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Guys complaining no meets?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m tired of reading these things on the forum and yet I’ve messaged numerous guys asking if the want to meet with me and my fwb next week and all lie about being able to accommodate us!!!!!,guys it’s a ladies world on here and when the chance to get verified comes up you should jump at the chance so any local (Oxfordshire) guys or groups of guys that can accommodate post on here please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're making men sound desperate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No not at all,but how many posts do we see in the forums moaning for advice or veris yet when you offer them a smoking hot lady for a mfm and they go shy?,strange behaviour guys step up your game

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They may not be looking for what your offering.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're making men sound desperate

Your point being?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I understand that but I understand the power ladies have on here and there’s lots of single guys and adding a meet me thing or pm and no reply I find it strange and trust me it’s their loss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No not at all,but how many posts do we see in the forums moaning for advice or veris yet when you offer them a smoking hot lady for a mfm and they go shy?,strange behaviour guys step up your game"

Very true! All talk no trousers I suppose

Snore off Ork

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"No not at all,but how many posts do we see in the forums moaning for advice or veris yet when you offer them a smoking hot lady for a mfm and they go shy?,strange behaviour guys step up your game"

We've certainly had MANY men get too busy to meet or go quiet... when we.. agree... to meet.... Just absurd.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don’t get it,if your on here and hot ladies are offered bloody jump at the chance ffs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Too right,probably just pic pervs who can’t walk the walk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I understand that but I understand the power ladies have on here and there’s lots of single guys and adding a meet me thing or pm and no reply I find it strange and trust me it’s their loss "

How can it be their loss if its not what they want?

Come on guys, you all need to be like big dave

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It’s not that at all,I understand that we’re not going to be to everyone’s taste that’s a given but when a super hot milf is looking to meet I thought it’d be mayhem on the inbox

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If a single person messaged me and asked if I'd like to meet with them and their fuck buddy, I'd say no too. Just because guys want to get verified doesn't mean they need to accept whatever is offered. Perhaps you'd fare better with a couples profile?

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By *ubeeStarrXoXTV/TS over a year ago

Leeds

"If a single person messaged me and asked if I'd like to meet with them and their fuck buddy, I'd say no too. Just because guys want to get verified doesn't mean they need to accept whatever is offered. Perhaps you'd fare better with a couples profile?"

Exactly this, also just because you think she's super hot doesnt mean others will

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By *uicyfruit3Man over a year ago

portsmouth

I tend to get a lot of messages from single guys telling me that they have a fuck buddy/partner/wife that they want me to have fun with.

I always say no as it seems a little suspicious

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple over a year ago

liverpool

I cant say as a single guy as I'm not but we'd run a mile if someone says they a fwb but not proof or pics.

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"I cant say as a single guy as I'm not but we'd run a mile if someone says they a fwb but not proof or pics."

Exactly this ^^^^^

Maybe the meet invite is accurate, but this is a poor example to choose if you’re looking to prove that single men can’t walk the walk

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

She’s on here and to the right person id show pics and giver username out to verify that I’m no dreamer but I see you guys may have a point but I’m no dreamer and wouldn’t waste anyone’s time

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"She’s on here and to the right person id show pics and giver username out to verify that I’m no dreamer but I see you guys may have a point but I’m no dreamer and wouldn’t waste anyone’s time"

You might say that however you'd be better off having a couples profile as it looks suspicious.

On top of that you're looking for a daytime meet which also goes against you. Good luck though

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"I’m tired of reading these things on the forum and yet I’ve messaged numerous guys asking if the want to meet with me and my fwb next week and all lie about being able to accommodate us!!!!!,guys it’s a ladies world on here and when the chance to get verified comes up you should jump at the chance so any local (Oxfordshire) guys or groups of guys that can accommodate post on here please"
. A couple of months ago a single guy was saying he was struggling to get meets.When I looked at his profile he stated he could accommodate in the bio part but in the written part said he could only accommodate in a hotel.When I replied via the thread that this was confusing as to me to say you can accommodate means your home.A lady said it wasn’t confusing and so did the OP.Guys saying that can’t accommodate should just be honest about it as it’s a waste of your time.

