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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I joined fab when I was 18, I have been on and off here for approaching 5 years. I'm by no means a hardoned swinger, but i have a few loyalty points I shall say.
I've always understood couples and women calling the shots, you get many messages a day, I always used to hate how blunt some questions were, but after noticing some people get hundreds of messages a day its understandable really.
However on a few occasions lately. People have just been outright insulting.
In the last week alone, I've had some horrible insults regarding my looks
Futher, aggressive messages from people who don't meet "children" yet have a very broad age range, and have not clarified their criteria in which they wish to meet.
The latest one, I'm not even going to share because it absolutely disgusts me to the core.
My point is, to everyone. Just be kind. It's not just fab, the whole world (especially online) is becoming toxic.
There's no need to be rude, if you don't like someone, just delete and move on. If you want to say a polite no then do so.
I've met some great people on fab. I've also been lucky to have some great experiences.
I've always had a stiff upper lip, but these last few weeks has knocked my self confidence to a new low, and there was no need for any of it.
Be kind. Be courteous. Have fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah fuck off!!!!
Only joking !!!
Manners make the the man(and woman) and I try and be polite to one and all but sometimes it’s very hard but you are correct and we should all spread the love a bit more.
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Well, you are below the age range we'd be looking for, but if you'd messaged us, you'd get a polite reply if you've put a bit of effort into the message. Just saying "hi" means we'll ignore, but we cannot fathom why people would be rude. Good luck to you young man  |
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Quite the theme today with the "be nice" threads.
People being pricks tend to need to look closer to home for the shitty person. It's usually their iwn crap profiles etc that need the work for sure. |
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Hi everyone
This is a very interesting (and welcomed) topic at this time.
In relation to rudeness on the site my conclusion is......people get so much attention they let it get to there head and clearly can’t handle the attention hence why they are no longer grounded to real life.
Example
If someone comes into fame
There’s media training
Come into huge amounts of money
There’s finical training
Cos they know people can’t handle the transition.
So I think it’s the same here people can’t handle the transition from “not much attention” in real life
To huge attention here.
It’s no excuse coz it’s ridiculous
And we never know how people will take/handle the abuse/put down or whatever.
but that’s just my conclusion
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been off here for a week, our first message back was from a single guy asking if I want to piss on him.
We're nice 99 times out of 100, but I'm sure you understand why some people go on one!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it puzzling that if someone has what the reader believes is a crap profile. This is a good excuse to insult them.
What crap. It's just opportunistic bullying.
OP. The law forbids the eradication of ignorant fools. So like a cow pat we just look, down step over them and move on.
The,re even worth the maths of why? |
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"We've been off here for a week, our first message back was from a single guy asking if I want to piss on him.
We're nice 99 times out of 100, but I'm sure you understand why some people go on one! "
But surely you just ignore/delete
/block that and forget? Still no need to be rude (not that I'm saying you were). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been off here for a week, our first message back was from a single guy asking if I want to piss on him.
We're nice 99 times out of 100, but I'm sure you understand why some people go on one!
But surely you just ignore/delete
/block that and forget? Still no need to be rude (not that I'm saying you were). "
No we blocked and deleted, but on your 100th disrespectful filthy message you can sometimes snap  |
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I much prefer people showing their true colours earlier rather than later. It is also a very good sign of intelligence and social skills - if people cannot communicate effectively then they will very likely be very poor lovers. |
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"I joined fab when I was 18, I have been on and off here for approaching 5 years. I'm by no means a hardoned swinger, but i have a few loyalty points I shall say.
I've always understood couples and women calling the shots, you get many messages a day, I always used to hate how blunt some questions were, but after noticing some people get hundreds of messages a day its understandable really.
However on a few occasions lately. People have just been outright insulting.
In the last week alone, I've had some horrible insults regarding my looks
Futher, aggressive messages from people who don't meet "children" yet have a very broad age range, and have not clarified their criteria in which they wish to meet.
The latest one, I'm not even going to share because it absolutely disgusts me to the core.
