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So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. |
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. "
Identify what about it is causing anxiety - performance, fear of "accidental" bi-ness, not getting hard,all or any of the above? Or is it something else entirely? Work out what you need in place to feel less worried. Is a hard limits conversation needed?
A threesome is just a twosome with 1 extra person - by which I mean it's just sex, usual rules apply, but people can build it up to be more in their heads (something that always surprises me until I remember that I had my 1st threesome at 18)
Oh and stay sober
Have fun
Ms Icebreaker
Xxx
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing.
Identify what about it is causing anxiety - performance, fear of "accidental" bi-ness, not getting hard,all or any of the above? Or is it something else entirely? Work out what you need in place to feel less worried. Is a hard limits conversation needed?
A threesome is just a twosome with 1 extra person - by which I mean it's just sex, usual rules apply, but people can build it up to be more in their heads (something that always surprises me until I remember that I had my 1st threesome at 18)
Oh and stay sober
Have fun
Ms Icebreaker
Xxx
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thanks. I am driving so no drink involved at all. I think it is all of the above. Probably because it will be a new experience for me is why i am nervous. I will try not to build it up too much. |
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing.
Identify what about it is causing anxiety - performance, fear of "accidental" bi-ness, not getting hard,all or any of the above? Or is it something else entirely? Work out what you need in place to feel less worried. Is a hard limits conversation needed?
A threesome is just a twosome with 1 extra person - by which I mean it's just sex, usual rules apply, but people can build it up to be more in their heads (something that always surprises me until I remember that I had my 1st threesome at 18)
Oh and stay sober
Have fun
Ms Icebreaker
Xxx
thanks. I am driving so no drink involved at all. I think it is all of the above. Probably because it will be a new experience for me is why i am nervous. I will try not to build it up too much. "
Hope you enjoy it. A mmf threesome is my favourite combination. |
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First our first mmf, we chatted with the guy beforehand and said what we all wanted and didn't want; this helped as we all knew how we wanted it to play out and there were no surprises or annoyance. Himself wanted to meet the guy initially (a quick hi and hand shake), before he left me and the guy alone to start the fun. Himself then came back a few mins later and joined in. This seemed to be a great way to go about it for us and all had fun.
Remember, they want you there so be confident. Also, they'll want to make sure you feel as comfortable and included as possible. The experience is for all three of you so enjoy it.
Have a great night. Mrs x |
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"First our first mmf, we chatted with the guy beforehand and said what we all wanted and didn't want; this helped as we all knew how we wanted it to play out and there were no surprises or annoyance. Himself wanted to meet the guy initially (a quick hi and hand shake), before he left me and the guy alone to start the fun. Himself then came back a few mins later and joined in. This seemed to be a great way to go about it for us and all had fun.
Remember, they want you there so be confident. Also, they'll want to make sure you feel as comfortable and included as possible. The experience is for all three of you so enjoy it.
Have a great night. Mrs x "
. Thanks, im feeling more relaxed already.  |
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. "
Nerves are perfectly normal. I(Bex) still get nerves even after 14 years in this lifestyle. Our first mmf the guy was super nervous. Like someone else mentioned you've met one half before so that will help massively. Relax, go with the flow and enjoy. |
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I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out."
If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things |
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out.
If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things"
I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out.
If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things
I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario."
Oh yea very threatened. You have no chance winding us up, to laid back for that. Only thing I'd say is, if someone blocks someone out that doesn't sound very respectful thing to do.  |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out.
If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things
I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario.
Oh yea very threatened. You have no chance winding us up, to laid back for that. Only thing I'd say is, if someone blocks someone out that doesn't sound very respectful thing to do. "
I obviously took what was said differently to you. I think it was meant from a completely straight perspective as in he doesn’t have to worry about you, except from the point of you both pleasuring the lady and getting pleasure yourself from that |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. "
Just remember the biology and effect of nerves and anxiety, is almost identical to excitement and arrousal, tell yourself what you’re actually feeling is excitement, someone taught me this a long time ago it’s a meditation I often use in business , but it works in any setting , read up on the biology it helps |
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"I would just focus on the lady. That’s what they want you to do anyway and also it will stop you getting put off by her husband/boyfriend. As long as you aren’t rude to the guy then you can nearly block him out.
If I, Mr B, felt I was getting blocked out, the play would stop immediately. We are a couple and would want the respect we give to others. We've had a few 3 some's mfm and ffm and every time we communicate between the 3 of us on an equal footing. OP go and just relax, have a good chat before play starts and you will be just fine. Enjoy the experience and don't overthink things
I didn’t suggest he disrespects anyone, quite the opposite in fact. You sound a bit threatened in this scenario.
Oh yea very threatened. You have no chance winding us up, to laid back for that. Only thing I'd say is, if someone blocks someone out that doesn't sound very respectful thing to do.
I obviously took what was said differently to you. I think it was meant from a completely straight perspective as in he doesn’t have to worry about you, except from the point of you both pleasuring the lady and getting pleasure yourself from that"
Exactly this. Thank you |
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Threesome - I will be honest - I've never had a threesome in any shape or form.
however; my Bi-Female FWB would happily let a Bi FM join us (I think)..
She's done it and openly says "done that - not too bothered about it now"...
I haven't and It's probably on the top of my bucket list...
I guess I am definitely missing out?
(Please say no - otherwise the fantasy will only get too much for me!)  |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"Also don’t freak out if cocks touch ...
It happens  "
Mrs F loves putting 2 cocks in her mouth. I know when she's going to do it as she looks up at me with a very naughty look almost sniggering. She's a very naughty girl  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not yet. It is oossibly happening monday. Eeeek. "
Oh cool. Let your body just get excited for it now. It's an unreal experience. Let us know how you get on. Mrs x |
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. "
Just relax and go with the flow. Set boundaries before you meet so nobody does anything that will spoil the mood.
Don't have a few drinks (or anything else) to calm nerves. |
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. "
Viagra to stay a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Understandable. Yes will rearange when the world returns to normal. "
Pity, but yeah, understandable. You'll be mad for it then and no worries, lol. Mrs x |
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I’ve only ever had them from nights out in town so obviously lots of drink involved (not saying you should do this by the way) lol but best bit of advice is to not let it get in your head about ‘performance’ if you know what I mean. Enjoy it and just go with the flow. It’s great fun trust me! |
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By *aney BCouple
over a year ago
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We had our first threesome last week.i was proper nervous like you wouldent belive but me and j met our new friend for a quick drink and a chat first then went to our hotel room and had a fantastic time.everything felt so normal and relaxed we can’t wait for the next time now?? |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"So i have been invited to join a couple. I have played with the lady before and it was great. Thing is i have never had a threesome and am slightly shitting myself. Any tip on pre meet relaxion. Or am i worried about nothing. "
You should never be nervous about having great sex with a couple. |
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