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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Haven't received a reply to any of my messages and don't know why I'm always polite and respectful.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman over a year ago

Hiding from twats

It's probably because there's nothing on your profile.

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

"It's probably because there's nothing on your profile. "

Nothing to do with profile. I haven’t got one, or any photos and I’m beating them off with a stick.

Keep it up OP.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

Wonder why. I'm up to my neck in clunge

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's probably because there's nothing on your profile.

Nothing to do with profile. I haven’t got one, or any photos and I’m beating them off with a stick.

Keep it up OP. "

Don't seem to be working

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many women want to fuck hot guys. Not polite and respectful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you messaging women?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Many women want to fuck hot guys. Not polite and respectful.

"
I'm hot

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"It's probably because there's nothing on your profile.

Nothing to do with profile. I haven’t got one, or any photos and I’m beating them off with a stick.

Keep it up OP.

Don't seem to be working "

If your current approach ain't working, change it. And good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you messaging women?"

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By *MP3Man over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

"Wonder why. I'm up to my neck in clunge

Aren't we all? I'm as busy as a cucumber in a women's prison

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's probably because there's nothing on your profile.

Nothing to do with profile. I haven’t got one, or any photos and I’m beating them off with a stick.

Keep it up OP.

Don't seem to be working

If your current approach ain't working, change it. And good luck

Cheers

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

"Haven't received a reply to any of my messages and don't know why I'm always polite and respectful. "

Hi Dan from Hull. Whilst I understand your despondency perhaps we can analyse why?

As a single guy there is a really easy way to allay ones fears and learn to tailor ones profile.

First step

Do a search on men, in your age group, within 20 miles of you, looking to meet single women or couples.

Hundreds right?

Now do a search on women/couples looking for single men with the same parameters

right not hundreds.

So now you know the numbers, there are literally hundreds to one against you here.

Second step

Have a look at the profiles of the men you did in the first search, which ones seem successful, I am guessing they may have written a bit about themselves, posted a few pics, got photo verified etc.

So now ask yourself, if you were a single woman or couple, looking for a single guy, why would you pick profiles which displayed little to no information and had no indication of what the person looked like, why would you invest the time in finding things out like this, if and remember the numbers here, there were already hundreds of profiles that presented most of the information that people would make a decision to interact on?

You have to help yourself on here, to help yourself, it does not fall from trees, effort brings reward, focus on what you can do to make their decision easy.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman over a year ago

Hiding from twats

If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need to put more info on your profile.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Pop a couple of pics on your profile, even just random ones.

Get Involved in the forums and take it from there . Rome sadly isn’t built in a day on fab

All the best

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you messaging women?

No "

Cos your profile and what you're looking for don't really add up with the fact that you're straight?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Haven't received a reply to any of my messages and don't know why I'm always polite and respectful.

Hi Dan from Hull. Whilst I understand your despondency perhaps we can analyse why?

As a single guy there is a really easy way to allay ones fears and learn to tailor ones profile.

First step

Do a search on men, in your age group, within 20 miles of you, looking to meet single women or couples.

Hundreds right?

Now do a search on women/couples looking for single men with the same parameters

right not hundreds.

So now you know the numbers, there are literally hundreds to one against you here.

Second step

Have a look at the profiles of the men you did in the first search, which ones seem successful, I am guessing they may have written a bit about themselves, posted a few pics, got photo verified etc.

You have to help yourself on here, to help yourself, it does not fall from trees, effort brings reward, focus on what you can do to make their decision easy.

Cheers mate not messaging women though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight? "

I'm looking for men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It happens to most on fab.

It even says when you sign up. Take a no reply as a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight? "

Because some couples like a mmf some

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you messaging women?

Cos your profile and what you're looking for don't really add up with the fact that you're straight?

How do I change it ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some "

Ah. Fab straight

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

"Haven't received a reply to any of my messages and don't know why I'm always polite and respectful.

Hi Dan from Hull. Whilst I understand your despondency perhaps we can analyse why?

As a single guy there is a really easy way to allay ones fears and learn to tailor ones profile.

First step

Do a search on men, in your age group, within 20 miles of you, looking to meet single women or couples.

Hundreds right?

Now do a search on women/couples looking for single men with the same parameters

right not hundreds.

So now you know the numbers, there are literally hundreds to one against you here.

Second step

Have a look at the profiles of the men you did in the first search, which ones seem successful, I am guessing they may have written a bit about themselves, posted a few pics, got photo verified etc.

You have to help yourself on here, to help yourself, it does not fall from trees, effort brings reward, focus on what you can do to make their decision easy.

