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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’ve recently met a few single guys lately and when it comes down to it. They literally can’t last more than 2 mins.
Anyone got any advice how to avoid these?
Eve. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone got any advice how to avoid these?
Eve. Xx"
Maybe you guys are just that exciting?
Suggestions then,
Delay condoms work well
Tell them to have a wank beforehand
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"We’ve recently met a few single guys lately and when it comes down to it. They literally can’t last more than 2 mins.
Anyone got any advice how to avoid these?
Eve. Xx"
Not being big-headed or anything but if I’m using a condom (which is most of the time) I can last a long time. Have you tried a cock ring? |
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When it's been discussed before, a desentising cream containing something like lidocaine that dentists use, has been suggested. You must make sure that it doesn't transfer from him to you though, else you lose some pleasure. Probably someone will come along and state the name of the stuff you can buy in Boots. I think it may be used for haemorroid relief. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So frustrating when you've had a pleasurable time building up to sex and a couple of thousand it's over, then off they go back to their wife, full of guilt, I've even had guys cum as they prepare to enter me. I never see them again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve recently met a few single guys lately and when it comes down to it. They literally can’t last more than 2 mins.
Anyone got any advice how to avoid these?
Eve. Xx"
Go for guys that seem to have meets several times a week. The regular exercise will mean they can go for longer, plus their subconscious won't be telling them "Rare woman! Must blow my beans!" 
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Single guys may not have had a woman in a while... that’s most likely the main cause. Guys in a couple, whilst even fucking someone new, should have a lot more self control if they’re used to sex on a very regular basis.
Then of course, you’ll get the ones who just don’t have it in them to go on for any length of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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most guys..its just pure excitement...they dont take their time or not be able to control...if they're good..go for seconds..last longer too or just tell them to wank off before you have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Or here's another one; once said guy has had his moment, scold him playfully for being unable to control himself (whilst taking it as a compliment to your own prowess of course) and make him give prolonged oral as a penance. Then when he's hard again a few minutes later he'll last longer with it being the second time? Win-win! 
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Years ago I was having premature ejaculation problems and it was tough to admit as a man but I eventually went to the doctor.
The doctor said Sam "When you feel like you are getting ready to ejaculate, try startling yourself."
That very same day i went to the sports store and bought myself a starter pistol and ran home to my then wife.
That night we were having foreplay and after less than 2 minutes we found ourselves in the 69 position and I have to admit that a close up view of a smooth pussy was getting to much for me !
Starting to feel the urge to ejaculate I reached under the pillow and fired the starter pistol twice
To be fair it worked with stopping me cumming but when I fired the pistol, my wife pooed on my face, bit three inches off my penis, and my neighbor came out of the closet with his hands in the air.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah it can take 5 minutes to "climatise" so I just start out slow and then I'm ok. The advice for guys is often to distract themselves from the pleasure when what they need to do is develop more self-awareness about what is going on in their body. In my experience the attitude of the person I'm with can make a big difference, if you get pissed off, or worse pretend you're not when you are, then you're probably causing the problem, at least partly. What do you do to help a guy relax when he's nervous? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I suppose part of it is down to what he's after. Some guys just want to empty their sacks, others genuinely want to please. Some times I get overly excited, that's where my cage comes into play, I just wear that to ensure their enjoyment first, it also keeps me a lot calmer downstairs and horny a lot longer. For those who can't wait to play with the new guys cock just mix it up a bit, if he's getting to close get him to switch to oral, at least that way you'll both get more enjoyment x |
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If you were local I would give you a list of "30+ mins"
I find well verified guys much better. And I'm not talking about "treat with respect, not one to be missed" I always read a lot of veris and check who they are from. |
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I enjoy a lot of foreplay and lead up to sex, which means when it comes to the act itself for the first time in a session, I'm often on a bit of a "hair trigger". I usually warn partners that the first time will be over quite quickly (but if they gain any sort of enjoyment from cum, that is the time to take advantage as it's when there will be most of the stuff!) Thankfully, I can reload quite quickly and the second, third and fourth times are generally much more fulfilling for all concerned! I find that most women are perfectly happy with that as long as they know that the first 2-minute episode isn't going to be the end of the story! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’ve recently met a few single guys lately and when it comes down to it. They literally can’t last more than 2 mins.
Anyone got any advice how to avoid these?
Eve. Xx"
just ask in your first reply do you cum within2 minutes and if they say no say will you be willing to sign an internet based disclaimer which involves a financial penalty   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm the opposite. Takes me ages to come, especially after a drink. I've had some girls question it in the past and when I tell them that it means I can perform for longer whilst fully enjoying myself, they agree and enjoy it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm the opposite. Takes me ages to come, especially after a drink. I've had some girls question it in the past and when I tell them that it means I can perform for longer whilst fully enjoying myself, they agree and enjoy it. "
It’s the opposite I’ve found. They question themselves sadly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe clubs? If one guy taps out to quickly somebody else can step in.
