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By *mmixtape OP Couple
over a year ago
middle earth |
How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail |
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail"
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Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here   |
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By *mmixtape OP Couple
over a year ago
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Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "
You can report him for not turning up, it get taken seriously |
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Its massively frustrating. Something I've experienced myself and with my partner. There's really not a lot you can do about it. However with experience I think you start to get a better feel for unreliable people, a spidey sense if you will. All I can suggest is try not to invest too much time and cost into a meet till last minute. If it falls though just take it on the chin with good grace and move on. Don't waste more effort getting worked up about it, you can't control the actions of others, just your own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail"
Just ignore them instead of wasting your time by sending the screenshots |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail"
Love that screenshot idea (sorry above post)
Sarcasm/witty replies also funny!
Depends if you've got the time or can be bothered. More chance of me blocking tbh. Anyway we all get junk mail... Adapt your profile to minimise it or change filters. I'm always adapting mine and my profile x good luck peeps x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "
Someone else suggested not investing much time / energy in people until after a first meet. Which isn’t bad advice actually. We all get frustrated with wasted time particularly!
I guess the other angle is that plenty of people enjoy the chat / messaging / attention, but taking it that stage further into the real world is a big step and they lose their nerve. Probably just a fact of Fab life?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a time waster as you call them wastes time then they are wasting their own time as well so we let them do just that!!
Come up with your own ways to use fab and make it work for you guys as the bottom line is you are here for your pleasure not mine or bobs or Steve’s!!!
We approach fab in a polite way and look at 98% of fabbers as fake or time wasters until we have a social or meet then they become friends and playmates but until then we just reply politely and if needed just block and forget them.
Best of luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here
Someone else suggested not investing much time / energy in people until after a first meet. Which isn’t bad advice actually. We all get frustrated with wasted time particularly!
I guess the other angle is that plenty of people enjoy the chat / messaging / attention, but taking it that stage further into the real world is a big step and they lose their nerve. Probably just a fact of Fab life?
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I think this pretty much sums it all up x |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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By sending cheeky replies, screenshots, trying to explain why they should've read your profile etc you're actually just wasting your own time. If it's clear they've not read it, delete the message, no time wasted. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"By sending cheeky replies, screenshots, trying to explain why they should've read your profile etc you're actually just wasting your own time. If it's clear they've not read it, delete the message, no time wasted. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By sending cheeky replies, screenshots, trying to explain why they should've read your profile etc you're actually just wasting your own time. If it's clear they've not read it, delete the message, no time wasted. "
NSAchick nails it again!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail
All 3
Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "
I don't get that at all. Just checked out your gallery - it's quite amazing, you're a stunning young lady. Sometimes I despair about the young males of today.
I hope you find what you're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes especially if it's a one word rude obnoxious or cock shot I just delete and block. If they cant be bothered to make an effort why should I?
Other times if I think they may interest my Master I, admittedly rather curt at times, as them to read the profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes especially if it's a one word rude obnoxious or cock shot I just delete and block. If they cant be bothered to make an effort why should I?
Other times if I think they may interest my Master I, admittedly rather curt at times, as them to read the profile. "
 love that! |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"By sending cheeky replies, screenshots, trying to explain why they should've read your profile etc you're actually just wasting your own time. If it's clear they've not read it, delete the message, no time wasted.
NSAchick nails it again! "
I know, I'm so wise  |
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail
All 3
Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "
Awwwwww! You got rejected then ghosted?!  |
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By *mmixtape OP Couple
over a year ago
middle earth |
"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out  "
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely |
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely "
Then to reduce the amount of messages, untick your looking for options and you'll drop out of searches. It won't stop all the messages but it will reduce it and people you meet at clubs can still message you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know, I'm so wise
Absolutely. That's the first thought that jumps out from reading your profile...  "
And perhaps something else jumps out in that last photo...  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely "
Of course if you are having fun then you can't really complain that you are getting the mails but if you don't want mails and don't want to set mail filters.... set your age range from 99 to 99...it cuts out 99 and half % of mails
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail"
you're only wasting your own time responding if you're not interested in them or what they have to say... |
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I just like sending the occasional arsey/sarcastic or bitchy reply to men who clearly haven't read my profile. Mainly for my own amusement. Not many people make it to my block list as I don't want to give many people that honour. . I think guys just assume that they are entitled to a fuck and they don't need to make any effort to get it then wonder why they aren't getting laid. Baffling. |
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail
you're only wasting your own time responding if you're not interested in them or what they have to say..."
