I think you'd have to be pretty dead inside not to be affected. There's no need to tell anybody you didn't enjoy sex with them under most circumstances. I'd rather someone said nothing if I was never going to see them again or told me nicely how they do like sex when we were next together. As with most sex it takes two or more though |
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"Would your confidence take it well if someone actually told you they didn't enjoy sex with you? Or you rather not hear or listen bunch of white lies? "
Sometimes the sex isn't always great on the first meet but does get better as the meets go on! But yes i would just advise them that i may see them in the future , who knows. Experience is key |
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I think if I was told I would be upset but I think I would start asking more questions like to be shown how they like it or ask what they wanted me to do instead. Communication is key. |
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"I think you'd have to be pretty dead inside not to be affected. There's no need to tell anybody you didn't enjoy sex with them under most circumstances. I'd rather someone said nothing if I was never going to see them again or told me nicely how they do like sex when we were next together. As with most sex it takes two or more though "
What if you didn’t enjoy it and then they start pestering you to meet again? What do you say then? I’ve had that twice, the first guy I didn’t really know what to say and just said I didn’t really want to meet again and he “guessed you weren’t that impressed with my technique” (but still thought he’d chance his arm); the second guy was the worst sex I’ve ever had in my life but I didn’t tell him that (I was afraid he’d want pointers and never let it go), just kept repeating that I didn’t want to see him again, but apparently that doesn’t work because he kept trying until I blocked him. So I never really know how to handle that sort of thing effectively. |
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Depends on how it's explained.
If it's "you're a shit shag" then I'm probably not going to pay much attention.
If it's things I'm doing that he doesn't enjoy or stuff he wants me to start doing then I'll take that under advisement but everyone is different so it's probably only going to change how I am with that one person should we meet again.
If it's a more general "the chemistry wasn't there in bed and I didn't enjoy X, Y and Z that seem to be really important to you" then fair enough, hope you find someone more compatible.
It takes both partners to have good sex. If I'm not enjoying it then I will give encouragement and try to improve things while we're having sex, and I expect the same of my partners.
There are people I wouldn't want to meet again, but just because they didn't do it for me doesn't mean they won't be someone else's wet dream! |
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I had some awful sex in my life, even if I gave pointers, they wouldn't of listened (happened afew times) so I say nothing and try avoid seeing them again. I find it really difficult to have these conversations with men because the fear they take it in a really negative, closed mind. Their sex style is what it is, my feed back won't change things. So I just leave.  |
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"Would your confidence take it well if someone actually told you they didn't enjoy sex with you? Or you rather not hear or listen bunch of white lies? "
I prefer the truth, cuz from it you can improve yourself and become better version of yourself in the bed  |
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