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Mrs Hikingpair and I have just written down a new year list of fantasies for 2020, and high on the list is the hotwife idea ... We have had a good few mmfs, same room couple full swaps ... The hotwife scenario feels like a huge step into the unknown, but I get really turned on at the thought of it, and Mrs H is warming to the idea. Have any of you tried this? How was it for you? Are there any major pitfalls to avoid?
Any tips? Thanks in advance for any advice. |
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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago
Southcoast Gosport |
"Mrs Hikingpair and I have just written down a new year list of fantasies for 2020, and high on the list is the hotwife idea ... We have had a good few mmfs, same room couple full swaps ... The hotwife scenario feels like a huge step into the unknown, but I get really turned on at the thought of it, and Mrs H is warming to the idea. Have any of you tried this? How was it for you? Are there any major pitfalls to avoid?
Any tips? Thanks in advance for any advice."
This is something we are exploring and want to do so would like to see the advice received. So far we’ve had fantasists, idiots and just about every Tom, Harry and Dick.... messaging  so now searching ourselves. |
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"Mrs Hikingpair and I have just written down a new year list of fantasies for 2020, and high on the list is the hotwife idea ... We have had a good few mmfs, same room couple full swaps ... The hotwife scenario feels like a huge step into the unknown, but I get really turned on at the thought of it, and Mrs H is warming to the idea. Have any of you tried this? How was it for you? Are there any major pitfalls to avoid?
Any tips? Thanks in advance for any advice. This is something we are exploring and want to do so would like to see the advice received. So far we’ve had fantasists, idiots and just about every Tom, Harry and Dick.... messaging so now searching ourselves. "
Well, we've received a couple of very helpful PMs ... The main messages were to make sure you are careful to communicate, especially any boundaries, make sure you have complete trust in each other, also start out with someone you both know and trust, perhaps because you've played in an mmf with them before. That takes any safety concerns away, and you know that they will respect your boundaries. |
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"What's a, 'Hot wife scenario' mean? X (excuse our ignorance! X  )"
It's where your wife goes off on her own to meet a guy for sex ... So you are home alone, wondering what they're doing, and of course she tells you all about it afterwards as you have reclaim sex. |
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"What's a, 'Hot wife scenario' mean? X (excuse our ignorance! X )
It's where your wife goes off on her own to meet a guy for sex ... So you are home alone, wondering what they're doing, and of course she tells you all about it afterwards as you have reclaim sex."
Wow!
The thought of that really turns us on! Don't think we'd have the balls to do it ourselves.
Good luck! Let us know how you get on! Xx |
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"What's a, 'Hot wife scenario' mean? X (excuse our ignorance! X )
It's where your wife goes off on her own to meet a guy for sex ... So you are home alone, wondering what they're doing, and of course she tells you all about it afterwards as you have reclaim sex.
Wow!
The thought of that really turns us on! Don't think we'd have the balls to do it ourselves.
Good luck! Let us know how you get on! Xx"
It is great fun , something that we have worked our way up to, both enjoy it a lot , especailly if facetime is involved, adds an extra twist , good luck. |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
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You can work up to it, a "hot wife" can be more than just her going off with another man.
Maybe start with her going into a bar , you sit away from her and see if she gets chatted up, she can flirt a little and then tell you all about it after.
Then maybe she can go on a date, no sex involved, and once again tell you about the attention that she got.
If you go slow and build up to her sleeping with some one the fun and fantasy will go on for a lot longer and can be very good for her confidence and self esteem.
Just my opinion , hope you BOTH have fun. Xx |
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"You can work up to it, a "hot wife" can be more than just her going off with another man.
Maybe start with her going into a bar , you sit away from her and see if she gets chatted up, she can flirt a little and then tell you all about it after.
Then maybe she can go on a date, no sex involved, and once again tell you about the attention that she got.
If you go slow and build up to her sleeping with some one the fun and fantasy will go on for a lot longer and can be very good for her confidence and self esteem.
