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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol "
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. "
I'm sure there is babes job at not found them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them"
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun  |
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun "
Totally this ^^^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^"
But SheDevil is ok   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men ok pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun "
ok thanks for info x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like Lorna’s got a bot of a thing for you mate, i’ll leave you two lovebirds to it
No I just don't like people taking the piss! "
Lighten up Lorna, no need to get your knickers in a twist  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seems like Lorna’s got a bot of a thing for you mate, i’ll leave you two lovebirds to it
No I just don't like people taking the piss! "
this guy a joker LMAo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like Lorna’s got a bot of a thing for you mate, i’ll leave you two lovebirds to it
No I just don't like people taking the piss!
Lighten up Lorna, no need to get your knickers in a twist "
Stop being so rude.
You are ridiculeing the OP and it's not necessary.
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^
But SheDevil is ok "
Yes ofcourse  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like Lorna’s got a bot of a thing for you mate, i’ll leave you two lovebirds to it
No I just don't like people taking the piss! this guy a joker LMAo"
You will find most people on the forums are lovely but there is always a few that like to take a thread over.
You keep posting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like Lorna’s got a bot of a thing for you mate, i’ll leave you two lovebirds to it
No I just don't like people taking the piss!
Lighten up Lorna, no need to get your knickers in a twist
Stop being so rude.
You are ridiculeing the OP and it's not necessary.
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Oh wow! Unfounded accusations as well, you can at least turn your siren on next time you sneak up on me officer!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^"
Out of interest.... To both you and lorna, what should men use as term?
Not that hat I've used babe, and hate hun.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^
Out of interest.... To both you and lorna, what should men use as term?
Not that hat I've used babe, and hate hun. "
What do you normally use when talking women?
I hardly ever have men call me babe or hun in my day to day life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block men from messaging. Look at a few male profiles from the forums to get an idea of really good profiles, spell check, grammar check and take some good photos. Put effort in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^
Out of interest.... To both you and lorna, what should men use as term?
Not that hat I've used babe, and hate hun.
What do you normally use when talking women?
I hardly ever have men call me babe or hun in my day to day life. "
always do use babe suppose it's just me x |
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"Seems like Lorna’s got a bot of a thing for you mate, i’ll leave you two lovebirds to it
No I just don't like people taking the piss!
Lighten up Lorna, no need to get your knickers in a twist
Stop being so rude.
You are ridiculeing the OP and it's not necessary.
Oh wow! Unfounded accusations as well, you can at least turn your siren on next time you sneak up on me officer! "
Now that's funny, I'm stealing it.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have posts been removed from this thread whose ridiculing who"
The OP has two threads and the same person has been unhelpful on both. And taking the piss because Iv tried to help the OP.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Block men from messaging. Look at a few male profiles from the forums to get an idea of really good profiles, spell check, grammar check and take some good photos. Put effort in."
yeah I need to take some better piks and that and just be patient you never know
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^
Out of interest.... To both you and lorna, what should men use as term?
Not that hat I've used babe, and hate hun. "
Oi sexy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^
Out of interest.... To both you and lorna, what should men use as term?
Not that hat I've used babe, and hate hun.
What do you normally use when talking women?
I hardly ever have men call me babe or hun in my day to day life. "
generally use there name I guess. Last gf called everyone darling. So I never used that.
Maybe gorgeous... |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^
Out of interest.... To both you and lorna, what should men use as term?
Not that hat I've used babe, and hate hun. "
Don't use anything. You don't need to say someone's 'name' when you speak to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Block men from messaging. Look at a few male profiles from the forums to get an idea of really good profiles, spell check, grammar check and take some good photos. Put effort in.yeah I need to take some better piks and that and just be patient you never know"
Your pictures aren't bad but maybe more of a veriaty. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
OP first up you've only been here a short time - so if your expectations were that it was going to be as simple as signing in to get to meet people then you might need to reset those expectations.
Contrary to what some might say, IF you go the right way about the site, adopt the right approach, attitude and expectations, along with a well thought out and written profile and decent pics, it doesn't have to be hard and whilst it won't guarantee anything it will certainly make your experience of the site a better one.
