it is part of the build up, the excitement and fun of this.
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My journey from a Bull/FWB/lovers perspective has always been a mix of both bliss and frustration. One of the things that drew me to the cuckold lifestyle is that it can lend itself more naturally to semi-regular meets than "normal" swinging.
I don't have that much trouble finding like minded couples. My own particular frustration is the fact that I find it almost impossible to find a deeply in love cuckold lifestyle couple that lives close enough to fully explore this adventure with on all levels. |
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"It's a question mostly for the guys but I'd love to hear the opinion of couples too.
How hard is it for you guys to find the "right" couole?
In my case, because I tend to find one couple and stick with them and the rest of the time I don't really spend that much time on fab, it's quite a chore.
Although, some of the previous couples I've met or arranged meets with have been spectacular.
What are your thoughts?"
It's funny because cuckold fantasies within couple's can sometimes be very different in reality,
For instance I experienced a situation where I agreed to be the cuck but when it came to it the male was so weak that he became the cuck. Everyone enjoyed though so that's the main thing |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"You'd think more guys would be wanting this
Lots of guys like the idea of fucking another mans wife, but when it comes to the cuckold side of things. getting to know them, finding out what they want as well, taking the time to understand and adapt so everyone is happy turns out to be way to much hard work for just a quick shag.
As i said before for me it is part of the build up, the excitement and fun of this.
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Exactly this. I have met a few cuckold couples since joining fab. I take as much time getting to know the cuck and his desires as I do the wifes. The thing I like the most is finding out what they both like and developing that further. |
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"In our considerable experience most bulls don't seem to understand they aren't really in charge lol well only as long as they give the couple what they want ! Which isn't just a big dick that is pleasing itself LOL
It is very frustrating trying to get guys to understand the dynamic, as most are really just interested in emptying Thier balls. "
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Funny when we first started , we met a guy who was a bull , and bi and top exactly what we were looking for , play started well but then he got too bossy trying to completely take control of us and that wasnt what we wanted . Yes roleplaying with wife having as much fun as she wanted but once play finished we would want to go back to husband and wife ,
Then we met alan who lived 3 hrs away , he came to us as a sub guy for bdsm play but he has suck a big and thick cock the roles changed wife lives playing with him but the distance became to much so from meeting once a month due to work it went to every 3 months and then down to once a year , we played with him regularly for 6 years . Now we only get to play when we go up north.
As stated by others its really hard to meet a real bill as most guys with big cocks are looking to fuck wives and then onto the next or what we have found is too is that we meet a guy play and he then wants to play every weekend and we are not looking for that either , also any single gut may in fact fall for a girl and get themselves into a relationship |
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"Funny when we first started , we met a guy who was a bull , and bi and top exactly what we were looking for , play started well but then he got too bossy trying to completely take control of us and that wasnt what we wanted . Yes roleplaying with wife having as much fun as she wanted but once play finished we would want to go back to husband and wife ,
Then we met alan who lived 3 hrs away , he came to us as a sub guy for bdsm play but he has suck a big and thick cock the roles changed wife lives playing with him but the distance became to much so from meeting once a month due to work it went to every 3 months and then down to once a year , we played with him regularly for 6 years . Now we only get to play when we go up north.
As stated by others its really hard to meet a real bill as most guys with big cocks are looking to fuck wives and then onto the next or what we have found is too is that we meet a guy play and he then wants to play every weekend and we are not looking for that either , also any single gut may in fact fall for a girl and get themselves into a relationship "
Getting that sweet spot can so tricky. That's why my post covid19 goal is to find 2-3 local couples/women for semi-regular meets. |
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over a year ago
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"We find it really difficult to find guys that understand cuckolding!
We would love to find someone regular for cuckold play but it seems no guys actually want to get to know us and chat etc,
A cuckold relationship with a true bull is not just all about sex lol"
Yes true guys xx |
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By *uck01Man
over a year ago
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Have to agree, spent a few years in a cuckold relationship and it was very difficult finding true bulls who understand hotwife/cuck relationship and that during play there are actually 3 people in the room lol.
most guys were just interested in getting off with the fem and that was it.
there are some good bulls out there though few and far between |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So many Bulls that just talk BULL and fail to understand the dynamics re the wants of the couple .... Finding the right person is like looking for hens teeth ...... Sadly |
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"So many Bulls that just talk BULL and fail to understand the dynamics re the wants of the couple .... Finding the right person is like looking for hens teeth ...... Sadly "
I’m sure you won’t be short of suitors. I only wish we lived closer |
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