We always believe a polite no thanks/ not for us is what everyone should to on here ( men couples or women ) or even to delete the message then people know there not interested, weve had alot of couples and single females who read the message and dont delete or reply? So what does that mean?
Weve had alot of guys that will message us 3/4 times and will get our usual no thanks message back but on the third time we will screen shot all the polite no thanks and then send it to them like ‘seriously’ |
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail
you're only wasting your own time responding if you're not interested in them or what they have to say...
We always believe a polite no thanks/ not for us is what everyone should to on here ( men couples or women ) or even to delete the message then people know there not interested, weve had alot of couples and single females who read the message and dont delete or reply? So what does that mean?
Weve had alot of guys that will message us 3/4 times and will get our usual no thanks message back but on the third time we will screen shot all the polite no thanks and then send it to them like ‘seriously’"
It means nothing in particular, eventually it will just drop off the end of the page. I never delete when I’ve read a message, some just bulk delete everything every so often. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends on my mood really. I do most of the communicating on our profile and occasionally it’s just one daft message to many. Then in a fit of pique I’ll reply and be annoyed with myself afterwards for doing so.
Mostly it’s just delete if it’s clear they haven’t bothered to read our profile.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely "
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.  |
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves. "
lol |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lol "
Oh, the irony lol. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lol
Oh, the irony lol. "
We occasionally message people without reading all their terms and conditions first.... we so damn rebellious. And to be honest some profiles are so long and boring you struggle to stay awake to the end, so what choice do you have? |
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By *mmixtape OP Couple
over a year ago
middle earth |
"Just thinking, how many time wasting treads have wasted time on here.
Fully understand your grievance OP, yet...
May I suggest you and I look for positives, they are out there."
I dont have an issue, I was just asking what everyone does with their unwanted messages |
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By *mmixtape OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lol
Oh, the irony lol. "
We certainly aren't time wasters, we just prefer to go to clubs instead of sifting through thousands of faceless profiles to try and get a meet. |
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I get blokes telling me what they are going to do to my nipples. Suck lick pinch etc.
I kinda find it fun now to point out if they read my profile they'd know I don't have any.
Its the little things that amuse |
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail"
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lmao"
Lost.....
I don't get how they are.... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lmao
Lost.....
I don't get how they are.... "
Wasting others peoples time by sending pointless replies just for their own amusement? |
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By *onny1208Couple
over a year ago
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I think it's an exaggeration that you receive hundreds of messages and wonder why it's even an issue. Just simply ignore delete and move on... really some post are so boring and just there to invite HUNDREDS of timewasters lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will always find that some men and some women are time wasters a lot of the time when I am on the lookout someone will message me and I think straight away that as a possible chance of meeting up sometime and then they all go very quiet you just got a lift up yourself and think to yourself s*** happens life carries on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lmao
Lost.....
I don't get how they are....
Wasting others peoples time by sending pointless replies just for their own amusement? "
I've looked at the screenshot as help....
Just to let them know what theyve missed about the bio...
So much easier than typing a reply!
If we teach those to read, maybe some will more often after seeing threads like this...
You know like there are threads about dick pics, no avatar pics, very little bio imput on profiles etc....
Strange my way of thinking, I know!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people.
Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail"
Depends what mood I’m in. If it’s an arrogant prick messaging me then I like to dismantle them and have fun at their expense. If it’s low energy ‘can I fuck you’ kind of stuff I just hit delete. Can have hours of fun with people too dense to realise they’re having the mick taken out of them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do try and respond to anyone who sends a sensible message, even if it's just a no thanks even if they aren't what we're looking for.
When bored we have tried to see how long we can string out messaging where someone has started with just a "hi" or a "Hey" by only sending one word replies, we got to a point that we weren't sure if they were trying to wind us up or not after an hour an dozens of messages. |
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