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By *am4CamWoman over a year ago

Fairy Land

Why not try setting up a joint profile with her, it would instantly add credibility. Is there a reason you won’t entertain the possibility?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We both have singles profiles but she likes me to arrange surprises for her hence this meet

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By *lex46TV/TS over a year ago

Near Wells

I also get very suspicious about single guys telling me that they have a female FWB. They promise the earth telling me how hot she is. Then when a meet is suggested, I'm told the first meeting is with the guy only to see if I would be suitable???

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By *andyladMan over a year ago

Hereorthere

Or just go to a club and meet ppl

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Why can't you arrange a suprise for her through a couples profile she doesn't look at ?

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

I reckon Doris Day nailed it ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Clubs are on the cards for the future trust me but for a while it’s going to be localish guys and we’re both ok with having separate profiles on here as were independent but guys please announce yourself and if we meet then you can veri me and prove that I’m no fake liar and hopefully make it easier next time we do this

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan over a year ago

Southern England

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan over a year ago

Southern England

So your highlighting the fact that guys complain about not getting meet by complaining about you and you FWB not getting any luck in meeting.

Perhaps they dont fancy you. Endless reasons why they wont meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Clubs are on the cards for the future trust me but for a while it’s going to be localish guys and we’re both ok with having separate profiles on here as were independent but guys please announce yourself and if we meet then you can veri me and prove that I’m no fake liar and hopefully make it easier next time we do this"

Can’t message you ? Says males are blocked :

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fuckin el Dave

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No there not and I can’t message you as you have them blocked haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But before they’ve seen her they don’t message is what I mean...please read the thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Eh?"

You’ll have to get some pictures of her up on your profile son otherwise your just another bloke on here...you should already know we don't read profiles & just look at the pics!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has got to be the weirdest topic I've read on here! It stinks of bullshit too.

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"No there not and I can’t message you as you have them blocked haha"

So you're looking for single guys for a meet.

Have a status up for single guys to meet.

Have a meet request up for single guys to meet.....

yet you have them all blocked so they can't message you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try a couples profile you’ll have more luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Leave then and don’t comment #bekind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me"

Not looking for single guys on your profile means you have them blocked from contracting you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me

Not looking for single guys on your profile means you have them blocked from contracting you"

Dear God

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By *udewhennudeMan over a year ago

newport

"Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me"

They are blocked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rumbled!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We both have singles profiles but she likes me to arrange surprises for her hence this meet "

But on your profile it says you can accommodate , so w we just not accommodate at yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me

They are blocked"

Sorry they have blocked all people of your sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me"

My male friend has just tried to message you but can’t as single guys ARE BLOCKED

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me

My male friend has just tried to message you but can’t as single guys ARE BLOCKED "

I tried too to see, totally blocked

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry my silly fault I’ve just changed my message setting I thought it was something else

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"Fuckin el Dave

That’s putting it mildly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m tired of reading these things on the forum and yet I’ve messaged numerous guys asking if the want to meet with me and my fwb next week and all lie about being able to accommodate us!!!!!,guys it’s a ladies world on here and when the chance to get verified comes up you should jump at the chance so any local (Oxfordshire) guys or groups of guys that can accommodate post on here please. A couple of months ago a single guy was saying he was struggling to get meets.When I looked at his profile he stated he could accommodate in the bio part but in the written part said he could only accommodate in a hotel.When I replied via the thread that this was confusing as to me to say you can accommodate means your home.A lady said it wasn’t confusing and so did the OP.Guys saying that can’t accommodate should just be honest about it as it’s a waste of your time."

But he was honest and wrote he could accommodate via a hotel... You don't like hotels then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can prob still salvage this thread Dave, just have to put on you anti-vegan hat & pretend you spelt meat wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes my first in English at oxford comes in handy when writing on fab forums,thanks for your non comical contributions....I’ll do the jokes

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"I’m tired of reading these things on the forum and yet I’ve messaged numerous guys asking if the want to meet with me and my fwb next week and all lie about being able to accommodate us!!!!!,guys it’s a ladies world on here and when the chance to get verified comes up you should jump at the chance so any local (Oxfordshire) guys or groups of guys that can accommodate post on here please. A couple of months ago a single guy was saying he was struggling to get meets.When I looked at his profile he stated he could accommodate in the bio part but in the written part said he could only accommodate in a hotel.When I replied via the thread that this was confusing as to me to say you can accommodate means your home.A lady said it wasn’t confusing and so did the OP.Guys saying that can’t accommodate should just be honest about it as it’s a waste of your time.

