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By *earsHoney OP Couple
over a year ago
warrington |
Hey all!
So we have never been to a club before and I (female) find the idea really nerve wracking and seriously don’t have a clue what to expect. We haven’t actually done anything as yet but are really keen to get down and dirty. We have talked about it for a long time!
I’ve found so far I’ve been really picky/fussy when it comes to messaging people so gathered it would be better to see a load of people in person at a club... if that makes sense.
Any advice/recommendations for newbies please. In the North West area.  |
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"Hey all!
So we have never been to a club before and I (female) find the idea really nerve wracking and seriously don’t have a clue what to expect. We haven’t actually done anything as yet but are really keen to get down and dirty. We have talked about it for a long time!
I’ve found so far I’ve been really picky/fussy when it comes to messaging people so gathered it would be better to see a load of people in person at a club... if that makes sense.
Any advice/recommendations for newbies please. In the North West area. "
Checkout AtlantisEvolution in Stoke-on-Trent. Sexy nightclub vibe, very friendly and welcoming. |
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Townhouse on the Wirral is perfect for newbies.... especially on their Newbies and Notso night. There's one coming up on 13 Feb I think. The staff are fantastic and look after new people. There's no pressure to play. You can sit in the bar area and eye everyone up if you want to....and then go upstairs to 'dress down' if you feel comfortable enough. |
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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago
newcastle |
A lot of people will advise you to go to THEIR favourite club. But do some research on each club before you go.
For instance, do you want to stay dressed till you want to get changed, or will you be happy changing into clubwear as soon as you enter the club ?
Do you need to stay over at a club or in a hotel nearby ? If so, see which clubs do on-site accommodation or have a hotel really close.
Then, as lots of clubs do different theme nights have a look at each club's website to see what event they are promoting on the night you can go. Be daft to turn up to a club which is couples only on the night when you might also want single guys.
Put all those items together and then make your choice. Be aware that you might have to take ID to join some clubs where others will let you in without ID, just by stating your name, real or made up.
And just to add our fav. club, it's Xtasia in West Brom. |
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over a year ago
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"Townhouse on the Wirral is perfect for newbies.... especially on their Newbies and Notso night. There's one coming up on 13 Feb I think. The staff are fantastic and look after new people. There's no pressure to play. You can sit in the bar area and eye everyone up if you want to....and then go upstairs to 'dress down' if you feel comfortable enough."
 this! I've been going to townhouse for ages as a single female and everyone is really lovely and will make you feel so welcome.
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"A lot of people will advise you to go to THEIR favourite club. But do some research on each club before you go.
For instance, do you want to stay dressed till you want to get changed, or will you be happy changing into clubwear as soon as you enter the club ?
Do you need to stay over at a club or in a hotel nearby ? If so, see which clubs do on-site accommodation or have a hotel really close.
Then, as lots of clubs do different theme nights have a look at each club's website to see what event they are promoting on the night you can go. Be daft to turn up to a club which is couples only on the night when you might also want single guys.
Put all those items together and then make your choice. Be aware that you might have to take ID to join some clubs where others will let you in without ID, just by stating your name, real or made up.
And just to add our fav. club, it's Xtasia in West Brom."
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"Thanks guys. All really helpful. I like to think I can just go and not feel obliged to have to do anything. "
No means no, gender irrelevant. Only do what you are comfortable doing and if someone applies pressure then that in itself is a reason to say no.
As has been suggested, look at which clubs offer what you're looking for.
Quite a selection in Manchester |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
You could try going to an organised social that’s being held at a club or even one that’s not held at club, some people go to clubs afterwards so at least you’d know some people when you get to the club. Good way to dip your toe in the water. |
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"We are going to the Townhouse for our first club visit tonight. Come and be newbies with us!
Thanks guys, we would love to but can’t do tonight. Id love to hear how it goes though? X"
We will let you know how it goes! |
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"Hey all!
So we have never been to a club before and I (female) find the idea really nerve wracking and seriously don’t have a clue what to expect. We haven’t actually done anything as yet but are really keen to get down and dirty. We have talked about it for a long time!
I’ve found so far I’ve been really picky/fussy when it comes to messaging people so gathered it would be better to see a load of people in person at a club... if that makes sense.
