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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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started seeing a girl a few weeks back now and i thought everything was going great until recently something kept telling me there’s an issue but couldn’t tell what like a gut feeling sort of thing, so last Tuesday i couldn’t hack it anymore I let my suspicions get the better of me and while she was fast asleep i stopped through her phone and I know I shouldn’t of but i couldn’t help myself. I gets in the phone and I’m on her fb messenger group chat it’s her and 4 of her friends all seems normal as expected until they started talking about 2 of my mates how hot they think they are ect and the part that stunned me was seeing that my own gf or whatever ya wanna call her is in this chat telling her friends how she’d love to fuck my 2 mates ect
She knows I’ve seen this but claims it’s just girl banter |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And you're on here actively looking to meet women and couples, doesn't seem like you're that fussed about the relationship."
Like i said we’d only recently started seeing each other a few weeks back we haven’t stepped into anything serious, plus i was on here long before i met her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"started seeing a girl a few weeks back now and i thought everything was going great until recently something kept telling me there’s an issue but couldn’t tell what like a gut feeling sort of thing, so last Tuesday i couldn’t hack it anymore I let my suspicions get the better of me and while she was fast asleep i stopped through her phone and I know I shouldn’t of but i couldn’t help myself. I gets in the phone and I’m on her fb messenger group chat it’s her and 4 of her friends all seems normal as expected until they started talking about 2 of my mates how hot they think they are ect and the part that stunned me was seeing that my own gf or whatever ya wanna call her is in this chat telling her friends how she’d love to fuck my 2 mates ect
She knows I’ve seen this but claims it’s just girl banter "
Started seeing her a few weeks ago and you are already living with her? I assume you are living with her or if she’s sleeping in the same place as you and you are ignoring the lockdown advice.........  |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"And you're on here actively looking to meet women and couples, doesn't seem like you're that fussed about the relationship.
Like i said we’d only recently started seeing each other a few weeks back we haven’t stepped into anything serious, plus i was on here long before i met her x"
Serious enough that you're living together during lockdown, if you managed to check her phone the other day. |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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I think you need to look at your relationship and look at your own relationship with trust.
Jealousy and neurosis do not go well with open relationships (is that what you have? Because If you do, what’s the problem?) and swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"started seeing a girl a few weeks back now and i thought everything was going great until recently something kept telling me there’s an issue but couldn’t tell what like a gut feeling sort of thing, so last Tuesday i couldn’t hack it anymore I let my suspicions get the better of me and while she was fast asleep i stopped through her phone and I know I shouldn’t of but i couldn’t help myself. I gets in the phone and I’m on her fb messenger group chat it’s her and 4 of her friends all seems normal as expected until they started talking about 2 of my mates how hot they think they are ect and the part that stunned me was seeing that my own gf or whatever ya wanna call her is in this chat telling her friends how she’d love to fuck my 2 mates ect
She knows I’ve seen this but claims it’s just girl banter
Started seeing her a few weeks ago and you are already living with her? I assume you are living with her or if she’s sleeping in the same place as you and you are ignoring the lockdown advice......... "
No we aren’t already living together she stays at mine some nights and some nights I’m at hers and yes i admit it last week i broke lockdown rules and after seeing what i saw i wish i never |
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Tbf mate going through someone’s phone especially when you have known them like 5 mins says more about you than it does about her
1. You have been on here 3 months and are still actively on here to even post this when you have a gf
2. As I said barely a relationship after 14 days or so. Of course she prob fancies your friends / other guys just as she must do you but still early days.
You should really be looking at how you would feel if she went down your phone and saw a swingers app on there ?
Would you feel guilty she’s caught you out or angry she’s gone down your phone ?
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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The other thing is that she was saying how she’d like to fuck so and so. So you don’t see people here or in the media who you tell your mates you’d like to fuck? Doesn’t mean that you do. Same probably applies with her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tbf mate going through someone’s phone especially when you have known them like 5 mins says more about you than it does about her
1. You have been on here 3 months and are still actively on here to even post this when you have a gf
2. As I said barely a relationship after 14 days or so. Of course she prob fancies your friends / other guys just as she must do you but still early days.
