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When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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I do that. I don't think it's judgmental. It's about knowing what you want and that's OK |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It used to and sometimes still does but then I rem_mber that these people aren't hiding anything. People only show you what they want you to see and what's on fab isn't the only sexual connections people have. Plus I've looked back over the years at people I've chosen to sleep with and thought. What the hell was I thinking? So pot and kettle comes to mind. A lot of these profiles with lots of verification s have been using fab for years. I'm sure if I had been on fab for years I'd have a track record as long as my arm too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't read the veri’s anymore, most of the ones on women’s profiles are just guys begging to meet again & saying how she was the best ever etc
I don’t trust the men on here  |
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"It used to and sometimes still does but then I rem_mber that these people aren't hiding anything. People only show you what they want you to see and what's on fab isn't the only sexual connections people have. Plus I've looked back over the years at people I've chosen to sleep with and thought. What the hell was I thinking? So pot and kettle comes to mind. A lot of these profiles with lots of verification s have been using fab for years. I'm sure if I had been on fab for years I'd have a track record as long as my arm too. "
I guess I'd rather be ignorant to the fact.
This is my second profile on here and yes I probably have had some regrettable meets but if my face screws up thinking about that person and it turns me off there is nothing I can do to overcome it, it's very much about mental stimulation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It used to and sometimes still does but then I rem_mber that these people aren't hiding anything. People only show you what they want you to see and what's on fab isn't the only sexual connections people have. Plus I've looked back over the years at people I've chosen to sleep with and thought. What the hell was I thinking? So pot and kettle comes to mind. A lot of these profiles with lots of verification s have been using fab for years. I'm sure if I had been on fab for years I'd have a track record as long as my arm too.
I guess I'd rather be ignorant to the fact.
This is my second profile on here and yes I probably have had some regrettable meets but if my face screws up thinking about that person and it turns me off there is nothing I can do to overcome it, it's very much about mental stimulation."
It definitely helps to be ignorant to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to try and read the veris the guys have left for the women. And if they are totally disrespectful(sucks like a Dyson, lots of detail type veris), I'm totally turned off |
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"I tend to try and read the veris the guys have left for the women. And if they are totally disrespectful(sucks like a Dyson, lots of detail type veris), I'm totally turned off"
I cancelled a meet in the summer because in the few days between arranging to meet and meeting they met and were verid by someone else and i just felt a bit like "ew". I know that makes no sense given the site but inwas enjoying the build up and anticipation and it felt like the other person had burst the bubble a bit. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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Absolutely nothing wrong with judging what's right for you - best you use ask information available to make the most informed choice. And if someone slips through the net that perhaps shouldn't, so be it  |
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I (Mrs C) scrutinise every veri, if they have met anyone who turns me off, for whatever reason, they have absolutely no chance of us ever meeting. I even have in our profile that I will scrutinise their veri’s, just so that they know! Not that many people actually read the profile!
I think it’s about standards rather than being judgemental!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to try and read the veris the guys have left for the women. And if they are totally disrespectful(sucks like a Dyson, lots of detail type veris), I'm totally turned off
I cancelled a meet in the summer because in the few days between arranging to meet and meeting they met and were verid by someone else and i just felt a bit like "ew". I know that makes no sense given the site but inwas enjoying the build up and anticipation and it felt like the other person had burst the bubble a bit. "
It's called pride chief.
I've had that. But you realise that's the nature of some of the women on here. Some are really nymphomaniacs or are making up for lost time because of one reason or another. It's not really a bad thing that they do, I wish I could have as many partners as some do on here, but theres also nothing wrong with being a bit hurt when you see they have been with someone else within 24 hours of meeting you. It does take away the adrenaline, lust, excitement a bit and it can make you less enthusiastic about them too.
Unless you understand that just because they have many partners, doesnt mean they ain't all friends as well.
I've been messaged by someone who kept saying let's meet but I'm busy and then spent weeks telling me about all the meets she had been having, but would get to me eventually. I felt like I was waiting at argos.
