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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.   |
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over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go "
Not the most sympathetic reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go "
He said he wasn’t expecting sympathy....
He sure ain’t got it from you. Nice  |
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By *i1971Man
over a year ago
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You've definitely done the right thing in refusing to meet. Any break up is difficult but especially so when things are said that really knocks confidence levels.
Look forward to happy times ahead and club visits etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've done the right thing OP. all she has done is shown her true self in behaving like that. If she doesn't recognise that and apologises to you, I'd say you've had a lucky escape and someone more worthy will come along at some point and when it's safe to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be proud
You did the right thing.
Protection of self should always come first."
Not only protecting self but others too.. thank you.. it’s hard but if everyone acted like you this would be over quicker, as it is it may take longer because of people like her.
Stay safe, fingers crossed clubs will open and you’ll find someone better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While I think you've done the right thing and she's handled it badly.
I do also wonder about her mental health too. Many people aren't coping with this at the moment and perhaps she was very low |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most definitely done the right thing, and if shes slinging verbal abuse at you for doing so, then shes a complete muppet. Keep your chin up and dick pointed North OP. Dodged a bullet too by the sounds of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don’t know both sides to the story OP, only yours and does she know you’ve told Fab members her private business? "
What private business has OP actually said? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wasn't fair of her to expect you to risk your health like that, and I think it shows the kid of person it is that she got nasty when you said no.
You've definitely done the right thing.
On a side note, I'm sorry to hear that you're not seeing your kids at the moment. |
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"We don’t know both sides to the story OP, only yours and does she know you’ve told Fab members her private business?
What private business has OP actually said? "
Private business as in sharing with Fab members she has dumped him....giving her reasons why, it’s also her business.
I do not agree with her going out to meet people as we need to stay home safe to get rid of this vile disease but I wonder if she is happy she’s been discussed on a Fab forum. |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
I am a little confused. I thought the nature of a fuck buddy was to scratch an occasional itch, no drama etc. So: can't understand her ott response or your "breakdown".
Not meaning to be horrid, just don't get the drama. |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go "
Harsh, but I share the sentiment. |
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"You've definitely done the right thing in refusing to meet. Any break up is difficult but especially so when things are said that really knocks confidence levels.
Look forward to happy times ahead and club visits etc."
It's a fuck buddy, not the love of his life! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Fortunately my children are 26 and 21 and have their own lives. If they need me I’m there for them. I’m missing them naturally but my priority is that they are both safe |
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"You've definitely done the right thing in refusing to meet. Any break up is difficult but especially so when things are said that really knocks confidence levels.
Look forward to happy times ahead and club visits etc.
It's a fuck buddy, not the love of his life!"
Agree. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go "
What a proposterous reply to the OP. While his FB was certainly not in any sort of "relationship" with him, she bloody well acted like she was in by telling him off with nasties when he felt they should not meet. Unacceptable. Whether you agree with meeting in the current situation or not, it's a mutual choice. Just like other things like bareback sex which also prompts rather violent discussions on this forum. If OP was not keen on sex right now, that should have been enough she didn't have to say hurtful things and act like a scorned girlfriend and "dump" him.
OP it's YOUR choice to do the things you like to do and if sex right now was not your thing you were OK to refuse. Your confidence shouldn't be affected by a scorned woman telling you off - you clearly weren't too bad in bed or else she wouldn't be seeing you for sex on a regular basis so good you're done with her you'll find others
Of course I'm assuming you didn't start things by acting like a prick when you said no and it was a polite "we should wait, hun" type of response. |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go
What a proposterous reply to the OP. While his FB was certainly not in any sort of "relationship" with him, she bloody well acted like she was in by telling him off with nasties when he felt they should not meet. Unacceptable. Whether you agree with meeting in the current situation or not, it's a mutual choice. Just like other things like bareback sex which also prompts rather violent discussions on this forum. If OP was not keen on sex right now, that should have been enough she didn't have to say hurtful things and act like a scorned girlfriend and "dump" him.
