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"Personally I feel upset if partner..be they tgirl woman or gayguy describes themselves as a Slut but then says they expect a condom to be used. In my opinion to earn the proud designation of slut they need to accept cock as nature intended and take it in all holes and welcome spunk in any hole. A keen interest in multiple partners is also a requirement. As is getting down to action quickly. What are your slut requirement?" No words | |||
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"Not sure why practicing safe sexual health and protecting both yourself and others would have any bearing on any definition of the word to be honest OP - for me it's a term that can have many uses from the derogatory to the endearing and the meaning is all in the context of how it is used and by whom - but absolutely nothing to do with condom use or not." Well said  | |||
"Not sure why practicing safe sexual health and protecting both yourself and others would have any bearing on any definition of the word to be honest OP - for me it's a term that can have many uses from the derogatory to the endearing and the meaning is all in the context of how it is used and by whom - but absolutely nothing to do with condom use or not." 
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"Made me think of a joke I once heard What's the difference between a slut and a bitch? A slut sleeps with every guy at a party a bitch sleeps with all the guys except you" Perfect ?? | |||
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"Someone that'll have sex with a stranger they only just met, or don't know at all. And or someone willing to be used by other at will for their satisfaction. Plus being very promiscuous. That's probably the closest to my definition but it's not really an exact term. And I have no problem being called a slut, it's not offensive." Totally agree with this | |||
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"Doesn’t bother me getting called a slut during sex or in a naughty chat it actually excites me a lot
Mrs spice "I think it depends entirely on the tone and context as to wether or not it’s offensive. | |||
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"Personally I feel upset if partner..be they tgirl woman or gayguy describes themselves as a Slut but then says they expect a condom to be used. In my opinion to earn the proud designation of slut they need to accept cock as nature intended and take it in all holes and welcome spunk in any hole. A keen interest in multiple partners is also a requirement. As is getting down to action quickly. What are your slut requirement?" “In my opinion” is the key phrase in your statement. I don’t have slut requirements. Everyone will have a different definition for the word. | |||
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"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same!" being a slut is just a lifestyle choice at the end of the day, and a positive one in my opinion. Not for everyone but that's fine, I don't see the need for any judgemental overtones towards those which are. | |||
"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same! being a slut is just a lifestyle choice at the end of the day, and a positive one in my opinion. Not for everyone but that's fine, I don't see the need for any judgemental overtones towards those which are."Absolutely! Slut is essential to me in a partner, someone who enjoys sex as much as I do and wants to explore without prejudice  | |||
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"A slut is a person who fucks loads of different people in a short span of time "really...
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"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same!" | |||
"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same!" Also under the category of many things on here is it comes down to context and how it's used and by whom - as I said further up it can be derogatory but can also be a term of endearment and many things in between. I personally wouldn't dream of calling someone I didn't know, or feel confident they would appreciate being called one, a slut but in the right context and with the right person I might. | |||
"A slut is a strong minded women who knows what she wants, and is not afraid to get it . " Doesn't just have to be a woman - men can be sluts too | |||
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"Personally I feel upset if partner..be they tgirl woman or gayguy describes themselves as a Slut but then says they expect a condom to be used. In my opinion to earn the proud designation of slut they need to accept cock as nature intended and take it in all holes and welcome spunk in any hole. A keen interest in multiple partners is also a requirement. As is getting down to action quickly. What are your slut requirement?" lol you don't take any prisoners do you  | |||
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"I think I have earned the right to call myself a slut as per the definition in the dictionary *a woman who has many casual sexual partners* I would change 'women' to 'someone' as I know quite a few men who fit in this category as well
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"I think I have earned the right to call myself a slut as per the definition in the dictionary *a woman who has many casual sexual partners* I would change 'women' to 'someone' as I know quite a few men who fit in this category as well
"I don't think the word slut suits a man.. | |||
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"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same!" Why do you think a sub ought to accept that kind of treatment from anyone? Subs do not have to accept risky, bareback sex just because they’re subs. | |||
