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Dodgy age to be at.
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So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please |
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I've seen threads from men of every age saying their particular age is excluded by most profiles.
I think the problem would be solved by searching only profiles that are looking for the age you currently are.  |
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over a year ago
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Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please"
We're mid 30s so we've set 25-40 because we don't want lads almost our son's age (17) or people getting towards our parents ages (55+). There's nothing in that apart from the "weird" factor. Now, there is an age range in the forties that, despite the profile, we will consider for the right guy/couple... |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
It's a litteral no man's land "
That is literally where I feel I fall from a male point of view. Though I would say, as a female I'm sure you still get your fair share of admirers?
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me. |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please"
37 doesn't get dodgier than that    |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land "
Ahem! Not all the men thankyou although this particular one is miles and miles away from you and wears make up.
Jesus, finding a good match on here is a minefield. |
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"I've seen threads from men of every age saying their particular age is excluded by most profiles.
I think the problem would be solved by searching only profiles that are looking for the age you currently are. "
Yes I’ve done this and I’ve gleefully announced that I’m in their age bracket, meet their height needs, and everything for them to reply ‘sorry we don’t meet people from Brighton’  |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land
Ahem! Not all the men thankyou although this particular one is miles and miles away from you and wears make up.
Jesus, finding a good match on here is a minefield."
And looks better in it than I do! |
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We all have preferences - and rightly so. No one has to compromise, nor sell themselves short in trying to fit what others want. It's always worth waiting for the 'right' person, not about just taking anything that comes your way. Age is a problem as well as geography for some, which can compromise any of us. When I'd sooner travel for what I consider to be quality over quantity, some of those that interest me see the distance as a deal breaker, or may consider someone so far away to be wasting their time, which proves we all come at this from different perspectives, We all have the right to do this, so be patient for those that work for you, as well as you them. |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land
Ahem! Not all the men thankyou although this particular one is miles and miles away from you and wears make up.
Jesus, finding a good match on here is a minefield.
And looks better in it than I do! "
Not a chance! Your pic 5th June 2019 is incredible and no way could I match that in a million years  |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land
Ahem! Not all the men thankyou although this particular one is miles and miles away from you and wears make up.
Jesus, finding a good match on here is a minefield.
And looks better in it than I do! "
your 6th feb pic looks lovely |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please"
Reading profiles? |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please"
30’s and early 40’s is pretty much my sweet spot as I prefer guys roughly my own age (I’m 35). I guess it depends how you look at things! You’ll never be everyone’s cup of tea so concentrate on those who you are! |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land "
Couldn’t agree with this more ha! It’s when a guy messages saying he likes older women and he’s like 3 years younger than me... erm wait a minute!   |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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The perfect age for the guys I am attracted to is 34-38...
I think you have bigger concerns than your age tbh. Your profile text is rather off-putting- as funny and banterish as you might have wanted it to come across.. |
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We like going to clubs because it’s down to how you look and interact. We don’t ask how old, if there’s a chemistry then we are good to go! I’m sure one couple we had fun with were in their twenties, but we wouldn’t set out to do that. |
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over a year ago
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At the end of the day age can be just a number xx being too old or too young for others isnt your loss its there's xx there are an awful lot of very good people out there xx have fun and enjoy life dont take things too serious or to heart xx |
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"Our age is the worst 59 and 54 we are both fit and ok on the eye... but those honest numbers..age.. means we will have to bale out from the club soon ..sucks getting old."
We have just had a good look at your profile xx wow you are both gorgeous xx you put both of us to shame xx |
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"Our age is the worst 59 and 54 we are both fit and ok on the eye... but those honest numbers..age.. means we will have to bale out from the club soon ..sucks getting old.
We have just had a good look at your profile xx wow you are both gorgeous xx you put both of us to shame xx "
Don’t be so hard on yourselves! |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please"
Reading your profile, I think you have 6 bigger things to worry about than just the age bracket you’ve fallen in to   |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please"
Is there a spreadsheet to back up your research? I’ve a thing for spreadsheets and geeks lol.... |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please
Is there a spreadsheet to back up your research? I’ve a thing for spreadsheets and geeks lol...."
Spreadsheet + power bi dashboard for a full interrogation of the numbers collected. |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please
Is there a spreadsheet to back up your research? I’ve a thing for spreadsheets and geeks lol....
Spreadsheet + power bi dashboard for a full interrogation of the numbers collected. "
Ooh, I love that kind if dirty talk....  |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please
Is there a spreadsheet to back up your research? I’ve a thing for spreadsheets and geeks lol....
Spreadsheet + power bi dashboard for a full interrogation of the numbers collected.
