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I think my fella is bisexual but he hasn't confirmed
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Bit of advise guys and girls I'm sure my partner is bisexual he likes pegging , he likes me to tell him story's about guys , and iv found some bisexual porn on the laptop , now i don't think it really bothers me , the idea of him and a guy kinda turns me on but only of hes bottom and not top , I'm quite open minded , but the thing I don't like or feel comfortable is the not knowing for sure what should I do ,should I confont him or just leave it |
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Fantasy isn't always reality we fantasise about lots of things which we wouldn't necessarily carry out. He may just fantasise without the need to express those fantasies.
He may be worried about acting them out due to where they might end up, lots of people get confused about their sexuality and which box they fit into. Our sexuality is usually fluid if we let it roam but conditionings from society and our culture usually restricts what we would or would not do.
Enjoy what you have for now support him to feel comfortable with his likes or dislikes and don't push him let him find his own way on his journey of sexual awareness.
I started that journey a few years ago now and have realised that I love a mf bi couple interaction but wouldn't want to engage in a mm connection at all so I'm bi but only in certain circumstances with certain people.
I hope that helps OP.  |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"Confront" may be the wrong word as it may well just be fantasy for him
and then he might see it as you just not listening to him.
Just encourage him in the fantasy and dirty talk and just see where it leads lol 
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It's a huge fantasy of ours too but not acted on it here either,
should the opportunity arise on one of our club visits though lol....  |
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"Well according to your profile he is Bisexual never mind Bi Curious so I guess he is more than happy to suck cock for you to enjoy watching"
Yea, bit of an odd question to ask when your profile states he’s Bi? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Invite a bi-guy round for a threesome and shove his head towards the guys cock,he might just want a bit of a push.I find it really horny when a woman wants some bi-guy fun..he may just be curious and need your consent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fantasy isn't always reality we fantasise about lots of things which we wouldn't necessarily carry out. He may just fantasise without the need to express those fantasies.
He may be worried about acting them out due to where they might end up, lots of people get confused about their sexuality and which box they fit into. Our sexuality is usually fluid if we let it roam but conditionings from society and our culture usually restricts what we would or would not do.
Enjoy what you have for now support him to feel comfortable with his likes or dislikes and don't push him let him find his own way on his journey of sexual awareness.
I started that journey a few years ago now and have realised that I love a mf bi couple interaction but wouldn't want to engage in a mm connection at all so I'm bi but only in certain circumstances with certain people.
I hope that helps OP. "
Definitely. I think a big part of the bi fantasy is knowing that you'll still be loved and accepted. I have this fantasy too, but I'm really fussy about the personalities of who I'm meeting.
If you think about the way people overcome phobias, they need to learn to move towards what they fear while also feeling like they are still in control - which is why you need to be encouraged and not pushed. On the other hand, the feeling that you had no choice can give you an excuse to step outside your comfort zone without threatening your sense of identity. Maybe role playing, or losing a bet in a game, or something like that, can give you the best of both worlds? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No he doesn't use this account has his own which he usually organises out meets on X "
Just ask him or start playing with his bum . Lead him if he needs it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well according to your profile he is Bisexual never mind Bi Curious so I guess he is more than happy to suck cock for you to enjoy watching
Yea, bit of an odd question to ask when your profile states he’s Bi? "
Well I think this is all the conformation the OP needs.
Looks like he's gone back to straight now though  |
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Op, you say you're not 100% sure of your comfort with it and he probably realises this, so could remain even more hesitant.
You've probably both to talk more about it and get more insight as well as ascertain interest, comfort and trust. Perhaps watch more bi porn together. When possible, you could socialise with more bi people too as ideas sharing could help develop your own. But that could wait, as his pegging interests aren't mm and he may just be curious.
If he was my partner and interested, I'd probably get a guy around to join me with dominating him, really letting him feel well fucked. |
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Next time you meet organize a curious guy and when you down on him invite your partner to help you first time I went with a guy we were all just getting started and he went down on me unexpectedly then came up and put his cock at my face so I returned the favour and have done it every meet since |
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When ur are playing with a guys manhood encourage your partner to have a play as well, that’s what Stacey did with me, think she knew I craved cock, we have never looked back. She didn’t want me playing with women but doesn’t mind me sucking cock or cleaning up spunk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A hard subject but just talk to him. I put down on here I'm bi but don't feel like it defines me... I only play with other men when with another woman. I couldn't ever seeing myself go to meet another man alone. I also don't kiss other men I don't find other men attractive it's just sex at the end of the day. I'm also hugely dominate in my life and my personality, but I bottom in the MFM scenario some call it topping from the bottom.
Just speak to him and don't cast any judgement that's the worse for me when being judged.
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"Bit of advise guys and girls I'm sure my partner is bisexual he likes pegging , he likes me to tell him story's about guys , and iv found some bisexual porn on the laptop , now i don't think it really bothers me , the idea of him and a guy kinda turns me on but only of hes bottom and not top , I'm quite open minded , but the thing I don't like or feel comfortable is the not knowing for sure what should I do ,should I confont him or just leave it "
he has a nice cock I’d suck him off
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