But he was honest and wrote he could accommodate via a hotel... You don't like hotels then? "
. There are some ladies and couples that think if a single guy can’t accommodate then it’s because they have a wife or partner when for some there are other reasons.I personally have no problem meeting in a hotel.Maybe I add to my profile that I can accommodate in a hotel but not in my home.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As others have said, a couples profile would surely help. Or at the very least reference each other in your singles profile. Personally we'd just assume your friend was the figment of yet another single guy's imagination. Add to that wanting someone available daytimes AND to accommodate and things start to become exponentially more difficult. You may have more luck possibly if you booked a hotel room for the day

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By *ames2602Man over a year ago

whittle

If I got a chance to meet up with a lady on here, whether it's in a hotel or there place and easy to get too ,I'd jump at the chance. But I never get the offer. Will say some ladies on here can also lead men on ,chat for ages then when it come to arrange a meet they also clog up. Just my opinion OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Agreed but I’m/we’re not fakes and I’ve just asked her to comment on here lol

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I think the problem is that you are asking the guy to accommodate you both. I personally wouldn't be interested in that, sounds too much like you just need someone's bed to shag in. I'd imagine a lot of men feel the same when you've contacted them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes my first in English at oxford comes in handy when writing on fab forums,thanks for your non comical contributions....I’ll do the jokes"

Agreed

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"It’s not that at all,I understand that we’re not going to be to everyone’s taste that’s a given but when a super hot milf is looking to meet I thought it’d be mayhem on the inbox"

I get what you’re saying....and it’s a valiant gesture etc etc. But if the only way I’d be “getting” with a hot MILF is by having an MFM, then I’m also gonna pass.

Not my thing. And maybe they think the same?

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I think the problem is that you are asking the guy to accommodate you both. I personally wouldn't be interested in that, sounds too much like you just need someone's bed to shag in. I'd imagine a lot of men feel the same when you've contacted them "

It’s more likely that the guys are concerned only a single bloke will turn up on their doorstep. You need a couple of pics with you and your ‘super hot milf’ Big Dave

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

She’s going to comment on here any minute

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Super Hot Milfs everywhere Dave and you telling us all about her is like me picking someone randomly & reading one of her verifications written by a 19yr old who wants to smash again

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"She’s going to comment on here any minute"

When you say “any” minute? Between when and when?

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

It’s more likely that the guys are concerned only a single bloke will turn up on their doorstep. You need a couple of pics with you and your ‘super hot milf’ Big Dave

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just look at her profile it’s wetandwild!xxx

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"Just look at her profile it’s wetandwild!xxx"

Yes a profile. No public pics. And still my point that I wouldn’t be interested due to not wanting an MFM.

Sorry, I’m out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Created 7 days ago, no public pics and only verified by you. Surely you can see how people are not rushing to reply to your meet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Additionally it's not the people in this thread you need to convince, it's the people you're hoping to meet. It's totally up to you whether you take the advice you've been given but hopefully you have at least a better idea of what might be causing others to feel reticent about contacting you

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By *ames2602Man over a year ago

whittle

"Created 7 days ago, no public pics and only verified by you. Surely you can see how people are not rushing to reply to your meet?"

Haha she's just looked at my profile. All fake I think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also...green arrow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She’s going to comment on here any minute"

Fucking el Dave

I might just meet you for entertainment now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No you wont

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d still go for a genuine verified couples post. People just won’t believe you otherwise mate.

We have one just for these situations.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Couples profile would solve this, as others have said. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps you would have more luck if your single female friend put up a meet. I'm sure you would have no problem, although I don't seem to do too bad getting meets with any of my single female friends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So they haven't seen her profile or even what she actually looks like, but she is hot, because you say so. Ungrateful buggers!

