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A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
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"Best just to be polite and avoid, not worth the risk"
Oh absolutely! Always very sceptical when we get a message from a woman and still wouldn't break our "only meet at clubs" rule. Just curious if anyone else has had this |
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"If they are asking to send a man, I'd be assuming that the profile is fake and it's just a sad guy trying to get himself meets, I'd make admin aware of it so they could look into it a little "
Did consider that, but the language was chosen carefully to suggest it was "the woman's fantasy" so wasn't sure if admin would have enough evidence to ban if that makes sense? Conversation ended when I responded to a request for face pics with "nah you're alright!" hahaha |
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"A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
Anyone else had this? "
Yes loads
I get the ‘ can you help me get my own back on ex bf’ thing
These accounts aren’t women they are men pretending to be women that want me to flirt / sext or whatever
Im a bit bad cos sometimes knowing all this I play like w car with a mouse and have them chasing their tail to get me to ‘help’
Yes I have issues   |
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"A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
Anyone else had this?
Yes loads
I get the ‘ can you help me get my own back on ex bf’ thing
These accounts aren’t women they are men pretending to be women that want me to flirt / sext or whatever
Im a bit bad cos sometimes knowing all this I play like w car with a mouse and have them chasing their tail to get me to ‘help’
Yes I have issues "
When I get these messages I always think "yeah go on then, let's see where you are going with this..." because I like to see what they are trying to do and maybe play along for a bit.
We've been on fab long enough not to get sucked in by the fakes but it's fun to play the innocent sometimes |
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"A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
Anyone else had this?
Yes loads
I get the ‘ can you help me get my own back on ex bf’ thing
These accounts aren’t women they are men pretending to be women that want me to flirt / sext or whatever
Im a bit bad cos sometimes knowing all this I play like w car with a mouse and have them chasing their tail to get me to ‘help’
Yes I have issues "
Also, out of curiosity... What's the "get my own back on my ex bf" thing you've mentioned? |
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"A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
Anyone else had this?
Yes loads
I get the ‘ can you help me get my own back on ex bf’ thing
These accounts aren’t women they are men pretending to be women that want me to flirt / sext or whatever
Im a bit bad cos sometimes knowing all this I play like w car with a mouse and have them chasing their tail to get me to ‘help’
Yes I have issues
When I get these messages I always think "yeah go on then, let's see where you are going with this..." because I like to see what they are trying to do and maybe play along for a bit.
We've been on fab long enough not to get sucked in by the fakes but it's fun to play the innocent sometimes "
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I've had a couple of women claiming to be subs asking if I would consider their "Master".
Nope nope nope. If the "Master" isn't doing his own work then not interested to start with.
And also found it highly unlikely there was a sub in the first place. |
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"A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
Anyone else had this?
Yes loads
I get the ‘ can you help me get my own back on ex bf’ thing
These accounts aren’t women they are men pretending to be women that want me to flirt / sext or whatever
Im a bit bad cos sometimes knowing all this I play like w car with a mouse and have them chasing their tail to get me to ‘help’
Yes I have issues
Also, out of curiosity... What's the "get my own back on my ex bf" thing you've mentioned? "
I don’t know like ‘I found out he’s on here cheating on me , made an account etc , can you message him on his account and wind him up / make him want to meet you’ etc
Clever tactic and I’m sure some women fall for the whole ‘girl code’ thing but not this one looooool |
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"A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
Anyone else had this?
Yes loads
I get the ‘ can you help me get my own back on ex bf’ thing
These accounts aren’t women they are men pretending to be women that want me to flirt / sext or whatever
Im a bit bad cos sometimes knowing all this I play like w car with a mouse and have them chasing their tail to get me to ‘help’
Yes I have issues
Also, out of curiosity... What's the "get my own back on my ex bf" thing you've mentioned?
I don’t know like ‘I found out he’s on here cheating on me , made an account etc , can you message him on his account and wind him up / make him want to meet you’ etc
Clever tactic and I’m sure some women fall for the whole ‘girl code’ thing but not this one looooool "
Oooooh that's really sneaky!! |
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"A really strange thing has happened to us a couple of times...
We get a message from a verified single women's profile and then get asked if they can "send us a man" or "talk to their female friend on WhatsApp". Is this some whole new catfish nonesense I'm only just becoming aware of? Are people selling profiles? What's going on???
Anyone else had this?
Yes loads
I get the ‘ can you help me get my own back on ex bf’ thing
These accounts aren’t women they are men pretending to be women that want me to flirt / sext or whatever
Im a bit bad cos sometimes knowing all this I play like w car with a mouse and have them chasing their tail to get me to ‘help’
Yes I have issues
Also, out of curiosity... What's the "get my own back on my ex bf" thing you've mentioned?