Ooh, I love that kind if dirty talk.... "
I saw a job advert for a “BI Developer” recently. I was trying to work out what the difference was!!! |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land "
This but very nearly 40.
(Also yeah my preferences are also super specific) |
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over a year ago
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I’m 37 and have set my age preference from 32-43 (I think) but in all honesty I feel 32 is to young for me.
I’ve always liked a guy my own age or a few years older |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please
Is there a spreadsheet to back up your research? I’ve a thing for spreadsheets and geeks lol....
Spreadsheet + power bi dashboard for a full interrogation of the numbers collected.
Ooh, I love that kind if dirty talk....
I saw a job advert for a “BI Developer” recently. I was trying to work out what the difference was!!!"
It's nothing to do with business intelligence it's just trying to get folks to be more sexually liberated. Be more prepared to do half chips half rice, if you know what I mean. |
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I've got the big 50 later this year. I'd moan about it more. But given the other alternative is to die young. I'll take it on the chin. In fab years I'll be 80 though. |
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"So here's the thing. I've clicked into the late thirties bracket.
I know that's not old, and for some people theyd give their right arm to be at this age again. But I'm finding that I'm in a bit of transitional area age wise.
I'm my experience (and I know we all have different ones) i find that women on here have roughly two main age brackets (I say roughly, taken from the average experience I have, not including any outliers), but these seem to be under and over 40. So in essence, for those after a younger male I'm at the top end, and for those after an older guy, I'm too green.
Does anyone else feel they experience this when they are reading profiles?
Thoughts please
Is there a spreadsheet to back up your research? I’ve a thing for spreadsheets and geeks lol....
Spreadsheet + power bi dashboard for a full interrogation of the numbers collected.
Ooh, I love that kind if dirty talk....
I saw a job advert for a “BI Developer” recently. I was trying to work out what the difference was!!!
It's nothing to do with business intelligence it's just trying to get folks to be more sexually liberated. Be more prepared to do half chips half rice, if you know what I mean. "
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"We like going to clubs because it’s down to how you look and interact. We don’t ask how old, if there’s a chemistry then we are good to go! I’m sure one couple we had fun with were in their twenties, but we wouldn’t set out to do that. "
This is true! I get largely ignored on here, but have had really great times at clubs at various times. I don't have thoughts of a particular type of person/couple, but if we interact positively then it often opens up opportunities. |
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"In this site some people complain about being too fat too thin too tall too short too old too young not enough swingers where they live ,have we missed anything out ?? "
Yep, then complain when they don't get what they're after, but ignore messages from people who MAY fit what they're after if they took the trouble to look. It seems to happen on here a lot. |
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"In this site some people complain about being too fat too thin too tall too short too old too young not enough swingers where they live ,have we missed anything out ??
Yep, then complain when they don't get what they're after, but ignore messages from people who MAY fit what they're after if they took the trouble to look. It seems to happen on here a lot. "
Oh hell yes to that. Even guys.. Ermmm... Hello... We we're talking to you... We agreed to meet yet you suddenly went quiet and your status is a bullshit whine about fakes...? |
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"We like going to clubs because it’s down to how you look and interact. We don’t ask how old, if there’s a chemistry then we are good to go! I’m sure one couple we had fun with were in their twenties, but we wouldn’t set out to do that.
This is true! I get largely ignored on here, but have had really great times at clubs at various times. I don't have thoughts of a particular type of person/couple, but if we interact positively then it often opens up opportunities. "
Yep, occasionally a single guy has come in useful at the club |
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OP - Possibly put a face picture on.
I'll be 46 next year, but I've found people will message you if you're in decent nic - & sometimes break their own rules. |
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"OP - Possibly put a face picture on.
I'll be 46 next year, but I've found people will message you if you're in decent nic - & sometimes break their own rules."
And looking good on it too! |
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"OP - Possibly put a face picture on.
I'll be 46 next year, but I've found people will message you if you're in decent nic - & sometimes break their own rules.
And looking good on it too! "
very kind x |
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"We like going to clubs because it’s down to how you look and interact. We don’t ask how old, if there’s a chemistry then we are good to go! I’m sure one couple we had fun with were in their twenties, but we wouldn’t set out to do that.
This is true! I get largely ignored on here, but have had really great times at clubs at various times. I don't have thoughts of a particular type of person/couple, but if we interact positively then it often opens up opportunities.
