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Do "erotic" first messages ever work?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Personally I'd rather have a bland "hi, how are you" for a first message from a guy than have some poor attempt at writing porn.
My question is: has this approach ever worked? Or do others find it as big a turn off? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend not to use that approach myself- it seems like bad manners and more so a highly risky strategy for meeting folks. However , would love it if a woman sent me a message stating all the things she wanted to do to me . Does that make me a hypocrite ?  |
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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago
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For me I just see it as being a bit desperate or trying too hard it doesn't impress me I tend to just laugh at them and hardly respond to them. Especially when they are full of ideas that I have stated in profile I'm not into so you know its a cut and paste message sent to 50 other women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its generally a cut and paste job thats sent out to everyone
Ive been sent some very bad attempts at erotic literature,but they always raise a smile and theres possibly people out there that enjoy receiving stuff like that
I don't mind if its from someone I know but from a stranger that has no idea about me its a bit odd
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no you should always at least chat to them a bit and establish and interest, i find alot of ladies like their mind to be sexy stimulated, but if you lead in with it their mind wont be open to it, and i think you got to at least do it in a sexy way that grips them and makes them visualise and want it rather than just talking to them full on dirty as i dont find that gets many womens minds going unless they really into that and comfortable with you in that way x |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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They dont do anything for me.
I always get a mental picture of someone typing with one hand and a box of tissues at the ready 
But as long as they are enjoying themselves... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope wont work on me.... need a chit chat to suss out personality type and if I/We click then the blue chat is fine....I delete most dirty hellos partially read...as in first line...chels xxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope wont work on me.... need a chit chat to suss out personality type and if I/We click then the blue chat is fine....I delete most dirty hellos partially read...as in first line...chels xxx "
* deletes first draft of message to chels*
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend not to use that approach myself- it seems like bad manners and more so a highly risky strategy for meeting folks. However , would love it if a woman sent me a message stating all the things she wanted to do to me . Does that make me a hypocrite ? "
Maybe, but it's more likely to attract every guy posing as a woman on FS to erotically PM you like lightening!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope wont work on me.... need a chit chat to suss out personality type and if I/We click then the blue chat is fine....I delete most dirty hellos partially read...as in first line...chels xxx
* deletes first draft of message to chels*
you will be "marked by your words" lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope wont work on me.... need a chit chat to suss out personality type and if I/We click then the blue chat is fine....I delete most dirty hellos partially read...as in first line...chels xxx
* deletes first draft of message to chels*
you will be "marked by your words" lol
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Works for me!
The guy I have been seeing exclusively wrote me an incredibly graphic and horny first message and no pic!
Turned out to be stunningly gorgeous and a genius in the bedroom 
Lived up to his first message and way BEYOND! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Works for me!
The guy I have been seeing exclusively wrote me an incredibly graphic and horny first message and no pic!
Turned out to be stunningly gorgeous and a genius in the bedroom
Lived up to his first message and way BEYOND! "
It's you! You are egging them on!!! 
You are the fabswingers version of the girl who shags the "you have a nice (insert girlie body part here), wanna fuck?" guy and has the rest of us females putting up with clubfooted Neanderthals trying it on with us in the real world.
Grrrrrrr!!!!!!
Either than or I just get the "erotic" messages when I'm in a bad mood an I'm just jealous of you  |
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By *SwitchMan
over a year ago
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I try to balance it out, so I will briefly go into what I like, but I won't attempt to write porn, because I know I can't! And I hate to come across as corny. I still get most of my messages deleted though haha. |
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I was going to try my charm on jenni
but alas I'm too old hehe
I personnally always go for humour with a little naughty glint to it .... It never fails
LMAO... who am I kidding it fails 99.99% of the time |
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"Personally I'd rather have a bland "hi, how are you" for a first message from a guy than have some poor attempt at writing porn.
My question is: has this approach ever worked? Or do others find it as big a turn off?"
nope, never lol, just delete, if its a corny email, what else they gonna do corny x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got a message saying how he would first kiss me and slowly work his way around my erogenous zones and how he'd fuck me blah blah blah... it was very explicit and if it had been part of an on going chat then it might have been taken as intended... sadly his cocky ness and description was only worthy of a delete
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By *SwitchMan
over a year ago
Derby |
I have to admit, I'm not very good at introductions, so I might come across as corny sometimes without meaning too! But once you get talking to me, I'm very laid back and I don't take this too seriously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It makes we want to block them immediately. I would much rather find the fantasy in that section of the forum and then send a message if I like what has been written."
Absolutely. Being informed by someone that he WILL fuck me just makes me determined that he won't! |
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Crap cut and paste porn makes me yawn and sometimes shudder in disdain! And I rarely read past the opening sentence. 
And even worse is when they send 'your pics are lovely' as a first message and then follow it with the essay that they have stored to send to ever woman, all carefully spelt and edited but prefaced by 'Luking at your pics tempin just makes me wanna...'
Just makes me wanna delete, bloick and move on! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Crap cut and paste porn makes me yawn and sometimes shudder in disdain! And I rarely read past the opening sentence.
And even worse is when they send 'your pics are lovely' as a first message and then follow it with the essay that they have stored to send to ever woman, all carefully spelt and edited but prefaced by 'Luking at your pics tempin just makes me wanna...'
Just makes me wanna delete, bloick and move on! "
Before I had pictures available I got several messages like this with the line that my pictures are great. People really do like a silhouette on here. |
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depends what you mean by erotic first messages.
detailing what you would do if we met is a little presumtuous.
we prefere politeness and respect.
even though 'how are ye' is polite, its not enough really, is it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They dont do anything for me.
I always get a mental picture of someone typing with one hand and a box of tissues at the ready
But as long as they are enjoying themselves..."
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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago
a land up north..... of leicester |
"I tend not to use that approach myself- it seems like bad manners and more so a highly risky strategy for meeting folks. However , would love it if a woman sent me a message stating all the things she wanted to do to me . Does that make me a hypocrite ? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best one I had was someone had copied and pasted a bit of a story to me...
It was a great story.. but then I would say that.. as I wrote the original lol
He tried to claim it was his.. lol
Made me laugh but blocked him
and no.. it never sits well with me..
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I think he may have been cutting and pasting? What do u think? 