I don’t know like ‘I found out he’s on here cheating on me , made an account etc , can you message him on his account and wind him up / make him want to meet you’ etc
Clever tactic and I’m sure some women fall for the whole ‘girl code’ thing but not this one looooool
Oooooh that's really sneaky!! "
I could write a book haha |
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I've realised I accidentally posted this to "support and advice" when it's more of a general chat question  I'm a wally!
I'm not really looking for advice on how to deal with this, just curious if others have any insight into it |
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"I've had a couple of women claiming to be subs asking if I would consider their "Master".
Nope nope nope. If the "Master" isn't doing his own work then not interested to start with.
And also found it highly unlikely there was a sub in the first place."
This happens all to often from both 'so called' female and male subs. I just ignore. |
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"The trouble is it is too easy for guys to set up a fake verified female account and then try to use it to get other meets. I'm sure some people must fall for it, especially newbies to the site."
This is one of the main reasons I never believe webcam verifications. It's so easy to fake if you know a bit about computers and I don't trust people to know how to detect a fake webcam |
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I fell for this trick when I first joined fab the guy turned up and was really abusive and just thought I was some sort of slut to do as he pleased with. I learnt very quickly to avoid such meets |
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"I fell for this trick when I first joined fab the guy turned up and was really abusive and just thought I was some sort of slut to do as he pleased with. I learnt very quickly to avoid such meets "
Oh god that’s awful
I think we have all had meets that have made us more careful to whom we meet now
It is a bit of a learning curve on hear for sure |
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"Not to mention all the "couple" profiles where it's just the guy who meets and the phantom lady who pimps him out constantly "
Yes, those are annoying as well! Often accompanied by three verifications to the effect of "I've met this awesome guy several times now" and no mention of the woman. One of these guys even had the cheek to say "but I am verified!" when I queried it. No dude, verified AS A COUPLE! |
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"Not to mention all the "couple" profiles where it's just the guy who meets and the phantom lady who pimps him out constantly
Yes, those are annoying as well! Often accompanied by three verifications to the effect of "I've met this awesome guy several times now" and no mention of the woman. One of these guys even had the cheek to say "but I am verified!" when I queried it. No dude, verified AS A COUPLE! "
Especially when you say that a single guy from a couple is no different to a normal single guy
It's probably just a trick to get around the "no single guy's" effect |
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Firstly let me say that a (tiny) percentage of these requests are genuine.
The rule we apply to any message or profile on the inter is "would we be happy for a relative or loved one to get themselves into the situation described here?"
So anybody requesting that we meet a third party, we text their unaware partner (there's likely no partner it's a guy pretending to be his wife), we meet the guy of the couple to make sure his partner will like us, we send naked photos including face doing some bizarre action, we meet them as a couple but don't tell the wife we're swingers because "she likes things to be spontaneous" , we go to a certain postcode and they will tell us the house number when we get there etc we swerve pdq.
These are highly likely to not be who they claim to be or just using dishonest methods to get meets. It's not new, it's as old as the internet and social media, people probably aren't selling profiles they're just lying about who's using them and yeah, it is some catfish nonsense most of the time.
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"Not to mention all the "couple" profiles where it's just the guy who meets and the phantom lady who pimps him out constantly
Yes, those are annoying as well! Often accompanied by three verifications to the effect of "I've met this awesome guy several times now" and no mention of the woman. One of these guys even had the cheek to say "but I am verified!" when I queried it. No dude, verified AS A COUPLE!
Especially when you say that a single guy from a couple is no different to a normal single guy
It's probably just a trick to get around the "no single guy's" effect "
Yeah! Like if we knew a couple well and they played separately and we fancied some mfm we wouldn't be against playing with just the guy but our standards would be exactly the same as they would for single guys!! |
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"This is legitimatly spooky.
Why would you go to such means to obtain a meet that is absolutely desperate.
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Because there are legitimately spooky people out there.
I'm frequently called a cynic because I trust nobody on the net. I prefer to call it realistic |
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There's loads of guys on women's accounts saying they want to get revenge on their bf for cheating. Or that they are a "couple" but they only want you to meet the guy. It gets a bit old when you get them a lot but like another poster said sometimes I just play with them for the fun of it.
I've never had anyone ask what the OP said but still had some dumb ass requests you can see right through. I'd just say no thanks or just not reply. |
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"Firstly let me say that a (tiny) percentage of these requests are genuine.
The rule we apply to any message or profile on the inter is "would we be happy for a relative or loved one to get themselves into the situation described here?"
So anybody requesting that we meet a third party, we text their unaware partner (there's likely no partner it's a guy pretending to be his wife), we meet the guy of the couple to make sure his partner will like us, we send naked photos including face doing some bizarre action, we meet them as a couple but don't tell the wife we're swingers because "she likes things to be spontaneous" , we go to a certain postcode and they will tell us the house number when we get there etc we swerve pdq.
