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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Forgive me for my slightly seedy request. I would like to dip my toes in the club scene, however, i need to be discreet in swinging for personal reasons and am a little worried I may bump into somone i know or someone who knows me.
So my question is.. is there any clubs you can reccomend in which its a preety discreet affair or would you suggest avoiding clubs all together in my situation?
Im based in surrey. Tia |
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And if you're in a club and meet someone else you know in that same club in the lifestyle the issue is?? They're there for the same thing!!
They're in the same position as you.
Bunny has recently confided in her friend we play and that I'm bi. Response was excitement and wants to join us at a club |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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All great points thanks guys! Im certainly going to have a go, is there anyways you can just see how you get on at a club without participating on a first time? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is no automatic acceptance of sex. Go with open mind expect nothing but chatting and watching anything more than that is a bonus"
Thankyou for the advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All great points thanks guys! Im certainly going to have a go, is there anyways you can just see how you get on at a club without participating on a first time?"
Literally all of them. It isn't a rule that you walk in and start fucking.
Go, chat, socialise then if you are lucky that people take an interest go and do the thing.
Just please don't follow people around and start randomly wanking in a corner. In our experience it never leads to someone being attracted to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All great points thanks guys! Im certainly going to have a go, is there anyways you can just see how you get on at a club without participating on a first time?
Literally all of them. It isn't a rule that you walk in and start fucking.
Go, chat, socialise then if you are lucky that people take an interest go and do the thing.
Just please don't follow people around and start randomly wanking in a corner. In our experience it never leads to someone being attracted to you. "
Haha thanks for the advice ! Its not my style that sort of behaviour x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All great points thanks guys! Im certainly going to have a go, is there anyways you can just see how you get on at a club without participating on a first time?
Literally all of them. It isn't a rule that you walk in and start fucking.
Go, chat, socialise then if you are lucky that people take an interest go and do the thing.
Just please don't follow people around and start randomly wanking in a corner. In our experience it never leads to someone being attracted to you.
Haha thanks for the advice ! Its not my style that sort of behaviour x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All great points thanks guys! Im certainly going to have a go, is there anyways you can just see how you get on at a club without participating on a first time?
Literally all of them. It isn't a rule that you walk in and start fucking.
Go, chat, socialise then if you are lucky that people take an interest go and do the thing.
Just please don't follow people around and start randomly wanking in a corner. In our experience it never leads to someone being attracted to you.
Haha thanks for the advice ! Its not my style that sort of behaviour x
Said by every guy on here "
Haha yeah i dont doubt it tbh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And if you're in a club and meet someone else you know in that same club in the lifestyle the issue is?? They're there for the same thing!!
They're in the same position as you.
Bunny has recently confided in her friend we play and that I'm bi. Response was excitement and wants to join us at a club"
I have to agree with this reply... as awkward as as it may well be, you are both in the same place....
we love going to clubs, it’s as much about enjoying the social with like minded people as it is about potential play....
There are lots of clubs to choose from, some have different nights and the themes can vary... depending on what you are looking for .... always check before you go ... but ultimately just relax and enjoy it ...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"And if you're in a club and meet someone else you know in that same club in the lifestyle the issue is?? They're there for the same thing!!
They're in the same position as you.
Bunny has recently confided in her friend we play and that I'm bi. Response was excitement and wants to join us at a club
I have to agree with this reply... as awkward as as it may well be, you are both in the same place....
we love going to clubs, it’s as much about enjoying the social with like minded people as it is about potential play....
There are lots of clubs to choose from, some have different nights and the themes can vary... depending on what you are looking for .... always check before you go ... but ultimately just relax and enjoy it ...
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Awesome thanks so much for the advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All great points thanks guys! Im certainly going to have a go, is there anyways you can just see how you get on at a club without participating on a first time?
Literally all of them. It isn't a rule that you walk in and start fucking.
