A few things that I think are important. Firstly, is prior communication between the couple, so that everything's prepared for, as well as possible. Next is communication with the other party, so that it's understood and agreed upon exactly what the terms of engagement are, set expectations both ways, and ensure there's still a matched focus/balance of needs.
Once the meet's underway, you may be unable to communicate without the other party hearing, so having some hidden signals could be useful - these would need to be set up beforehand, of course. You may want to indicate readiness, unwillingness to proceed further etc. This doesn't mean that neither of you cannot just say whatever's in their mind right there, but that having some nonverbal gestures, or phrase that signifies something to you both, isn't a good backup.
I also like to know beforehand which areas are off-limits - this isn't a potential house purchaser visiting, merely a guest, who has no right to snoop etc: as you will have decided how?where you're playing, then it would be reasonable to assume that other places than play area and bathroom are off limits.
Music can help, or be a distraction, if it's not to everyone's taste. As others point out, get the lighting right too, so that you create the ambiance that you want.
Obviously ensure that you have whatever supplies you'd like, as you cannot rely on others, lube, condoms etc.
Even though you're hosting, it doesn't mean that the entire meet has to be in your place, so there's also the possibility of a neutral location, as a meeting point, so that you can assess suitability etc.
As long as communication between all parties is as great as possible, then it avoids most pitfalls that can ensue.
The drink isn't essential, and is also a potential problem with some, as there are recovering alcoholics and your guests may also be driving home, and you'd not want to be responsible should they have an accident. If they're not in a cab, then consider minimal consumption/not strong alcoholic drinks.
Now enjoy yourselves - good luck!! |
