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Met a woman last week, didn't get verified...
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"I figured as much, although the thing that bothers me is that, she had said that she would be happy to do so, she still hasn't done so yet. Could be that she's busy with her personal life, which is fully understandable. Just hoping to get verified as genuine cause I can understand people not wanting to reply back to me due to me not being genuine yet!" I get people being worried about the effect of not being verified......but.... She met you. You weren't verified at the time. Kind of defeats that argument. And if you sent a message asking for a veri and it was obvious you thought it would help you meet others then maybe that's why she hasn't ? A | |||
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"Hello all! I hope this post won't be, how I put it, me sounding annoyed entirely, but I want to gather some opinions on the situation if possible. So, it's a short story to be honest, ain't long haha. Basically I was chatting to a woman on this site that lives close, about a town or two away, I had chatted with her a wee bit, got to know one and another and even had some bant. I had asked when she's free and she had said we could have a coffee before she heads on into the gym, so I was happy with this, agreed, arranged a time and that was it all organised. So, on the day of the meet, I had travelled on down to the town, went into the cafe and of course met this woman, we sat down, had some conversations and I would say the meet was overall nice and lovely! After the meet and when she headed on to the gym, I had sent her a message asking if she could verify me, since I had met her in person and I would imagine since I had met her in person, she would do so. It's been a couple of days now since that meet and I still haven't received a verification from her, showing that I am genuine, which, I am slightly annoyed by this. I could be feeling this way for the wrong reasons (not 100 percent annoyed to clarify haha), but wanted to ask this. Does there need to be more than one meet for said person to verify you, or is it okay to be verified after the one meet? Just a bit confused and annoyed is all. Hope to hear your thoughts and answers to this! " Don't sweat it. You're way ahead of 99% of us males inasmuch as you've actually had a meet in the first place. | |||
"Prob best to take the rant of your status as well, if she sees that there will be no chance of a verification " Seconding this, She's probably just busy. I wouldn't worry about it OP, if she still hasn't verified you in a week or so just write it off and better luck next time. | |||
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"That could be the reason why she hasn't now that I think about it, is it natural to ask for a verification? If not, then I know for sure why she hasn't, which will make me feel awful, even though I only asked once, but still, would feel bad haha" It's fine to ask, but remember no one is obliged to leave you you one, especially not straight away. But if I were in her shoes that ranty status update would've put me right off leaving you one, or meeting you again. | |||
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"It's happened more than once to me, obviously straight guys will never want to verify a CD/TV/whatever, but I've had what I thought were great meets and then been blocked by the other party. People are just plain odd unfortunately." Jeez, that's harsh... | |||
"I think i'm aware of that now, I thank you very much for the advice, as well as making me aware that it may not happen right away! I saw someone else in this form pointing that out, I have removed it just there now and she has not appeared online at all today. Sounds awful when I say that, but it's a good point and I thank you again for point that out!" Yeah, some people don't verify. | |||
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"I tried doing so and it won't let me. I don't know if whether or not i'm doing it wrong, or (this is what happens to me) since i'm not verified as genuine, it won't allow me to leave her a verification until i'm verified. Hope to god i'm not wrong, cause if I am, then eeeeeeeeh. If i'm doing it wrong, how do you leave a verification? Cause I did try to leave her one after I had met her, but it wouldn't let me" You need to be verified to leave one. | |||
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"She was probably hoping you wanted to meet her and not just for a verification. "  | |||
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"I do understand people wanting to be verified but it isn't the massive key to the swinging world that some people seem to think it is. It sounds a little bit even though you said you didn't want to meet her like what you really wanted was the verification, and that might have made her feel a little bit used" You seem very agitated by it all. Why not just have enjoyed the experience you had, and instead of asking for a verification, why didnt you ask her when you are next going to meet? | |||
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"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money!" It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in. | |||
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"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money! It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in." I wouldn't say it was that easy for men to get a verification as the huge majority of men will never get a meet on here. Well done to the OP on getting that meet | |||
"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money! It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in. I wouldn't say it was that easy for men to get a verification as the huge majority of men will never get a meet on here. Well done to the OP on getting that meet "You don't have to get meets on here. Just go to a club or a social and you'll soon get verified. It's very easy to get verified if men would only make the effort. | |||
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"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money! It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in. I wouldn't say it was that easy for men to get a verification as the huge majority of men will never get a meet on here. Well done to the OP on getting that meet
You don't have to get meets on here. Just go to a club or a social and you'll soon get verified. It's very easy to get verified if men would only make the effort. "Spot on | |||
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"It's happened more than once to me, obviously straight guys will never want to verify a CD/TV/whatever, but I've had what I thought were great meets and then been blocked by the other party. People are just plain odd unfortunately." That's just horrible  hug x | |||
"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money! It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in. I wouldn't say it was that easy for men to get a verification as the huge majority of men will never get a meet on here. Well done to the OP on getting that meet
You don't have to get meets on here. Just go to a club or a social and you'll soon get verified. It's very easy to get verified if men would only make the effort.
