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Been on here 2 month with no luck, we are slightly picky with what we're looking for but not to an extent where we shouldn't find anyone, just wondering if it's our profile that could be letting us down? Can't do much about veris till we meet someone ?? |
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Sorry to say op that your profile is angry and demanding and tells us nothing about either of you apart from the fact that you are angry and demanding.
You need to start again and be more positive about what you are looking and what you are offering rather than having a rant and name calling. |
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"Sorry to say op that your profile is angry and demanding and tells us nothing about either of you apart from the fact that you are angry and demanding.
You need to start again and be more positive about what you are looking and what you are offering rather than having a rant and name calling. "
^^^ what he says! |
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"Sorry to say op that your profile is angry and demanding and tells us nothing about either of you apart from the fact that you are angry and demanding.
You need to start again and be more positive about what you are looking and what you are offering rather than having a rant and name calling. "
Agree 100%...and pictures...not the best too |
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I’m not surprised you’re getting no interest, the profile text is so negative. Remember the women you’re trying to attract are very popular on here, they would pass you by for someone less demanding.
Try and be less angry in your text and maybe a few more pictures that aren’t so blurry  |
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Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine? |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?"
What would happen if a man saw the pics ? |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?"
Clothed or suggestive pics are fine. Blurred face pics do nothing but encourage everyone to swipe left.
Have a couple of classy suggestive pics public and keep everything else for friends only. |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?"
Much better.
Fully clothed would be fine. If you’re wanting to attract women, they would like to see more pictures of the male - not necessarily nude or cock pictures, but clothed torso, etc.
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
Much better.
Fully clothed would be fine. If you’re wanting to attract women, they would like to see more pictures of the male - not necessarily nude or cock pictures, but clothed torso, etc.
J"
even if there's not much to see? Pmsl |
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Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck. |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?"
What does it matter if men look? Sexually confident people don’t give a shite who looks at them. You can always block men from messaging. |
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How many women on here do you think are in your age bracket ?
They also get the most messages from singles and couples who have more than three blurry photos to look at. Sorry you’re competing with plenty of others on here.
I truly hope you get a meet but the pictures would have to be inline with what other couples are willing to share.
If you sort out your filters less guys will see your profile as well.
Good luck |
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A bit of advice from an older female.
You are going to struggle unfortunately. I agree with what others have said. Not only are you looking for the most elusive thing on Fab but your partner has no experience of another female. I know everyone has to start somewhere but I think it could be quite off putting. Sorry.
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
Much better.
Fully clothed would be fine. If you’re wanting to attract women, they would like to see more pictures of the male - not necessarily nude or cock pictures, but clothed torso, etc.
J even if there's not much to see? Pmsl"
Use your imagination. Full figure clothed picture of you both together, so that people can have an idea whom they may be meeting - faces can still be blurred out. A towel wrapped around the waist or boxers with a hint of an erection underneath.
Your profile needs to be alluring into attracting people to chat with you and possibly meet.
J |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
Much better.
Fully clothed would be fine. If you’re wanting to attract women, they would like to see more pictures of the male - not necessarily nude or cock pictures, but clothed torso, etc.
J even if there's not much to see? Pmsl
Use your imagination. Full figure clothed picture of you both together, so that people can have an idea whom they may be meeting - faces can still be blurred out. A towel wrapped around the waist or boxers with a hint of an erection underneath.
Your profile needs to be alluring into attracting people to chat with you and possibly meet.
J "
I thought the one of her in a dress was enough for her tbh, I know mine could show more, as for together we'd have to take some but thanks for the suggestion |
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"Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck."
Wouldn't say it's judgey to someone who shares our stance on it, I mean if you like being pissed on probably not for us lol, as for clubs, I'm assuming the number of couples vastly outweigh the number of single ladies still? And how many people 30 or under do you typically find? |
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"Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck.
Wouldn't say it's judgey to someone who shares our stance on it, I mean if you like being pissed on probably not for us lol, as for clubs, I'm assuming the number of couples vastly outweigh the number of single ladies still? And how many people 30 or under do you typically find?"
I just meant that you can say you're not into something without calling it vulgar.
And no, at those parties, ratios are usually monitored for that reason. I've been to several and there were quite a few other single women under 30. So it's worth trying if you're serious about meeting someone. |
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Your profile is your shop window and whether you like it or not the only way anyone is going to consider chatting never mind meeting is by attracting then with window dressing.