Anyway, enough of that as I have some news that will cheer you up. I have a fwb who looks proper knockout, like a celebrity. Indeed she's been compared with Bubbles and Vicki from Little Britain. If you haven't seen them no worries, I won't send you initial pics or anything until we've had a good long chat, but trust me she's really really hot.

Fancy it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She’s going to comment on here any minute"

8 hours Dave, I'm doubting her reliability. Did you forget "her" password?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big Dave, who's 'straight', not asking but PLEADING for guys to me him! Even though he's 'straight'. And not particularly handsome it has to be said...

Oh Dear Dave

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She’s going to comment on here any minute

8 hours Dave, I'm doubting her reliability. Did you forget "her" password?

This isn't any old Dave you're talking to though my love. This is Big Dave.

And his word is bond.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think due to the fact there is no profile of this lady and you keep using super hot milf many times I have to say I'm actually quite suspicious of this post if your genuine a couple profile would prob be best for you but I suspect your just after attention from female members

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our tip for women and couples is. Do not bother meeting any men from here. Meet them at a club so you can vet them better in person. Then just use this site to keep in contact with them. By going to a club you’ll at least know they have a little understanding of swinging and not just a chancing fantasist on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Our tip for women and couples is. Do not bother meeting any men from here. Meet them at a club so you can vet them better in person. Then just use this site to keep in contact with them. By going to a club you’ll at least know they have a little understanding of swinging and not just a chancing fantasist on here. "

Wise words there. Do you have any tips for Big Dave though?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So everyone is tarred with the same brush

. Great advice.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

I realised after a while that a number of guys on here,and other sex sites have no intention of meeting..it is all masturbatory fantasy.I think quite a lot are inexperienced and frightened..The difficulty is sorting out the wheat from the chaff.

Just my thoughts..

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I can understand what you are trying to achieve OP . I have arranged such things with friends before myself but it's the fact that you are not inviting others to join you but that you are wanting to bring your playmate to another person's house that is most likely the issue. I can also see why your playmate might have selected single guys whom she wished you to invite but the criteria can't be " because you can accommodate" as it just sends the wrong signal .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wise words there. Do you have any tips for Big Dave though?

Try a different hobby. Maybe squash.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"It’s not that at all,I understand that we’re not going to be to everyone’s taste that’s a given but when a super hot milf is looking to meet I thought it’d be mayhem on the inbox"

1. You are asking to go to someone's house.

2. Why would a woman not choose who she meets and, leave it to you ?

Seems odd to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Good advice thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

She’s looking at her inbox messaging them directing them to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Your correct I think.shame really but it seems to be looking thst way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t meet a bloke advertising meets for a woman, who isn’t even mentioned on his profile. As has been said earlier use a couples profile if you want to be more successful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ouch, this thread was a rollercoaster! The bottom line is that when there is room for doubt, combined with the extra caution most of us reserve for sexual encounters with strangers, it’s going to be slim pickings. As above, make a couples profile for the occasion, it’s clearer and safer for everyone.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

As it happens the well known Australian celebrity K. M. has asked me to find a guy for her for a mfm. Obviously she can't post on here herself and has to be discreet. However you have my word this is genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As it happens the well known Australian celebrity K. M. has asked me to find a guy for her for a mfm. Obviously she can't post on here herself and has to be discreet. However you have my word this is genuine. "

I should be so lucky

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t get it,if your on here and hot ladies are offered bloody jump at the chance ffs x"

Too right. Would be like the proverbial rat up a drainpipe lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbf OP you seem rather desperate with the “ASAP” on your status

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Exactly!!!!!.....oh well I’m hoping she’s gonna pop up on here and show herself soon as I’ve already put her fab name up so to prove this point lol....and if anyone has KM number gimme a shout lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not at all but I like to have plans in place and have a schedule...maybe I’m ocd a bit who knows lol

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"So everyone is tarred with the same brush

. Great advice."

Not everyone mate, there’s equally as many flaky couples and single females in here, but they’re easy to spot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great if this work for you but to suggest only guys who attend clubs have understanding of the scene is ill informed and very judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She has a Fab profile as well apparently so it's 100% genuine. Not much text and no pics, but her username is "Especially for you" so if that isn't a stone-cold guarantee that it's her then I simply don't know what is?

