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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How difficult is it to host a party?as we hosted our first one last night. Only 2couples and 1 single fem turned up and one of those couples didnt stay long. And the other couple and single fem who we played with left at 11pm.
We had laid on a big spread of food drink and nibbles.
How have others faired with trying to organise partys. We must of sent out over140 invites xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hosting parties is hard, but at least some did turn up, dont give up and get them that did turn up to leave you a review, organise in plenty of time and dont worrie loads of people dont turn up. we wish you luck for your next one and hey we might be up for a invite wink wink |
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Best thing to do when organising a party is plenty of homework. Actually that should be "away" work, i.e. going to clubs, socials, etc, getting to know people and gathering around you a "hardcore" of swinging friends who you can invite. People who you know personally are far less likely to let you down. Then when you have a firm foundation of people who will come, can you build on it by inviting new people off sites like this.
The Party Maths for people off web sites like this goes something along the rule of halves. For every knock that you want at the door, two people have to say that they are coming. For everyone who says that they are coming, you need to get two replies to your invitations, as some will reply to say "no". For every reply you want, expect to send two invitations out. It's hard but everyone has to jump through these hoops whilst you are building your "scene" up.
Verifications help. Try to ensure a veri-swap with everyone who comes.
Don't be afraid to ask your friends to help spread the word in asking their friends along too (assuming that they are suitable)
Keep at it...Rome wasn't built in a day.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to a house party a few years back when i was with the ex, the couple had sent out invites and got replies saying they was coming etc, it was summer so they had bought drinks, did a BBQ etc so people could sit outside and have a drink and a bite to eat while chatting and getting to know each other, they looked like they had spent quite a bit and the only people that turned up was us, 2 couples and a single woman, one of the couples left after about a hour and to be honest i really wanted to too, it was so boring, all the woman who hosted it was talking about was how noone had turned up and moaned all night, which i can understand but its not really what id call a good night out
I think its so flipping rude people people invite you to their home and make an effort for their guests then folks just dont turn up
saying that i have been to some great house parties, i think it depends how big your circle of friends are, in my experience the way to host a good party is have a few people you have met and trust to turn up but to throw some new peeople in too get them to suggest people they have met and know are reliable too, that way you have a mix of new and old faces for everyone but everyones met someone at some point so you know everyone is genuine
if that makes sence lol |
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we had an invite to a house party not long ago.
didnt really feel like going, but they had gone to the trouble of inviting, so we felt we really should.
was a nice night, goo d to meet a few other couples, but we left after a couple of hours as, like i said, didnt really fancy it.
but at least that was our cherry popped and now we can happily go to the next knowing what theyre about |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"We never got an invite!   "
Ditto! 
I've tried to organise GBs twice and had no interest at all. I organised the third York Social and, although it was a reasonable success, will never do so again. Too many people will say they'll come then pull out too late to invite other, more reliable people.
It does seem odd when there are so many people moaning that they never get the chance to meet others, but I am sure they all had excellent excuses.  |
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Another thing to bear in mind when inviting people, is to ask yourself, how far would you be prepared to travel to go to a party, and use that as a rule of thumb for (especially the new people) who you invite too.
I think you will do best with keeping your invitations pretty local (within reason) to you. No doubt there are people prepared to travel all sorts of distances, but these days with fuel being as expensive as it is, and there being swingers clubs local to so many, the greater the distance, the harder it is for many people to keep their promises. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We found our first one quite hard work to organise but in the end it was worth while, 11 cpls invited and 11 cpls turned up and everyone had a good night. Maybe we were lucky with our first one. i do agree with the above and try and keep your invites fairly local to cut down travelling costs etc. |
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