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Why is it hard to meet
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"
Hard to say without knowing what you're doing.
So.
What are you doing?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"
maybe, you're bi with a male veri and you dont accom and dont explain why and you have very little profile info and your profile is your advert, these are all contributing factors to your lack of success as a guy    |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrongmaybe, you're bi with a male veri and you dont accom and dont explain why and you have very little profile info and your profile is your advert, these are all contributing factors to your lack of success as a guy "
ok thanks I will redo my profile and put more about myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So basically I have no hope lol"
I wouldn't go that far.
But you do have to put the effort in, sell yourself on your profile, do a detailed bio, put up some tasteful pics. Interact in the forums, and the now very classic... Visit some clubs. |
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"So you think I should a new profile"
The total lack of punctuation in anything you've typed so far is not a good omen...
Looking at your profile you need to rewrite it completely, and actually say something interesting about yourself, in proper English. |
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I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!
I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.
I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!
People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.
If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.
And that....is my simple take on it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So basically I have no hope lol
I wouldn't go that far.
But you do have to put the effort in, sell yourself on your profile, do a detailed bio, put up some tasteful pics. Interact in the forums, and the now very classic... Visit some clubs. "
I was thinking about going to some clubs what a bit nervous to go on my own |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So you think I should a new profile
The total lack of punctuation in anything you've typed so far is not a good omen...
Looking at your profile you need to rewrite it completely, and actually say something interesting about yourself, in proper English."
thanks i will change my profile and put more stuff about myself and the stuff that I am interested in thanks |
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
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"I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!
I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.
I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!
People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.
If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.
And that....is my simple take on it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember that women and couples on here get hundreds of messages a day, if not more. It’s easy for you to go unnoticed, unless you’re noticeable.
I’m not, for instance. For professional reasons, I don’t have public photos. So I don’t expect someone to pick my message out of a haystack. If they do, I try to say something which will make them want to reply. This is done by reading profiles; not by sending ‘wanna fuck?’ Or dick pics, or copy paste messages.
Honestly, I suggest going to clubs. There you can meet plenty of people, build a rapport and build your friends list, which makes things much easier. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Remember that women and couples on here get hundreds of messages a day, if not more. It’s easy for you to go unnoticed, unless you’re noticeable.
I’m not, for instance. For professional reasons, I don’t have public photos. So I don’t expect someone to pick my message out of a haystack. If they do, I try to say something which will make them want to reply. This is done by reading profiles; not by sending ‘wanna fuck?’ Or dick pics, or copy paste messages.
Honestly, I suggest going to clubs. There you can meet plenty of people, build a rapport and build your friends list, which makes things much easier. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!
I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.
I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!
People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.
If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.
And that....is my simple take on it.
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sounds very similar to my take on been on fab. |
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"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"
Getting really fed up of these threads to go look at the non existing profile try doing a profile search and use the millions of advice already available that the men dont seem to use.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people you message will check out your profile before even considering reading what you've sent them. If they're not impressed with your profile, which is, to be fair, pretty bland, then they won't bother with your message.
There is tons of advice that's been given over the years and available in the forum. See what has been suggested to others, who, as it's been said, rarely take that advice on board.
These sorts of threads are becomming more 'look at me' threads than genunes appeals for advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!
I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.
I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!
People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.
If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.
And that....is my simple take on it. "
I love this analogy! 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"
What you're doing wrong, and so am I incidentally, is just being one single male among tens of thousands of others, so the odds of getting a favourable outcome are vanishingly slight for any given approach.
Do as I do - be patient, keep trying and resolve yourself to the likelihood of dying a born-again virgin |
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