It really is down to you to find the formula that works for you though, but there are more ways than just blindly messaging people to approach the site - the forums and the chat rooms are a good way to get to know people and them you, likewise clubs and group socials.
I would say this though, if you think of it as "hard work" that's exactly how it will seem - lower the expectations and adopt the right attitude and approach and it won't seem hard at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jesus people are just weird out for jokes when people are actually trying meet someone not just fuk ote"
Your pics are fine you seem like a good looking dude, just don't have your tongue out all the time and maybe spend a bit more time spell checking your profile and correcting your grammar.
Last time I checked "easygoing" is 2 words and there's no such word as "ar".
My grammar and spelling sucks too but what the fuck you asked for advice.
Don't take anyone else advice because Fab is a numbers game and eventually you'll get a meet just write more about yourself.
It just takes time and effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have posts been removed from this thread whose ridiculing who
The OP has two threads and the same person has been unhelpful on both. And taking the piss because Iv tried to help the OP.
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Hahahaha unhelpful...like I’m paid to be here or something. Come on now Lorna, stop with this nonsense  |
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"Block men from messaging. Look at a few male profiles from the forums to get an idea of really good profiles, spell check, grammar check and take some good photos. Put effort in.yeah I need to take some better piks and that and just be patient you never know"
you need to write a profile and take better pictures tongue out photos are not very appealing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s not enough woman for all the guys on here, so they end up just wanting to fuck other guys lol. That’s why you’ll get loads of messages from guys, but as someone said just block them... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There’s not enough woman for all the guys on here, so they end up just wanting to fuck other guys lol. That’s why you’ll get loads of messages from guys, but as someone said just block them... "
I have didn't realise I could
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And there was me thinking “sugar tits” was perfectly acceptable
OP - treat this place like a bar, there’s no way I would use babe or hun on a first interaction, tbh I’m not sure I’ve called anyone that in my life.
Profile/photos wise you have around 3 or 4 seconds to catch someone’s eye with your pics to entice them into reading your bio, would you want to meet you with your current offering?
Time is key, politeness and non sexual messages (to begin with) go along way into getting a response. |
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Ok I would change pics as girls said tongue away will help.
also noticed no mention on wife on profile if u do a forum on ur marriage then not mention it in profile puts people off as hiding something.
Effort and time will tell talk more in forums helps get face out there.
Don’t just expect sex on here don’t happen just like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And there was me thinking “sugar tits” was perfectly acceptable
OP - treat this place like a bar, there’s no way I would use babe or hun on a first interaction, tbh I’m not sure I’ve called anyone that in my life.
Profile/photos wise you have around 3 or 4 seconds to catch someone’s eye with your pics to entice them into reading your bio, would you want to meet you with your current offering?
Time is key, politeness and non sexual messages (to begin with) go along way into getting a response."
Yeah like a bar is a good one, you wouldn't stroll into a bar and expect sex or even a free drink - get to know people, post, reply, listen and learn, flirt, buy people from north london drinks, stuff like that x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm from Burton on Trent so will struggle to buy a drink in london
I'm from London and struggle to buy a drink in London. "
if I was in London I'd love buy you a drink |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And there was me thinking “sugar tits” was perfectly acceptable
OP - treat this place like a bar, there’s no way I would use babe or hun on a first interaction, tbh I’m not sure I’ve called anyone that in my life.
Profile/photos wise you have around 3 or 4 seconds to catch someone’s eye with your pics to entice them into reading your bio, would you want to meet you with your current offering?
Time is key, politeness and non sexual messages (to begin with) go along way into getting a response.
Yeah like a bar is a good one, you wouldn't stroll into a bar and expect sex or even a free drink - get to know people, post, reply, listen and learn, flirt, buy people from north london drinks, stuff like that x"
You see this is. Fab all over.
The guy who says treat it like a bar has 16 verifacations.
You have 2.
Who do listen too?