OP it's YOUR choice to do the things you like to do and if sex right now was not your thing you were OK to refuse. Your confidence shouldn't be affected by a scorned woman telling you off - you clearly weren't too bad in bed or else she wouldn't be seeing you for sex on a regular basis so good you're done with her you'll find others
Of course I'm assuming you didn't start things by acting like a prick when you said no and it was a polite "we should wait, hun" type of response."
How do you know they had regular sex and she was happy with him? Maybe this was an excuse to part company with him! See I’m assuming now like you are.
3 sides to this, her’s, his and the truth....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said, your reaction really doesn't tally with the description of a fuck buddy. Good on you fir doungbthe right thing and I feel for you not seeing your kids but given the nature of a FB relationship I'm not seeing the drama. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go
What a proposterous reply to the OP. While his FB was certainly not in any sort of "relationship" with him, she bloody well acted like she was in by telling him off with nasties when he felt they should not meet. Unacceptable. Whether you agree with meeting in the current situation or not, it's a mutual choice. Just like other things like bareback sex which also prompts rather violent discussions on this forum. If OP was not keen on sex right now, that should have been enough she didn't have to say hurtful things and act like a scorned girlfriend and "dump" him.
OP it's YOUR choice to do the things you like to do and if sex right now was not your thing you were OK to refuse. Your confidence shouldn't be affected by a scorned woman telling you off - you clearly weren't too bad in bed or else she wouldn't be seeing you for sex on a regular basis so good you're done with her you'll find others
Of course I'm assuming you didn't start things by acting like a prick when you said no and it was a polite "we should wait, hun" type of response.
How do you know they had regular sex and she was happy with him? Maybe this was an excuse to part company with him! See I’m assuming now like you are.
3 sides to this, her’s, his and the truth....
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I have no idea but assuming if they were FBs then there was SOME degree of sex happening on some degree of regularity (otherwise they're not FBs it's called a one-night stand) hence she must have had some measure of satisfaction or she'd not go back to him. Regarding the "excuse" bit,a FB needs no "excuse" to part company.
I have had, over the years, a fair few FBs and it's always been mutual - if both are in the mood sex happens if not it's amicable. Some guys go ballistic, get abusive etc and take it personally and that unacceptable. A woman doing the same is JUST as unacceptable she doesn't get a pass for doing this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go
What a proposterous reply to the OP. While his FB was certainly not in any sort of "relationship" with him, she bloody well acted like she was in by telling him off with nasties when he felt they should not meet. Unacceptable. Whether you agree with meeting in the current situation or not, it's a mutual choice. Just like other things like bareback sex which also prompts rather violent discussions on this forum. If OP was not keen on sex right now, that should have been enough she didn't have to say hurtful things and act like a scorned girlfriend and "dump" him.
OP it's YOUR choice to do the things you like to do and if sex right now was not your thing you were OK to refuse. Your confidence shouldn't be affected by a scorned woman telling you off - you clearly weren't too bad in bed or else she wouldn't be seeing you for sex on a regular basis so good you're done with her you'll find others
Of course I'm assuming you didn't start things by acting like a prick when you said no and it was a polite "we should wait, hun" type of response.
How do you know they had regular sex and she was happy with him? Maybe this was an excuse to part company with him! See I’m assuming now like you are.
3 sides to this, her’s, his and the truth....
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You ok?? Think you have expressed how you feel!
Still not sure how he has ‘shared any of her business’. Not identified who she is or what abuse she gave him. He’s not looking for sympathy, but his upset and is using his thread to share that with a community who might understand. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op like the most have said, you have done the right thing, these no excuse for being unkind and you demonstrated good self care. Once it’s over you can concentrate on finding someone else, who will give you the respect you deserve xx |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
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I wouldn't call a friend a fuck buddy. I'd have more respect for my friends. A casual shag who was little more than a booty call is how I would see a fuck buddy. They don't want to meet again, so what. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
I wouldn't call a friend a fuck buddy. I'd have more respect for my friends. A casual shag who was little more than a booty call is how I would see a fuck buddy. They don't want to meet again, so what."
