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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? |
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Your sat with one pic on your profile of a generic black T-shirt . Why would I want to message you ? There’s so much choice you need to stand out.
This is not a have sex with anyone site I’m here to fulfil fantasies and enhance my sex life.
If you sent that message to me it would be deleted |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? "
The fact that you can only meet at hotels and ask for discretion makes me think you're cheating on someone. You have one public pic that, let's be honest, is pretty boring and gives no indication at all of what you look like.
Look at your profile objectively, would you start a conversation with you based on your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic?
The fact that you can only meet at hotels and ask for discretion makes me think you're cheating on someone. You have one public pic that, let's be honest, is pretty boring and gives no indication at all of what you look like.
Look at your profile objectively, would you start a conversation with you based on your profile? "
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? "
you're a married man looking for casual sex and think being a 'businessman' will get knickers dropping. You give no real indication of wanting to be a swinger... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? "
if you haven't got a conversation started then a naughty message isn't called for that could be part of the problem  |
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? "
The example message isn't great, it's a very bland generic statement that I see all the time. I'd delete it. You need to demonstrate that you've read their profile and then explain why you think you could be a great potential match. And I do assume you send a face pic as well? |
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? "
Theres nothing in this to start a conversation though x |
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic?
The example message isn't great, it's a very bland generic statement that I see all the time. I'd delete it. You need to demonstrate that you've read their profile and then explain why you think you could be a great potential match. And I do assume you send a face pic as well? "
This.^^^ We still get messages like your example despite being clear we are not meeting. This just sounds like a c and p message sent to everyone and would have me just deleting it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read the profile ... Have a face pic .. don't send dick pics.. don't ask to meet now .. don't be rude.. compliments cost nothing .. be nice... It works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What does a professional mean? You have a job? Well done. So do I.
It normally means the person thinks their job is better than others!"
Or perhaps their job is an accepted profession. |
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"Your sat with one pic on your profile of a generic black T-shirt . Why would I want to message you ? There’s so much choice you need to stand out.
This is not a have sex with anyone site I’m here to fulfil fantasies and enhance my sex life.
If you sent that message to me it would be deleted "
This,..... |
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic?
Theres nothing in this to start a conversation though x"
This. I actually cringe a bit when men say ‘can we have a conversation’ because there’s 100 people before also wanting a ‘conversation’ and tbf it’s not something we women want to be tied down and committed to replying in a timely manner
I’m not speaking for all women when I say this but deffo about myself... I’m much more inclined to respond to a casual question about my profile or pics than a formal ‘message’  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Appreciate all the feedback! Noted and profile info changed...next is a new pic!
Thanks again everyone...new here and probs made myself look a Pratt! |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? "
. A bit confusing can you accommodate in your home or just a hotel.If you can’t accommodate in your home then it can be viewed as misleading.You could probably use a few more pictures showing your body and if you are brave enough a face picture. |
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"In getting a conversation started?
I’m polite in my messages generally and naughty when it calls for it but on average just send a normal message something like..
“Hi..great profile, looking to start a conversation and see where it leads, newbie here but looking to explore and meet some nice people and have some fun along the way”
Is that garbage or is it just the fact people don’t like my pic? . A bit confusing can you accommodate in your home or just a hotel.If you can’t accommodate in your home then it can be viewed as misleading.You could probably use a few more pictures showing your body and if you are brave enough a face picture."
Not sure what you found confusing it reads he can accommodate but as us females wont meet at a stranger house hes happy to meet at hotels till we do ... this is why most men struggle they cant read .. they only seem to read what they want to see lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A question OP.
You know all those takeaway menus that get posted through your front door?
Do you phone them all up to tell them that you're not interested?
No, I thought not.
As it states very clearly in the site FAQ's no-one owes you a reply.
For one reason or another, those that you have messaged so far are obviously not interested in you.
You've only been here 6 weeks. That's nothing.
Single men massively outnumber ladies and couples here.
Many women get around 100 messages per day.
Can you imagine how long it would take them to just reply to every one of them?
Most will check your profile out before even thinking of looking at your message. If your profile doesn't get their attention, then your message will be completely irrelevant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A question OP.
You know all those takeaway menus that get posted through your front door?
Do you phone them all up to tell them that you're not interested?
No, I thought not.
As it states very clearly in the site FAQ's no-one owes you a reply.
For one reason or another, those that you have messaged so far are obviously not interested in you.
You've only been here 6 weeks. That's nothing.
Single men massively outnumber ladies and couples here.
Many women get around 100 messages per day.
Can you imagine how long it would take them to just reply to every one of them?
Most will check your profile out before even thinking of looking at your message. If your profile doesn't get their attention, then your message will be completely irrelevant."
Hear,hear!! |
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