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"I tend to try and read the veris the guys have left for the women. And if they are totally disrespectful(sucks like a Dyson, lots of detail type veris), I'm totally turned off
I cancelled a meet in the summer because in the few days between arranging to meet and meeting they met and were verid by someone else and i just felt a bit like "ew". I know that makes no sense given the site but inwas enjoying the build up and anticipation and it felt like the other person had burst the bubble a bit.
It's called pride chief.
I've had that. But you realise that's the nature of some of the women on here. Some are really nymphomaniacs or are making up for lost time because of one reason or another. It's not really a bad thing that they do, I wish I could have as many partners as some do on here, but theres also nothing wrong with being a bit hurt when you see they have been with someone else within 24 hours of meeting you. It does take away the adrenaline, lust, excitement a bit and it can make you less enthusiastic about them too.
Unless you understand that just because they have many partners, doesnt mean they ain't all friends as well.
I've been messaged by someone who kept saying let's meet but I'm busy and then spent weeks telling me about all the meets she had been having, but would get to me eventually. I felt like I was waiting at argos.
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Cheers dude. Def was a pride thing and ye due to lack of general interest knocked my ego thinking id been picked as worth a meet. There is hypocrisy involved on my part as it is probably a lack of options in general that mean i felt that way.
It is interesting what you can still learn about yourself at 36. |
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over a year ago
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yep when a message comes in i dont open the message until ive looked at profile and veris ..far too many i'll fuck anything/do anything types out there for me .... |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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Guilty of doing this, funny isn’t it, although everyone has different tastes I just don’t like to think they are any port in a storm. Make sure they are not just social club veris before you decide not to meet them though |
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over a year ago
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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That's not logical. You have issues plainly. Perhaps you need to work through them. |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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very judgemental In my opinion .
Im sure the people you are refering to have standards too but just becuse they aint your standards dont mean they dont have any
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over a year ago
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
very judgemental In my opinion .
Im sure the people you are refering to have standards too but just becuse they aint your standards dont mean they dont have any
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Im tending to agree. |
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I been turned off by photos and verifications... I need to feel comfortable and confident who I wana have fun with. And if any information in any form is off putting, it's my sixth sense telling me he's not suitable. |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
That's not logical. You have issues plainly. Perhaps you need to work through them. "
Issues, yes I'm sure we all do. |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
very judgemental In my opinion .
Im sure the people you are refering to have standards too but just becuse they aint your standards dont mean they dont have any
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So I should just reply to their message to me and give them a chance?
I'm not talking about looking at random profiles and judging them, I'm talking about people who message me with a view to play and turning them down because yes I'm noisy and look at their past veris and make a decision based on that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The verifications that I send are simply to either thank a lady for a very pleasant Evening or to make it clear that the lady is actually genuine.
The verifications I have received are to tell others that might be interested in meeting me that I am genuine and not a person that would waste your time by not turning up.
I do however understand that it can put ladies off if the guy has 100s of verifications.
Stay safe people.
Wishing you all a very Happy and safe weekend and a safe experience on Fabswingers.
Regards ..Andy x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chase the verifications. Mostly to ensure all is genuine and well. The only real thing that would put me off is if I run into a verification where the profile openly talks about bareback. Yeah protection could have been used but it’s an automatic turn off for me. |
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over a year ago
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"I been turned off by photos and verifications... I need to feel comfortable and confident who I wana have fun with. And if any information in any form is off putting, it's my sixth sense telling me he's not suitable. "
^^^^This is so true, always trust your inner instinct also |
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I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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You’re not being judgemental at all; you’re in here for your own needs, and desires, and should only ever meet people who feel ‘right’ for you |
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You should only meet the people you are interested in. And if something puts you off them regardless of why then that’s not judgemental.
However out of curiosity do you show all your veris ? You don’t have the verification summary showing on your profile either. So have you met people people you regret or do you have veris you think would put others off you ? |
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"You should only meet the people you are interested in. And if something puts you off them regardless of why then that’s not judgemental.
However out of curiosity do you show all your veris ? You don’t have the verification summary showing on your profile either. So have you met people people you regret or do you have veris you think would put others off you ? "
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For some reason people I don't know have verified me and have asked for one back. So that's why I don't show all because it's just not a reflection of who I have met x |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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I feel it is judgemental personally.