You have joined fab and need to accept that the only way of finding what you seek is to follow certain rules and one of those is the law of attraction.
A blank shop window with angry words and a don't look at me attitude will not entice anyone. |
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"Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck.
Wouldn't say it's judgey to someone who shares our stance on it, I mean if you like being pissed on probably not for us lol, as for clubs, I'm assuming the number of couples vastly outweigh the number of single ladies still? And how many people 30 or under do you typically find?
I just meant that you can say you're not into something without calling it vulgar.
And no, at those parties, ratios are usually monitored for that reason. I've been to several and there were quite a few other single women under 30. So it's worth trying if you're serious about meeting someone."
Also, in person I can take a while to come out of my cage personality wise, she's fine straight away as she talks to people for a living, but in your opinion would the fact she's an extrovert while I'm intro cause us issues? Or would people be alright with one of us being a bit quieter? |
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"Comments about whether or not we should let men see us naked when aren't interested in them will be ignored lmao, we've made our point, post to a different thread if you don't like it."
It’s a dichotomy, ain’t it just? You can’t stop men from looking without stopping women from looking and you need the women to look or you won’t get any interest. Don’t get me wrong, I really like your thread so will happily continue posting. It is, after all, a public forum. |
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"Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck.
Wouldn't say it's judgey to someone who shares our stance on it, I mean if you like being pissed on probably not for us lol, as for clubs, I'm assuming the number of couples vastly outweigh the number of single ladies still? And how many people 30 or under do you typically find?
I just meant that you can say you're not into something without calling it vulgar.
And no, at those parties, ratios are usually monitored for that reason. I've been to several and there were quite a few other single women under 30. So it's worth trying if you're serious about meeting someone.
Also, in person I can take a while to come out of my cage personality wise, she's fine straight away as she talks to people for a living, but in your opinion would the fact she's an extrovert while I'm intro cause us issues? Or would people be alright with one of us being a bit quieter?"
I don't think it would be too much of an issue assuming that eventually you made some effort to talk to people. Everyone is nervous at first, that's normal, I'd think people would understand. |
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"Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck.
Wouldn't say it's judgey to someone who shares our stance on it, I mean if you like being pissed on probably not for us lol, as for clubs, I'm assuming the number of couples vastly outweigh the number of single ladies still? And how many people 30 or under do you typically find?
I just meant that you can say you're not into something without calling it vulgar.
And no, at those parties, ratios are usually monitored for that reason. I've been to several and there were quite a few other single women under 30. So it's worth trying if you're serious about meeting someone.
Also, in person I can take a while to come out of my cage personality wise, she's fine straight away as she talks to people for a living, but in your opinion would the fact she's an extrovert while I'm intro cause us issues? Or would people be alright with one of us being a bit quieter?"
Only you can answer that op because you know how you deal with people on a daily basis.
Fabbers or club members are no different. Quite often one half of a couple is more extrovert than the other but I think you need a further discussion as a couple and consider what you want and how far you are prepared to go to get it. |
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"Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck.
Wouldn't say it's judgey to someone who shares our stance on it, I mean if you like being pissed on probably not for us lol, as for clubs, I'm assuming the number of couples vastly outweigh the number of single ladies still? And how many people 30 or under do you typically find?
I just meant that you can say you're not into something without calling it vulgar.
And no, at those parties, ratios are usually monitored for that reason. I've been to several and there were quite a few other single women under 30. So it's worth trying if you're serious about meeting someone.
Also, in person I can take a while to come out of my cage personality wise, she's fine straight away as she talks to people for a living, but in your opinion would the fact she's an extrovert while I'm intro cause us issues? Or would people be alright with one of us being a bit quieter?"
If you arent looking for couple swaps or men then you will probably find yourself quite young for most women looking to play with a couple. They want experienced confident men in the couple. Id rewrite and rename the profile and add new photos focusing on her - make them more posed and alluring and dont worry about men seeing. Blurred faces are fine for most people until you are pm'ing.
In the bio write a bit about what turns her on about being with a woman for the first time etc... |
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I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple."
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple."
even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in? |
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"Pictures don't suggest it's the same lady - different colour + length of hair. she's a hairdresser it changes weekly lmao"
Why lmao?
Nobody apart from you 2 know this. |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?"
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option. |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?"