My point is, to everyone. Just be kind. It's not just fab, the whole world (especially online) is becoming toxic.
There's no need to be rude, if you don't like someone, just delete and move on. If you want to say a polite no then do so.
I've met some great people on fab. I've also been lucky to have some great experiences.
I've always had a stiff upper lip, but these last few weeks has knocked my self confidence to a new low, and there was no need for any of it.
Be kind. Be courteous. Have fun.
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Here’s a virtual hug OP....xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would be nice if everyone followed that route but alas there are always a few bad apples who for one reason or another delight in being unplesent and its unlikely they will ever stop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Replies I've had have be honest and polite I can say my confidence remained high lol. The only awkward one was when I received a block because I wasn't keen on going to an adult spa. Weird.  |
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OP the tide will turn especially if your messages are like your post. Being kind and polite count yes somtimes no or a block is required but as you say rudeness just reflects the character of the other parties.
Carry on regardless, happy fabbing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well said Mr!
It is all so unecessary..the arrogance & gratuitous cruelty of some on here.
Pick yourself up Mr and know we all go through hard times on here and you're right to speak out.
Good luck
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I joined fab when I was 18, I have been on and off here for approaching 5 years. I'm by no means a hardoned swinger, but i have a few loyalty points I shall say.
I've always understood couples and women calling the shots, you get many messages a day, I always used to hate how blunt some questions were, but after noticing some people get hundreds of messages a day its understandable really.
However on a few occasions lately. People have just been outright insulting.
In the last week alone, I've had some horrible insults regarding my looks
Futher, aggressive messages from people who don't meet "children" yet have a very broad age range, and have not clarified their criteria in which they wish to meet.
The latest one, I'm not even going to share because it absolutely disgusts me to the core.
My point is, to everyone. Just be kind. It's not just fab, the whole world (especially online) is becoming toxic.
There's no need to be rude, if you don't like someone, just delete and move on. If you want to say a polite no then do so.
I've met some great people on fab. I've also been lucky to have some great experiences.
I've always had a stiff upper lip, but these last few weeks has knocked my self confidence to a new low, and there was no need for any of it.
Be kind. Be courteous. Have fun.
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Couples and single women call the shots?
Only if you let them.
As a single guy on here I called my own. You're not at anyone's beck and call. You make your own choices and engage with who you choose.
Sometimes people let themselves be treated as a second class citizen on here. And that's the biggest problem they'll have on site.
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By *ixen500Couple
over a year ago
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Arr sorry to hear this theres no need to be rude . And you are right its not just on fab..
People never stop and think the effect there words comments might have on people !!
How hard is it to say no thanks or just tap delete
Be kind..be nice...think !!
Soz rant over ! God need something chocolaty now or a jam doughnut mmmmmmmm!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined fab when I was 18, I have been on and off here for approaching 5 years. I'm by no means a hardoned swinger, but i have a few loyalty points I shall say.
I've always understood couples and women calling the shots, you get many messages a day, I always used to hate how blunt some questions were, but after noticing some people get hundreds of messages a day its understandable really.
However on a few occasions lately. People have just been outright insulting.
In the last week alone, I've had some horrible insults regarding my looks
Futher, aggressive messages from people who don't meet "children" yet have a very broad age range, and have not clarified their criteria in which they wish to meet.
The latest one, I'm not even going to share because it absolutely disgusts me to the core.
My point is, to everyone. Just be kind. It's not just fab, the whole world (especially online) is becoming toxic.
There's no need to be rude, if you don't like someone, just delete and move on. If you want to say a polite no then do so.
I've met some great people on fab. I've also been lucky to have some great experiences.
I've always had a stiff upper lip, but these last few weeks has knocked my self confidence to a new low, and there was no need for any of it.
Be kind. Be courteous. Have fun.
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Oh that’s quite sad to read, I’m sorry you’ve been treated like that, no need at all  I always endeavour to be polite even when people have messaged and clearly haven’t read our profile. Kindness costs nothing and a simple but polite no thank you is sufficient. |
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