Go, chat, socialise then if you are lucky that people take an interest go and do the thing.
Just please don't follow people around and start randomly wanking in a corner. In our experience it never leads to someone being attracted to you.
Haha thanks for the advice ! Its not my style that sort of behaviour x
Said by every guy on here
Haha yeah i dont doubt it tbh! "
Definitely take this advice, dont be a single male club zombie, they follow you everywhere and if you start playing the dick comes out, yuk! |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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As someone that goes to a club regularly, if I bumped in to someone that I knew I would just chat to them. I know a lot of people from the scene so for me it’s like chatting to friends
A couple of years ago I bumped in to a girl I used to fancy at school, I wasn’t attracted to her at the club but still said hello
I am going to disagree slightly about the wanking point of view that a lot of people have mentioned. Obviously don’t go following a couple or lady around wanking but if there is play going on and your a discrete distance one to two meters away often couples / lady’s like to see that your wanking and turned on
I was quite lucky that this has often led to full sex play as I have wanked at a discrete distance then been invited to join I.  |
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"As someone that goes to a club regularly, if I bumped in to someone that I knew I would just chat to them. I know a lot of people from the scene so for me it’s like chatting to friends
A couple of years ago I bumped in to a girl I used to fancy at school, I wasn’t attracted to her at the club but still said hello
I am going to disagree slightly about the wanking point of view that a lot of people have mentioned. Obviously don’t go following a couple or lady around wanking but if there is play going on and your a discrete distance one to two meters away often couples / lady’s like to see that your wanking and turned on
I was quite lucky that this has often led to full sex play as I have wanked at a discrete distance then been invited to join I. "
Can we appeal to you not to do this anywhere near us. Add a zero to that one to metres. Sorry we find it very annoying. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"As someone that goes to a club regularly, if I bumped in to someone that I knew I would just chat to them. I know a lot of people from the scene so for me it’s like chatting to friends
A couple of years ago I bumped in to a girl I used to fancy at school, I wasn’t attracted to her at the club but still said hello
I am going to disagree slightly about the wanking point of view that a lot of people have mentioned. Obviously don’t go following a couple or lady around wanking but if there is play going on and your a discrete distance one to two meters away often couples / lady’s like to see that your wanking and turned on
I was quite lucky that this has often led to full sex play as I have wanked at a discrete distance then been invited to join I.
Can we appeal to you not to do this anywhere near us. Add a zero to that one to metres. Sorry we find it very annoying. "
Ok I understand that’s your preference of wanting 10 meters. That is your preference. Looking at your profile is that because it is a single guy or are you less annoyed by it if was a couple or a single lady
For me when I have been with a female friend, and I have been playing in open room, a meter to 2 is a fair expectation, and we have invited men/couples/lady in regardless if they are wanking or not |
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"As someone that goes to a club regularly, if I bumped in to someone that I knew I would just chat to them. I know a lot of people from the scene so for me it’s like chatting to friends
A couple of years ago I bumped in to a girl I used to fancy at school, I wasn’t attracted to her at the club but still said hello
I am going to disagree slightly about the wanking point of view that a lot of people have mentioned. Obviously don’t go following a couple or lady around wanking but if there is play going on and your a discrete distance one to two meters away often couples / lady’s like to see that your wanking and turned on
I was quite lucky that this has often led to full sex play as I have wanked at a discrete distance then been invited to join I.
Can we appeal to you not to do this anywhere near us. Add a zero to that one to metres. Sorry we find it very annoying.
Ok I understand that’s your preference of wanting 10 meters. That is your preference. Looking at your profile is that because it is a single guy or are you less annoyed by it if was a couple or a single lady
For me when I have been with a female friend, and I have been playing in open room, a meter to 2 is a fair expectation, and we have invited men/couples/lady in regardless if they are wanking or not "
Wouldn’t matter who it was, man, couple or indeed woman. A random individual having a wank one metre from our faces is not sexy for us. |
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