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Advice. Would you give your phone out???
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I was in Tadcaster on the weekend so I searched who was in the area and found a lady who was looking to meet. I messaged her and her response was, come to mine, fuck lick me then leave. I asked if she had condoms,she didnt so asked me to pick them up on the way. Then she sent me her phone number and asked if she could have mine because I was going to her house and she wanted security back up. When I said,my only form of contact is on here, I dont give personal details out and was willing to meet her in a public place, she deleted and blocked me!!!
This has also happened when I had a stunning lady from Manchester message me and ask to meet at a hotel because she wants to be discreet and not meet in a public place but wanted to exchange phone numbers!!!! She also blocked me when I said I wouldnt give out my number.
I had a bad experience a few years ago where I gave my number out to a lady in Manchester. She found out my name from my phone number then threaten to screen shoot my pics and messages and send them to my family. This resulted in me leaving this site for a few years.
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Can’t say if it would have been appropriate in your particular case, but if someone has given you their phone number you could quickly google it and just check that the number makes sense, right area code, it’s not linked to some Nigerian banking scam etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2nd sim in an old phone is the best answer.
Its not unreasonable for someone wanting to talk on the phone if you are going to their house either.
Security and safety is important but that goes 2 ways so best to remember that. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Don’t do anything that makes tou feel uncomfortable OP.
If you don’t want to give your number out then don’t. Just be prepared that not everyone will be happy about that. But then lots of others won’t mind and will be happy to wait and see how it goes.
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I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site. |
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As, above, second sim or second phone. How long was it between starting to speak to these women and them telling you to come and fuck them? Sounds awfully suspicious unless you look like George clunie  |
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"I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site. "
Do things your way.  |
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"Don’t do anything that makes tou feel uncomfortable OP.
If you don’t want to give your number out then don’t. Just be prepared that not everyone will be happy about that. But then lots of others won’t mind and will be happy to wait and see how it goes.
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Thanks for the friendly advice,especially coming from a fellow Welsh lady. I happen to be from South Wales originally.
My phone number is also linked to my business too so it wont be hard to find me over the internet just from my number. |
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"I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site. "
Then you have to accept that some people won't want to meet you. |
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"I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site.
Do things your way.
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Thanks for the advice. Love your pics. And also love Hastings. |
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"I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site.
Do things your way.
Thanks for the advice. Love your pics. And also love Hastings. "
Thanks. Hastings is a great place to live |
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In 5 years of swinging, only 2 people have a number for us, and they're more like vanilla friends now. I think getting a message out of the blue like that would certainly ring alarm bells and we definitely wouldn't give a number out.
Kik is the most we'd give and you can still voice chat or video call over it. |
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"As, above, second sim or second phone. How long was it between starting to speak to these women and them telling you to come and fuck them? Sounds awfully suspicious unless you look like George clunie "
I wish!!! I know it sounds mad but I had all kinds of crazy things going on in my mind!!! What if she was setting me up for something??? I was really suspicious. Especially when her 1 message said she would be on all fours waiting for me!! Then wanted to exchange phone numbers!!! Bizarre!! |
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"In 5 years of swinging, only 2 people have a number for us, and they're more like vanilla friends now. I think getting a message out of the blue like that would certainly ring alarm bells and we definitely wouldn't give a number out.
Kik is the most we'd give and you can still voice chat or video call over it. "
Thanks for the advice. I havent got Kik either. |
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As has been said above we have what we call a “fab” phone which is essentially an old iPhone with a PAYG SIM card in it. This is used most often on the day/evening of meets just to message or confirm all parties are still on board |
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As a single lady.
Before I let someone into my home I am going to want at the very very least a mobile phone number (I personally do social meets only first but others chose not to)
I'd write it down on paper and hide it in my bedside table.
If I'm k**led/napped then someone will find it and the police have something to point them in a direction.
Post meet I'd either destroy it or if things went went add them as a contact to keep in touch.
She handed her number out.
I don't think she was out of order at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is once you give out your phone number it can link up to social medea. For me its not a problem however I respect some people might not want to give out their number. I have a few single female friends that won't give it out for this reason |
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As a single lady.
