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Being blocked after a meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't be a nice feeling.
There could be lots of reasons why she would do this and none of them a reflection on you.
You need thick skin to play here. Don't take it to heart.
Enjoy what fab has to offer and leave the rest.
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"Not sure if I want to know the reason lol. Met a lady spent a wild night together then blocked. Probably no big deal but just wondering what people think "
Guessing she didnt have a "wild" night. Spend time considering what you might have done, boundaries pushed or consent violations- it will be better than mindless cheer leading from ppl who cant imagine why a woman might block a man after fucking him.
Self reflection is never wasted and you might just learn something
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure if I want to know the reason lol. Met a lady spent a wild night together then blocked. Probably no big deal but just wondering what people think "
I think that was your verification  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure if I want to know the reason lol. Met a lady spent a wild night together then blocked. Probably no big deal but just wondering what people think "
awwww hey the bonus is you had a wild night, its the pitfall of this life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could be a number of reasons.
I've met guys and blocked them as soon as I've got in the car.
It is harsh but it's an easier alternative to having to explain why you dont want to see/speak to them again and trying to explain what they did or didnt do that you didnt like/enjoy.
As someone mentioned earlier a lot of men dont understand consent or boundaries, this is the reason I've blocked guys and I know a few other women who block guys for that reason as well.
Some men see 'no' as convince me, and generally some women end up doing things they dont like/dont want to because the guy is pestering them to do it, which of course the guy doesn't see it that way even if its pointed out to them.
You're not likely to find out the reason so either use it as an opportunity to self reflect or move along.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure if I want to know the reason lol. Met a lady spent a wild night together then blocked. Probably no big deal but just wondering what people think "
I think,she wants no further contact from you.
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I’ve only had to block one man I’ve met. It was genuinely the worst sexual experience of my life, and he wouldn’t understand that I didn’t want to see him again when I tried the “let him down gently” approach. He’d leave me alone for a while then start messaging again, and in the end blocking was just less stressful. In future, after a bad meet like that, I might be more inclined to block immediately just to avoid that situation arising again. Maybe she’s had similar experiences, didn’t enjoy the meet as much as you think she did, and preferred to avoid any confrontation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have blocked guys after a meet because I didn't want to see them again.
Usually it was because they were too pushy, too clingy, or violated boundaries in some way. |
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"Not sure if I want to know the reason lol. Met a lady spent a wild night together then blocked. Probably no big deal but just wondering what people think "
She'd just graduated from Sydney University  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Possibilities:
- You did something wrong
- She just didn't want to meet you again
- She fell deeply in love with you but you're a plumber and her father hates plumbers
- Some other reason
If she blocked you then you'll never find out, so put it out of your mind (easier said than done).
As others have said you (and all men) should more generally consider your approach towards consent but most men that need to consider this aren't going to because they've been told to on a forum, and most that would don't really need to. |
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"Not sure if I want to know the reason lol. Met a lady spent a wild night together then blocked. Probably no big deal but just wondering what people think "
you thought it was wild she thought it was remote, just keep it in your memories and move onto next   |
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"I’ve only had to block one man I’ve met. It was genuinely the worst sexual experience of my life, and he wouldn’t understand that I didn’t want to see him again when I tried the “let him down gently” approach. He’d leave me alone for a while then start messaging again, and in the end blocking was just less stressful. In future, after a bad meet like that, I might be more inclined to block immediately just to avoid that situation arising again. Maybe she’s had similar experiences, didn’t enjoy the meet as much as you think she did, and preferred to avoid any confrontation."
U just can't tell if you guys are going to be sexually compactible. My only meet was horrendous. I blocked him as i don't think he deserved the verification i wrote before we had sexual fun.i can't say sex as it never happened |
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