Speaking as someone in your target audience. I don't want to be an experiment for anyone. What exactly would the single woman be getting out of this?
Objectively , you're a young couple with a bi curious female. What if she does xyz with another woman and decides it's not for her? (That's totally her right, but that would be awkward for everyone). |
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I’ve skipped to the end so haven’t read anyone else’s replies.
Blurred faces, looks odd and you can keep your annonyminity without doing that- you also don’t have to get your bits out for body shots and they can be tastefully done.
And, lastly, you’re only looking for a single fem which is really going to be tricky, but not impossible.
A more alluring text and pictures should help you greatly
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"Pictures don't suggest it's the same lady - different colour + length of hair. she's a hairdresser it changes weekly lmao
Why lmao?
Nobody apart from you 2 know this."
She can get it done for free so she does, I could put 30 picture of her on here her hair would be different in at least 23 of them |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Speaking as someone in your target audience. I don't want to be an experiment for anyone. What exactly would the single woman be getting out of this?
Objectively , you're a young couple with a bi curious female. What if she does xyz with another woman and decides it's not for her? (That's totally her right, but that would be awkward for everyone)."
I can say with confidence that it is for her, no she hasn't had physical contact with a woman but we've done stuff with them over cam etc she enjoyed that, the reason we mention her having not done it before is simply because we were told we should as like you said, people don't want be an experiment, we're confident anyone who decided to take the leap would be satisfied with the night they had but we don't want to lie just to get someone here  |
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"Pictures don't suggest it's the same lady - different colour + length of hair. she's a hairdresser it changes weekly lmao
Why lmao?
Nobody apart from you 2 know this.
She can get it done for free so she does, I could put 30 picture of her on here her hair would be different in at least 23 of them"
So, post interesting photos that don't show the ever changing hair. |
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"Pictures don't suggest it's the same lady - different colour + length of hair. she's a hairdresser it changes weekly lmao
Why lmao?
Nobody apart from you 2 know this.
She can get it done for free so she does, I could put 30 picture of her on here her hair would be different in at least 23 of them
So, post interesting photos that don't show the ever changing hair."
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Speaking as someone in your target audience. I don't want to be an experiment for anyone. What exactly would the single woman be getting out of this?
Objectively , you're a young couple with a bi curious female. What if she does xyz with another woman and decides it's not for her? (That's totally her right, but that would be awkward for everyone). I can say with confidence that it is for her, no she hasn't had physical contact with a woman but we've done stuff with them over cam etc she enjoyed that, the reason we mention her having not done it before is simply because we were told we should as like you said, people don't want be an experiment, we're confident anyone who decided to take the leap would be satisfied with the night they had but we don't want to lie just to get someone here "
Honesty is the best policy for sure. But you might find the reality is different than camming.
Either way, my previous suggestions stand, get yourselves to a club if you want the best chance of meeting someone. Otherwise your chances are really, really slim. |
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"Your profile text is generally okay, but maybe take out the "vulgar" part, it comes off as a bit judgey.
More varied photos would be good. Maybe one of the two of you together, full length, clothed but blur or crop out your faces? I don't know, just a bit more variety.
Unfortunately you're looking for something that many other couples also want so the numbers aren't skewed in your favour, just try to make yourselves stand out.
Also if you can get to a club for a couple's and single ladies night, you might have more luck.
Wouldn't say it's judgey to someone who shares our stance on it, I mean if you like being pissed on probably not for us lol, as for clubs, I'm assuming the number of couples vastly outweigh the number of single ladies still? And how many people 30 or under do you typically find?"
If water sports isn’t your thing that’s fine, but you don’t have to call it vulgar. Definitely comes across as judgy  |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option. "
Read above reply to someone else for that  |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Speaking as someone in your target audience. I don't want to be an experiment for anyone. What exactly would the single woman be getting out of this?
Objectively , you're a young couple with a bi curious female. What if she does xyz with another woman and decides it's not for her? (That's totally her right, but that would be awkward for everyone). I can say with confidence that it is for her, no she hasn't had physical contact with a woman but we've done stuff with them over cam etc she enjoyed that, the reason we mention her having not done it before is simply because we were told we should as like you said, people don't want be an experiment, we're confident anyone who decided to take the leap would be satisfied with the night they had but we don't want to lie just to get someone here "
You can never be absolutely sure until you are actually in that position.