Alternatively look to meet guys who state they are repeat cummers, those who can multiple orgasm without breaks / stay hard or the guys who state they like long play sessions with multiple positions.
KJ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish I could. Can go hours. Sometimes I don’t cum. And it’s no fun for me or the lady at times. "
why then have you blocked women for on fab? Is it for the reason that sometimes you dont cum ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wish I could. Can go hours. Sometimes I don’t cum. And it’s no fun for me or the lady at times. why then have you blocked women for on fab? Is it for the reason that sometimes you dont cum ?"
Because I do my own searching.
No messages stops trolls from the forums messaging me aswell.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve recently met a few single guys lately and when it comes down to it. They literally can’t last more than 2 mins.
Anyone got any advice how to avoid these?
Eve. Xx"
Is there a one ejaculation limit?
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By *irGxxxxMan
over a year ago
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Eve,
Not all single guys are like that. I practise control and sometime I can struggle to cum because I've got it down to a tee. You need to find a more experienced guy whos not on her for a splash and dash. |
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"Any good guy will keep paying after he's came.. my partner can sometimes get a bit over excited but he will always make sure that I'm more than satisfied before he rolls over "
This ^ anyone worth their salt will make sure you're satisfied before leaving. |
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"Go to clubs. "
they cum quickly there too..
My advice ( and I've not read the rest of the thread)
Is to not worry. If it happens quick and your wanting to make a few hours of it... make the 2nd round enticing. Just because a guy has cum it doesnt have to be the end of play. ( unless he genuinely can't manage more than once) to be fair though I find those guys are normally adept at making sure the lady has had a good time before the full sex starts x
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Similar issue with me. Fastest is under 1 min hand job. Or they don't cum at all because they think lasting for hours is great fun which is only with guys you have amazing sexual chemistry. I just say to them lets just stick to simple kissing and caressing etc |
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"Similar issue with me. Fastest is under 1 min hand job. Or they don't cum at all because they think lasting for hours is great fun which is only with guys you have amazing sexual chemistry. I just say to them lets just stick to simple kissing and caressing etc"
1 min no way
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By (user no longer on site)
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In the past at certain times I have cum very quickly and couldn't work it out, but quite often it can be the excitement and anticipation that may have been building up in their head. Definitely somebody who has the ability to bring a guy to the edge and know exactly the right time to stop will be able to make even the quickest cummers last for ages!! |
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"In the past at certain times I have cum very quickly and couldn't work it out, but quite often it can be the excitement and anticipation that may have been building up in their head. Definitely somebody who has the ability to bring a guy to the edge and know exactly the right time to stop will be able to make even the quickest cummers last for ages!!"
I think you have hit the nail on the head there. I think it's a lot to do with being excited/nervous. It doesn't happen to me in the vanilla world, but have been nervous on swinging meets. The good news is I recover pretty quick, then last fine the second time. As others have said I enjoy giving pleasure, so there is always something to do while recovering. |
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"Or here's another one; once said guy has had his moment, scold him playfully for being unable to control himself (whilst taking it as a compliment to your own prowess of course) and make him give prolonged oral as a penance. Then when he's hard again a few minutes later he'll last longer with it being the second time? Win-win!
B"
I assumed that's what everyone would do, lol? I'm no stamina pro, and can reach the point of cumming quite quick if I get really turned on! Going down when the urge to cum starts is standard delay tactics, and going down "as penance" for losing my load too fast is a a tasty price to pay  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thought of being made to give prolonged oral would make me even more turned on! Just be careful not to let your cock go to close to the ladies feet as if you are that close one rub could be fatal lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’ve recently met a few single guys lately and when it comes down to it. They literally can’t last more than 2 mins.
Anyone got any advice how to avoid these?
Eve. Xx"
Yer meet me I will go longer lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single guys may not have had a woman in a while... that’s most likely the main cause. Guys in a couple, whilst even fucking someone new, should have a lot more self control if they’re used to sex on a very regular basis.
Then of course, you’ll get the ones who just don’t have it in them to go on for any length of time."
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By (user no longer on site)
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The way I see it is thay probably not had sex for a while so when it comes down to it thay cum way to fast it has happened to me in the past it's not a nice thing to happen to you it's embarrassing lasting like 10 minutes its not good but having seconds is really good I can last like an hour an a half at least when I cum and go back for more and can last a lot longer hope this helps you you |
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that is exactly why I love the clubs 
tie them to the bed.