That's how you would feel, and probably how I would feel to be honest, but it's obvious his feelings were different, and I don't see why he has to conform to the "suck it up" attitude that he's getting here. He's not done anything wrong by expressing that he's hurt. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
I wouldn't call a friend a fuck buddy. I'd have more respect for my friends. A casual shag who was little more than a booty call is how I would see a fuck buddy. They don't want to meet again, so what."
Someone you've had sex with more than once is always special unlike a one-night stand. It's a unique bond and losing that can be upsetting. |
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
I wouldn't call a friend a fuck buddy. I'd have more respect for my friends. A casual shag who was little more than a booty call is how I would see a fuck buddy. They don't want to meet again, so what."
It may seem harsh to some but that's exactly how I'd view a fuck buddy. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
I wouldn't call a friend a fuck buddy. I'd have more respect for my friends. A casual shag who was little more than a booty call is how I would see a fuck buddy. They don't want to meet again, so what.
That's how you would feel, and probably how I would feel to be honest, but it's obvious his feelings were different, and I don't see why he has to conform to the "suck it up" attitude that he's getting here. He's not done anything wrong by expressing that he's hurt. "
How do you know he is hurt and had feelings for the FB? I don’t understand the point of the thread. Why would anyone on here go against him refusing to see her? We have all had the lockdown rules relayed to us so why would anyone risk meeting? OP sorry but I don’t understand the ‘drama’! |
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
I wouldn't call a friend a fuck buddy. I'd have more respect for my friends. A casual shag who was little more than a booty call is how I would see a fuck buddy. They don't want to meet again, so what.
That's how you would feel, and probably how I would feel to be honest, but it's obvious his feelings were different, and I don't see why he has to conform to the "suck it up" attitude that he's getting here. He's not done anything wrong by expressing that he's hurt. "
You have called those who don't understand 'unfeeling' I am far from 'unfeeling' but don't understand why people (generally) get upset when a FB doesn't want to fuck them. If they are a fuck then that is all they are. The OP has called her a FB - a fuck. If she was more then yeh but a fuck? Nah if they don't want to fuck then ok, move on. Or create drama. Their choice. |
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over a year ago
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You’ve had a lucky escape.
You’re obviously better off without her if she doesn’t respect your need to social distance and on top of that she’s abusive.
Plenty more pretty fish in the sea!
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" Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go "
Can’t understand why some people even bother to reply if they have to be unkind.. |
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"It's not that hard to understand why he's upset is it? A fuck buddy is a friend you have sex with, and from what he's said they had regular sex over a long period. Are some of you so unfeeling that you can't imagine it how it might hurt to lose a friend?
I wouldn't call a friend a fuck buddy. I'd have more respect for my friends. A casual shag who was little more than a booty call is how I would see a fuck buddy. They don't want to meet again, so what.
That's how you would feel, and probably how I would feel to be honest, but it's obvious his feelings were different, and I don't see why he has to conform to the "suck it up" attitude that he's getting here. He's not done anything wrong by expressing that he's hurt.
You have called those who don't understand 'unfeeling' I am far from 'unfeeling' but don't understand why people (generally) get upset when a FB doesn't want to fuck them. If they are a fuck then that is all they are. The OP has called her a FB - a fuck. If she was more then yeh but a fuck? Nah if they don't want to fuck then ok, move on. Or create drama. Their choice."
Pretty much sums up my thoughts too. |
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" Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go
Can’t understand why some people even bother to reply if they have to be unkind.."
If you have a differing point of view: you're a troll. If you don't sugar coat and take a there, there approach you're being nasty.
Nowhere on this thread has anyone been "nasty". The op has described this woman as a "fuck buddy". Semantics probably, but I see friend with benefit differently to a fuck buddy.