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By *exy4youxxWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Exactly!!!!!.....oh well I’m hoping she’s gonna pop up on here and show herself soon as I’ve already put her fab name up so to prove this point lol....and if anyone has KM number gimme a shout lol"

That profile proves nothing not even photo verified for all we know it could be you... and judging by your replies in this thread a lot of red flags good luck though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So everyone is tarred with the same brush

. Great advice.

Not everyone mate, there’s equally as many flaky couples and single females in here, but they’re easy to spot

Yup, usually the ones that wink me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There’s no red flags at all.im verified as a nice honest polite guy I have no reason or want to waste anybody’s time as there’s plenty of that already on here as I’m sure most of us have found out ourselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s no red flags at all.im verified as a nice honest polite guy I have no reason or want to waste anybody’s time as there’s plenty of that already on here as I’m sure most of us have found out ourselves "

Can you not see yourself just how suspicious it looks?

There are plenty of red flags.

I'm not accusing you of anything at all, but seriously, it all sounds proper Sherlock Holmes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

More red flags than a Chinese parade.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If anyone wants verification just message her direct and she’ll tell you the deal as I’m tired of justifying myself

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If I was her, I wouldn't appear on this thread. If all is genuine and above board, why would she come on here to get grilled by people who think she's fake? You're not going to find what you're looking for on the forum so if I was you I'd not bother my arse with this thread anymore. The more you try to convince folk, the less believable it will seem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m not boring your arse,you chose to comment in a non ladylike way not me

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I’m not boring your arse,you chose to comment in a non ladylike way not me"

If you take the time to read my post, that is not what I wrote.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m not wasting anyone’s time,it’s not in my nature to do such a thing but thanks for your input anyway

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I’m not wasting anyone’s time,it’s not in my nature to do such a thing but thanks for your input anyway

I didn't say that either. I was actually trying to help you. Never mind!

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

If you are struggling to find someone who can accommodate, couldn't you offer to accommodate ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not wasting anyone’s time,it’s not in my nature to do such a thing but thanks for your input anyway

I didn't say that either. I was actually trying to help you. Never mind! "

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I’m not wasting anyone’s time,it’s not in my nature to do such a thing but thanks for your input anyway

I didn't say that either. I was actually trying to help you. Never mind!

I'm oot

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If I could I would it’d be so much easier than trying to sort this out lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like I said way back...book a hotel for the day

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This maybe the way forward I feel

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple over a year ago

Hartlepool

If a guy messages us saying they've got a fwb to join we assume it's a lie. Even if it's true its bloody rude to expect us to meet a girl we never spoke to or seen. Stop assuming just because she's female everyone wants to play.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"So everyone is tarred with the same brush

. Great advice.

Not everyone mate, there’s equally as many flaky couples and single females in here, but they’re easy to spot

Yup, usually the ones that wink me

Hehehe! You get that too? I thought I was special......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So everyone is tarred with the same brush

. Great advice.

Not everyone mate, there’s equally as many flaky couples and single females in here, but they’re easy to spot

Yup, usually the ones that wink me

Hehehe! You get that too? I thought I was special......

By the time I attempt to wink back I've usually been blocked and banished to the single male pit

Although I am getting better at making tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hahahahaha it happens

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

And that is why genuine fellas struggle. Advice not to meet as most guys let the rest of us down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that is why genuine fellas struggle. Advice not to meet as most guys let the rest of us down. "

Oh contraire. It’s suggest getting out there and getting to clubs.

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

And that is why genuine fellas struggle. Advice not to meet as most guys let the rest of us down.

Oh contraire. It’s suggest getting out there and getting to clubs. "

But what if a single guy doesn’t wish to go to a club, advice given is to avoid all guts unless they’re in a club....there’re nothing wrong with socials...or should they be banned too?

Do I have to conform to what someone else wants me to do?

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

Wow...spelling error central! Soz!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never been to a club lads & don’t ever intend too, i can assure you it’s not necessary so anyone painting the picture that its the ‘best’ way is probably got an agenda behind that.

Like Big Dave said up there, get your game up!