Before I let someone into my home I am going to want at the very very least a mobile phone number (I personally do social meets only first but others chose not to)
I'd write it down on paper and hide it in my bedside table.
If I'm k**led/napped then someone will find it and the police have something to point them in a direction.
Post meet I'd either destroy it or if things went went add them as a contact to keep in touch.
She handed her number out.
I don't think she was out of order at all. "
Thats good advice. I did offer to meet her in a public place it was her who wanted me to go to her house, fuck lick her then leave!! My phone number is also linked to my business,thats why I would rather not share it. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site. "
In which case the meet the woman says she wanted won't suit you. The obvious thing to do was t say no thanks and go find people who want to meet for a social instead |
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"As, above, second sim or second phone. How long was it between starting to speak to these women and them telling you to come and fuck them? Sounds awfully suspicious unless you look like George clunie
I wish!!! I know it sounds mad but I had all kinds of crazy things going on in my mind!!! What if she was setting me up for something??? I was really suspicious. Especially when her 1 message said she would be on all fours waiting for me!! Then wanted to exchange phone numbers!!! Bizarre!!"
Just to play Devils Advocate, if the woman was genuine imagine the risk to her by inviting someone into her home who was being cagey about revealing their contact number when she had offered hers? |
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As a single lady.
Before I let someone into my home I am going to want at the very very least a mobile phone number (I personally do social meets only first but others chose not to)
I'd write it down on paper and hide it in my bedside table.
If I'm k**led/napped then someone will find it and the police have something to point them in a direction.
Post meet I'd either destroy it or if things went went add them as a contact to keep in touch.
She handed her number out.
I don't think she was out of order at all. "
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Having a guys mobile number is often a security thing for a single female. It's a way of knowing the person is real, committed to the meet, also should anything happen on the meet the guy is contactable after. A cheap ten pound flip phone would do that doesn't have to be connected to any of your social media sites.
If this is something that you do not want to do then like others have said some women my be put off and not wish to meet Cx |
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I don't meet anyone unless we've exchanged numbers and spoken at length. And tbh if you're that cagey and paranoid then we wouldn't get on. I like people who are chilled out and laid back. |
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I get you and agree entirely, and my female friends have mentioned the same, jotting the no down, or time place and a contact name! If thats too much then a spur of the moment meet can be re arranged or look somehwere else |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As has been said above we have what we call a “fab” phone which is essentially an old iPhone with a PAYG SIM card in it. This is used most often on the day/evening of meets just to message or confirm all parties are still on board "
Us as well |
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We won’t give out our phone numbers, we only use kik. Live pictures and voice chat are easily done on there to verify of people are genuine or not.
Phone numbers are associated with most of our social media and are too “dodgy” to give out.
Don’t do anything you are not happy with OP |
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I’m the same. I don’t give my number. KIK is good or as u suggested in a pub. Not too far from the place. If good vibes then u can go further if not just leave. No1 is hurt.
I just had this this morning. I didn’t so I’m still horny but I feel safer |
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"I met a few guys without exchanging phone numbers purely contacting via fab. Others we texted prior to meet. Never had problems either way."
Thank you Jessica. Ive met people through this site without exchanging phone numbers too. Just arrange everything on here. |
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"I don't give out my number after an unpleasant experience on here. Most guys are happy to meet in a public place first, I'm surprised she wasn't."
I offered meeting both these ladies in public places but the 1 insisted on a fuck and go at hers and the other 1 wanted to meet at a pre booked hotel room!!! Neither of them even know what I look like but they wanted my phone number!!! |
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"I don't meet anyone unless we've exchanged numbers and spoken at length. And tbh if you're that cagey and paranoid then we wouldn't get on. I like people who are chilled out and laid back. "
Im very chilled out and laid back but also careful. |
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"We won’t give out our phone numbers, we only use kik. Live pictures and voice chat are easily done on there to verify of people are genuine or not.
Phone numbers are associated with most of our social media and are too “dodgy” to give out.
Don’t do anything you are not happy with OP "
Thanks both. I found both potential meets dodgy!!! |
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I have a dual SIM phone which is very helpful in this kind of situation. I just use the second SIM for anything fab related.