I know it's a bit different but if you were to meet a person in a club (vanilla or lifestyle) you wouldn't start grilling them about past partners before making your decision. You would take that person at face value.
Having said that, it's your choice who you meet with so if it works for you then that's all that matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only if it appears they have done bareback or the woman looks like she has something.
Other than that, who am I to judge what someone else deemed attractive? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a man had a go at me a longtime ago simply because a woman woudnt meet him,because i had met him and i had also met someone she didnt like and.instead of the guy telling the lady where to go he took it out on me by taken down the verify and blocking me.am glad because i dont need people like that.if people on fab dont like who you have met.Move on simples. |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
I feel it is judgemental personally.
I know it's a bit different but if you were to meet a person in a club (vanilla or lifestyle) you wouldn't start grilling them about past partners before making your decision. You would take that person at face value.
Having said that, it's your choice who you meet with so if it works for you then that's all that matters."
True in a swinging club you wouldn't be able to go so in-depth as you would on the site but the facility to do so is here so use it right?
For a social meet you could get an idea of the person and make a judgement off that.
In a vanilla setting (I don't go clubbing, so i wouldn't know) but let's say a tinder date, again like a social meet, you could get an idea of the type of person they are.
Let's not fool ourselves, we all make judgements of people who we potentially could have sex with and the decision making is influenced by the information that is available to us. Fab just makes it easier to follow that trail. I admit that there are some people I have dated or those I have played with where I look back and think " what was I thinking?". Well I was making a choice based on what I knew at the time. Granted I won't know everything as not everyone shows the entire truth on here but you make a decision based on what is there. |
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"Only if it appears they have done bareback or the woman looks like she has something.
Other than that, who am I to judge what someone else deemed attractive?"
This is my main gripe, where the person the man has met is not practicing safer sex and they have played with all sorts of questionable people... I guess it's more about protecting my health.
If a man I meet has met an older/younger woman, a larger lady, a slimmer lady, etc. It doesn't bother me much. |
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True in a swinging club you wouldn't be able to go so in-depth as you would on the site but the facility to do so is here so use it right?
For a social meet you could get an idea of the person and make a judgement off that.
In a vanilla setting (I don't go clubbing, so i wouldn't know) but let's say a tinder date, again like a social meet, you could get an idea of the type of person they are.
Let's not fool ourselves, we all make judgements of people who we potentially could have sex with and the decision making is influenced by the information that is available to us. Fab just makes it easier to follow that trail. I admit that there are some people I have dated or those I have played with where I look back and think " what was I thinking?". Well I was making a choice based on what I knew at the time. Granted I won't know everything as not everyone shows the entire truth on here but you make a decision based on what is there."
The facility to follow the veri trail is there and even though we feel differently it's entirely up to you how you use it.
You've kinda said it yourself re. Social settings. They allow you to make a judgement on that person due to personality, how they interact etc.
I just believe by following a veri trail your not actually allowing said person the opportunity but rather judging them by others.
Maybe I'm in the minority but I'll stick to not making any prior judgemnts on people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only have two .. one was a lovely social .. the other a very good friend of mine .. veris do come into consideration.. especially when some people have tens .. twenties ++++ |
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over a year ago
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"Only if it appears they have done bareback or the woman looks like she has something.
Other than that, who am I to judge what someone else deemed attractive?
This is my main gripe, where the person the man has met is not practicing safer sex and they have played with all sorts of questionable people... I guess it's more about protecting my health.
If a man I meet has met an older/younger woman, a larger lady, a slimmer lady, etc. It doesn't bother me much."
This right here is my gripe. 'If the woman looks like she has something's
That's just ridiculous, may she has or hasn't, it still doesnt mean he has or hasn't.
And plenty of perfectly decent looking people have contracted infections |
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over a year ago
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"Guilty of doing this, funny isn’t it, although everyone has different tastes I just don’t like to think they are any port in a storm. Make sure they are not just social club veris before you decide not to meet them though "
I have lots of club veris a lot of them are just social. Like you say I hope people read my veris before they make a decision  |
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I was judged for having too many on my old account, if people actually took the time to read them they'd see most were club veries and were social ones not fuck meet ones. I had multiple veries from people and people who verified after deleting their accounts.