Yep, occasionally a single guy has come in useful at the club "
We do have our uses!  Fab can sometimes throw up unexplainable dynamics. I've been rejected/blanked on here on more than one occasion, but then had interest from the very same people when in a club. I can't figure that out, but just got to roll with it. |
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I have a preferred age range but it’s just that ‘preferred’ and serves to filter out the extremes. However I’ve found that chatting to a guy and finding a connection is far more important than the number -especially if they have a nice body . I would focus on finding and making that connection and not be put off by the exact numbers. |
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"In this site some people complain about being too fat too thin too tall too short too old too young not enough swingers where they live ,have we missed anything out ??
Yep, then complain when they don't get what they're after, but ignore messages from people who MAY fit what they're after if they took the trouble to look. It seems to happen on here a lot.
Oh hell yes to that. Even guys.. Ermmm... Hello... We we're talking to you... We agreed to meet yet you suddenly went quiet and your status is a bullshit whine about fakes...? "
Sorry folks, excuse me if I've just read that wrong, but was that a general reply about the site, or was it directed at me specifically, as we've never had any interaction at any point, nor have I ever gone quiet on anyone, or let anyone down after agreeing to meet. (Just checking in case you're confusing me with someone else) |
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"In this site some people complain about being too fat too thin too tall too short too old too young not enough swingers where they live ,have we missed anything out ??
Yep, then complain when they don't get what they're after, but ignore messages from people who MAY fit what they're after if they took the trouble to look. It seems to happen on here a lot.
Oh hell yes to that. Even guys.. Ermmm... Hello... We we're talking to you... We agreed to meet yet you suddenly went quiet and your status is a bullshit whine about fakes...?
Sorry folks, excuse me if I've just read that wrong, but was that a general reply about the site, or was it directed at me specifically, as we've never had any interaction at any point, nor have I ever gone quiet on anyone, or let anyone down after agreeing to meet. (Just checking in case you're confusing me with someone else) "
Don’t worry, it didn’t read as personal to you!
Sometimes people are strange - we chatted for a while with a couple, arranged to meet at a club, then an hour before just went silent! It happens.  |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land "
This |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land
This "
Give over gg. Like you have any trouble finding a willing partner(s) ... |
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I've left my filters to 19 (which is probably too young i think, in all honesty)
Although a fwb in their early 20s that had a mature head on them, i could connect with...(Then what's "mature"..i dunno perhaps someone that read chomsky & listened to jazz. lol )
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
I have too say that being a 54 year old man, I'm finding it difficult too. I actually prefer a lady around my own age or within 5 years either side.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land "
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"In this site some people complain about being too fat too thin too tall too short too old too young not enough swingers where they live ,have we missed anything out ??
Yep, then complain when they don't get what they're after, but ignore messages from people who MAY fit what they're after if they took the trouble to look. It seems to happen on here a lot.
Oh hell yes to that. Even guys.. Ermmm... Hello... We we're talking to you... We agreed to meet yet you suddenly went quiet and your status is a bullshit whine about fakes...?
Sorry folks, excuse me if I've just read that wrong, but was that a general reply about the site, or was it directed at me specifically, as we've never had any interaction at any point, nor have I ever gone quiet on anyone, or let anyone down after agreeing to meet. (Just checking in case you're confusing me with someone else)
Don’t worry, it didn’t read as personal to you!
Sometimes people are strange - we chatted for a while with a couple, arranged to meet at a club, then an hour before just went silent! It happens. "
Thank you for that.
You're right though - while there are some amazing people in the Fab world there are those you can never figure out. Some time ago I had a really unpleasant response from a single female who I'd messaged saying I had a nerve messaging as I wasn't in her league and that it was laughable that I'd had the balls to even waste my time doing so. I then ended up at a club with friends and noticed she was there. She got into chatting with the group, including myself and randomly joined in when we ended up in a playroom, but got really shirty when I showed her no attention (I'd naturally assumed what she'd said before to still stand), so reminded her of the response to my message online. It was clear at this point she either hadn't recognised it as being me, or having seen me in person saw something different, but either way I politely informed her that in my eyes if I wasn't good enough in the first instance then surely I wasn't then either, especially as she'd been so rude and up herself online without cause. Her true colours then came out with me being informed in no uncertain terms that I was "..... lucky to get a second chance with her and that I should show a bit of gratitude!". Awful but entertaining in hindsight! |
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At 43 I feel a bit the same. I think you just have to realise that there's never really a sweet spot, you'll always be a little too old for some and too young for others. It's always a shame when someone you like the look of has set their age filters to your exact age, or plus/minus a year or two, but there's not much that can be done about it really, just suck it up and move on. |
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"In this site some people complain about being too fat too thin too tall too short too old too young not enough swingers where they live ,have we missed anything out ??
Yep, then complain when they don't get what they're after, but ignore messages from people who MAY fit what they're after if they took the trouble to look. It seems to happen on here a lot.