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"Personally I feel upset if partner..be they tgirl woman or gayguy describes themselves as a Slut but then says they expect a condom to be used. In my opinion to earn the proud designation of slut they need to accept cock as nature intended and take it in all holes and welcome spunk in any hole. A keen interest in multiple partners is also a requirement. As is getting down to action quickly. What are your slut requirement?" So because I identify as a slut, I need to be irresponsible about my sexual health and risk spreading disease amongst my sexual partners? You do you, I guess. Personally I enjoy multiple partners and bareback with the right people, but I don't want an STI. | |||
"A slut is a strong minded women who knows what she wants, and is not afraid to get it . " I Am A Slut | |||
"I hate the term, as will many. However you have to consider there are a number of profiles on this site that happily describe themselves in this manner, so I don't judge." this | |||
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"OP, if someone wants to call themselves a slut, they can define it how they choose. They certainly don’t need your approval, or your arbitrary and made-up definition." | |||
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"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same! Why do you think a sub ought to accept that kind of treatment from anyone? Subs do not have to accept risky, bareback sex just because they’re subs." Hey there, calm down! I didn't suggest that subs deserve any particular treatment! I used the word submissive to describe the characteristic of the OPs post. Subs are by definition submissive to someone else's will and intention. Surely of they refused a suggestion from their master/handler/Donne etc they wouldn't be truly submissive? And before that starts another tirade, I appreciate that there will be a whole rule book to that culture I can't begin to understand! | |||
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"Surely of they refused a suggestion from their master/handler/Donne etc they wouldn't be truly submissive? And before that starts another tirade, I appreciate that there will be a whole rule book to that culture I can't begin to understand!" Not a tirade in the slightest but for awareness - submissives have a mind of their own and will set limits and boundaries and are perfectly at liberty to refuse the suggestion a dominant might make without being accused of not being "truly" submissive. As a submissive I'd tell any dominant that suggested I put my sexual health at risk where to get off and it would be they that wouldn't be "truly" dominant by reckoning not the other way round - although there probably are submissives out there that would find that kind of suggestion acceptable but I'd question their sanity if not their submission. What the OP suggested was nothing to do with submission, more his own definition of the word "slut" which as this thread has shown is somewhat detached from others definition. | |||
" Why do you think a sub ought to accept that kind of treatment from anyone? Subs do not have to accept risky, bareback sex just because they’re subs. Hey there, calm down! I didn't suggest that subs deserve any particular treatment! I used the word submissive to describe the characteristic of the OPs post. Subs are by definition submissive to someone else's will and intention. Surely of they refused a suggestion from their master/handler/Donne etc they wouldn't be truly submissive? And before that starts another tirade, I appreciate that there will be a whole rule book to that culture I can't begin to understand!" If you accept that you don’t understand it, you shouldn’t talk about it in black and white terms. Most of us have hard limits, and a good Dom/me will respect those limits. They would probably not give an order that breached those limits, and if they did the sub would be able to call a halt immediately. Something like this, exposing oneself to a major health risk, wouldn’t be something that a Dom/me would require of their sub without negotiation in advance, and the sub could still stop it at any time. | |||
"Personally I feel upset if partner..be they tgirl woman or gayguy describes themselves as a Slut but then says they expect a condom to be used. In my opinion to earn the proud designation of slut they need to accept cock as nature intended and take it in all holes and welcome spunk in any hole. A keen interest in multiple partners is also a requirement. As is getting down to action quickly. What are your slut requirement?" Exactly as you describe | |||
"Doesn’t bother me getting called a slut during sex or in a naughty chat it actually excites me a lot
Mrs spice " | |||
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"Personally I feel upset if partner..be they tgirl woman or gayguy describes themselves as a Slut but then says they expect a condom to be used. In my opinion to earn the proud designation of slut they need to accept cock as nature intended and take it in all holes and welcome spunk in any hole. A keen interest in multiple partners is also a requirement. As is getting down to action quickly. What are your slut requirement?" Complete and utter bullshit. Us sluts can be responsible too! | |||
"Not sure why practicing safe sexual health and protecting both yourself and others would have any bearing on any definition of the word to be honest OP - for me it's a term that can have many uses from the derogatory to the endearing and the meaning is all in the context of how it is used and by whom - but absolutely nothing to do with condom use or not." Gemini, you usually hit the nail on the head and you have again. Bravo | |||
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"Not sure why practicing safe sexual health and protecting both yourself and others would have any bearing on any definition of the word to be honest OP - for me it's a term that can have many uses from the derogatory to the endearing and the meaning is all in the context of how it is used and by whom - but absolutely nothing to do with condom use or not.
