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By *edVelveteen OP Couple
over a year ago
Heaven in the Midlands |
We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it. |
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By *edVelveteen OP Couple
over a year ago
Heaven in the Midlands |
"Don't feel bad, you can cancel for whatever reason you want. If it feels wrong, you shouldn't go through with anything out of guilt  "
Thanks. I know we did the right thing, it just wasn't a nice situation. |
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By *edVelveteen OP Couple
over a year ago
Heaven in the Midlands |
"Don't feel awful about keeping yourself safe. I wouldn't meet anyone d*unk either.
Also d*unk people can't consent to sex so that's a good enough reason on it's own not to meet them for sex."
Ooh hadn't thought of that aspect. |
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As a single guy I'd 100% walk away from anyone who had been drinking or taken drugs. No telling what might happen and potentially what you could get accused of,so don't blame you one bit. All that being a given its getting to be the norm. having people cancel or ghost at the last minute once arrangements have been made. Does tend to feel like it's seen as acceptable for couples and single females to drop a guy with little or no warning. It's happening so frequently lately that it's become very disillusioning. You shouldn't feel remotely bad about what you did OP. |
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"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it."
We don’t like meeting d*unk people either. The odd time we have (too late before we’ve realised) it hasn’t gone well. You did the right thing and you shouldn’t feel awful. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it."
Before a meeting and a New Years eve party I heard a friend had been dia6 with level two skin cancer. She had already had both thyroid's removed due to that. I felt I had to spend time with her so cancelled a.meeting and a NYE swingers party. I felt the same as you did but in the end you have to do what is best for you. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it."
. You did the right thing If in doubt stay out.
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By *edVelveteen OP Couple
over a year ago
Heaven in the Midlands |
"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it.
Before a meeting and a New Years eve party I heard a friend had been dia6 with level two skin cancer. She had already had both thyroid's removed due to that. I felt I had to spend time with her so cancelled a.meeting and a NYE swingers party. I felt the same as you did but in the end you have to do what is best for you."
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"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it.
Before a meeting and a New Years eve party I heard a friend had been dia6 with level two skin cancer. She had already had both thyroid's removed due to that. I felt I had to spend time with her so cancelled a.meeting and a NYE swingers party. I felt the same as you did but in the end you have to do what is best for you."
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"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it."
I cancelled a meet once, after I arrived at the couple’s house, and the (very sexy) wife was so d*unk she could barely keep her eyes open. Not my scene, thanks for your time |
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"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it."
No need to feel bad, the reason for cancelling was entirely self inflicted (on their part), if anything they should have felt bad after hearing your reasons for cancelling! |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
Shoreditch east London |
I think u did the right thing. Like everyone else has said yr safety comes first and yr gut feeling was telling u something.
I also think u were right to do it by txt and not face to face. When people are d*unk and u don't know them u also don't know how they are gonna react. I had someone show up that was drink and they got rather pissed off when I told them it wasn't gonna work. U really don't know how someone reacts to alcohol, some people can just turn in a sec, they could get get abusive and at worst violent....u just don't know.
Good call and be proud of yrself not guilty, it wasn't right for u. Yr decision and judgement call to make, it's simple as that. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it."
It's not your fault, anyone would have done the same. |
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over a year ago
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"We recently cancelled a last minute meet and I feel just awful about it. There was a room booked, but on our way to it, the phone calls and texts made it obvious there had been quite a few drinks taken. We don't meet people who have had too many. It just gets too messy and not in the good, fun way. I just feel awful about it."
Don't blame you and don't feel bad about it, it didn't feel right and you had to make a judgement call, we've done it.
Infact we have had to cancel a few times in the past, mostly though family issues, it's life and unfortunately things happen. |
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By *edVelveteen OP Couple
over a year ago
Heaven in the Midlands |
"I think u did the right thing. Like everyone else has said yr safety comes first and yr gut feeling was telling u something.
I also think u were right to do it by txt and not face to face. When people are d*unk and u don't know them u also don't know how they are gonna react. I had someone show up that was drink and they got rather pissed off when I told them it wasn't gonna work. U really don't know how someone reacts to alcohol, some people can just turn in a sec, they could get get abusive and at worst violent....u just don't know.
Good call and be proud of yrself not guilty, it wasn't right for u. Yr decision and judgement call to make, it's simple as that. "
Thanks. We were concerned about how he would react face to face. |
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