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"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?" I have been known to drop a message first yes. | |||
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"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?" I rarely message anyone first and I have had many interesting conversations on fab. | |||
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"If I come across a profile that interests me and I think he could possibly be a potential future meet I will absolutely send the first message. "I’m with you on that one, I am more than happy to message the same with any messaging though, it can be either of us doing it  xx | |||
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"I'm not afraid to message anyone, but it's not necessarily down to finding them attractive. " I assume everyone finds me attractive until they make it obvious otherwise. Am hot stuff, though... sizzle sizzle.  | |||
"I'm not afraid to message anyone, but it's not necessarily down to finding them attractive. Could be something they said in the forum, made me laugh or whatever. I also fab pics because I like the pic, not necessarily because I fancy them. Unfortunately their ego fails to understand this I feel.... "I think most men on here have their egos shredded pretty quickly... | |||
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"Yeah it's possible. It's so exciting to see a little yellow box. " Feel like it's my birthday when it happened out if the blue. I think she was fake but it was still a moment lol. But you know women are waiters and men are chasers. | |||
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"I (Mrs Legin) Edit, put the movies and pictures up and answer the messages, Essentially this is my profile xx "At what a Good job you do I must say | |||
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I wish people would actually read my profile and not message me but wishful thinking.
I wink loads of people all the time because I've got fat fingers  I do wish they'd either move it or ask for a confirmation 
I don't use winks other than in error | |||
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"I’ve sent the first message twice, when I saw someone had looked or winked and their profiles interested me. One didn’t reply, the other turned out to be a mistake." That's rotten luck...dont give up ! | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?" I never message first, don't think anyone would be interested | |||
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"I’ve sent the first message twice, when I saw someone had looked or winked and their profiles interested me. One didn’t reply, the other turned out to be a mistake. That's rotten luck...dont give up !" Not getting a reply doesn’t bother me, not when it’s an initial message. The other one bothered me more, it’s a bit rubbish putting time and effort into someone only to find they’re a bit of a dick. But I suppose it’s better to get the red flags before you meet someone! | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ? I never message first, don't think anyone would be interested " seriously? If only we were closer and I didnt smoke etc... | |||
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"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence" Depends how good the fencepost is  | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ? I never message first, don't think anyone would be interested "You'll never know unless you message someone! | |||
"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence" Too right after all it's 2020 not 1920.. grab it by the balls. | |||
"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence Too right after all it's 2020 not 1920.. grab it by the balls. " oh crap, I've slept in for work | |||
"I send first messages. Life is too short to sit on the fence"  | |||
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"I (Mrs Legin) Edit, put the movies and pictures up and answer the messages, Essentially this is my profile xx
At what a Good job you do I must say "Thank you xx | |||
"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
"Its difficult for them not to drown in a sea of faf messages from idiots, losers and desperados... sorry ladies I'll stop pestering you | |||
"Mrs will more than happily message someone who catches her eye, has led to lots of fun Mr. "Us too as my (Mrs) account | |||
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"If your profile intrigues me and I’m in the right mood..yes, I’ll send a message. However, it’s a very rare occurrence "This | |||
"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
"How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with. | |||
"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
Its difficult for them not to drown in a sea of faf messages from idiots, losers and desperados... sorry ladies I'll stop pestering you "Our cream should rise to the top | |||
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"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with."Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man. | |||
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. If you are one of the best ones but haven’t found me before, bows as good a time as any.... | |||
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"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.
Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man. "Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy. | |||
"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.
Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.
Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy."It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol. How many men have you messaged? | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?" Nope, no woman looks for meets themselves. They all sit their hoping an email will come in. Of course some women look for their own meets. | |||
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"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.
Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.
Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.
It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.
How many men have you messaged? "You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples. As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread. | |||
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A lot of men - virtually always men who message me - seem to believe that any form of conversation means that I'm interested. WRONG.
I almost never initiate - I get enough going on as is. | |||
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"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?" I’ve received opening messages from ladies and couples, and I never think twice about messaging a profile I like the look and sound of, and it appears we could be a potential match. There are so many great people to meet in here, it’s far easier to find a match than the “hard graft” an evening in a club as a single guy usually is | |||
"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.
Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.
Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.
It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.
How many men have you messaged?
You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples.
As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread."I'm not rude. That's just my opinion from reading through the thread. You said you have a 100% failure rate when you have messaged first. "not so different to a single guy" But you have only messaged 2! guys and you heard back from one of them. You can't compare that to a single man. You also said.. "Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples" I wouldnt receive thousands of messages if I lived my life ten times over lol I think 8 meets in the 10 months since you've been here is a lot. I know most of the attention ladies receive is unwanted attention but I stand by what I said about it being easier for women to meet men than it is for men to meet women. Especially after reading what you have written, that confirms it even more. | |||
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"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.
Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.
Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.
It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.
How many men have you messaged?
You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples.
As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread.
I'm not rude. That's just my opinion from reading through the thread.
You said you have a 100% failure rate when you have messaged first.
"not so different to a single guy"
But you have only messaged 2! guys and you heard back from one of them. You can't compare that to a single man.
You also said..
"Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples"
I wouldnt receive thousands of messages if I lived my life ten times over lol I think 8 meets in the 10 months since you've been here is a lot.
I know most of the attention ladies receive is unwanted attention but I stand by what I said about it being easier for women to meet men than it is for men to meet women. Especially after reading what you have written, that confirms it even more.