You should really be looking at how you would feel if she went down your phone and saw a swingers app on there ?
Yeah I’ve been here 3 months and still active on this site but like i originally said we had only just started seeing each other it was early stages
And yeah fair point at the beginnings of a relationship you probably still find others attractive granted but you don’t openly admit how you’d love to team 2 close friends of the man/woman you’re entering something with
And like i previously said also i know what i done was wrong snooping though someone’s phone is an invasion of privacy i shouldn’t of done it i regret doing that but i did confirm my suspicions
Would you feel guilty she’s caught you out or angry she’s gone down your phone ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Somehow I don't think this thread is going how the O.P had hoped it might  "
It’s going exactly how i hoped i wanted debates and honest opinions and that’s exactly what I’m getting |
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Really annoyed that you're breaking lockdown rules! More than 700 people a day are dying right now.
You've only been together for 2 weeks. She might think your mates are hot and she's having banter with her mates but you've known each other for 5 mins. She's probably just not that into you yet.
If you like her, stop checking her phone, stop breaking lockdown and see how things develop. If it's meant to be it will be. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Somehow I don't think this thread is going how the O.P had hoped it might
It’s going exactly how i hoped i wanted debates and honest opinions and that’s exactly what I’m getting "
You could always introduce her to your best friend. He might fancy her and then you could have a go with his wife?
Or just stop checking her phone.
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"Somehow I don't think this thread is going how the O.P had hoped it might
It’s going exactly how i hoped i wanted debates and honest opinions and that’s exactly what I’m getting "
So where was her pre-op TS brother (you know the one that lives with you and your g/f that you don't live with) while you were going through her phone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone else said the green arrow doesnt lie #fantasist
The OP is from dundee so I'm guessing his 'girlfriend' is his sister or at least another family member  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have just looked at some of your other posts in forums and only 2 days ago you said you want to fuck your neighbour.
Think you and your girl friend are equally matched then.
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"Really annoyed that you're breaking lockdown rules! More than 700 people a day are dying right now.
You've only been together for 2 weeks. She might think your mates are hot and she's having banter with her mates but you've known each other for 5 mins. She's probably just not that into you yet.
If you like her, stop checking her phone, stop breaking lockdown and see how things develop. If it's meant to be it will be."
Don't worry, it's all fantasy anyway. Check his green arrow 
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You sound like a bit of a control freak OP.
She can't talk to her friends about anything of a sexual nature but you can quite happily meet other people for random sex.
Seems very one sided to me.
Do her the favour of finishing with her.
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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago
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"I have just looked at some of your other posts in forums and only 2 days ago you said you want to fuck your neighbour.
Think you and your girl friend are equally matched then.
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I also looked, he also wants to do his mates new wife, oh and his girlfriend's brother has had a go with him too...
This guy is deep in fantasy land haha |
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"Really annoyed that you're breaking lockdown rules! More than 700 people a day are dying right now.
You've only been together for 2 weeks. She might think your mates are hot and she's having banter with her mates but you've known each other for 5 mins. She's probably just not that into you yet.
If you like her, stop checking her phone, stop breaking lockdown and see how things develop. If it's meant to be it will be.
Don't worry, it's all fantasy anyway. Check his green arrow
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Doh......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have just looked at some of your other posts in forums and only 2 days ago you said you want to fuck your neighbour.
Think you and your girl friend are equally matched then.
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While the pre op ts brother of his girlfriend watches ???? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Really annoyed that you're breaking lockdown rules! More than 700 people a day are dying right now.
You've only been together for 2 weeks. She might think your mates are hot and she's having banter with her mates but you've known each other for 5 mins. She's probably just not that into you yet.
If you like her, stop checking her phone, stop breaking lockdown and see how things develop. If it's meant to be it will be."
I absolutely regret breaking lockdown rules take nothing away from that it was only once but regardless i should never of done it hold my hands up there
I never said we were only together for 2 weeks i said we had been seeing each other for a few weeks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you're on here actively looking to meet women and couples, doesn't seem like you're that fussed about the relationship.
Like i said we’d only recently started seeing each other a few weeks back we haven’t stepped into anything serious, plus i was on here long before i met her x"
Sounds like double standards to me.