Oh hell yes to that. Even guys.. Ermmm... Hello... We we're talking to you... We agreed to meet yet you suddenly went quiet and your status is a bullshit whine about fakes...?
Sorry folks, excuse me if I've just read that wrong, but was that a general reply about the site, or was it directed at me specifically, as we've never had any interaction at any point, nor have I ever gone quiet on anyone, or let anyone down after agreeing to meet. (Just checking in case you're confusing me with someone else)
Don’t worry, it didn’t read as personal to you!
Sometimes people are strange - we chatted for a while with a couple, arranged to meet at a club, then an hour before just went silent! It happens.
Thank you for that.
You're right though - while there are some amazing people in the Fab world there are those you can never figure out. Some time ago I had a really unpleasant response from a single female who I'd messaged saying I had a nerve messaging as I wasn't in her league and that it was laughable that I'd had the balls to even waste my time doing so. I then ended up at a club with friends and noticed she was there. She got into chatting with the group, including myself and randomly joined in when we ended up in a playroom, but got really shirty when I showed her no attention (I'd naturally assumed what she'd said before to still stand), so reminded her of the response to my message online. It was clear at this point she either hadn't recognised it as being me, or having seen me in person saw something different, but either way I politely informed her that in my eyes if I wasn't good enough in the first instance then surely I wasn't then either, especially as she'd been so rude and up herself online without cause. Her true colours then came out with me being informed in no uncertain terms that I was "..... lucky to get a second chance with her and that I should show a bit of gratitude!". Awful but entertaining in hindsight! "
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"In this site some people complain about being too fat too thin too tall too short too old too young not enough swingers where they live ,have we missed anything out ??
Yep, then complain when they don't get what they're after, but ignore messages from people who MAY fit what they're after if they took the trouble to look. It seems to happen on here a lot.
Oh hell yes to that. Even guys.. Ermmm... Hello... We we're talking to you... We agreed to meet yet you suddenly went quiet and your status is a bullshit whine about fakes...?
Sorry folks, excuse me if I've just read that wrong, but was that a general reply about the site, or was it directed at me specifically, as we've never had any interaction at any point, nor have I ever gone quiet on anyone, or let anyone down after agreeing to meet. (Just checking in case you're confusing me with someone else)
Don’t worry, it didn’t read as personal to you!
Sometimes people are strange - we chatted for a while with a couple, arranged to meet at a club, then an hour before just went silent! It happens.
Thank you for that.
You're right though - while there are some amazing people in the Fab world there are those you can never figure out. Some time ago I had a really unpleasant response from a single female who I'd messaged saying I had a nerve messaging as I wasn't in her league and that it was laughable that I'd had the balls to even waste my time doing so. I then ended up at a club with friends and noticed she was there. She got into chatting with the group, including myself and randomly joined in when we ended up in a playroom, but got really shirty when I showed her no attention (I'd naturally assumed what she'd said before to still stand), so reminded her of the response to my message online. It was clear at this point she either hadn't recognised it as being me, or having seen me in person saw something different, but either way I politely informed her that in my eyes if I wasn't good enough in the first instance then surely I wasn't then either, especially as she'd been so rude and up herself online without cause. Her true colours then came out with me being informed in no uncertain terms that I was "..... lucky to get a second chance with her and that I should show a bit of gratitude!". Awful but entertaining in hindsight!
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"You should try being 52 xx people think your past it geriatric and cant keep it up xx
Bollocks! Otherwise there’s no hope for me!!! "
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"Single men here face a tough struggle . Often with themselves.
Do yourself all the favours that you can. Focus on what you can do and influence, unless you prefer to waste your time "
Bravo!! What a good shout. Go out to socials and clubs. Be patient, friendly and respectful and get yourself known and things will improve. It's not an overnight thing, but you'll get out what you put in if you do it with a bit of class. |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land "
36 myself and I Can't imagine you having any problem getting anyone at all. You are absolutely stunning |
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"Try being a 36 year old woman.
All the men your own age want cougars
All the men younger feel a bit too young.
All the men older either want younger than me or are too old for me.
It's a litteral no man's land
36 myself and I Can't imagine you having any problem getting anyone at all. You are absolutely stunning "
I know I come as part of a couple, but I'm 34 and have no end of messages from men across the age ranges. Recently from 19-65. Plenty of men in their 50s message us though we aren't really looking in that group. |
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"You should try being 52 xx people think your past it geriatric and cant keep it up xx
Bollocks! Otherwise there’s no hope for me!!!
That is bollocks! I'm 53 and by no means Brad Pitt, but I do just fine! "
Exactly xx experience speaks for its self xx |
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