But not everyone verified either so no one has a true count of social veries or play ones.
Also judging someone for having too many on a swingers site .... See the irony? Nothing quite like slut shaming on a sexually liberated website that people indulge in sex with strangers.
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"I was judged for having too many on my old account, if people actually took the time to read them they'd see most were club veries and were social ones not fuck meet ones. I had multiple veries from people and people who verified after deleting their accounts.
But not everyone verified either so no one has a true count of social veries or play ones.
Also judging someone for having too many on a swingers site .... See the irony? Nothing quite like slut shaming on a sexually liberated website that people indulge in sex with strangers.
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"I was judged for having too many on my old account, if people actually took the time to read them they'd see most were club veries and were social ones not fuck meet ones. I had multiple veries from people and people who verified after deleting their accounts.
But not everyone verified either so no one has a true count of social veries or play ones.
Also judging someone for having too many on a swingers site .... See the irony? Nothing quite like slut shaming on a sexually liberated website that people indulge in sex with strangers.
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I've never judged based on the amount of veris. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"If someone or couple have too many veris then this turns me off and also I don’t tell all in my veris. "
How do you know a lot are not hidden? We know people that have been on Fab for years like us but only show the last 12 months so looks like 10 but there’s 110 lol |
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Yes, we judge from time to time. Tends to be the case that we feel put off by how they come across in the first place though, as the quality of their message / profile generally relates to quality of their verifications.
We've met a few guys who we felt were really good but then end up posting pics of them in dogging spots or in the woods at 8am... and find those things really hard to shift again for the future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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your name is not literally _angbangfantasy? is it?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
your name is not literally _angbangfantasy? is it? "
seeing the priest holding you over the font i christen thee  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"We have that problem. We have some turn offs definitely but we also look at the way the person is verifying others. If it's crude or crass it's a no."
Never had a crude or crass one, suspect they are not the type of people we attract. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rem_mber ages ago I looked at a woman's profile, and it said the usual "I'm not looking to sleep with half the site". I looked at her veris, and it was like scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll.... verified by 278 people.
That put me off a little. |
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"You should only meet the people you are interested in. And if something puts you off them regardless of why then that’s not judgemental.
However out of curiosity do you show all your veris ? You don’t have the verification summary showing on your profile either. So have you met people people you regret or do you have veris you think would put others off you ?
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For some reason people I don't know have verified me and have asked for one back. So that's why I don't show all because it's just not a reflection of who I have met x"
but surely if the verification is false you have the choice to take that verification down. |
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"I rem_mber ages ago I looked at a woman's profile, and it said the usual "I'm not looking to sleep with half the site". I looked at her veris, and it was like scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll.... verified by 278 people.
That put me off a little. "
Did you even bother to ready any??
Did you ask how long she was on the site for?
Making assumptions is the worse thing with verifications.
People need to understand verifications aren't a true image of a person. It's a glimpse.
I know for a fact some who say they rarely meet and lack of verifications would agree but they are had sex with many people. Then the cheek of it some of them have the nerve to slut shame others! People picking up hookups from dating sites, hooking up in nightclubs but on fab they display themselves as saints! No one knows how many people someone has had sex with and I don't see why it matters on a swingers site.
It's a site to engage in mutual pleasures. Not a purity site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really didnt think there would be sex snobs on a sex site looking down on others based on veris. I thought the idea was to be sexually liberated and personal choice if u slept with 1 or 101 it's your own personal choice. There is no right or wrong way to write a veri if the person receiving it is happy with it they will display if not they can hide it. X |
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"I really didnt think there would be sex snobs on a sex site looking down on others based on veris. I thought the idea was to be sexually liberated and personal choice if u slept with 1 or 101 it's your own personal choice. There is no right or wrong way to write a veri if the person receiving it is happy with it they will display if not they can hide it. X"
200% agree, always makes me laugh the “quality over quantity” bull crap! You can have both and what your saying is our meets were not quality, I guess all our play friends could be offended by that!  |
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over a year ago
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"I really didnt think there would be sex snobs on a sex site looking down on others based on veris. I thought the idea was to be sexually liberated and personal choice if u slept with 1 or 101 it's your own personal choice. There is no right or wrong way to write a veri if the person receiving it is happy with it they will display if not they can hide it. X
200% agree, always makes me laugh the “quality over quantity” bull crap! You can have both and what your saying is our meets were not quality, I guess all our play friends could be offended by that! "
Just dont understand judging people on a swingers site x |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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I hate to tell you this... but im sure everyone on this site has had sex |
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"I rem_mber ages ago I looked at a woman's profile, and it said the usual "I'm not looking to sleep with half the site". I looked at her veris, and it was like scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll scroll.... verified by 278 people.