These are highly likely to not be who they claim to be or just using dishonest methods to get meets. It's not new, it's as old as the internet and social media, people probably aren't selling profiles they're just lying about who's using them and yeah, it is some catfish nonsense most of the time.
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I always wonder how they manage to get verified though, sometimes several times! Thats what makes me wonder if accounts are changing hands somehow...
Completely agree with your safety rules. All the things you mentioned would ring major alarm bells for us |
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"Firstly let me say that a (tiny) percentage of these requests are genuine.
The rule we apply to any message or profile on the inter is "would we be happy for a relative or loved one to get themselves into the situation described here?"
So anybody requesting that we meet a third party, we text their unaware partner (there's likely no partner it's a guy pretending to be his wife), we meet the guy of the couple to make sure his partner will like us, we send naked photos including face doing some bizarre action, we meet them as a couple but don't tell the wife we're swingers because "she likes things to be spontaneous" , we go to a certain postcode and they will tell us the house number when we get there etc we swerve pdq.
These are highly likely to not be who they claim to be or just using dishonest methods to get meets. It's not new, it's as old as the internet and social media, people probably aren't selling profiles they're just lying about who's using them and yeah, it is some catfish nonsense most of the time.
I always wonder how they manage to get verified though, sometimes several times! Thats what makes me wonder if accounts are changing hands somehow...
Completely agree with your safety rules. All the things you mentioned would ring major alarm bells for us"
I don't know how they get verified they might be the genuine ones or they might have access to a woman's account say an ex partners or they might have a genuine male verified account... That's why it you suspect foul play it's best reported for admin to check. |
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"This is legitimatly spooky.
Why would you go to such means to obtain a meet that is absolutely desperate.
Because there are legitimately spooky people out there.
I'm frequently called a cynic because I trust nobody on the net. I prefer to call it realistic"
Utterly batshit crazy.
I cant even fathom the cognitive process behind this.
Why don't they just go to a nightclub and dress well and pick up girls wtf. |
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"This is legitimatly spooky.
Why would you go to such means to obtain a meet that is absolutely desperate.
Because there are legitimately spooky people out there.
I'm frequently called a cynic because I trust nobody on the net. I prefer to call it realistic
Utterly batshit crazy.
I cant even fathom the cognitive process behind this.
Why don't they just go to a nightclub and dress well and pick up girls wtf."
Several reasons I suspect. None of them even remotely reassuring |
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Nonesense like this is one of the major reasons we have "only meeting new people at the club" splashed all over our profile
Want us to meet your man? Sure. Send him along! He can put on a nice shirt and some aftershave, pay his entry fee and if he's charming and attractive we might want to play! But he'll be on a level pegging with everyone else in there! |
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"Nonesense like this is one of the major reasons we have "only meeting new people at the club" splashed all over our profile
Want us to meet your man? Sure. Send him along! He can put on a nice shirt and some aftershave, pay his entry fee and if he's charming and attractive we might want to play! But he'll be on a level pegging with everyone else in there! "
We meet single guys all the time from single guy profiles. We arrange to meet in a coffee shop for a chat and no more. As I said we just swerve anybody who seems even faintly dodgy. |
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"Nonesense like this is one of the major reasons we have "only meeting new people at the club" splashed all over our profile
Want us to meet your man? Sure. Send him along! He can put on a nice shirt and some aftershave, pay his entry fee and if he's charming and attractive we might want to play! But he'll be on a level pegging with everyone else in there!
We meet single guys all the time from single guy profiles. We arrange to meet in a coffee shop for a chat and no more. As I said we just swerve anybody who seems even faintly dodgy."
When we lived down south (in Hastings funnily enough) we used fab for meets a bit more. Especially as our only club option was Bristol Gardens which is lovely but not the best for social stuff. Since moving somewhere with a really good local club we only really bother with the social features of fab like forums and messaging friends |
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"Nonesense like this is one of the major reasons we have "only meeting new people at the club" splashed all over our profile
Want us to meet your man? Sure. Send him along! He can put on a nice shirt and some aftershave, pay his entry fee and if he's charming and attractive we might want to play! But he'll be on a level pegging with everyone else in there!
We meet single guys all the time from single guy profiles. We arrange to meet in a coffee shop for a chat and no more. As I said we just swerve anybody who seems even faintly dodgy.