Just my opinion , hope you BOTH have fun. Xx "
Thank you very much for this, it sounds like excellent advice ... Our swinging has been a steady progression, starting with soft play only, then full swap sex, and so the hotwife thing is a continuation of a journey. So your ideas of turning that into a series of smaller steps, so that we can bail out anytime either of us feels uncomfortable, without any regrets, is very appealing. |
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"You can work up to it, a "hot wife" can be more than just her going off with another man.
Maybe start with her going into a bar , you sit away from her and see if she gets chatted up, she can flirt a little and then tell you all about it after.
Then maybe she can go on a date, no sex involved, and once again tell you about the attention that she got.
If you go slow and build up to her sleeping with some one the fun and fantasy will go on for a lot longer and can be very good for her confidence and self esteem.
Just my opinion , hope you BOTH have fun. Xx "
HOT! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My sexy milf did this a while ago,
On a social and ended up sending me a vid of her sucking cock in a car and taking a mouth and faceful
Of hot cum..
I made sure she made up for it when she got home !! |
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"We have literally just started looking into this. It's been a goal we had in mind for 2020 for a while.
Looks like us perverts think alike!  "
Is that a sort of Fab version of 'great minds think alike'?  |
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"You can work up to it, a "hot wife" can be more than just her going off with another man.
Maybe start with her going into a bar , you sit away from her and see if she gets chatted up, she can flirt a little and then tell you all about it after.
Then maybe she can go on a date, no sex involved, and once again tell you about the attention that she got.
If you go slow and build up to her sleeping with some one the fun and fantasy will go on for a lot longer and can be very good for her confidence and self esteem.
Just my opinion , hope you BOTH have fun. Xx
Thank you very much for this, it sounds like excellent advice ... Our swinging has been a steady progression, starting with soft play only, then full swap sex, and so the hotwife thing is a continuation of a journey. So your ideas of turning that into a series of smaller steps, so that we can bail out anytime either of us feels uncomfortable, without any regrets, is very appealing."
Sounds like you are on a glorious journey. Being invited to join a couple is a thrill and a privilege and one which ranks as my favourite kind of fun. |
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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago
Southcoast Gosport |
"Mrs Hikingpair and I have just written down a new year list of fantasies for 2020, and high on the list is the hotwife idea ... We have had a good few mmfs, same room couple full swaps ... The hotwife scenario feels like a huge step into the unknown, but I get really turned on at the thought of it, and Mrs H is warming to the idea. Have any of you tried this? How was it for you? Are there any major pitfalls to avoid?
Any tips? Thanks in advance for any advice. This is something we are exploring and want to do so would like to see the advice received. So far we’ve had fantasists, idiots and just about every Tom, Harry and Dick.... messaging so now searching ourselves.
Well, we've received a couple of very helpful PMs ... The main messages were to make sure you are careful to communicate, especially any boundaries, make sure you have complete trust in each other, also start out with someone you both know and trust, perhaps because you've played in an mmf with them before. That takes any safety concerns away, and you know that they will respect your boundaries."
Thank you for this, much appreciated. Will look at previous meets as an option initially. Just a shame that some men took our post on here as an open invitation to message and offer their services. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've enjoyed the Hotwife scene with a previoud GF who met other guys and as the extra guy, so I can offer my thoughts from both sides of the bed.
First off, as has been said, communicate and understand what you will both get out of this and that you both want this for the right reasons.
Second, start simple and build things up. Mrs doesn't have to go off on a date or a night away with a guy first time. Meet a guy, have a drink in a hotel as a couple. I have do this with first timers in a hotel bar. I have a room, so we can all flirt and just have a drink, then if you all agree, you can decide how things proceed. Maybe you all go up and hubby watches, maybe the guy and Mrs head up, then keep hubby updated, maybe hubby goes up and joins, maybe he waits until his wife joins him again in the bar, maybe hubby goes up to the room and the extra guy leaves. Possibilities are only limited by your desires.
Happy to chat about my experiences more if anyone else is interested. |
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I have been that other guy on a few occasions and must say if it all falls into place then its an amazing experience for all, saying that for it to work properly it takes time and trust and wont happen overnight. Dont rush into it is the best advice.