I prefer to have another means of contact, as I don't like opening fabs up in a public place and it's much easier to get notifications to my phone or watch via text message, WhatsApp or Kik |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't give out my number after an unpleasant experience on here. Most guys are happy to meet in a public place first, I'm surprised she wasn't.
I offered meeting both these ladies in public places but the 1 insisted on a fuck and go at hers and the other 1 wanted to meet at a pre booked hotel room!!! Neither of them even know what I look like but they wanted my phone number!!!"
Are you sure they weren't men?!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't give my number out as it is also work phone and is often picked up by others. I don't use a second phone as I really cant be bothered with the questions from people. It has caused problems a couple of times, but most understand when I explain. |
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"I don't give out my number after an unpleasant experience on here. Most guys are happy to meet in a public place first, I'm surprised she wasn't.
I offered meeting both these ladies in public places but the 1 insisted on a fuck and go at hers and the other 1 wanted to meet at a pre booked hotel room!!! Neither of them even know what I look like but they wanted my phone number!!!
Are you sure they weren't men?!!!"
It did enter my head. But I'll never know. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Reasonable to ask for a number , just remember to remove your full name in WhatsApp profile and unlink WhatsApp and Facebook or people will get you as a suggested Facebook friend after sending or receiving a WhatsApp message. It’s surprising how many fab users don’t know this! Other than that it’s not possible to get someones identify or location from GSM number unless they publish it online |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could use anonymous apps like kik or wire fair messaging but I'm guessing that the lady wanted your number for safety. Don't forget a single lady meeting via a sex site is more vulnerable than a guy... |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I have a dual SIM phone which is very helpful in this kind of situation. I just use the second SIM for anything fab related.
I prefer to have another means of contact, as I don't like opening fabs up in a public place and it's much easier to get notifications to my phone or watch via text message, WhatsApp or Kik"
I have multi sim phones and also World SIM which gives me numbers for each country we work in but cannot figure how to run multiple whatsApp accounts on them .... |
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"As, above, second sim or second phone. How long was it between starting to speak to these women and them telling you to come and fuck them? Sounds awfully suspicious unless you look like George clunie
I wish!!! I know it sounds mad but I had all kinds of crazy things going on in my mind!!! What if she was setting me up for something??? I was really suspicious. Especially when her 1 message said she would be on all fours waiting for me!! Then wanted to exchange phone numbers!!! Bizarre!!
Just to play Devils Advocate, if the woman was genuine imagine the risk to her by inviting someone into her home who was being cagey about revealing their contact number when she had offered hers?"
Exactly this! |
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Not a chance we'd give our main numbers out. Yes, people may say there has to be a level of trust but from our experience, people do some crazy shit when plans have to change or you don't want to meet up again.
We'd get a second phone, handsets are cheap, sims are free and sticking 10 quid on is no hassle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't arrange to meet without numbers exchanged. I find alot of people on here that won't give numbers are time wasters and fantasists in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no-one gets my phone number unless I know them, not met them just once or in a club, but have met them over a period of time and got to know them. Also the number is, as has been suggested on this thread, a specific number for this lifestyle.
Oh, and arranging to meet someone at their home when you have no idea who they are, or vice versa, is crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a dual SIM phone which is very helpful in this kind of situation. I just use the second SIM for anything fab related.
I prefer to have another means of contact, as I don't like opening fabs up in a public place and it's much easier to get notifications to my phone or watch via text message, WhatsApp or Kik
I have multi sim phones and also World SIM which gives me numbers for each country we work in but cannot figure how to run multiple whatsApp accounts on them .... "
I have a dual sim phone and have dual WhatsApp if I can find the website I found it's great and tells you how to do it in plain English, it covers multi too |
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Apologies, I haven't read the whole thread but I'd like to add that a woman giving her phone number first and without even being asked is a huge red flag for me.
Very likely to be something sinister in store and would proceed with extreme suspicion and caution and possibly just keep tf away altogether. |
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"Apologies, I haven't read the whole thread but I'd like to add that a woman giving her phone number first and without even being asked is a huge red flag for me.
Very likely to be something sinister in store and would proceed with extreme suspicion and caution and possibly just keep tf away altogether. "
You could be right mate. I never asked for her number, she just sent it!!! Offered to meet her somewhere public and I got blocked!! |
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"Apologies, I haven't read the whole thread but I'd like to add that a woman giving her phone number first and without even being asked is a huge red flag for me.
