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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Question for experienced swingers. After introducing swinging into a relationship have you or your partner ever cheated?
Not in a sexy way thats permitted lol, in a behind the others back kind of way. Or does swinging negate the need to cheat? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Over the years I've seen this happen with friends from couples in the lifestyle. In the majority of cases I've known of there seems to be a much higher incidence of cheating where the relationship was on the rocks prior to entering the lifestyle. Those couples that were solid entering the scene, with both people on the same page and both equally interested in swinging, didn't usually cheat on each other. I know of many couples who entered the lifestyle with one person more eager than the other or couples who saw swinging as a last throw of the dice to revitalise / safe their relationships. These were the couples in my experience where cheating became an issue. |
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I think it's a mistake to think that people take up swinging because if they didn't they'd cheat on each other. I'm sure some people do but successful swingers in our experience do it because they want to experience things together. |
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"Fair points. Obviously won't mask problems with a relationship in general but wondered if it tool. Away sexual.desire to cheat"
If someone gets pleasure from cheating that won't happen if their partner knows so swinging won't take that desire away. If someone just wants to have sex with other people and thinks the easiest way is to encourage their partner to as well that's a different story and goes on a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, never.
If someone has a need to cheat swinging won't stop that "
Exactly and unfortunately we know a few swinging couples that go behind each others backs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had this a few times with male halves of couples knowingly doing something they shouldn’t be...agree with above that swinging won’t discourage those who really want to!
But do wonder whether for some it makes it easier as it’s less of a line to cross? It’s still complete dishonesty, but would it be easier to forgive than in a vanilla relationship? Maybe it’s a gateway for some to push those boundaries under the guise of swinging!  |
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It happens unfortunately. We've seen a well known couple get to close to another couple, shit happens and they split up. We've seen so many profiles that say playing alone now, funny enough nearly always the Man. As in a vanilla relationship, communication trust and more communication is key. |
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