Therefore, from my point of view the drama and meltdown comment from a fuck buddy is ott. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
. This is a very testing time for all of us and the government advice is to only go out for essentials or if you are a key worker.Off course what two consenting adults choose to do is their business but if one doesn’t want to meet that that decision should be respected. I am a similar situation to the OP in that sense that someone from another site wants to meet for adult fun but as we have yet to meet face to face I would prefer to wait till this is over meet for a drink or meal then take it from there. |
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" Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go
Can’t understand why some people even bother to reply if they have to be unkind..
If you have a differing point of view: you're a troll. If you don't sugar coat and take a there, there approach you're being nasty.
Nowhere on this thread has anyone been "nasty". The op has described this woman as a "fuck buddy". Semantics probably, but I see friend with benefit differently to a fuck buddy.
Therefore, from my point of view the drama and meltdown comment from a fuck buddy is ott. "
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
Your be fine when she's on a ventilator and your on here with the rest of us as you should be. x |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
I am currently 5 days into symptoms and have been confirmed positive, my 3 year old is in ICU and neither me or his mum can visit him. I would never have met during lockdown, my little boy picked it up through his key workers nursery which is just plain bad luck.
All I can say is the reality of this scenario if it hits your family is pretty atrocious. If I was in a scenario where this situation was through someone’s own selfish desires I wouldn’t be able to forgive them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You did the right thing
You will find someone better
Take no notice of hurtful comments on this thread either.
Take care
Jo x "
Thanks Jo Take care and stay safe xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Your be fine when she's on a ventilator and your on here with the rest of us as you should be. x"
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
I am currently 5 days into symptoms and have been confirmed positive, my 3 year old is in ICU and neither me or his mum can visit him. I would never have met during lockdown, my little boy picked it up through his key workers nursery which is just plain bad luck.
All I can say is the reality of this scenario if it hits your family is pretty atrocious. If I was in a scenario where this situation was through someone’s own selfish desires I wouldn’t be able to forgive them."
So sorry to hear this. I think the main people spreading the virus now will be key workers and essential workers which is very sad and concerning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
I am currently 5 days into symptoms and have been confirmed positive, my 3 year old is in ICU and neither me or his mum can visit him. I would never have met during lockdown, my little boy picked it up through his key workers nursery which is just plain bad luck.
All I can say is the reality of this scenario if it hits your family is pretty atrocious. If I was in a scenario where this situation was through someone’s own selfish desires I wouldn’t be able to forgive them.
So sorry to hear this. I think the main people spreading the virus now will be key workers and essential workers which is very sad and concerning. "
Ty, to be honest from my understanding it’s ridiculously easy to spread, you may not even be showing symptoms for a couple of weeks... yes keyworkers are at risk but likewise everyone of us entering a shop, touching a door handle etc... |
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You have done the right thing by not meeting but why so upset? Only fb easy come easy go... she could have a few fb’s who knows... her decision!
Life is hard for all of us at the minute because of Coronavirus but we just take 1 day at a time. Hopefully if people actually stay home then we should all see better days sooner rather then later, hopefully it won’t drag out! |
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"You have done the right thing by not meeting but why so upset? Only fb easy come easy go... she could have a few fb’s who knows... her decision!
Life is hard for all of us at the minute because of Coronavirus but we just take 1 day at a time. Hopefully if people actually stay home then we should all see better days sooner rather then later, hopefully it won’t drag out!"
We agree 100 percent |
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By *ucky24Man
over a year ago
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Any break up regard less of the nature of the relationship will hurt to a degree that is part and parcel of life unfortunately.
You did the right thing and that is the main thing to hold on to.
Everything is just conjecture.
Take care and stay safe. Things will get better. |
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"You have done the right thing by not meeting but why so upset?"
Because the guy has feelings and is entitled to have them?
Telling other people not to feel upset is so weird. You generally can't choose how you feel. |
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"You have done the right thing by not meeting but why so upset?
Because the guy has feelings and is entitled to have them?