Cheers mate not messaging women though "

Oh well in that case my comments do not apply, straight men and couples don't give a toss about who they meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm confused

Fab confuses me

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

I'm looking for men "

So you need to change that from straight to gay/bi/whatever for a start.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Wonder why. I'm up to my neck in clunge

Aren't we all? I'm as busy as a cucumber in a women's prison

Women eh. You'd think we was just peaces of meat

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

No I'm not straight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

I’ve met 2 couples and I’m straight. Is that what people think If a guy meets a mf couple that they are not straight?

If I look at the mans cock or our cocks touch while pleasing the lady that makes me bi or gay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, you're looking for men yet have men blocked. And you're straight... No wonder you have no luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, you're looking for men yet have men blocked. And you're straight... No wonder you have no luck

I'm confused how the site works

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, you're looking for men yet have men blocked. And you're straight... No wonder you have no luck

I'm confused how the site works "

Know the feeling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, you're looking for men yet have men blocked. And you're straight... No wonder you have no luck

I'm confused how the site works "

Go to message filters and block single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

No I'm not straight"

Go into the 'Looking For' bit in your profile and change your preferences from straight to whatever you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Changed it now thanks for your help guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

No I'm not straight

Go into the 'Looking For' bit in your profile and change your preferences from straight to whatever you are."

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you send face pics, when you message people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, you're looking for men yet have men blocked. And you're straight... No wonder you have no luck

I'm confused how the site works

Go to message filters and block single guys.

I want single guys mate

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By *MP3Man over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

"Wonder why. I'm up to my neck in clunge

Aren't we all? I'm as busy as a cucumber in a women's prison

Women eh. You'd think we was just peaces of meat

I hear you, brother!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’m quite straight. Sort of divergent sometimes. I wouldn’t reply, OP, because there’s not enough info on your profile to enable me to make an informed decision on whether or not to meet you.

In a pretend scenario....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

I’ve met 2 couples and I’m straight. Is that what people think If a guy meets a mf couple that they are not straight?

If I look at the mans cock or our cocks touch while pleasing the lady that makes me bi or gay

Let's hope not cos that's what we're looking for and I am not bi.

OP if a 99 year old dude messaged would you consider it, cos you're profile says you would (straight bit aside)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

I’ve met 2 couples and I’m straight. Is that what people think If a guy meets a mf couple that they are not straight?

If I look at the mans cock or our cocks touch while pleasing the lady that makes me bi or gay

No.... but if you have a mmf where you have sexual contact with the other male party then it's different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

I’ve met 2 couples and I’m straight. Is that what people think If a guy meets a mf couple that they are not straight?

If I look at the mans cock or our cocks touch while pleasing the lady that makes me bi or gay

I didn’t realise he was looking for men at the time. Sorry for my confusion

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

I’ve met 2 couples and I’m straight. Is that what people think If a guy meets a mf couple that they are not straight?

If I look at the mans cock or our cocks touch while pleasing the lady that makes me bi or gay

Let's hope not cos that's what we're looking for and I am not bi.

OP if a 99 year old dude messaged would you consider it, cos you're profile says you would (straight bit aside) "

No I'm not 99 though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, you're looking for men yet have men blocked. And you're straight... No wonder you have no luck

I'm confused how the site works

Go to message filters and block single guys.

I want single guys mate"

So leave you’re profile as it is and let them message you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m quite straight. Sort of divergent sometimes. I wouldn’t reply, OP, because there’s not enough info on your profile to enable me to make an informed decision on whether or not to meet you.

In a pretend scenario...."

Ok thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

I’ve met 2 couples and I’m straight. Is that what people think If a guy meets a mf couple that they are not straight?

If I look at the mans cock or our cocks touch while pleasing the lady that makes me bi or gay

No.... but if you have a mmf where you have sexual contact with the other male party then it's different."

I agree. Think I need spec savers

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

For me it’s probably because your profile is very blank

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman over a year ago

Hiding from twats

It says not looking for single guys, go to your "looking for" section in your account, adjust it then remember to save your changes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It says not looking for single guys, go to your "looking for" section in your account, adjust it then remember to save your changes. "

Ok thanks, I do send pics when I message by the way.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think you just need to make it as easy as possible for people with pics, bio, targeted good messages etc. A combination of everything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am the same find it very hard to get reply’s and if I do they do t seam to go any were

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any sexy ladies or couples interested fell free to give me a wink or message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your lack of height won’t help unfortunately.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Fair enough send a pic with a message but your profile isn't doing you any favours at all.

Have a look at some guys profiles, there are some really great ones. see what tips you can pick up.from them. And good luck to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It says not looking for single guys, go to your "looking for" section in your account, adjust it then remember to save your changes.

Ok thanks, I do send pics when I message by the way."