Any advice/recommendations for newbies please. In the North West area. "
What expectations or otherwise do you have from a club x
I regularly go to th gatehouse club that may be suitable to your requirements
I’d be happy to answer any questions you have x |
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"Townhouse on the Wirral is perfect for newbies.... especially on their Newbies and Notso night. There's one coming up on 13 Feb I think. The staff are fantastic and look after new people. There's no pressure to play. You can sit in the bar area and eye everyone up if you want to....and then go upstairs to 'dress down' if you feel comfortable enough.
this! I've been going to townhouse for ages as a single female and everyone is really lovely and will make you feel so welcome.
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Definitely well said, townhouse is by far our favourite club, we were ridiculously nervous when we first went but within under 5 minutes being there we were made to feel so welcome and settled, we had a huge stigma around swinging clubs and the type of people who attend and that it would dingy and seedy this is waaaaay off haha, the people who go to townhouse are so friendly and do not pressure at all and the club itself is so lush xx |
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By *maiCouple
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"Hey all!
So we have never been to a club before and I (female) find the idea really nerve wracking and seriously don’t have a clue what to expect. We haven’t actually done anything as yet but are really keen to get down and dirty. We have talked about it for a long time!
I’ve found so far I’ve been really picky/fussy when it comes to messaging people so gathered it would be better to see a load of people in person at a club... if that makes sense.
Any advice/recommendations for newbies please. In the North West area. "
We are going to Townhouse on 8 Feb for our first time visit, should be fun |
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"Hey all!
So we have never been to a club before and I (female) find the idea really nerve wracking and seriously don’t have a clue what to expect. We haven’t actually done anything as yet but are really keen to get down and dirty. We have talked about it for a long time!
I’ve found so far I’ve been really picky/fussy when it comes to messaging people so gathered it would be better to see a load of people in person at a club... if that makes sense.
Any advice/recommendations for newbies please. In the North West area.
We are going to Townhouse on 8 Feb for our first time visit, should be fun"
Is that for dirty disney night?? You will have a great time im sure xx |
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"Is that for dirty disney night?? You will have a great time im sure xx
Hi, it sure, costume already! Should be great fun
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You've picked a fun first night to attend! I'll see you there most likely. As someone else said, there are various clubs in the NW, all with different rules and types of events. Check out the reviews on here and have a nose at websites to see what facilities they have. My personal favourite is Townhouse. I nervously attended on my own back in 2017 and now they can't get shut of me lol. I also head to Cupid's in Manchester and plan to visit a few others too x |
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By *maiCouple
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"Is that for dirty disney night?? You will have a great time im sure xx
Hi, it sure, costume already! Should be great fun
You've picked a fun first night to attend! I'll see you there most likely. As someone else said, there are various clubs in the NW, all with different rules and types of events. Check out the reviews on here and have a nose at websites to see what facilities they have. My personal favourite is Townhouse. I nervously attended on my own back in 2017 and now they can't get shut of me lol. I also head to Cupid's in Manchester and plan to visit a few others too x"
Looking forward to showing off our costumes and meeting you all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The nearest one to you is Townhouse which is a good club been there myself. but I am going to go and have a look around a few. Now I have the time to do so. Lou xx |
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If you go on the website for most clubs you can see detailed desriptions of their different events. Choose what you think will suit you best in terms of who can attend, the theme, if it's specifically aimed at new people, if it's more social or more hard-core, etc.
Most clubs have a social only area which means you can settle in at first while just having a drink and nothing too eye bulging to see beyond some people being a little scantily dressed. Check the events though as some events allow play in the social areas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m also interested in townhouse as it’s my nearest, problem is I’m a little shy and totally new to this I don’t know what to expect. Reading these messages has give me some idea but I’m still a little unsure. |
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"I’m also interested in townhouse as it’s my nearest, problem is I’m a little shy and totally new to this I don’t know what to expect. Reading these messages has give me some idea but I’m still a little unsure."
Have you got any specific questions or concerns we could help to address? |
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"Hey all!
So we have never been to a club before and I (female) find the idea really nerve wracking and seriously don’t have a clue what to expect. We haven’t actually done anything as yet but are really keen to get down and dirty. We have talked about it for a long time!
I’ve found so far I’ve been really picky/fussy when it comes to messaging people so gathered it would be better to see a load of people in person at a club... if that makes sense.
Any advice/recommendations for newbies please. In the North West area. "
We would recommend cupids. Also we are all nervous the first time, but trust me it's not a screaming orgy where you will be manhandled on entry.
In fact it may surprise or disappoint you how normal and shy we all are even though we all know why we are there.
Don't be afraid to engage people you like in conversation, if they are sat down just ask if they mind you joining them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi x don't forget that you are going together, so if even if you get there and can't find anyone suitable.. There are private lockable rooms in most clubs... So dive in one..!! |
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