Telling other people not to feel upset is so weird. You generally can't choose how you feel."
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
Bet she tries to hit you up again after all this. Tell her to do one. |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
She was a fuck buddy, not a girlfriend. In other words she decided to discontinue the reciprocal use each other for sex.
BTW one can only insult you with your permission. If you feel hurt, it's my guess you actually had feelings for her.
Be strong, stay safe. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Bet she tries to hit you up again after all this. Tell her to do one. "
I have every intention of doing just that. |
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"You have done the right thing by not meeting but why so upset?
Because the guy has feelings and is entitled to have them?
Telling other people not to feel upset is so weird. You generally can't choose how you feel."
He wasn't telling him not to feel upset, he was asking why he is upset. Valid question it seems to me. By all accounts the OPs ex fb sounds a nightmare and the OP interrogating why he is upset at losing someone like that might lessen his upset.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"While I think you've done the right thing and she's handled it badly.
I do also wonder about her mental health too. Many people aren't coping with this at the moment and perhaps she was very low "
I had wondered that. Certainly an over-reaction to a necessary rejection. Perhaps she too had developed feelings. |
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"While I think you've done the right thing and she's handled it badly.
I do also wonder about her mental health too. Many people aren't coping with this at the moment and perhaps she was very low
I had wondered that. Certainly an over-reaction to a necessary rejection. Perhaps she too had developed feelings. "
Possible, but we also all know people who react aggressively if they don't get what they want. |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Your be fine when she's on a ventilator and your on here with the rest of us as you should be. x"
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"You’re well rid I’d take everything she’s ever said as a lie but remember when this is over you owe her nothing don’t let her emotionally black mail you now or after"
How can you assume she will emotionally black mail him? Do you know her and her side of the story? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
You've done well mate!, as others have said... She doesn't respect your decision.. Bollocks to her!
Btw, this is my honest, reasoned, unbiased reply, not just saying it to make you feel better |
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'Long term FB' does sound a bit of an odd one to me. Surely we're into 'friends with benefits' territory by then, if not some kind of non-monogamous partnership. It does seem a little bit to me like both sides see the relationship as something different. It's very unusual for no kind of attachment at all to form after repeated sexual contact with the same person... it's why people end up in bad relationships lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You did the right thing and you didn't cave into demands which is goood and admirable. If she's going to act like this towards you then she wasn't worth your time to begin with. It sucks now but you'll move on and realise you're better off without it. |
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"You’re well rid I’d take everything she’s ever said as a lie but remember when this is over you owe her nothing don’t let her emotionally black mail you now or after
How can you assume she will emotionally black mail him? Do you know her and her side of the story? "
Why are you going out of your way to defend this other person? Is it purely because you're both women?
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What's clear from this thread is that people are really struggling at the moment. From what I've read, both parties are struggling mentally and emotionally with this lockdown and responded in different ways and we've responded to the outcome in different ways too.
I don't see any fault or blame here, just people struggling to cope. This lockdown has isolated a lot of vunerable people and we should be aware of this before we pass judgement. |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go
What a proposterous reply to the OP. While his FB was certainly not in any sort of "relationship" with him, she bloody well acted like she was in by telling him off with nasties when he felt they should not meet. Unacceptable. Whether you agree with meeting in the current situation or not, it's a mutual choice. Just like other things like bareback sex which also prompts rather violent discussions on this forum. If OP was not keen on sex right now, that should have been enough she didn't have to say hurtful things and act like a scorned girlfriend and "dump" him.
OP it's YOUR choice to do the things you like to do and if sex right now was not your thing you were OK to refuse. Your confidence shouldn't be affected by a scorned woman telling you off - you clearly weren't too bad in bed or else she wouldn't be seeing you for sex on a regular basis so good you're done with her you'll find others
Of course I'm assuming you didn't start things by acting like a prick when you said no and it was a polite "we should wait, hun" type of response.