Please pm me if i can be of any help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's a, 'Hot wife scenario' mean? X (excuse our ignorance! X )
It's where your wife goes off on her own to meet a guy for sex ... So you are home alone, wondering what they're doing, and of course she tells you all about it afterwards as you have reclaim sex.
Wow!
The thought of that really turns us on! Don't think we'd have the balls to do it ourselves.
Good luck! Let us know how you get on! Xx"
Hubby can watch in the room or take pics as well.
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Hotwife fun is probably the most erotic filthy and lusty acts we’ve been involved in. My wife loves being centre of attention and if the guy makes the right and says the right things then you will be enjoying my wife and all she has to give with my blessing x |
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"Mrs Hikingpair and I have just written down a new year list of fantasies for 2020, and high on the list is the hotwife idea ... We have had a good few mmfs, same room couple full swaps ... The hotwife scenario feels like a huge step into the unknown, but I get really turned on at the thought of it, and Mrs H is warming to the idea. Have any of you tried this? How was it for you? Are there any major pitfalls to avoid?
Any tips? Thanks in advance for any advice."
It could be worth you checking out _hehotwifeclub profile on here. The hostess, J, throws a Hotwife themed night at Liberty Elite every 2-3 months and you’d have the chance to meet people with all different levels of experience in the Hotwife scene. Plus there are lots of hot girls, couples and guys all mingling so if you wanted to stick with MFM or maybe go for MF whilst husband waits nearby but still have the security of a club then it’s a great option. Also great way to check out guys socially who you may to meet for more at a later date - we’ve picked up a few that way!
We’ve been to most of the Hotwife nights at Liberty Elite and always had a great time whether we’ve chosen to play or not. Best of luck on your journey xx |
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Hey guys, Hotwifing comes in all flavours 
Ours is her meeting guys along at our house when I'm at work, usually with pics or video, sometimes sent to me to tease me, then more references when we have sex alone
For safety it's only guys that I've met, and often guys we've done mmf with, but she arranges her meets without my knowledge. For some, hotwifing involves dates etc, for us it's more about sex.
Good luck, take it steady to start with, and always be open to saying what you don't want/like, as well as rewarding each other for what you do. Best  |
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Most of my meets are like this. Me and my husband have unwritten rules but I love to take videos and pics to send to him. It’s really hot telling him all about it as I fuck him when I get back. Definitely a lot of fun. Good luck to you!  |
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Hotwifing isn’t for everyone, you have to be in a very strong, trusting relationship for it to work.
As a ‘cuck’ there is nothing better than the churn in work stomach knowing your wife is out on a date and hopefully it’s going to lead to the guy parting her legs and being where a husband should be and then coming home to share the intimate details with you.
Been a while since we last did due to lots of reasons this but hoping that we will soon be back in the saddle !
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We’ve tried this on a couple of occasions now and both times have been fantastic (and amazing “reclaim” sex)
We’ve agreed to stick to Fab guys for now so we have veri’s as a bit of safety net and to avoid time wasters.
Just make sure guys know the score and happy with any limits and conditions (eg pics and videos for hubby)
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We do hotwife in club where she can go off and find me after she's had her fun , the only time we do it outside club is with one of two guys when she in there area with work. Or they staying in hotels in our area. I've met them both and trust them, not sure I'd let her do with complete stranger out of club, unless I got to know them first |
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"Mrs Hikingpair and I have just written down a new year list of fantasies for 2020, and high on the list is the hotwife idea ... We have had a good few mmfs, same room couple full swaps ... The hotwife scenario feels like a huge step into the unknown, but I get really turned on at the thought of it, and Mrs H is warming to the idea. Have any of you tried this? How was it for you? Are there any major pitfalls to avoid?
Any tips? Thanks in advance for any advice.
It could be worth you checking out _hehotwifeclub profile on here. The hostess, J, throws a Hotwife themed night at Liberty Elite every 2-3 months and you’d have the chance to meet people with all different levels of experience in the Hotwife scene. Plus there are lots of hot girls, couples and guys all mingling so if you wanted to stick with MFM or maybe go for MF whilst husband waits nearby but still have the security of a club then it’s a great option. Also great way to check out guys socially who you may to meet for more at a later date - we’ve picked up a few that way!