It's not unusual for people enjoy porn of acts they don't enjoy doing themselves. |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that "
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts."
it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
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I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element"
Sounds like me and MrT! He’s definitely the more introverted, I usually do most of the initial talking but as time (aka years) has gone by he’s become more relaxed in the club environment and being the person to say ‘hi’....that’s all it is after all, just saying hello and having a chat. And if she leads the conversation is that not okay? |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element
Sounds like me and MrT! He’s definitely the more introverted, I usually do most of the initial talking but as time (aka years) has gone by he’s become more relaxed in the club environment and being the person to say ‘hi’....that’s all it is after all, just saying hello and having a chat. And if she leads the conversation is that not okay?"
issue is she's so good at keeping conversation I rarely find opportunity to get involved, i also don't have the most approachable demeanour despite being quite friendly once you actually speak to me, just feel like the combination of the two would make life difficult for us, deffinately something we've thought about doing though |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element"
My fwb is extremely shy, I am not... He loves going to clubs and has no problem while there... Question, would you also be fucking the woman you are looking for? |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element
Sounds like me and MrT! He’s definitely the more introverted, I usually do most of the initial talking but as time (aka years) has gone by he’s become more relaxed in the club environment and being the person to say ‘hi’....that’s all it is after all, just saying hello and having a chat. And if she leads the conversation is that not okay? issue is she's so good at keeping conversation I rarely find opportunity to get involved, i also don't have the most approachable demeanour despite being quite friendly once you actually speak to me, just feel like the combination of the two would make life difficult for us, deffinately something we've thought about doing though"
I mean this in a kind way, but, if you don’t (or won’t) have an approachable demeanour at a club, how will it be different in a home/one on one setting?
Maybe something worth thinking about, and working on for future meets |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element
My fwb is extremely shy, I am not... He loves going to clubs and has no problem while there... Question, would you also be fucking the woman you are looking for? "
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element
Sounds like me and MrT! He’s definitely the more introverted, I usually do most of the initial talking but as time (aka years) has gone by he’s become more relaxed in the club environment and being the person to say ‘hi’....that’s all it is after all, just saying hello and having a chat. And if she leads the conversation is that not okay? issue is she's so good at keeping conversation I rarely find opportunity to get involved, i also don't have the most approachable demeanour despite being quite friendly once you actually speak to me, just feel like the combination of the two would make life difficult for us, deffinately something we've thought about doing though
I mean this in a kind way, but, if you don’t (or won’t) have an approachable demeanour at a club, how will it be different in a home/one on one setting?
Maybe something worth thinking about, and working on for future meets"
I mean I don't look like I'd want you to come talk to me from a distance, I've been told I have a face of stone lol that's all, I'm fine once actually talking to someone |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element
My fwb is extremely shy, I am not... He loves going to clubs and has no problem while there... Question, would you also be fucking the woman you are looking for? that would be the plan, why may I ask?"
How does your gf feel about sharing you? What if your "unicorn" wanted more of your cock, once the girl on girl floorshow was done and you'd given your misses enough? I find it's not always as she had hoped... And what if the unicorn was more satisfying to your gf than you... Apart from in the cock dept obviously... Have you really thought about every scenario? Just incase you do eventually find someone willing to play |
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"TBH you’ve had a fantasy about having a threesome and thought you’d chance your luck in here, unfortunately your profile will not attract any single ladies, you need decent pics and text to achieve some interest and if you are lucky to actually get a response I doubt, reading your replies in this thread, you’d get very far in conversation anyway, the ridiculous comment, among many others, about not wanting other guys to see naughty pics of the female smacks of serious issues which I hope means you’ll never drag a lady into your mess.
Save your pennies and find an escort...... why is it ridiculous that I don't want other men to see my woman nude? I don't think there's anything ridiculous about that at all, since neither of us are interested in them and we aren't here to provide pornography, this is for her to explore her sexuality, not for sad lonely mad to masturbate over, how about you save your narrow-minded opinion for whoever actually cares to read it
It's not actually a narrow minded opinion op.
You have started with a virtually impossible task for your partner to have her first bi experience with another woman and you are using this site as a means to an end.
You are then strangling that task even more by listing all the things you think those ladies in your demographic should ignore to have the pleasure of spending time with your partner.
The only remaining option is to remove the biggest obstacle to your partner's desire for new experiences and that unfortunately is you.