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"I never been to a club lads & don’t ever intend too, i can assure you it’s not necessary so anyone painting the picture that its the ‘best’ way is probably got an agenda behind that.

Like Big Dave said up there, get your game up!

Ive never been....I may do one day...but the agenda stating that all women should avoid guys they don’t meet in a club as they are fake/not genuine/hard work or whatever is a little false.

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

Ironically, if I went to meet Big Dave’s FWB in a club, I’d have a feeling I’d be the only genuine one there!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never been to a club lads & don’t ever intend too, i can assure you it’s not necessary so anyone painting the picture that its the ‘best’ way is probably got an agenda behind that.

Like Big Dave said up there, get your game up!

Ive never been....I may do one day...but the agenda stating that all women should avoid guys they don’t meet in a club as they are fake/not genuine/hard work or whatever is a little false. "

I’ve not been proven wrong yet though.

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"I never been to a club lads & don’t ever intend too, i can assure you it’s not necessary so anyone painting the picture that its the ‘best’ way is probably got an agenda behind that.

Like Big Dave said up there, get your game up!

Ive never been....I may do one day...but the agenda stating that all women should avoid guys they don’t meet in a club as they are fake/not genuine/hard work or whatever is a little false.

I’ve not been proven wrong yet though. "

My veris say otherwise...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then. "

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So everyone is tarred with the same brush

. Great advice."

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff. "

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club"

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience.

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

Thread of the year so far we’ve been tickled by it

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience. "

Says the couple “really, really not interested in single guys”......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience.

Says the couple “really, really not interested in single guys”......

Yeah we meet them at clubs as they act a lot more respectable and a fabs profile doesn’t matter at a club.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I never been to a club lads & don’t ever intend too, i can assure you it’s not necessary so anyone painting the picture that its the ‘best’ way is probably got an agenda behind that.

Like Big Dave said up there, get your game up!

I’ve been to several clubs, and can honestly say, private meets are more rewarding. As this poster has mentioned, don’t believe the hype of the club scene

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience.

Says the couple “really, really not interested in single guys”......

Yeah we meet them at clubs as they act a lot more respectable and a fabs profile doesn’t matter at a club. "

You have no idea how I act! And to discard someone because of a preconceived notion is rather short sighted.

Yours respectfully, The Chaff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience.

Says the couple “really, really not interested in single guys”......

Yeah we meet them at clubs as they act a lot more respectable and a fabs profile doesn’t matter at a club. "

Surely you don't get many guys approaching you at clubs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience.

Says the couple “really, really not interested in single guys”......

Yeah we meet them at clubs as they act a lot more respectable and a fabs profile doesn’t matter at a club.

You have no idea how I act! And to discard someone because of a preconceived notion is rather short sighted.

Yours respectfully, The Chaff"

Taking it very personal. Are you not getting the action you’d like?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience.

Says the couple “really, really not interested in single guys”......

Yeah we meet them at clubs as they act a lot more respectable and a fabs profile doesn’t matter at a club.

Surely you don't get many guys approaching you at clubs?

Yeah we chat to loads of them.

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"You’ve got nothing to moan about then.

Only the assumption that men aren’t real if they don’t meet in a club. I’m not moaning about anything else

Didn’t say they aren’t real. Just said less wasters at clubs. Really cuts the wheat from the chaff.

You said you tell women and couples to never meet single guys unless they’re in a club

Yes. I truly believe that. Once you know they are swingers and not a guy just trying to get a shag, you’ll have a far more satisfying experience.

Says the couple “really, really not interested in single guys”......

Yeah we meet them at clubs as they act a lot more respectable and a fabs profile doesn’t matter at a club.

You have no idea how I act! And to discard someone because of a preconceived notion is rather short sighted.

Yours respectfully, The Chaff

Taking it very personal. Are you not getting the action you’d like?"

Action!? Haha.

I do take being branded as disrespectful quite personally, especially when someone assumes I am something because anyone in my category all are.

But seeing as you’re really really not interested in any single guys....I don’t suppose it really matters what you think.

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

I respect that your experiences have given you an impression. But to actively tell people to avoid men who aren’t in clubs is disrespectful to those who don’t conform to the stereotype you’ve encountered.

