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"I've always adopted a live and let live approach to kink. Once it's safe, sane, and consensual I don't care. But when does kink shaming become an appropriate response? Or does it ever? For context, I got asked if it was weird that me being deaf was a turn on. I responded honestly and said I did feel a bit weird about it. I do feel a little odd having something I consider a disability be a turn on for someone else but I also feel that my reply was at odds with my usual tolerance for others kinks and preferences. I'm not self conscious about my hearing, I'm very honest and open and I'll answer any questions I'm asked. So it got me wondering why I'm feeling so unusual about this. I'd love to know others thoughts on this. Also posted this in the Irish forum but I've never posted here so... "I would also find it weird in your place. I personally feel that fetishising a person for a physical characteristic is pretty gross and not ok - though I’ll probably get attacked now as everyone screams “it’s a preference!!” I find it icky enough when people fetishise me for my age, my sexual orientation or my hair colour, so in my opinion to say a disability is a turn-on is beyond weird and honestly not really acceptable. It’s also not kinkshaming for you to say you feel weird about it - I’d say your right to not be made uncomfortable about being deaf is more important than any right they may have to express something like that. | |||