When we lived down south (in Hastings funnily enough) we used fab for meets a bit more. Especially as our only club option was Bristol Gardens which is lovely but not the best for social stuff. Since moving somewhere with a really good local club we only really bother with the social features of fab like forums and messaging friends "
You'd be amazed how many people contact saying they used to live in Hastings, we wonder why they moved, was it something we said ? . Clubs as you say, are thin on the ground round here which is a shame. |
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"If they are asking to send a man, I'd be assuming that the profile is fake and it's just a sad guy trying to get himself meets, I'd make admin aware of it so they could look into it a little "
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"Nonesense like this is one of the major reasons we have "only meeting new people at the club" splashed all over our profile
Want us to meet your man? Sure. Send him along! He can put on a nice shirt and some aftershave, pay his entry fee and if he's charming and attractive we might want to play! But he'll be on a level pegging with everyone else in there!
We meet single guys all the time from single guy profiles. We arrange to meet in a coffee shop for a chat and no more. As I said we just swerve anybody who seems even faintly dodgy.
When we lived down south (in Hastings funnily enough) we used fab for meets a bit more. Especially as our only club option was Bristol Gardens which is lovely but not the best for social stuff. Since moving somewhere with a really good local club we only really bother with the social features of fab like forums and messaging friends
You'd be amazed how many people contact saying they used to live in Hastings, we wonder why they moved, was it something we said ?. Clubs as you say, are thin on the ground round here which is a shame. "
House prices was a big factor for us! Wonder if the crowley curse will bring us back though...
Yeah, it's definitely better for clubs up this way. Think the abundance of unused buildings really helps as loads are old pubs, ballrooms, factories etc. Or maybe people are just filthier north of the wall... |
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"Nonesense like this is one of the major reasons we have "only meeting new people at the club" splashed all over our profile
Want us to meet your man? Sure. Send him along! He can put on a nice shirt and some aftershave, pay his entry fee and if he's charming and attractive we might want to play! But he'll be on a level pegging with everyone else in there!
We meet single guys all the time from single guy profiles. We arrange to meet in a coffee shop for a chat and no more. As I said we just swerve anybody who seems even faintly dodgy.
When we lived down south (in Hastings funnily enough) we used fab for meets a bit more. Especially as our only club option was Bristol Gardens which is lovely but not the best for social stuff. Since moving somewhere with a really good local club we only really bother with the social features of fab like forums and messaging friends
You'd be amazed how many people contact saying they used to live in Hastings, we wonder why they moved, was it something we said ?. Clubs as you say, are thin on the ground round here which is a shame.
House prices was a big factor for us! Wonder if the crowley curse will bring us back though...
Yeah, it's definitely better for clubs up this way. Think the abundance of unused buildings really helps as loads are old pubs, ballrooms, factories etc. Or maybe people are just filthier north of the wall... "
Got a pebble from Hastings beach in your pocket?
Ah yes, house prices  |
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Got a pebble from Hastings beach in your pocket?
Ah yes, house prices "
I've been told so many versions of what you are supposed to do that I'm completely baffled. Pick up a stone, it needs to have a hole, you need to look through the hole as you leave and see Hastings disappearing through it... |
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Got a pebble from Hastings beach in your pocket?
Ah yes, house prices
I've been told so many versions of what you are supposed to do that I'm completely baffled. Pick up a stone, it needs to have a hole, you need to look through the hole as you leave and see Hastings disappearing through it... "
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Run round naked chanting? |
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Got a pebble from Hastings beach in your pocket?
Ah yes, house prices
I've been told so many versions of what you are supposed to do that I'm completely baffled. Pick up a stone, it needs to have a hole, you need to look through the hole as you leave and see Hastings disappearing through it... ,
Run round naked chanting? "
I'm sure once they closed the. Robert de mortain the curse started to weaken |
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Got a pebble from Hastings beach in your pocket?
Ah yes, house prices
I've been told so many versions of what you are supposed to do that I'm completely baffled. Pick up a stone, it needs to have a hole, you need to look through the hole as you leave and see Hastings disappearing through it... ,
Run round naked chanting?
I'm sure once they closed the. Robert de mortain the curse started to weaken"
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I have to say that we were never contacted by people who used to live in Eastbourne when lived there but the number who lived in Hastings and regularly return or wish they could is surprising. |
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I always wonder how they manage to get verified though, sometimes several times! Thats what makes me wonder if accounts are changing hands somehow...
Completely agree with your safety rules. All the things you mentioned would ring major alarm bells for us"
It's the easiest thing in the world for a guy to get verified and then set up a fake female (or couple account) and verify it. |
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I always wonder how they manage to get verified though, sometimes several times! Thats what makes me wonder if accounts are changing hands somehow...
Completely agree with your safety rules. All the things you mentioned would ring major alarm bells for us
It's the easiest thing in the world for a guy to get verified and then set up a fake female (or couple account) and verify it. "
Of course! That never occurred to me which is ridiculous |
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