She should create a single female profile and take it from there. said by a single man, probably dying to get between her legs "
If you took the time to actually look at my profile op rather than making unfounded comments you would see that my lower age filter is set at 40.
I am also in a different country.
I have no interest at all in your partner because she is younger than my youngest daughter .
You started this thread seeking advice and it appears that the angry profile you started with is a truer picture of you than you would care to believe.
I won't be offering any further advice to someone who has already decided that they are right and everyone with a penis is wrong |
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"TBH you’ve had a fantasy about having a threesome and thought you’d chance your luck in here, unfortunately your profile will not attract any single ladies, you need decent pics and text to achieve some interest and if you are lucky to actually get a response I doubt, reading your replies in this thread, you’d get very far in conversation anyway, the ridiculous comment, among many others, about not wanting other guys to see naughty pics of the female smacks of serious issues which I hope means you’ll never drag a lady into your mess.
Save your pennies and find an escort...... why is it ridiculous that I don't want other men to see my woman nude? I don't think there's anything ridiculous about that at all, since neither of us are interested in them and we aren't here to provide pornography, this is for her to explore her sexuality, not for sad lonely mad to masturbate over, how about you save your narrow-minded opinion for whoever actually cares to read it
It's not actually a narrow minded opinion op.
You have started with a virtually impossible task for your partner to have her first bi experience with another woman and you are using this site as a means to an end.
You are then strangling that task even more by listing all the things you think those ladies in your demographic should ignore to have the pleasure of spending time with your partner.
The only remaining option is to remove the biggest obstacle to your partner's desire for new experiences and that unfortunately is you.
She should create a single female profile and take it from there. said by a single man, probably dying to get between her legs
If you took the time to actually look at my profile op rather than making unfounded comments you would see that my lower age filter is set at 40.
I am also in a different country.
I have no interest at all in your partner because she is younger than my youngest daughter .
You started this thread seeking advice and it appears that the angry profile you started with is a truer picture of you than you would care to believe.
I won't be offering any further advice to someone who has already decided that they are right and everyone with a penis is wrong "
seen as though all we are looking for is women, I apologize if theirs is the only opinion I deem to be valid. |
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"TBH you’ve had a fantasy about having a threesome and thought you’d chance your luck in here, unfortunately your profile will not attract any single ladies, you need decent pics and text to achieve some interest and if you are lucky to actually get a response I doubt, reading your replies in this thread, you’d get very far in conversation anyway, the ridiculous comment, among many others, about not wanting other guys to see naughty pics of the female smacks of serious issues which I hope means you’ll never drag a lady into your mess.
Save your pennies and find an escort...... why is it ridiculous that I don't want other men to see my woman nude? I don't think there's anything ridiculous about that at all, since neither of us are interested in them and we aren't here to provide pornography, this is for her to explore her sexuality, not for sad lonely mad to masturbate over, how about you save your narrow-minded opinion for whoever actually cares to read it
It's not actually a narrow minded opinion op.
You have started with a virtually impossible task for your partner to have her first bi experience with another woman and you are using this site as a means to an end.
You are then strangling that task even more by listing all the things you think those ladies in your demographic should ignore to have the pleasure of spending time with your partner.
The only remaining option is to remove the biggest obstacle to your partner's desire for new experiences and that unfortunately is you.
She should create a single female profile and take it from there. said by a single man, probably dying to get between her legs
If you took the time to actually look at my profile op rather than making unfounded comments you would see that my lower age filter is set at 40.
I am also in a different country.
I have no interest at all in your partner because she is younger than my youngest daughter .
You started this thread seeking advice and it appears that the angry profile you started with is a truer picture of you than you would care to believe.
I won't be offering any further advice to someone who has already decided that they are right and everyone with a penis is wrong seen as though all we are looking for is women, I apologize if theirs is the only opinion I deem to be valid."
I think you need to admit that yours is the only opinion you deem valid |
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"I appreciate that I am not exactly your target audience but there's nothing in your profile to entice the very highly sought after single ladies.
As others have said you need decent photos. No need yo show faces but some suggestion of physique would help.
Your other problem is that the lady is totally inexperienced with ladies. Many are not keen on being the first, when meeting a couple. even if I'm happy to let them experiment a little before I join in?
Yes... what if she decides that it isn't for her?
A club might be a better option.