What's good for the goose is Good for the gander! |
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Please green arrow
I feel I didn’t need to put the effort in to reply with advice
OP the forum for stories and fantasies will go crazy for your posts rather than the advice ones and I’m sure you will like the stories and fantasies too |
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"Please green arrow
I feel I didn’t need to put the effort in to reply with advice
OP the forum for stories and fantasies will go crazy for your posts rather than the advice ones and I’m sure you will like the stories and fantasies too "
Yep should have checked the green arrow before replying. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry for imposing but what does the Green Arrow mean? 
Next to the profile name there is a green arrow which shows all other forum posts they started or have contributed too
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And in this case mainly fantasy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry for imposing but what does the Green Arrow mean? "
If you click the green arrow next to a persons name while in the forums you can see all the posts they have made or replied to.
In this instance it's a good indication not to really believe the OP as it's more likely an attention seeking thread or pure fantasy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really annoyed that you're breaking lockdown rules! More than 700 people a day are dying right now.
You've only been together for 2 weeks. She might think your mates are hot and she's having banter with her mates but you've known each other for 5 mins. She's probably just not that into you yet.
If you like her, stop checking her phone, stop breaking lockdown and see how things develop. If it's meant to be it will be.
Don't worry, it's all fantasy anyway. Check his green arrow
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Not more Jackanory Jesus!!  well being as the tiger king is exhausted this will be the next best thing  |
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"Sorry for imposing but what does the Green Arrow mean?
If you click the green arrow next to a persons name while in the forums you can see all the posts they have made or replied to.
In this instance it's a good indication not to really believe the OP as it's more likely an attention seeking thread or pure fantasy"
Thank you I have looked & it certainly looks like fantasy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry for imposing but what does the Green Arrow mean?
Next to the profile name there is a green arrow which shows all other forum posts they started or have contributed too
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Well I leaned something today .. |
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"Sorry for imposing but what does the Green Arrow mean?
Next to the profile name there is a green arrow which shows all other forum posts they started or have contributed too
Well I leaned something today .. "
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also checked the green tick, just 2 weeks ago the OP was married and his wife was upstairs fingering herself, but now he has a girlfriend who he is paranoid she wants to cheat on him. Something doesn't add up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I also checked the green tick, just 2 weeks ago the OP was married and his wife was upstairs fingering herself, but now he has a girlfriend who he is paranoid she wants to cheat on him. Something doesn't add up"
Ahhh you missed the bit where the girlfriends pre OP ts brother sneaked in to their room to play with his cock
It all goes on on Dundee  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"started seeing a girl a few weeks back now and i thought everything was going great until recently something kept telling me there’s an issue but couldn’t tell what like a gut feeling sort of thing, so last Tuesday i couldn’t hack it anymore I let my suspicions get the better of me and while she was fast asleep i stopped through her phone and I know I shouldn’t of but i couldn’t help myself. I gets in the phone and I’m on her fb messenger group chat it’s her and 4 of her friends all seems normal as expected until they started talking about 2 of my mates how hot they think they are ect and the part that stunned me was seeing that my own gf or whatever ya wanna call her is in this chat telling her friends how she’d love to fuck my 2 mates ect
She knows I’ve seen this but claims it’s just girl banter "
Just met her, moved in and started to check her phone whilst you are looking on a swingers site, says it all really. Seems a bit possessive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also checked the green tick, just 2 weeks ago the OP was married and his wife was upstairs fingering herself, but now he has a girlfriend who he is paranoid she wants to cheat on him. Something doesn't add up"
That wasn’t the OP. He just commented on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry for imposing but what does the Green Arrow mean?
Click. On the green.Arrow beside ops name and it shows other posts they've made "
Never knew this. Cool. Handy. Haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And you're on here actively looking to meet women and couples, doesn't seem like you're that fussed about the relationship.
Like i said we’d only recently started seeing each other a few weeks back we haven’t stepped into anything serious, plus i was on here long before i met her x"
So what’s wrong with what she’s doing? I would say what you’re doing is far worse.
I’d end it with you straight away if you took my phone while I was asleep and went through it. If you have suspicions, ask.
