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By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago
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Hey. I don't want this to come across as a pity party or an attention thing on me. I've recently lost a very close relative and I'm going through the grieving process. But for some reason I'm hornier than ever. It just feels wrong to me but a close friend said it's natural. Apparently we all have a built in fight, flight or fuck. What's other people think?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree. My sister passed away some years ago and whilst I was devastated I also felt some kind of raw sexuality.
Long story short, my daughter was born nine months later. Rather fittingly on my sisters birthday!
Sorry for your loss OP
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's really, really normal. If you do a quick Google search I bet you'll find some info on it. Grief affects different people in different ways. Your brain is trying to distract you and give you a break from what you're feeling most of the time. I'm sorry for your loss x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Makes perfect sense OP, I went through the same thing a couple of months ago.
As other people have said, grief affects everyone in different ways and there is no right or wrong. If it's what you need to do then so be it. Sorry for your loss x |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry for your loss OP.
I think when we lose someone we naturally want to seek comfort and closeness where we can, and to remind ourselves we are alive.
There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The stages will arrive at times where you least expect it and at times surprise you and not necessarily in a good way unfortunately.
My dad passed away 3 years and despite me having had a reasonably good year celebrating my 50th birthday throughout the year, I've grieved for him terribly as it would have been his 70th.
Anyhoo, back to your original query, yes, it's natural to feel like that. Despite any bereavement, it's also brought out the rampant feelings in me too! |
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"Hey. I don't want this to come across as a pity party or an attention thing on me. I've recently lost a very close relative and I'm going through the grieving process. But for some reason I'm hornier than ever. It just feels wrong to me but a close friend said it's natural. Apparently we all have a built in fight, flight or fuck. What's other people think??"
My wonderful councillor Lavinia (for child sex abuse) explains that our response to any trauma can be the 5 f's..... Fight, flight, fuck, faint and freeze.
Any trauma can trigger one or more of these. |
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"It's really, really normal. If you do a quick Google search I bet you'll find some info on it. Grief affects different people in different ways. Your brain is trying to distract you and give you a break from what you're feeling most of the time. I'm sorry for your loss x"
This is so true  |
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By *w214Couple
over a year ago
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There's a really good podcast, think it's called grief cast where comedians talk about grief, only heard one episode but it was very very good. I'd recommend it for anyone that is grieving. |
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