Look at other guys profiles and take the good bits,if any and add you’re own input around them. Pictures depends what suits you. But cock pictures are usually a no go. And height can be a issue on here. Other then that enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am the same find it very hard to get reply’s and if I do they do t seam to go any were "

You haven’t asked for profile advice so nobody can help you.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I am the same find it very hard to get reply’s and if I do they do t seam to go any were "

Cock, cock and cock

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I am the same find it very hard to get reply’s and if I do they do t seam to go any were

Cock, cock and cock

"
that wasn’t profile advice it was an observation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks guys this is really helpful need to work on my profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am the same find it very hard to get reply’s and if I do they do t seam to go any were "

I feel you’re pain

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Luckily for you The Duke has created a 9 point plan with the aiming of rescuing confused swingers such as yourself. You need to use The Dukes profile as a template and guide to kick start your swinging journey. Understand only The Duke can offer you such knowledge and insight for free.

Duke has spoken

#TrueAlpha#BestInTheWorld

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also find most women want 35 yrs or older

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Also find most women want 35 yrs or older "
wait 9 years

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Also find most women want 35 yrs or older "

He's not looking for women

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Luckily for you The Duke has created a 9 point plan with the aiming of rescuing confused swingers such as yourself. You need to use The Dukes profile as a template and guide to kick start your swinging journey. Understand only The Duke can offer you such knowledge and insight for free.

Duke has spoken

#TrueAlpha#BestInTheWorld "

Cheers Duke

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Also find most women want 35 yrs or older

He's not looking for women"
I think he’s referring to himself.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Also find most women want 35 yrs or older

He's not looking for women I think he’s referring to himself. "

Ah, I see

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I mean a lot of women on hear are looking for older men like in there 30s not 20s

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I mean a lot of women on hear are looking for older men like in there 30s not 20s "

Wait till you hit 40

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

‘Polite and respectful’ shouldn’t be a bonus. That should just be a given.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"‘Polite and respectful’ shouldn’t be a bonus. That should just be a given. "

Yes mam

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It can take some time to get a good profile written but just make sure it’s yours and no copied ones. In the meantime, socials, clubs and join in more on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"‘Polite and respectful’ shouldn’t be a bonus. That should just be a given. "

Surely if that's the case these men should at least say no ta

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It can take some time to get a good profile written but just make sure it’s yours and no copied ones. In the meantime, socials, clubs and join in more on here. "

Don't like social situation but will join in more on here thanks

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By *affeine DuskMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"‘Polite and respectful’ shouldn’t be a bonus. That should just be a given.

Surely if that's the case these men should at least say no ta"

I would reccomend that you read the FAQs.

No reply is a no on here

It's not necessarily anything you've done wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"‘Polite and respectful’ shouldn’t be a bonus. That should just be a given.

Surely if that's the case these men should at least say no ta

I would reccomend that you read the FAQs.

No reply is a no on here

It's not necessarily anything you've done wrong."

Ok thanks was just wondering what I could do to help myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not try adding some pics to your profile? The don't need to be naked ones, you could show off your fashion and style?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you ever lived in wales

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't received a reply to any of my messages and don't know why I'm always polite and respectful. "
it says your gay and not looking for single guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you Ok Dan?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Have you ever lived in wales

"
his name is Jonah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever lived in wales

his name is Jonah"

And wears white socks maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Haven't received a reply to any of my messages and don't know why I'm always polite and respectful. it says your gay and not looking for single guys

I thort I put it to gay?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you Ok Dan? "

Yh thanks y

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you Ok Dan?

Yh thanks y"

Just checking.

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By *hortarseWoman over a year ago

Norfolk

"Have you ever lived in wales

his name is Jonah

And wears white socks maybe

I wear white socks with sliders

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By *urple-roseWoman over a year ago

Stoke

Could always try fab guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever lived in wales

his name is Jonah

And wears white socks maybe

I wear white socks with sliders"

Great thinking

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By *hortarseWoman over a year ago

Norfolk

"Have you ever lived in wales

his name is Jonah

And wears white socks maybe

I wear white socks with sliders

Great thinking

I don't want get cold feet

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Have you tried Fabguys?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"If you're looking for MF couples and men, why are you listed as straight?

Because some couples like a mmf some

Ah. Fab straight

You can have a straight MFM

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"I am the same find it very hard to get reply’s and if I do they do t seam to go any were

You haven’t asked for profile advice so nobody can help you."

Reading the rules help....if someone is posting that they are struggling to meet then people are allowed to help

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Can people remember that even if you think people are on here with another profile after being banned that it isn't allowed to attack the person on the forum or "out" them on the forum

Just report instead or you could end up banned yourself

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