And me and my husband go through each other’s phones all the time. Not to see if we’re hiding anything - he chats to people and can’t be bothered explaining what’s been said so I’ll read it, vice versa |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And you're on here actively looking to meet women and couples, doesn't seem like you're that fussed about the relationship.
Like i said we’d only recently started seeing each other a few weeks back we haven’t stepped into anything serious, plus i was on here long before i met her x"
And already getting jealous and hacking her phone ? Wow imagine what you could be like after it becomes serious |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also checked the green tick, just 2 weeks ago the OP was married and his wife was upstairs fingering herself, but now he has a girlfriend who he is paranoid she wants to cheat on him. Something doesn't add up
Ahhh you missed the bit where the girlfriends pre OP ts brother sneaked in to their room to play with his cock
It all goes on on Dundee "
Dundee is epic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never felt the need to check a partners phone.
As they are private messages always thought there's definitely gonna be stuff in there I won't want to read.
Easier on my tired soul. To just not think about it. Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even if this tale were real, you’re fantasising about your best mates new wife and we’re ready to pounce on your next door neighbour only 7 days ago. I’d say you should set the poor girl free and let her find someone less paranoid |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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What's OK for you to do is also OK for her to do. You are on here looking for others, why shouldn't she be looking as well? You reap what you sow my friend. As for going through her phone, wrong on so many levels. I'd show you the door personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting resonances from some! It goes to show lockdown hasn't reduced the number of bitter snide fuckers on here be this tale true or not.  "
I don’t think it’s bitter or snide pointing out it’s most likely fantasy. Most folk have done it with humour... granted it’s been humour for the other readers, but still quite amusing. |
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By *av501TV/TS
over a year ago
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"And you're on here actively looking to meet women and couples, doesn't seem like you're that fussed about the relationship.
Like i said we’d only recently started seeing each other a few weeks back we haven’t stepped into anything serious, plus i was on here long before i met her x"
And you told her your on here from the the start ...right!!! Oh! Not a great start to a relationship really sorry, not judging.... Ive had my phone checked by a long term Serious partner .....I was legit at time but it broke us down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you think she would think of she read your fab msgs.... Honestly if you wouldn't let her see the things you say on fab, you sure as hell should not be going into her phone and reading her msgs.... I mean you could also do the girl solid and offer to arrange to get your mates over for a GB.... Could be the start of a wonderful swinging relationship if you played this right |
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"started seeing a girl a few weeks back now and i thought everything was going great until recently something kept telling me there’s an issue but couldn’t tell what like a gut feeling sort of thing, so last Tuesday i couldn’t hack it anymore I let my suspicions get the better of me and while she was fast asleep i stopped through her phone and I know I shouldn’t of but i couldn’t help myself. I gets in the phone and I’m on her fb messenger group chat it’s her and 4 of her friends all seems normal as expected until they started talking about 2 of my mates how hot they think they are ect and the part that stunned me was seeing that my own gf or whatever ya wanna call her is in this chat telling her friends how she’d love to fuck my 2 mates ect
She knows I’ve seen this but claims it’s just girl banter "
Mmmmmmm yummy yummy karma |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbf mate going through someone’s phone especially when you have known them like 5 mins says more about you than it does about her
1. You have been on here 3 months and are still actively on here to even post this when you have a gf
What she said
2. As I said barely a relationship after 14 days or so. Of course she prob fancies your friends / other guys just as she must do you but still early days.
You should really be looking at how you would feel if she went down your phone and saw a swingers app on there ?
Would you feel guilty she’s caught you out or angry she’s gone down your phone ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have an open relationship with my ex and he had full access to my phone, my profile, emails, everything. He could not wait to check my phone the moment I walked through the door - “who have you been chatting with today”. There was no privacy at all and although I had nothing to hide, I hated it. If you are going to have this type of relationships with someone, there needs to be trust without jealousy. It will either work, or not. |
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Ur just like every other cheatin shit on here
Ur cohabiting with ur gf checkin her fuckin fone
But here is u on here STILL even after u say uv just started seeing a girl
2timin sbit like every other fuckin fella on here
Now u know how it feels wen a fella gets caught out shaggin behind his wife/gf
All the fuckin same
Full of shit |
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