I'm in Carlisle, I'm lucky if I've chatted to 16 people in over a year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm from Burton on Trent so will struggle to buy a drink in london
I'm from London and struggle to buy a drink in London. "
We could be neighbours Lorna, how about i buy you a drink & we have some make up sex? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Listen pal I'm just trying to get some help and u are not helping
Apologies Dave...I’m not here to help, well...not you anyway "
so get if my feed then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Listen pal I'm just trying to get some help and u are not helping
Apologies Dave...I’m not here to help, well...not you anyway "
Your not helping yourself. |
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"Listen pal I'm just trying to get some help and u are not helping
Apologies Dave...I’m not here to help, well...not you anyway so get if my feed then"
people can post where they like as long as they dont break the rules you have no control over that |
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"Listen pal I'm just trying to get some help and u are not helping
Apologies Dave...I’m not here to help, well...not you anyway
Your not helping yourself. "
He doesn’t seem to be listening to what we put or getting forum set up always gunna be banter in with advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Listen pal I'm just trying to get some help and u are not helping
Apologies Dave...I’m not here to help, well...not you anyway
Your not helping yourself. "
Oh believe me i am! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP - you have been given plenty of advice, it’s up to now to take it or not.
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ok I have taken it gonna change piks tomorrow morning and have a good tidy up |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"And there was me thinking “sugar tits” was perfectly acceptable
OP - treat this place like a bar, there’s no way I would use babe or hun on a first interaction, tbh I’m not sure I’ve called anyone that in my life.
Profile/photos wise you have around 3 or 4 seconds to catch someone’s eye with your pics to entice them into reading your bio, would you want to meet you with your current offering?
Time is key, politeness and non sexual messages (to begin with) go along way into getting a response.
Yeah like a bar is a good one, you wouldn't stroll into a bar and expect sex or even a free drink - get to know people, post, reply, listen and learn, flirt, buy people from north london drinks, stuff like that x
You see this is. Fab all over.
The guy who says treat it like a bar has 16 verifacations.
You have 2.
Who do listen too?
I'm in Carlisle, I'm lucky if I've chatted to 16 people in over a year. "
As they're both saying the same thing, listen to them both 
And yeah geography can play a part, but being willing to travel can address that to an extent and widens the net a little - but it *does* also come back to what I said further up about approach, attitude and expectations being right too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Listen pal I'm just trying to get some help and u are not helping
Apologies Dave...I’m not here to help, well...not you anyway
Your not helping yourself.
He doesn’t seem to be listening to what we put or getting forum set up always gunna be banter in with advice"
I wouldn't call it banter. But each to their own. |
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"Listen pal I'm just trying to get some help and u are not helping
Apologies Dave...I’m not here to help, well...not you anyway
Your not helping yourself.
He doesn’t seem to be listening to what we put or getting forum set up always gunna be banter in with advice
I wouldn't call it banter. But each to their own."
Read back and saw what u meant on certain comments now missed them  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Yeah gonna do that now I swear half the women on here must me men pretending to be a woman lol
OP if you use quote and reply we know who you are replying to.
There definitely is men pretending to be women but there are lots of brilliant and genuine people here. I'm sure there is babes job at not found them
You need a lot of patience and a really good profile.
Just a little tip lots of the women here don't like being called babes, babe or hun
Totally this ^^^^
Out of interest.... To both you and lorna, what should men use as term?
Not that hat I've used babe, and hate hun. "
Our names, maybe? |
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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago
the land of saints & sinners |
I suspect that when you say that you can’t get a meet. You really mean that you can’t get an instant shag....
Hate to break it to you but Fab mainly just isn’t like that (Though I’m sure there are exceptions to this)
It takes time and a shed load of patience.
Attend socials and go to clubs.
Arrange your own socials that always a great way to meet people.....
It doesn’t need to be anything complicated just a simple meet in a pub for a few people and you will find out who you click with...
I’m sure even you could organise something like that... |
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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago
the land of saints & sinners |
"Changed piks n updated discription can't do alot more hopefully it's abit better"
Be realistic in your expectations don’t expect results overnight....
Time male to female ratio here is a minimum of 1001:1
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