Very likely to be something sinister in store and would proceed with extreme suspicion and caution and possibly just keep tf away altogether.
You could be right mate. I never asked for her number, she just sent it!!! Offered to meet her somewhere public and I got blocked!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never give our phone number out now at random due to a bad experience a few years ago lesson learned now after we have met someone and a bond of trust has been established no problem. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
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As a single lady.
Before I let someone into my home I am going to want at the very very least a mobile phone number (I personally do social meets only first but others chose not to)
I'd write it down on paper and hide it in my bedside table.
If I'm k**led/napped then someone will find it and the police have something to point them in a direction.
Post meet I'd either destroy it or if things went went add them as a contact to keep in touch.
She handed her number out.
I don't think she was out of order at all. "
I totally agree with this.
Not that I would ever see anyone in my house, but if I were, the least I would expect would be a real, full name and a telephone number. |
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It's right to only meet those who we are matched with, especially from a security perspective.
As another thread on giving your number out covers more opinions, there are 2 opposing stances - must talk via phone vs not in any way.
A phone number can provide a track-able means to highlight someone. It also helps people to update others on delays and confirm that they are really coming - lots of people have no shows.
Above all, for me, it gives a real time ability to discus things, that's very revealing in ways that text isn't. You can fine tune flexibly on your meeting plans, rather than message ping pong can.
You can chat real time in other ways but phones have been around for so long that they are recognised, understood and ubiquitous in ways that others aren't.
A cheap sim card is a help, preventing you being tracked to social media etc. When buying a phone, look for a dual sim phone, so you don't need 2 handsets.
There'll still be those who want it and others who don't at any cost. Respecting others differences is important. Blocking is used when not matched but cancelling a meet should be discussed. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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As a single lady.
Before I let someone into my home I am going to want at the very very least a mobile phone number (I personally do social meets only first but others chose not to)
I'd write it down on paper and hide it in my bedside table.
If I'm k**led/napped then someone will find it and the police have something to point them in a direction.
Post meet I'd either destroy it or if things went went add them as a contact to keep in touch.
She handed her number out.
I don't think she was out of order at all.
Thats good advice. I did offer to meet her in a public place it was her who wanted me to go to her house, fuck lick her then leave!! My phone number is also linked to my business,thats why I would rather not share it. "
I have a twin sim phone one personal, one business. Only cost about £75. Not the greatest device but I’m not a techno head wanting the latest thing out.
Might be an idea for the “Fab” Phone??
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It's fairly normal to ask for people's number if you're planning on meeting them, as it is to give out yours. No different to meeting someone in a bar or nightclub with the intention of seeing them soon. I can imagine why refusing to give it would have made her think twice because you didn't appear genuine. If you need to keep your fab life at arms length from everything else, get another phone as mentioned already. |
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"It's fairly normal to ask for people's number if you're planning on meeting them, as it is to give out yours. No different to meeting someone in a bar or nightclub with the intention of seeing them soon. I can imagine why refusing to give it would have made her think twice because you didn't appear genuine. If you need to keep your fab life at arms length from everything else, get another phone as mentioned already. "
Obviously Im genuine, I offered to meet her in a public place first but she declined!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very few get my phone number tbh, I only give it before a definite meet after requesting theirs. The amount of males on here who freely give their number is unreal, I've seen some of them post it on their profile too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site. "
well at least you know now your reluctance to give out your number will result sometimes with the two examples you gave, theyre inviting you to their home you can understand the need for something from you, personally i would have seen the invite to their home never having met you before as more suspicious and a tad careless    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many years ago when I was in a sexless nilla relationship I had a phone fornon sexual BDSM purposes. It was the cheapest phone in the world and it was hidden in its box in a bin bag hidden in a hollow under a tree in a wood a few mins away. There is always a way (but don't suggest going that far)
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Don’t believe giving out a number is essential unless you decide to see people in a regular basis, having poly relationships or eventually become friends.
All my meets arranged either through kik or fab messaging even after I exchanged numbers with few.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every stage of meeting strangers for sex is a risk..from putting up a profiles, meeting the person to entering the person!
