"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else? "
Never with a partner who stuck to the pre-agreed rules. The very first time I ever swung, my then-partner arranged to go on a gangbang night without me knowing, and then broke our one rule to play together or not at all after I nipped to the bar for a drink. Came back to find her in the gangbang room having a great time. Suffice it to say we're no longer together  |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else?
Never with a partner who stuck to the pre-agreed rules. The very first time I ever swung, my then-partner arranged to go on a gangbang night without me knowing, and then broke our one rule to play together or not at all after I nipped to the bar for a drink. Came back to find her in the gangbang room having a great time. Suffice it to say we're no longer together "
Oh jesus. Well, you're now free to enjoy bigger and better things. Boundaries are there for a reason! |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else? "
If you're jealous then maybe swinging isn't for you? |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else?
Never with a partner who stuck to the pre-agreed rules. The very first time I ever swung, my then-partner arranged to go on a gangbang night without me knowing, and then broke our one rule to play together or not at all after I nipped to the bar for a drink. Came back to find her in the gangbang room having a great time. Suffice it to say we're no longer together
Oh jesus. Well, you're now free to enjoy bigger and better things. Boundaries are there for a reason!"
Oh absolutely! Apart from that, I did still really enjoy the evening and know that it's not typical for that to happen, which I guess is why I still enjoy it now.
I know this isn't strictly related to your post, but it really is incredible how those not in the scene often say stuff like "surely you can't love each other if you're happy to let them fuck someone else" when in reality swinging is quite possibly the epitome of a strong, lasting relationship between two loving adults who can share such incredible intimate moments together. |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else?
If you're jealous then maybe swinging isn't for you? "
Us personally, not an issue.
A lot of people fly the flag for swinging, but we rarely see both sides of the experience. All we tend to find is a highlight reel, which is unrealistic.
So it's a question. |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else?
If you're jealous then maybe swinging isn't for you? "
I dunno you know, jealously is a natural human emotion and whilst I'm absolutely not a seasoned swinger, I'd be happy to wager that any couple swinging over a significant length of time will have at least fleeting flashes of jealously. If you've got solid communication and are in a healthy relationship however, it's not really an issue because your partner will take that on board, comfort and reassure you, and perhaps even take a step back if needed. |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else?
If you're jealous then maybe swinging isn't for you?
I dunno you know, jealously is a natural human emotion and whilst I'm absolutely not a seasoned swinger, I'd be happy to wager that any couple swinging over a significant length of time will have at least fleeting flashes of jealously. If you've got solid communication and are in a healthy relationship however, it's not really an issue because your partner will take that on board, comfort and reassure you, and perhaps even take a step back if needed. "
Agreed. I think that sure, some people don't feel jealousy but others do. It doesn't make one right for swinging and the other not - if you can have open communication it's good to talk. And it can make your relationship stronger in a weird way. |
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I'm naturally a very jealous person but when I used to meet as a couple it never bothered me. I knew we would go home together and anything else was part of the fun 
I believe as long as everyone knows where they stand and the boundaries it should be fun. X |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else?
If you're jealous then maybe swinging isn't for you?
I dunno you know, jealously is a natural human emotion and whilst I'm absolutely not a seasoned swinger, I'd be happy to wager that any couple swinging over a significant length of time will have at least fleeting flashes of jealously. If you've got solid communication and are in a healthy relationship however, it's not really an issue because your partner will take that on board, comfort and reassure you, and perhaps even take a step back if needed.
Agreed. I think that sure, some people don't feel jealousy but others do. It doesn't make one right for swinging and the other not - if you can have open communication it's good to talk. And it can make your relationship stronger in a weird way."
Well, this is a shit comparison, but in a way its like a virus (keeping it topical yo). The best way to combat it is to actually be given a mild strain so that you can build up a tolerance to it should you ever come up against the uglier real life version.
Jealously isn't a virus. It can be an outright plague on a relationship. In fact I'm sure we've all heard stories of jealous partners killing relationships in a vanilla setting. With swinging, you're expecting jealously, so you're actively looking out for it, which makes it so much more manageable on both sides. You know to expect it, so it's easier to rationalise when and if it strikes, and your partner already knows to be extra compassionate and comforting because of the extraneous circumstances. |
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"Have you ever gone to a meet and ended up being jealous of your partner enjoying their time with someone else?
If you're jealous then maybe swinging isn't for you? "
Yes no room for jealousy in swinging, but actually enjoying seeing our partners with others  |
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