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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I send my friend a face pic and all the contact details I know before I meet and message when I’m back safe and she’s supposed to do the same.....
Only she forgets to say she’s safe, every time! 
Do I send the swat team in through her windows?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No , but do explain to her it's important that she lets you know. Or text her as I reminder."
I do text. I messaged her at 1am and just got a reply now! And he didn’t spend the night and she’s got up and gone to work. First thing she does as soon as she opens her eyes is check her phone. |
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This sounds harsh but I've had to do it before and it worked.
Refuse to be her safety text.
Explain you don't sleep properly because she doesn't let you know she's home.
So whilst she has fun and a decent sleep you dont.
There's no point in what you do if she doesn't communicate  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"This sounds harsh but I've had to do it before and it worked.
Refuse to be her safety text.
Explain you don't sleep properly because she doesn't let you know she's home.
So whilst she has fun and a decent sleep you dont.
There's no point in what you do if she doesn't communicate "
I agree totally, she isn't respecting her part of the agreement, and it's making the system fail.
Unless she can come up with a suggestion, I would say to her that if she ends up in a situation where she feels she is in trouble she can get in touch, but apart from that you don't feel it's working for you. |
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Discuss your agreement and mutual reasons for why you've been doing this. Tell her your feelings and feedback on how the experience has been, get hers too.
Then agree a future plan - you potentially will or won't agree on how you should work this together.
We're all different but I would have had an emergency plan enacted.on failure to notify me of her safety. |
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"So I send my friend a face pic and all the contact details I know before I meet and message when I’m back safe and she’s supposed to do the same.....
Only she forgets to say she’s safe, every time!
Do I send the swat team in through her windows? "
I can understand why you do these things but its hardly being discreet to the men you are meeting Id be fuming if my meets were sending others face pics of me !! |
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"So I send my friend a face pic and all the contact details I know before I meet and message when I’m back safe and she’s supposed to do the same.....
Only she forgets to say she’s safe, every time!
Do I send the swat team in through her windows? I can understand why you do these things but its hardly being discreet to the men you are meeting Id be fuming if my meets were sending others face pics of me !!"
I’m glad you raised this, I was thinking the same. I understand why it’s done, but wondered how they op would feel about 40 plus strangers having her face pic and contact details if her meets had done the same. |
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"This sounds harsh but I've had to do it before and it worked.
Refuse to be her safety text.
Explain you don't sleep properly because she doesn't let you know she's home.
So whilst she has fun and a decent sleep you dont.
There's no point in what you do if she doesn't communicate "
I think this is a good bit of advice. I’d also be a bit worried about how she would react if you DIDN’T let her know you were safe after a meet. Would she perhaps mistakenly assumed hat you had “just forgotten” like she does and wait too long to raise the alarm? |
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"So I send my friend a face pic and all the contact details I know before I meet and message when I’m back safe and she’s supposed to do the same.....
Only she forgets to say she’s safe, every time!
Do I send the swat team in through her windows? I can understand why you do these things but its hardly being discreet to the men you are meeting Id be fuming if my meets were sending others face pics of me !!
I’m glad you raised this, I was thinking the same. I understand why it’s done, but wondered how they op would feel about 40 plus strangers having her face pic and contact details if her meets had done the same."
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