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Ideal first message
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To all the ladies and couples who write 'no one liners' or 'stand out' or 'interest me'.
What good examples of those messages have you received?
Just curious. Cheers.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I recently received a limerick including my username...it's the first message from someone new that I've replied to in a long time, so it definitely stood out and caught my attention "
Yeh that's a nice touch, like that. |
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I like direct messages tbh, not expecting overly creative stuff soooo best ones for me usually like ; we like/love profile and really interested because such and such, here is us (face pic) , what do you think? simple  assuming their profile also reflects their personality and include a bio. |
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By *aulj69Man
over a year ago
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"Hi
I’ve been tested and both came back as negative.
Wanna meet?"
no, lol I've taken a few tips on board and the few replies I've had I've included a recent face pic and think that you should just be honest and don't use text talk ppl u no it's lazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh dick pics on first message with lynx can sky remote tape measures tend to get deleted.
Oh.. No women I know are call hun that I know of...
Good luck
Minefield of fabness |
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I look for something that shows me they've read my bio.
I know a lot of women here say to write good messages but give no info to base one on in their bio but I actually make it easy haha
Some of my favourite messages have either been talking about ps4 games, tv shows, or Asian snacks haha
I don't like overtly sexual messages from the get go because it takes me awhile to get comfortable with a new person so I don't tend to respond to anything like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dick pics on first message with lynx can sky remote tape measures tend to get deleted.
Oh.. No women I know are call hun that I know of...
Good luck
Minefield of fabness"
The lynx can photo always makes me laugh. How can it be a marker of length when you can buy a tiny pocket sized can of it? |
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Tricky one for a guy. We have a low chance of success on here so tend to message lots of folk before getting a single bite (or even nibble). Hence long initial messages are simply too much effort and not possible en masse unless copied and pasted !.... Darn difficult  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Humour is paramount. Make us laugh and you’re half way there.
Nothing irks us more than:
“Hey, love the profile, how are you, what are you looking for?”
Attempt to say something about yourself i mean at least answer your own question since you’re approaching us...what are you looking for?
Also always address both of us, we’re a couple not a single girl...”hey babe, cracking arse” will almost always get a response from Mr and not me lol.
Oh and maybe be bold and include a decent picture of yourself (not just your cock)!
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I can’t speak for everyone but I think most guys started off sending unique well written messages but the amount you have to send before getting a message back is too many for that.
It’s sometimes better to have a short message to say hi, if they’re interested then you take it up from there. |
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We recently received a first message from a couple that was simply “we both bi”...
Their second message was even worse. This prompted a lengthy and sarcastic response...
An opening message, to us anyway, should be well written grammatically, should introduce you as a person or couple, should show that you’ve read our profile to the extent that you know who we are and what we’re looking for and should give us an insight into how you will compliment our already great sex life.
Addressing us both is equally important as we mainly make decisions together about who we meet. The only exception is if I’m arranging a surprise for Becky.
A well constructed and polite message will inevitably receive a response from us, even if it’s a ‘thanks but no thanks’..
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"I can’t speak for everyone but I think most guys started off sending unique well written messages but the amount you have to send before getting a message back is too many for that.
It’s sometimes better to have a short message to say hi, if they’re interested then you take it up from there. "
Ok but you only get one chance to make a first impression... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s a couples profile don’t assume your talking to the female straight away. If I open a message saying Your hot wanna fuck you now it rarely ends up gong anywhere. (Mr) |
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I really understand what you all are saying in terms of wanting something well written but that’s easy to say as the one receiving the messages.
Put yourself in the shoes of a guy/couple that sends you exactly that message only to have it deleted for whatever reason.
Even in person you don’t walk up to someone with a long message, you exchange looks, show interest, say hi and then start talking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really understand what you all are saying in terms of wanting something well written but that’s easy to say as the one receiving the messages.
Put yourself in the shoes of a guy/couple that sends you exactly that message only to have it deleted for whatever reason.
Even in person you don’t walk up to someone with a long message, you exchange looks, show interest, say hi and then start talking. "
I agree with you here. Granted some lads will relentlessly send out loads of messages to try and hook one girl but some guys will genuinely put themselves out there with a message. When that message is read then deleted it can be demoralising. I guess it's just the nature of the site. Having said that I've never judged anyone after my message has been deleted with no response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much more likely to get a response if I think you've read my profile or if your funny. I've had loads of cock pics sent but I replied to the guy who sent one with a famazon fire stick remote (they're tiny thin remotes) because I thought it was hilarious and different from the regular sky remote/ deodorant cock pics  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Much more likely to get a response if I think you've read my profile or if your funny. I've had loads of cock pics sent but I replied to the guy who sent one with a famazon fire stick remote (they're tiny thin remotes) because I thought it was hilarious and different from the regular sky remote/ deodorant cock pics "
You're right. This is the other side of the coin. I can imagine that most women here are assaulted with cock pic after cock pic. That one message that is unique will likely get attention.
Good thread this. Will force us lads to up the game a bit |
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"I really understand what you all are saying in terms of wanting something well written but that’s easy to say as the one receiving the messages.
Put yourself in the shoes of a guy/couple that sends you exactly that message only to have it deleted for whatever reason.
Even in person you don’t walk up to someone with a long message, you exchange looks, show interest, say hi and then start talking. "
We understand but no matter what you’re opening message, no one on here owes anyone a response.
If the message is deleted it can be for any reason, we all have preferences.
However, a better initial message is more likely to get a response, even if in the negative.
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I hate hate hate when people don't read your profile. Drives me mad. Honestly makes me feel like a piece of meat.
I want someone to charm the pants off me not just Fancy a Fuck!
Gggrrrr I think I woke grumpy sorry xxx |
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A message to show they have read our profile. The amount of messages we get saying they are a Dom / top ect. Along with, " wanna chat and get to know you".
Then the messages that assume about us. Messages like, will I teach how to do make up. Or their chap is bi, and will only play with a male bi couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate hate hate when people don't read your profile. Drives me mad. Honestly makes me feel like a piece of meat.
I want someone to charm the pants off me not just Fancy a Fuck!
Gggrrrr I think I woke grumpy sorry xxx"
This! |
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