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"If she chats u up Check her veris Ifca different fella each She is a fuckin slut Who will just shag anything n anyone Puts me off meeting fellas wen the same name pops up Shows how desperate sine people are who will just fuck anyone n everyone Then wen u see the kip of them Total turn off Especisllyvwen they supposedly say SAFE SEX but blatant open piccys of bareback dicks " So you're saying that someone who is on a swingers/NSA hook up site and has multiple veris all from different people is by definition a slut? Oh the irony!!  | |||
" Why do you think a sub ought to accept that kind of treatment from anyone? Subs do not have to accept risky, bareback sex just because they’re subs. Hey there, calm down! I didn't suggest that subs deserve any particular treatment! I used the word submissive to describe the characteristic of the OPs post. Subs are by definition submissive to someone else's will and intention. Surely of they refused a suggestion from their master/handler/Donne etc they wouldn't be truly submissive? And before that starts another tirade, I appreciate that there will be a whole rule book to that culture I can't begin to understand! If you accept that you don’t understand it, you shouldn’t talk about it in black and white terms. Most of us have hard limits, and a good Dom/me will respect those limits. They would probably not give an order that breached those limits, and if they did the sub would be able to call a halt immediately. Something like this, exposing oneself to a major health risk, wouldn’t be something that a Dom/me would require of their sub without negotiation in advance, and the sub could still stop it at any time." Wow, just wow. In my comment, I ended the statement about submissives with a ? To me this would imply a query, which it was. A point to generate discussion, in order to be better informed. If I had wanted to be lectured by someone using their opinion as fact, I'd have asked for that and used the appropriate punctuation. Thanks to Gemini for managing to answer my QUERY without the urge to deliver it like an outraged militant. I thought the point of the forums in fab were to discuss, share and understand others views better. Not to use as a soap box to fans everyone else agrees with your views or pass off your view as fact. That is still my opinion, not a black and white statement. Unless you actually meant because it's printed in black and white, which I can't help. It's just the fprmat of the forum! | |||
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"If she chats u up Check her veris Ifca different fella each She is a fuckin slut Who will just shag anything n anyone Puts me off meeting fellas wen the same name pops up Shows how desperate sine people are who will just fuck anyone n everyone Then wen u see the kip of them Total turn off Especisllyvwen they supposedly say SAFE SEX but blatant open piccys of bareback dicks So you're saying that someone who is on a swingers/NSA hook up site and has multiple veris all from different people is by definition a slut? Oh the irony!! "And for a couple especially, pics without condoms may well be them together. We don't share such pics really, but if we did, we don't use condoms together very often, but we ALWAYS do if playing with others. It's non negotiable. | |||
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"Slut = Woman with the morals of a man " | |||
"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same!" Why? Why can't a sub be confident and in charge of their own sexual experiences? Isn't the fact that they have the confidence to trust someone enough to be submissive for them proof of this? It takes a lot to actually give yourself so completely. We don't all just have sex with anyone, and do so bareback and let them use us as they like, just because we're subs. I am still in charge, because I still have a say. If it's not what I want or too much we stop or don't do it. The OP, I'm sad to say, was talking of sex without any respect attached to it, that isn't what a Dom/sub dynamic should be about. The idea we all just crave being degraded, physically hurt, treated like nothing more than a toy isn't correct. That's generalising and pigeon holing us. The OP just seems to be putting an ideal across, and nothing to do with subs or sluts, and not intending to offend, but is a rather outdated and misogynistic attitude towards sexual partners. Hopefully it's just tongue in cheek x Viv x | |||
"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same! Why? Why can't a sub be confident and in charge of their own sexual experiences? Isn't the fact that they have the confidence to trust someone enough to be submissive for them proof of this? It takes a lot to actually give yourself so completely. We don't all just have sex with anyone, and do so bareback and let them use us as they like, just because we're subs. I am still in charge, because I still have a say. If it's not what I want or too much we stop or don't do it. The OP, I'm sad to say, was talking of sex without any respect attached to it, that isn't what a Dom/sub dynamic should be about. The idea we all just crave being degraded, physically hurt, treated like nothing more than a toy isn't correct. That's generalising and pigeon holing us. The OP just seems to be putting an ideal across, and nothing to do with subs or sluts, and not intending to offend, but is a rather outdated and misogynistic attitude towards sexual partners. Hopefully it's just tongue in cheek x Viv x" I'm not suggesting you think subs are into degradation btw, just read my post back, but sadly it's a misconception that we are, and as such a misconception that we will also be willing to do anything sexually. Everyone should take safe sex seriously. I would hate to have anyone put my sexual health at risk, just to go bareback with someone, because they expect that, because they think that's what a sub/slut should do xx | |||