The phone one seems like an easy one to get around. |
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"I have a dual SIM phone which is very helpful in this kind of situation. I just use the second SIM for anything fab related.
I prefer to have another means of contact, as I don't like opening fabs up in a public place and it's much easier to get notifications to my phone or watch via text message, WhatsApp or Kik"
This.Dual sIM phones used to be pretty much a niche market but my lat upgrade on my business phone came with a dual sim handset as standard.
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I only meet people if they give out their phone number. Not because I want to track them or Google them which I've never done (you can easily Google a photo of someone's face and find them on Facebook or other social media) only because I find if someone won't give out their number they are married or in a relationship and I don't meet people who are cheaters. But also it s out people who aren't genuine. If you said to me the reasons why you didn't give out your number I wouldn't block you but it'd be a no from me. I refuse to install kik or Snapchat.
As for people being stalkers and stuff I've had quite a few of those but people get bored when you stop replying. As for people sending my photos to family and friends what I do in my personal life has nothing to do with anyone else and wouldn't be embarrassed. I've had clients in my business and they've recognised me but again professional and social lives are completely separate in my opinion. And if I want to meet people for casual sex that's up to me |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"We have done before, poss to easily and it was a harsh lesson learnt. So start with kik now. Ps anyone know how to start a forum post? "
If you go to the relevant message board e.g meets and events..and go into it ...at the top there is a title...post new topic...if you want to start a new thread...
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Many years ago when I was in a sexless nilla relationship I had a phone fornon sexual BDSM purposes. It was the cheapest phone in the world and it was hidden in its box in a bin bag hidden in a hollow under a tree in a wood a few mins away. There is always a way (but don't suggest going that far)
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Did you blind fold yourself and spin round just to make sure it was a secret |
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"I was in Tadcaster on the weekend so I searched who was in the area and found a lady who was looking to meet. I messaged her and her response was, come to mine, fuck lick me then leave. I asked if she had condoms,she didnt so asked me to pick them up on the way. Then she sent me her phone number and asked if she could have mine because I was going to her house and she wanted security back up. When I said,my only form of contact is on here, I dont give personal details out and was willing to meet her in a public place, she deleted and blocked me!!!
This has also happened when I had a stunning lady from Manchester message me and ask to meet at a hotel because she wants to be discreet and not meet in a public place but wanted to exchange phone numbers!!!! She also blocked me when I said I wouldnt give out my number.
I had a bad experience a few years ago where I gave my number out to a lady in Manchester. She found out my name from my phone number then threaten to screen shoot my pics and messages and send them to my family. This resulted in me leaving this site for a few years.
Whats everyones opinions please???"
You have your hard limits they have theirs. It's not unreasonable for a woman to be concerned about personal safety. You are worried about embarrassment, they are worried about being attacked and murdered.(to paraphase Margaret Attwood)
Don't stress about other people's safety protocols and keep to the ones you feel ok with
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if you're gonna share intimate moments you should be able to share a number. Gives a certain amount of trust which we all hope for. Don't let the minority spoil it. "
Quite right
I wouldn’t invite someone to my house knowing nothing more than a fab profile name, its about trust, someone trusts you with their address.
I have also never heard of what happened to you so I reckon that must be the minority, surely? Sounds absolutely awful though.
You could just go to a club where the question of numbers wouldn’t be a deal breaker  saves awkwardness and wont leave anyone stressed..... |
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"I was in Tadcaster on the weekend so I searched who was in the area and found a lady who was looking to meet. I messaged her and her response was, come to mine, fuck lick me then leave. I asked if she had condoms,she didnt so asked me to pick them up on the way. Then she sent me her phone number and asked if she could have mine because I was going to her house and she wanted security back up. When I said,my only form of contact is on here, I dont give personal details out and was willing to meet her in a public place, she deleted and blocked me!!!
This has also happened when I had a stunning lady from Manchester message me and ask to meet at a hotel because she wants to be discreet and not meet in a public place but wanted to exchange phone numbers!!!! She also blocked me when I said I wouldnt give out my number.
I had a bad experience a few years ago where I gave my number out to a lady in Manchester. She found out my name from my phone number then threaten to screen shoot my pics and messages and send them to my family. This resulted in me leaving this site for a few years.