"Believe whatever you like. You clearly have a chip on your shoulder, but whether it’s about women on Fab generally or me in particular I have no idea. You seem very keen to make out that your experience on Fab is so hard and awful, but from what I’ve seen you don’t do anything to make it better for yourself. Yes, I’ve only messaged 2 guys. Yes one of them replied. Turned out to be a demanding creep who was using 10 year old photos to look more attractive. I’d rather not get a reply at all than get one that wastes so much time. You’ve misunderstood my point about numbers of meets as well. What I said is I’ve chosen to meet 8 out of 1,000s - some of those have turned into multiple meets, and I’ve also met people I didn’t choose myself. My point is that out of so many messages I’ve chosen to meet a tiny percentage of them. Wading through so many terrible messages to find those few people isn’t easy. To get back to OP’s topic, part of why I don’t message first is that I don’t have time to go hunting through profiles and sending messages. I don’t rule out sending the first message in the future, but I prefer not to. It’s much harder to get rid of people when they turn out not to be what you hoped if you make the first move. | |||
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"This thread confirms to me how easy it is for women to meet men and yet some women say its difficult.
How does it confirm that? Anyway, it’s only easy to meet men if you don’t care about things like attraction and actually getting on with someone. It’s much more difficult if we want someone we actually fancy, like enough to want to spend time with, and think we’ll actually have fun with.
Surely you have more chance of finding that than a single man.
Probably, yes, but I still don’t see how this thread confirms that it’s easy for us. If you think it’s easier for us when we message first, it might be for some but for me, I have a 100% failure rate when I’ve messaged first - not so different to a single guy.
It is easier if you message first or never. A woman will always recieve interest. I don't know what you don't get here. It's a no brainer lol.
How many men have you messaged?
You’re a bit rude, aren’t you. You originally stated that *this thread* confirms how easy it is for women, but you haven’t explained in spite of me asking *how* this specific thread confirms that. Yes, we always receive interest, but for me about 95% of the messages I get are somewhere between pointless and disgusting. Just because I get a lot of interest doesn’t mean that equals a lot of meets. Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples.
As for how many men I’ve messaged, I said that earlier in the thread.
I'm not rude. That's just my opinion from reading through the thread.
You said you have a 100% failure rate when you have messaged first.
"not so different to a single guy"
But you have only messaged 2! guys and you heard back from one of them. You can't compare that to a single man.
You also said..
"Out of the 1,000s of messages I’ve had since I joined, I’ve only chosen to meet 8 people/couples"
I wouldnt receive thousands of messages if I lived my life ten times over lol I think 8 meets in the 10 months since you've been here is a lot.
I know most of the attention ladies receive is unwanted attention but I stand by what I said about it being easier for women to meet men than it is for men to meet women. Especially after reading what you have written, that confirms it even more.
Believe whatever you like. You clearly have a chip on your shoulder, but whether it’s about women on Fab generally or me in particular I have no idea.
You seem very keen to make out that your experience on Fab is so hard and awful, but from what I’ve seen you don’t do anything to make it better for yourself.
Yes, I’ve only messaged 2 guys. Yes one of them replied. Turned out to be a demanding creep who was using 10 year old photos to look more attractive. I’d rather not get a reply at all than get one that wastes so much time.
You’ve misunderstood my point about numbers of meets as well. What I said is I’ve chosen to meet 8 out of 1,000s - some of those have turned into multiple meets, and I’ve also met people I didn’t choose myself. My point is that out of so many messages I’ve chosen to meet a tiny percentage of them. Wading through so many terrible messages to find those few people isn’t easy.
To get back to OP’s topic, part of why I don’t message first is that I don’t have time to go hunting through profiles and sending messages. I don’t rule out sending the first message in the future, but I prefer not to. It’s much harder to get rid of people when they turn out not to be what you hoped if you make the first move."No chips here and I have nothing against anyone. I was just saying it how I see it and I didn't misunderstand your point about number of meets. | |||
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"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ?" The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages | |||
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"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real! Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%. " Lol, everyone uses lol Lol | |||
"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real! Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%. Lol, everyone uses lol Lol" Hence that factors out a lot Its my hard limit. | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ? The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages "Can you see me lol..yep I certainly am | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ? The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages "What do you expect us to do? Cook? | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ? The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages
What do you expect us to do? Cook?"Don't be ridiculous that would be so sexist
And anyway you should be to busy cleaning to cook | |||
"Do men have to do the hard graft or do any women actually drop messages first ? The women of fab are to busy eating cake to send messages
What do you expect us to do? Cook?
Don't be ridiculous that would be so sexist
And anyway you should be to busy cleaning to cook "All the while dressed in lingerie, eating cake twiddling our thumbs, letting you beefcakes come to us. Oh it's a hard life. | |||
"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real! Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%. " Says the faceless profile, not sure you can really complain about the standard of message and conversation you receive, given your profile.. those in glass houses | |||
"As I'm only here out of curiosity, i didn't feel it my place to message anyone but did message one who looked ridiculously hot and I thought can't be real! Mostly gets loads of messages but just chat to those who can converse properly and don't use the term 'lol' which already factors out 85%. Says the faceless profile, not sure you can really complain about the standard of message and conversation you receive, given your profile.. those in glass houses" I'm not complaining at all. I actually get quite a few messages and I'm happy to share pics early on if there is a click. 'Lol' is just one thing that gets on my wick. | |||
"Always me F ,as hubby has less time and patience than i do ... "I think with most couples I have met it's the lady that drives the account..and runs things by hubby to get agreement...seems to be my impression as a single guy .. | |||
"Always me F ,as hubby has less time and patience than i do ...
I think with most couples I have met it's the lady that drives the account..and runs things by hubby to get agreement...seems to be my impression as a single guy .."I’m not so sure as I find that most are run by the husband...not mine of course but others | |||