Spot on "Thank you | |||
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"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money! It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in." i dont find it easy. Its almost as impossible as getting a meet. | |||
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"Hello all! I hope this post won't be, how I put it, me sounding annoyed entirely, but I want to gather some opinions on the situation if possible. So, it's a short story to be honest, ain't long haha. Basically I was chatting to a woman on this site that lives close, about a town or two away, I had chatted with her a wee bit, got to know one and another and even had some bant. I had asked when she's free and she had said we could have a coffee before she heads on into the gym, so I was happy with this, agreed, arranged a time and that was it all organised. So, on the day of the meet, I had travelled on down to the town, went into the cafe and of course met this woman, we sat down, had some conversations and I would say the meet was overall nice and lovely! After the meet and when she headed on to the gym, I had sent her a message asking if she could verify me, since I had met her in person and I would imagine since I had met her in person, she would do so. It's been a couple of days now since that meet and I still haven't received a verification from her, showing that I am genuine, which, I am slightly annoyed by this. I could be feeling this way for the wrong reasons (not 100 percent annoyed to clarify haha), but wanted to ask this. Does there need to be more than one meet for said person to verify you, or is it okay to be verified after the one meet? Just a bit confused and annoyed is all. Hope to hear your thoughts and answers to this! " A couple of days? Give it a week before you send the begging message.
When you do, simply ask her for a veri as "we all know it's difficult on here for single men without veris". | |||
"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money! It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in. i dont find it easy. Its almost as impossible as getting a meet. " Well there are plenty of fab social events all throughout the UK that welcome single guys who are willing to put in a small amount of effort. | |||
Don't forget sometimes people are in situations where they have to be discreet too
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"It’s tax return week... maybe you’re verification is the second most important thing?" Chuckles  | |||
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"Good luck getting the verification, it's very difficult to get one. I've even seen people offering a verification for money! It's easy for guys to get verifications if they aren't too lazy to put effort in. i dont find it easy. Its almost as impossible as getting a meet. Well there are plenty of fab social events all throughout the UK that welcome single guys who are willing to put in a small amount of effort." none near me. | |||
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"Hello all! I hope this post won't be, how I put it, me sounding annoyed entirely, but I want to gather some opinions on the situation if possible. So, it's a short story to be honest, ain't long haha. Basically I was chatting to a woman on this site that lives close, about a town or two away, I had chatted with her a wee bit, got to know one and another and even had some bant. I had asked when she's free and she had said we could have a coffee before she heads on into the gym, so I was happy with this, agreed, arranged a time and that was it all organised. So, on the day of the meet, I had travelled on down to the town, went into the cafe and of course met this woman, we sat down, had some conversations and I would say the meet was overall nice and lovely! After the meet and when she headed on to the gym, I had sent her a message asking if she could verify me, since I had met her in person and I would imagine since I had met her in person, she would do so. It's been a couple of days now since that meet and I still haven't received a verification from her, showing that I am genuine, which, I am slightly annoyed by this. I could be feeling this way for the wrong reasons (not 100 percent annoyed to clarify haha), but wanted to ask this. Does there need to be more than one meet for said person to verify you, or is it okay to be verified after the one meet? Just a bit confused and annoyed is all. Hope to hear your thoughts and answers to this! " Maybe she wasnt that into you | |||
"Hello all! I hope this post won't be, how I put it, me sounding annoyed entirely, but I want to gather some opinions on the situation if possible. So, it's a short story to be honest, ain't long haha. Basically I was chatting to a woman on this site that lives close, about a town or two away, I had chatted with her a wee bit, got to know one and another and even had some bant. I had asked when she's free and she had said we could have a coffee before she heads on into the gym, so I was happy with this, agreed, arranged a time and that was it all organised. So, on the day of the meet, I had travelled on down to the town, went into the cafe and of course met this woman, we sat down, had some conversations and I would say the meet was overall nice and lovely! After the meet and when she headed on to the gym, I had sent her a message asking if she could verify me, since I had met her in person and I would imagine since I had met her in person, she would do so. It's been a couple of days now since that meet and I still haven't received a verification from her, showing that I am genuine, which, I am slightly annoyed by this. I could be feeling this way for the wrong reasons (not 100 percent annoyed to clarify haha), but wanted to ask this. Does there need to be more than one meet for said person to verify you, or is it okay to be verified after the one meet? Just a bit confused and annoyed is all. Hope to hear your thoughts and answers to this! " why are you annoyed, anything you do here you do freely and that would apply to the woman you met, me and the rest of the site if she wants to verify you thats her choice maybe she will maybe she wont but veris in the grand scheme of things aren't important, try never to get annoyed this internet domain can be a frustrating place   | |||
"No no, that's not my whole intent, I genuinely wanted to meet her because when chatting to her, she's absolutely dead on, good bant and funny, which i'm glad that I have met her! Just my head was thinking, "right, i've met her, would she leave me a verification?" Which i'm fully aware now that it doesn't happen right away!" Has she read your mail asking about a verification? | |||
"No no, that's not my whole intent, I genuinely wanted to meet her because when chatting to her, she's absolutely dead on, good bant and funny, which i'm glad that I have met her! Just my head was thinking, "right, i've met her, would she leave me a verification?" Which i'm fully aware now that it doesn't happen right away! Has she read your mail asking about a verification? " Oh it's the guy with nice hair - just realised from a previous forum thread... You're photo verified, group socials are probably the way forward for you x All the best x | |||
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