Whats everyones opinions please???
You have your hard limits they have theirs. It's not unreasonable for a woman to be concerned about personal safety. You are worried about embarrassment, they are worried about being attacked and murdered.(to paraphase Margaret Attwood)
Don't stress about other people's safety protocols and keep to the ones you feel ok with
Ms Icebreaker "
What Ms Icebreaker said is spot on |
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"I do kik to avoid the need to exchange numbers... I can also see if messages are received etc. Makes communication a little easier"
Kik is superb like that.
Before the latest palava, when it still have live cam, you could use it as a phone (cut to earpiece speaker and shut off camera when you put it near your ear).
There was no reason to give out a phone number. |
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"I was in Tadcaster on the weekend so I searched who was in the area and found a lady who was looking to meet. I messaged her and her response was, come to mine, fuck lick me then leave. I asked if she had condoms,she didnt so asked me to pick them up on the way. Then she sent me her phone number and asked if she could have mine because I was going to her house and she wanted security back up. When I said,my only form of contact is on here, I dont give personal details out and was willing to meet her in a public place, she deleted and blocked me!!!
This has also happened when I had a stunning lady from Manchester message me and ask to meet at a hotel because she wants to be discreet and not meet in a public place but wanted to exchange phone numbers!!!! She also blocked me when I said I wouldnt give out my number.
I had a bad experience a few years ago where I gave my number out to a lady in Manchester. She found out my name from my phone number then threaten to screen shoot my pics and messages and send them to my family. This resulted in me leaving this site for a few years.
Whats everyones opinions please???"
Get a burner phone. |
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"Many years ago when I was in a sexless nilla relationship I had a phone fornon sexual BDSM purposes. It was the cheapest phone in the world and it was hidden in its box in a bin bag hidden in a hollow under a tree in a wood a few mins away. There is always a way (but don't suggest going that far)
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I can see your point op but....
I happened upon a lady on here we chatted for a short while and she asked if I could pop over for pretty much the same thing you described. She gave me her number and asked me to text her.
As I'm in a relationship and she doesn't know I'm on here was a little bit worried. But not often you get an offer like that!
Let's say it was worth it. Good time had by us both.
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OP, it's why most here use Kik.
Surprised after your first experience with the drama that you offered it.
That's and old trick same as the uses below:
1. Some will say they want to speak first, and same thing can happen.
2. Address may not be there's at all. You could have been robbed.
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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't give out my number after an unpleasant experience on here. Most guys are happy to meet in a public place first, I'm surprised she wasn't.
I offered meeting both these ladies in public places but the 1 insisted on a fuck and go at hers and the other 1 wanted to meet at a pre booked hotel room!!! Neither of them even know what I look like but they wanted my phone number!!!"
They both sound totally dodgy
But not because they wanted your phone number! |
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"I dont want to get a 2nd phone. Dont want no drama, just fun. Dont want to give out personal details on here either. Im willing to chat over a brew and talk about myself then, in a friendly meeting but not on this site. "
You want sex but not prepared to give your phone number out? You can always block them after. |
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"Bad experience as a single lady on here means I won’t give my number out either. If people insist then we cancel the meet simple as. Move on and chat to others "
Before me and G got together, I had a single profile on another site, I arranged to meet someone, they didnt show so I went home. Minutes later I got I text describing what I had been wearing and how sexy it was! This is why even now, we do not give out our numbers until we have met. |
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By *oAnCouple
over a year ago
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As a single lady.
Before I let someone into my home I am going to want at the very very least a mobile phone number (I personally do social meets only first but others chose not to)
I'd write it down on paper and hide it in my bedside table.
If I'm k**led/napped then someone will find it and the police have something to point them in a direction.
Post meet I'd either destroy it or if things went went add them as a contact to keep in touch.
She handed her number out.
I don't think she was out of order at all. "
Totally agree. I give out my number sometimes and more often than not the guy phones me with a withheld number. Well I don't answer those as I guess you want to withhold your number I'll just withhold sex. |
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"I was in Tadcaster on the weekend so I searched who was in the area and found a lady who was looking to meet. I messaged her and her response was, come to mine, fuck lick me then leave. I asked if she had condoms,she didnt so asked me to pick them up on the way. Then she sent me her phone number and asked if she could have mine because I was going to her house and she wanted security back up. When I said,my only form of contact is on here, I dont give personal details out and was willing to meet her in a public place, she deleted and blocked me!!!