And to back that up by saying you’re not even interested in single guys anyway....ah well!

Have fun!

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

I blame Big Dave for all of this

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

As a single guy the wrong side of 50 who can’t accommodate and not the most photogenic I seldom get a meet by just sending messages.I am a member of a club I go to a spa and I attend organised socials and I contribute on some of the forums.I find that works best for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Haha Jesus don’t bring me into this I’m just sat here with popcorn reading the comments.....#bekind

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

The men who turn you down are not necessarily the same men that complain about not getting a meet.

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By *aughtiecoupleCouple over a year ago

Aylesbury

We tried to meet with 2 separate men on the same day. The first said he couldn’t make it in the end as he would have to get the bus. The second then said he couldn’t make it due to real life getting in the way. We then met a really nice guy who got to fuck my wife. BTW one liners saying I’ve got a big dick and do we want to meet now, oddly enough doesn’t really work !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Haha thanks for sharing that experience,I’m finding that most guys say they accommodate then strangely can’t lol

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

We've never had any problems finding guys who can accomodate, but then we have a couples profile with pics of us both...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We've never had any problems finding guys who can accomodate, but then we have a couples profile with pics of us both... "

Aye, it's an advantage is that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I agree but I shall soldier on in hope of finding people who are nice and polite and respectful

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I agree but I shall soldier on in hope of finding people who are nice and polite and respectful "

Might be a stupid question but why don't you set up a couples profile with pics of you both. It would increase your chances massively.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I thought this too x

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"I’m finding that most guys say they accommodate then strangely can’t lol"

I find that really ironic considering that applied to you earlier today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Indeed a oversight on my part kindly pointed out

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Haha Jesus don’t bring me into this I’m just sat here with popcorn reading the comments.....#bekind"

Er.......isn’t this your thread?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"If I got a chance to meet up with a lady on here, whether it's in a hotel or there place and easy to get too ,I'd jump at the chance. But I never get the offer. Will say some ladies on here can also lead men on ,chat for ages then when it come to arrange a meet they also clog up. Just my opinion OP"

Because timewasters have ruined the vibe and it takes a lot now for people to trust profiles. No idea what the answer is to this as when i asked the question before, some people just troll you on forums instead of being pragmatic and sympathic.

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

This has proved to be a very entertaining thread

Good luck OP, I think you might need it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah and my instinct is be as sarcastic and cutting but I’m being the bigger man

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m really struggling to find the lady in this triangle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not going to jump at the chance based on your word of there being a woman.

Get a couples profile if she does exist.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Could you use reply and quote please OP, then we can see who you are replying to. Xx

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By *iss-tiqueWoman over a year ago

Stockport

When I was part of a couple we met this single guy online who moaned about being verified and said all the right things to us so I thought we'd invite him over for a few drinks and then happily verify him. He pulled out by saying he'd had a drink and couldn't drive (he lived 2 miles away). We were ok with the honesty but after that he persistently kept messaging us asking for another chance and if we were free in the middle of the night for a "quickie"

I don't think some single men realise what this world is about. They think they can be disrespectful and that women would just open their legs by the click of a finger...

Then they moan they get no interest.

#swingingeducation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think some single men realise what this world is about. They think they can be disrespectful and that women would just open their legs by the click of a finger...

Then they moan they get no interest.

#swingingeducation"

Exactly this. It’s a Saturday night so we are expecting the ‘hey I’m local, fancy a fuck’ messages from the Neanderthals. These people are not swingers

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

Exactly this. It’s a Saturday night so we are expecting the ‘hey I’m local, fancy a fuck’ messages from the Neanderthals. These people are not swingers "

Yep, Friday/Saturday night is always the same, get towards pub closing time and the desperate messages from horny guys flood in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, the irony.

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By *nunknown1Man over a year ago

Cambs

Most entertaining thread I have read in a long time. Good luck to you Big Dave

hope you and the milf find someone to accommodate you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus....read my reply it clearly says there not blocked!,I specifically changed my settings to allow guys to message me

Not looking for single guys on your profile means you have them blocked from contracting you"

Unfortunately not. I inundated with single guys messaging me

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