" I'm not suggesting you think subs are into degradation btw, just read my post back, but sadly it's a misconception that we are, and as such a misconception that we will also be willing to do anything sexually. Everyone should take safe sex seriously. I would hate to have anyone put my sexual health at risk, just to go bareback with someone, because they expect that, because they think that's what a sub/slut should do xx" It's going off topic slightly but have to say I agree with all you've said in your two posts above wholeheartedly - and sadly it's not only a misconception for those who don't understand D/s from the outside looking in, but those (both submissive and dominant) within as well. Too many, on both sides of the coin, think it's all about a sub "doing as they're told" and blindly following whatever a dominant tells them to do - which couldn't, and shouldn't, be further from the truth - whilst (as I said further up) there may be some submissives who would be willing to allow complete autonomy over themselves by a dominant, it's important that they do so from an informed and knowledgeable position - doing so without is the path to abuse and danger plain and simple | |||
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"Although many have negative views of the term, I’ve always felt that it’s a positive term. A slut is a confident, sexual person who is happy to be in charge of their own sexual experiences, regardless of the volume or frequency of partners. The OPs description feels closer to submissive to me? As with many things on here, it’s great that we’re not all the same! Why? Why can't a sub be confident and in charge of their own sexual experiences? Isn't the fact that they have the confidence to trust someone enough to be submissive for them proof of this? It takes a lot to actually give yourself so completely. We don't all just have sex with anyone, and do so bareback and let them use us as they like, just because we're subs. I am still in charge, because I still have a say. If it's not what I want or too much we stop or don't do it. The OP, I'm sad to say, was talking of sex without any respect attached to it, that isn't what a Dom/sub dynamic should be about. The idea we all just crave being degraded, physically hurt, treated like nothing more than a toy isn't correct. That's generalising and pigeon holing us. The OP just seems to be putting an ideal across, and nothing to do with subs or sluts, and not intending to offend, but is a rather outdated and misogynistic attitude towards sexual partners. Hopefully it's just tongue in cheek x Viv x I'm not suggesting you think subs are into degradation btw, just read my post back, but sadly it's a misconception that we are, and as such a misconception that we will also be willing to do anything sexually. Everyone should take safe sex seriously. I would hate to have anyone put my sexual health at risk, just to go bareback with someone, because they expect that, because they think that's what a sub/slut should do xx" It’s amazing how this thread has diversified, and been pretty informative if I’m honest! Something I didn’t clarify right at the start, is that in my opinion putting someone’s health, sexual or otherwise, at risk is unacceptable. I was curious about where the line would be drawn regarding submissive behaviour as the terminology is very leading: dominant, submissive, master, slave. To someone outside this particular lifestyle choice, it’s easy to read those terms and associate them with behaviours. Hopefully those taking an interest in this thread can appreciate that as someone with a different level of understanding or interest in these choices I’m not automatically condoning unsafe behaviour. Nor am I judging those who take a different path to be happy and fulfilled. As I’ve said before, one of the things that has always intrigued me about the lifestyle is the variety and endless ways that people get each other and themselves off! Long may the endless diversity continue! | |||
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"Personally I feel upset if partner..be they tgirl woman or gayguy describes themselves as a Slut but then says they expect a condom to be used. In my opinion to earn the proud designation of slut they need to accept cock as nature intended and take it in all holes and welcome spunk in any hole. A keen interest in multiple partners is also a requirement. As is getting down to action quickly. What are your slut requirement?" Does mummy know you are on the internet? | |||
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"OP, if someone wants to call themselves a slut, they can define it how they choose. " That pretty much sums it up for me. Nothing against the OP. I think the word means different things to different people and long may it be so. | |||
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"Is this something you look back o with regret ?" No...there were probably times I felt cheap but no regrets. | |||
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"Not sure why practicing safe sexual health and protecting both yourself and others would have any bearing on any definition of the word to be honest OP - for me it's a term that can have many uses from the derogatory to the endearing and the meaning is all in the context of how it is used and by whom - but absolutely nothing to do with condom use or not." | |||