This has also happened when I had a stunning lady from Manchester message me and ask to meet at a hotel because she wants to be discreet and not meet in a public place but wanted to exchange phone numbers!!!! She also blocked me when I said I wouldnt give out my number.
I had a bad experience a few years ago where I gave my number out to a lady in Manchester. She found out my name from my phone number then threaten to screen shoot my pics and messages and send them to my family. This resulted in me leaving this site for a few years.
Whats everyones opinions please???
You have your hard limits they have theirs. It's not unreasonable for a woman to be concerned about personal safety. You are worried about embarrassment, they are worried about being attacked and murdered.(to paraphase Margaret Attwood)
Don't stress about other people's safety protocols and keep to the ones you feel ok with
Ms Icebreaker
What Ms Icebreaker said is spot on "
Thank you
Men _oaning about a bit of embarrassment really piss me off - mate we risk r*pe and death grow up
Ms Icebreaker |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I don't give out my number after an unpleasant experience on here. Most guys are happy to meet in a public place first, I'm surprised she wasn't.
I offered meeting both these ladies in public places but the 1 insisted on a fuck and go at hers and the other 1 wanted to meet at a pre booked hotel room!!! Neither of them even know what I look like but they wanted my phone number!!!"
The inviting you over and not asking to see a face pic makes me a bit suspicious.
Most women wouldn't want a straight sex meet without seeing you and I don't think many would invite you straight to theirs.
Its totally up to you how you meet on fab,I give kik out not my mobile either .
If it didn't feel right,it probably wasn't op. |
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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago
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A Lady did work out who I was from my number and did send certain things to my work and threaten more. All sorted now. But a difficult period of time.
I would follow what the other posters have said and get a second number that is only for Fab etc and not linked to the real you e.g. LinkedIn on a work website etc |
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"A Lady did work out who I was from my number and did send certain things to my work and threaten more. All sorted now. But a difficult period of time.
I would follow what the other posters have said and get a second number that is only for Fab etc and not linked to the real you e.g. LinkedIn on a work website etc"
Its surprising what people can find out from your phone number!!! |
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As a single lady.
Before I let someone into my home I am going to want at the very very least a mobile phone number (I personally do social meets only first but others chose not to)
I'd write it down on paper and hide it in my bedside table.
If I'm k**led/napped then someone will find it and the police have something to point them in a direction.
Post meet I'd either destroy it or if things went went add them as a contact to keep in touch.
She handed her number out.
I don't think she was out of order at all. "
Great idea. |
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The police are pushing for the restriction of pay as you go phone services, so it's perhaps a good time to get a SIM.
Always be prepared with fab that some people will have different rules to yours and thus you'll not get the meet. Preferances are important to people and those that could relate to safety are especially so. Learn, adapt and move on. |
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"A Lady did work out who I was from my number and did send certain things to my work and threaten more. All sorted now. But a difficult period of time.
I would follow what the other posters have said and get a second number that is only for Fab etc and not linked to the real you e.g. LinkedIn on a work website etc
Its surprising what people can find out from your phone number!!! "
Yep. I know cause I’ve checked others out when I’ve wanted to! Also we already have enough phones we use for work and home. I don’t want any more phones. So it’s just tough if people don’t want to meet us as I don’t want to give our numbers out. |
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I would have been wildly suspicious about the whole scenario to be honest. Phone numbers only come after a lot of chatting and a certain to meet (talking weeks here)
Id echo the second phone though if it made you more comfy buy still be suspicious of meeting in either of those circumstances anyway. |
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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago
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It's the OP's choice same as it was the ladies choice, cant see any reason to _oan.
To us, the secrecy, daytime meets etc scream married guy, playing without permission. Asking for phone numbers is one of the ways of sorting out the married guys, seeing if they can accommodate etc, so we dont see a problem with asking for it. |
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We have couples before never had an issue personal cho6i guess if I was a single woman inviting someone into my home I would probably expect a number extra security if refused I would assume they are married probably look elsewhere |
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