That put me off a little.
Did you even bother to ready any??
Did you ask how long she was on the site for?
Making assumptions is the worse thing with verifications.
People need to understand verifications aren't a true image of a person. It's a glimpse.
I know for a fact some who say they rarely meet and lack of verifications would agree but they are had sex with many people. Then the cheek of it some of them have the nerve to slut shame others! People picking up hookups from dating sites, hooking up in nightclubs but on fab they display themselves as saints! No one knows how many people someone has had sex with and I don't see why it matters on a swingers site.
It's a site to engage in mutual pleasures. Not a purity site."
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
Totally agree with you.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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I am exactly the same, sent a number of people on their way due to who they have been with on here, after looking at their veris. Are we judgemental? Maybe, but nothing wrong with having some standards and being picky |
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"Not here to just the quantity, it's the quality. That's my personal opinion. "
I agree with you, it’s the content and crudeness of some of the veri’s that puts me off.
Yes, you can be engaging in your mutual pleasures in whatever way you enjoy, each to their own. However, if I read a crass veri which makes me think ‘oh no, not for us’ I’ll pass the person by. I’m not about to send them a message or ‘slut shame‘ them or any such nastiness, but, we all have standards that we adhere to. We are all different in our needs and desires.
I always read every single veri if I look at someone’s profile, I ascertain how long they have been on the site, how many are social veri’s, how many are veri’s in which they have played with others, I never make assumptions and am not judgemental in the slightest.
If it isn’t written & displayed, how does anyone know what you have been up to... however, if you choose to display your endless, seedy veri’s, then you need to be prepared that some people will be put off by that. |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
I hate to tell you this... but im sure everyone on this site has had sex "
Wrong |
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I suppose it all depends on how you look at it.
For some, looking at someones verifications and who they're met might put them off because of how they think that it reflects on that person.
The 'Oh, I don't think much of their taste' sort of attitude.
We're all here for our own reasons. We're all looking to broaden our experiences and so, on occasion, we might choose to meet with someone outside of our 'norms' perhaps. That's not true of everyone I grant you, but when it really comes down to it, I think a lot of us can find ourselves in danger of mis-using the verification system as some sort of reviewing process or performance indicator.
Verifications are there to prove that a person turns up, is who they say they are etc.
Who they might choose to meet really is a matter for them.
Some people will have a criteria that they won't meet people who hide their veris. Well, that's just unfair as we all know that people come and go on this site and sometimes veris will disappear, but the summary will still indicate that there was one.
At the end of it all I think this all boils down to just finding another excuse. Another reason for not meeting someone.
It seems that there are quite a few here that seem to want to find reasons not to meet people rather than actually wanting to get out there.
Got to be over 6 foot. Gym build and various other requirements that if you don't meet them precisely then that's you off the list rather than just going for good old fashioned attraction.
If you fancy someone enough to want to meet them, don't look for excuses not to for goodness sake |
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"When I get messages from men I look at their profiles and check out their veris too, I'm curious. Sometimes I'll see a veri of theirs and get massively turned off by that person that makes it clear in my mind that I don't want to meet the guy.
I know I'm no angel (my profile name is literally "Gangbangfantasy ") but I'd like to think I have certain standards.
I just can't shake the thought of being intimate with that guy if he's had sex with someone that massively turns me off.
Am I too judgemental here or is my thinking somewhat logical?
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For me , the main use of veris is that the person/couple is real - and not fake. If someone doesnt have veris, I know they are very, very likely to be fake. It jus saves a lot of time |
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