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Dom/sub or master/slut
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"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom" This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling | |||
"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling " 
Totally agree with that a sub/dom is more of a relationship and the dynamics must be there for it to work.
A master/slut involves being ordered about and carrying out tasks etc | |||
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"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling " totally agree. Rough sex may be an element of your play together but a Dom/sub relationship is so much more than that | |||
"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling " So true. Too many so called Dom's think the sub is to use her and nothing else. Being violent and abusive that's not what dom/sub is about. There is more to it then just the sex side of things. And it's about both parties enjoying them else. | |||
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"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling
Totally agree with that a sub/dom is more of a relationship and the dynamics must be there for it to work.
A master/slut involves being ordered about and carrying out tasks etc"Not accurate in our opinion - a submissive can be ordered about and carry out tasks. But those instructions/obedience are based on the sub giving the gift of themselves and their trust to the Dom. And the orders/tasks are NEVER anything that the Sub would find unpleasant/not want to do or damaging either physically or mentally to the Sub. | |||
"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling
Totally agree with that a sub/dom is more of a relationship and the dynamics must be there for it to work.
A master/slut involves being ordered about and carrying out tasks etc
Not accurate in our opinion - a submissive can be ordered about and carry out tasks. But those instructions/obedience are based on the sub giving the gift of themselves and their trust to the Dom. And the orders/tasks are NEVER anything that the Sub would find unpleasant/not want to do or damaging either physically or mentally to the Sub. "That is why boundaries are discussed and a trust needs to be built up....Its defiantly not about being bullied of feeling unomfortable. Its all about fun and pleasure | |||
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"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom" 100% agree a lot of people can’t comprehend that concept | |||
"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling " There is a massive amount of responsibility on the “Dom” , many don’t realise the comedown and aftercare involved with certain dynamics | |||
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"Standards. Morals and kink level. Subs have the control More control than a dom This - submission is a gift given to the Dom to be cherished , protected and never abused. Too many “Doms” don’t understand that. They don’t realise that the dynamic is very cerebral - they think it’s just about ordering the sub around and the physical side - that’s not a Dom/Sub relationship (and relationship is the key word!) , it’s being controlling totally agree. Rough sex may be an element of your play together but a Dom/sub relationship is so much more than that" Dominant sex doesn’t even have be rough. I love being sexually dominant with someone I don’t know that well, and there’s that interesting dynamic of sensual dominance, advancing, eye contact and other subtle communications where you’re investigating and building trust | |||
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"People confuse sub/Dom with just rough sex " They do. The amount of “subs” I’ve seen asking for a Dom/Domme and making a big thing out of wanting to be humiliated or rough play. That’s fine, it’s what they want, but sadly it makes people not into the scene think that’s what it’s all about. It’s not. It’s so much more than that. For me personally, it’s more about a meeting of minds. I never felt a need to be a sub, I was always more dominant, in fact I was a Domme in my relationship with my ex bf for over two years. I never hurt him physically or demanded rough sex, as that was never what it was about. There was a lot of age play involved, but I drew the line at the mummy stuff as that’s a kink I’m not into. It was more about me being in control of him and fulfilling his needs. We spoke and met up for months before sleeping together, and built up that trust. Our first date was a private session in a dungeon, haha x The amount of time’s I’ve been asked to be a findom is insane! Always said no, as again not for me. What I find interesting is the amount of people who actively seek a Domme. Just yesterday I had a message on my insta asking if I wanted a slave. Err, no, haha, as there has to be a build up of trust where I’m concerned. Don’t just ask me to own you! I’m submissive to Inked as I choose to be, there was just something about him that tapped into that side of me. However, I don’t think I could be with anyone else, and have told a number of people I’m not interested, as I have no need to be a sub. It’s not naturally within me to give over that much control to someone else. It’s not a mindset that I have. It’s the man, not the role, and I think it’s why we work, as we both know what the other likes, and where there is something I’m not that fussed about, he doesn’t demand I do it, as he’s not about breaking me down until there’s nothing left of me but submission, as that’s just abuse and any Dom/Domme who abuses that trust is simply a control freak and narcissistic in my opinion. But, as with anything, it’s all subjective and personal to that person. What works for some doesn’t work for others, but as long as there’s trust and respect it’s all good. Sorry for waffling x Viv x | |||
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"People confuse sub/Dom with just rough sex They do. The amount of “subs” I’ve seen asking for a Dom/Domme and making a big thing out of wanting to be humiliated or rough play. That’s fine, it’s what they want, but sadly it makes people not into the scene think that’s what it’s all about. It’s not. It’s so much more than that. For me personally, it’s more about a meeting of minds. I never felt a need to be a sub, I was always more dominant, in fact I was a Domme in my relationship with my ex bf for over two years. I never hurt him physically or demanded rough sex, as that was never what it was about. There was a lot of age play involved, but I drew the line at the mummy stuff as that’s a kink I’m not into. It was more about me being in control of him and fulfilling his needs. We spoke and met up for months before sleeping together, and built up that trust. Our first date was a private session in a dungeon, haha x The amount of time’s I’ve been asked to be a findom is insane! Always said no, as again not for me. What I find interesting is the amount of people who actively seek a Domme. Just yesterday I had a message on my insta asking if I wanted a slave. Err, no, haha, as there has to be a build up of trust where I’m concerned. Don’t just ask me to own you! I’m submissive to Inked as I choose to be, there was just something about him that tapped into that side of me. However, I don’t think I could be with anyone else, and have told a number of people I’m not interested, as I have no need to be a sub. It’s not naturally within me to give over that much control to someone else. It’s not a mindset that I have. It’s the man, not the role, and I think it’s why we work, as we both know what the other likes, and where there is something I’m not that fussed about, he doesn’t demand I do it, as he’s not about breaking me down until there’s nothing left of me but submission, as that’s just abuse and any Dom/Domme who abuses that trust is simply a control freak and narcissistic in my opinion. But, as with anything, it’s all subjective and personal to that person. What works for some doesn’t work for others, but as long as there’s trust and respect it’s all good. Sorry for waffling x Viv x" I would say we share the same opinions , not saying anyone else is wrong as it’s all subjective , thank you for sharing that with us x | |||
"A domme requests. A mistress orders." Yes totally agree xx | |||