We’ve been to most of the Hotwife nights at Liberty Elite and always had a great time whether we’ve chosen to play or not. Best of luck on your journey xx "
Ahh thank you for your kind words!
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Honestly.........it has been incredible for our relationship. Everyone happy and free and no secrets and never jealousy and everyone is turned on and quite apart from the sex and the freedom and happiness......it’s just great fun.
Also the nervousness is there for a year but that definitely goes away |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
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Like others on here I’ve been the single male meeting the hotwife. One way in which I’ve found it to be safer is to use a guy whom you’ve both met previously as a MMF and TRUST!! |
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By *j1963Couple
over a year ago
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Also hotwife/Vixen is very different to cuckholding. Cuckholding the husband/Male partner is teased by the wife or bull. That's not the case with the hotwife/Vixen. He is very much the one in control and is just generously loaning you his wife. 2 very different things and it needs to be clear between you to which you are |
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Thanks for all your replies and comments. We would definitely start with someone we have previously met and played with. We dipped our toes this week with a male friend we have met before when MrH stayed upstairs to start with and I sent him pics and texts . He could hear us as well... |
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"Mrs Hikingpair and I have just written down a new year list of fantasies for 2020, and high on the list is the hotwife idea ... We have had a good few mmfs, same room couple full swaps ... The hotwife scenario feels like a huge step into the unknown, but I get really turned on at the thought of it, and Mrs H is warming to the idea. Have any of you tried this? How was it for you? Are there any major pitfalls to avoid?
Any tips? Thanks in advance for any advice. This is something we are exploring and want to do so would like to see the advice received. So far we’ve had fantasists, idiots and just about every Tom, Harry and Dick.... messaging so now searching ourselves. "
How's the search panning out |
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"Oh and we are very clear on it not being a cuckold scenario, there is no humiliation involved.
Being a cuckold doesnt mean thatvthe guy has to be humiliated  "
Sorry was just in answer to some of the comments... not personally a fan of labels anyway. |
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"Oh and we are very clear on it not being a cuckold scenario, there is no humiliation involved.
Being a cuckold doesnt mean thatvthe guy has to be humiliated
Sorry was just in answer to some of the comments... not personally a fan of labels anyway."
Agree completely, like everything today people seem to need to give it a box so it fits in with their perception.
It’s different for everyone and 99% have no clue what it’s all about. |
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"What's a, 'Hot wife scenario' mean? X (excuse our ignorance! X )
It's where your wife goes off on her own to meet a guy for sex ... So you are home alone, wondering what they're doing, and of course she tells you all about it afterwards as you have reclaim sex."
We bit the bullet and M met a guy on her own, filming it all for A to enjoy afterwards.
It took a lot of trust and both of us were a little anxious about what happened afterwards but if anything it deepened our relationship and A has pretty much worn out the recording!
However, we have decided to meet together if we do it again. |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"What's a, 'Hot wife scenario' mean? X (excuse our ignorance! X )
It's where your wife goes off on her own to meet a guy for sex ... So you are home alone, wondering what they're doing, and of course she tells you all about it afterwards as you have reclaim sex.
We bit the bullet and M met a guy on her own, filming it all for A to enjoy afterwards.
It took a lot of trust and both of us were a little anxious about what happened afterwards but if anything it deepened our relationship and A has pretty much worn out the recording!
However, we have decided to meet together if we do it again."
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"What's a, 'Hot wife scenario' mean? X (excuse our ignorance! X )
It's where your wife goes off on her own to meet a guy for sex ... So you are home alone, wondering what they're doing, and of course she tells you all about it afterwards as you have reclaim sex."
Snap! And I think the advice you have had already is about perfect. |
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There is nothing set in stone as such its up to the individuals involved to decide what they all want from it and set any boundaries they may have. For the dynamics to work properly an undertanding and trust should be in place first.....When it all works out trust me it is an amazing experience for all |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"There is nothing set in stone as such its up to the individuals involved to decide what they all want from it and set any boundaries they may have. For the dynamics to work properly an undertanding and trust should be in place first.....When it all works out trust me it is an amazing experience for all"
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