How do you know they had regular sex and she was happy with him? Maybe this was an excuse to part company with him! See I’m assuming now like you are.
3 sides to this, her’s, his and the truth....
You ok?? Think you have expressed how you feel!
Still not sure how he has ‘shared any of her business’. Not identified who she is or what abuse she gave him. He’s not looking for sympathy, but his upset and is using his thread to share that with a community who might understand. Xxx"
I bet if OP was a woman those who are not sympathetic would have been, they should ask them selves that before you condemn this guy for doing the right thing, sex is not a weapon and she clearly didn’t like it when he was asked to jump and didn’t due to the current situation.
Nothing personal was shared at all the man purely expressed the situation. |
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"Some people behave strangely in a crisis. Is she suffering with her mental health? May explain why she wasn’t kind. We also don’t know her side of the story.
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Her side is she didn’t get what she wanted and due to normally having the power to manipulate this man and couldn’t on this occasion she has chucked her toys out the pram and ended it.
I’ve seen this kind of woman before and he is best rid. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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I dont know about others, but I have two people now that I know of, friends of friends etc that have died of this . It makes you take it very seriously..kind of brings it home how important social distancing is..
You were so right not to meet her.. |
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"She sounds like a controlling abuser. Prob done you a favour
Controlling abuser? They're fuck buddies. "
So how would you describe someone who is trying to force their fb to do something that they don’t want to do, then having a meltdown and saying hurtful and abusive things to their fb and then when they still couldn’t get their way decided to end their fb relationship/agreement?
If it looks like a duck and quacks..... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"She sounds like a controlling abuser. Prob done you a favour
Controlling abuser? They're fuck buddies.
So how would you describe someone who is trying to force their fb to do something that they don’t want to do, then having a meltdown and saying hurtful and abusive things to their fb and then when they still couldn’t get their way decided to end their fb relationship/agreement?
If it looks like a duck and quacks....."
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
She sounds a real catch !
It’s often in the hard / bad times that others real character can emerge. Whether or not she chooses to listen to the advice to stay in (she should) , she most definitely should be considerate enough to your decisions especially if she is in some form of relationship with you.
Don’t worry about it OP , when this is all over and her message of hopeful reconciliation drops in your inbox tell her to f**k off
This is the time for you to strike up friendships to explore later online with whilst sat indoors |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go
He said he wasn’t expecting sympathy....
He sure ain’t got it from you. Nice "
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By (user no longer on site)
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She is clearly a cunt OP. Better off well out of that from sounds of it 
Focus thoughts and march onwards. Always more people to meet in life. Never look backwards only forward 
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Cabin fever + sexual frustrations can do a lot to someone. I wouldn't take it too much to heart.
Best concentrate on the future. Look for someone new as as a FB. You are doing the right thing, however hard it seems at the moment.
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone. "
She can go get fucked. She's a selfish, stupid fuck wit mate. Better off without her  |
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"My long term fb dumped me last night after I refused to meet her. She is not staying at home due to coronavirus but I’m doing exactly that and not seeing anyone not even my children. She said some awful things about me, which were extremely hurtful and has knocked my confidence, I’m on the floor atm. Not after sympathy just reassurance that I got off lightly. I’m hoping when the coronavirus is over my confidence is restored and I can go to clubs again. Stay safe everyone.
Not sure what your expecting, you wasn't married to her or in a relationship. Easy come easy go "
Hope you're okay, but sadly this, FB is just that, don't mix Business with pleasure |
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Ffs this thread is like a witch hunt on an unknown woman who could be a member here.
Fab has become like a pack of baying wolves, or judge, jury and executioner with only one side of the story being told.
Shame on you name callers! Those without sin and all that.
I applaud those who have managed to give support to the OP without falling to crowd hysteria and slating the woman. |
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"If anyone knows of any FBs that are taking on or taking apprenticeships then do me a favour and put my name forward for me 
Apprentice FB’s on the government scheme? Lol. "
Yeh like a two year apprentice or something ha ha |
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