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over a year ago
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So, was recently in a relationship that started on here. Then she got cold feet.
I'm probably going to get slated for this, but ultimately it's a relationship I'm looking for. Being a couple, but still enjoy the fringe benefits of this lifestyle together  Anyone think it's a possibility?  |
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"I think it's unrealistic to look for a relationship that includes involving others from the get go
I dunno, there’s definitely been other a few couples here who met on fab ? "
No doubt, but a lot of those that work long-term take since time away from Fab to build a firm relationship, then come back to swinging when they're secure as a couple. |
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"So, was recently in a relationship that started on here. Then she got cold feet.
I'm probably going to get slated for this, but ultimately it's a relationship I'm looking for. Being a couple, but still enjoy the fringe benefits of this lifestyle together Anyone think it's a possibility? "
We met on here as singles and still together been just over 12months now. Can work depends on what u both want I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, was recently in a relationship that started on here. Then she got cold feet.
I'm probably going to get slated for this, but ultimately it's a relationship I'm looking for. Being a couple, but still enjoy the fringe benefits of this lifestyle together Anyone think it's a possibility?
We met on here as singles and still together been just over 12months now. Can work depends on what u both want I guess"
Well I am forever the optimist. I have known a few couples over the years who met in this lifestyle. I have been on dating sites, been up front with new / prospective partners. They `dabbled` shall we say, then tried putting the shackles on me  |
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Myself and MrD met on POF. We talked about swinging together but as MrD put it back then, he wanted to get to know and enjoy me first.
I think its rare what we have, how we found each other when we did.
Its not every man who doesnt mind his new partner fuck a load of guys at a party or have 5 of them around me for a bj party.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe build a relationship with someone first before just dipping into a swinging relationship. Youu might just as well look for a fwb rather then a gf. Having a gf and swinging she needs to be able to trust you and you trust her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had no luck on the normal dating sites so stuck it in my profile on here that I was looking for boyfriend as I tended to find men were more honest on here.
Still looking so we shall see...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it can definitely happen. I want the same ultimately. "
Shame you are so far away. But my heart and loins are gladdened by the positive response on here |
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"I think it's unrealistic to look for a relationship that includes involving others from the get go
I dunno, there’s definitely been other a few couples here who met on fab ?
No doubt, but a lot of those that work long-term take since time away from Fab to build a firm relationship, then come back to swinging when they're secure as a couple. "
I would absolutely recommend taking time away to lay foundations, solidify and cement the relationship and take it slowly returning. Just because you've met on the scene doesn't mean staying on the scene will come naturally as a couple even though that's the platform you may have met on.
There's a lot to learn about each other and without a shadow of a doubt extra strain gets put on when other people are involved/invited in.
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I would absolutely recommend taking time away to lay foundations, solidify and cement the relationship and take it slowly returning. Just because you've met on the scene doesn't mean staying on the scene will come naturally as a couple even though that's the platform you may have met on.
There's a lot to learn about each other and without a shadow of a doubt extra strain gets put on when other people are involved/invited in.
P"
Which is exactly what I would intend on doing if a partnership turned in to a relationship. |
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"I think it's unrealistic to look for a relationship that includes involving others from the get go"
Not at all, we met via fab and have been together for nearly 2 years now. Been swinging together from day 1 |
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"but ultimately it's a relationship I'm looking for. Being a couple, but still enjoy the fringe benefits of this lifestyle together Anyone think it's a possibility? "
@OP. It has happened before, there will be ongoing swingers romances and it will carry on happening so if its what you want then it is a possibility.
But, and there is always a but lol, you have to do a lot to make it happen. You have a well written profile but is it clear what you want? I suggest you have hinted at it.
Are you clear what you want on any other sites you use, dating or otherwise, that you are a swinger or want to explore swinging as a new-found couple?
Do you get to clubs/parties/socials where you can meet like minded people?
Its all about being in the right place/ right time and being visible as how you are. The rest is up to you as an individual.
For us, fetish and kink is an esential part of our relationship. We met at a fetish social, had some very long conversations, our first date was at a fetish event. So we knew we had all the relevent 'icings' in place before the romance of cake making began. As always, it's about upfront and quality communication to save surprises later.
Good luck! |
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I met Jack my other half here almost 4 and a half years ago.i wasn't looking for more but it happens
We took some time away from here first ,then rejoined as a couple.
As long as people are upfront about what they are looking for i don't see the harm.
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"but ultimately it's a relationship I'm looking for. Being a couple, but still enjoy the fringe benefits of this lifestyle together Anyone think it's a possibility?
@OP. It has happened before, there will be ongoing swingers romances and it will carry on happening so if its what you want then it is a possibility.
But, and there is always a but lol, you have to do a lot to make it happen. You have a well written profile but is it clear what you want? I suggest you have hinted at it.
Are you clear what you want on any other sites you use, dating or otherwise, that you are a swinger or want to explore swinging as a new-found couple?
Do you get to clubs/parties/socials where you can meet like minded people?
Its all about being in the right place/ right time and being visible as how you are. The rest is up to you as an individual.
For us, fetish and kink is an esential part of our relationship. We met at a fetish social, had some very long conversations, our first date was at a fetish event. So we knew we had all the relevent 'icings' in place before the romance of cake making began. As always, it's about upfront and quality communication to save surprises later.
Good luck!"
Yes I can get to parties and clubs, and once lockdown over, will probably do more of that. In the meantime I am re writing my profile to be more up front as to what I am looking for |
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