Read above reply to someone else for that
I stand by my suggestion that a club is your best chance of success. Maybe discuss it with your partner, as it sounds like you have decided that she wouldn't want to and your other concerns have been addressed by subsequent posts. it's more me than wouldnt want to tbh I'm awful at opening conversation with strangers I've had zero prior contact with lol, she'd be in her element
My fwb is extremely shy, I am not... He loves going to clubs and has no problem while there... Question, would you also be fucking the woman you are looking for? that would be the plan, why may I ask?
How does your gf feel about sharing you? What if your "unicorn" wanted more of your cock, once the girl on girl floorshow was done and you'd given your misses enough? I find it's not always as she had hoped... And what if the unicorn was more satisfying to your gf than you... Apart from in the cock dept obviously... Have you really thought about every scenario? Just incase you do eventually find someone willing to play"
despite how closed off I am to men I'm not anywhere near as much so when it comes to women, in discussion we agreed as long as we were all involved at some point on the night we'd be fine with just going with the flow whatever happens happens, as for how do we know for certain that'll be the case, how could we possibly if we don't take the plunge |
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"TBH you’ve had a fantasy about having a threesome and thought you’d chance your luck in here, unfortunately your profile will not attract any single ladies, you need decent pics and text to achieve some interest and if you are lucky to actually get a response I doubt, reading your replies in this thread, you’d get very far in conversation anyway, the ridiculous comment, among many others, about not wanting other guys to see naughty pics of the female smacks of serious issues which I hope means you’ll never drag a lady into your mess.
Save your pennies and find an escort...... why is it ridiculous that I don't want other men to see my woman nude? I don't think there's anything ridiculous about that at all, since neither of us are interested in them and we aren't here to provide pornography, this is for her to explore her sexuality, not for sad lonely mad to masturbate over, how about you save your narrow-minded opinion for whoever actually cares to read it
If this is about your girlfriend exploring her sexuality, she'd probably have more luck at an all girl's club night alone, rather than looking for a unicorn as a couple. whilst still involving me then, I should add
I have to say, from your responses here, you come across as very insecure- and not really willing to help yourself or your girlfriend.
Maybe fab isn't the place for you. because I don't understand why people seem to seem to think me not being okay with other men seeing her nude is a problem? Okay flip the coin then, why SHOULD I be okay with it?
That wasn't what I was referring to, it's more the tone of your responses. Like when you've been given good advice and put it down to a "single guy probably dying to get in her pants" when I have you practically the same advice. Most of your replies come off as unnecessarily defensive.
Fab isn't the place for insecurity, it won't work out well for your relationship in the long run."
I'm not insecure, I simply disregard men's opinion as they aren't what we're looking for |
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"TBH you’ve had a fantasy about having a threesome and thought you’d chance your luck in here, unfortunately your profile will not attract any single ladies, you need decent pics and text to achieve some interest and if you are lucky to actually get a response I doubt, reading your replies in this thread, you’d get very far in conversation anyway, the ridiculous comment, among many others, about not wanting other guys to see naughty pics of the female smacks of serious issues which I hope means you’ll never drag a lady into your mess.
Save your pennies and find an escort...... why is it ridiculous that I don't want other men to see my woman nude? I don't think there's anything ridiculous about that at all, since neither of us are interested in them and we aren't here to provide pornography, this is for her to explore her sexuality, not for sad lonely mad to masturbate over, how about you save your narrow-minded opinion for whoever actually cares to read it
If this is about your girlfriend exploring her sexuality, she'd probably have more luck at an all girl's club night alone, rather than looking for a unicorn as a couple. whilst still involving me then, I should add
I have to say, from your responses here, you come across as very insecure- and not really willing to help yourself or your girlfriend.
Maybe fab isn't the place for you. because I don't understand why people seem to seem to think me not being okay with other men seeing her nude is a problem? Okay flip the coin then, why SHOULD I be okay with it?
That wasn't what I was referring to, it's more the tone of your responses. Like when you've been given good advice and put it down to a "single guy probably dying to get in her pants" when I have you practically the same advice. Most of your replies come off as unnecessarily defensive.
Fab isn't the place for insecurity, it won't work out well for your relationship in the long run. I'm not insecure, I simply disregard men's opinion as they aren't what we're looking for"
You asked for feedback in a public forum- you didn't say you only wanted feedback from women.
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Right, having now taken a minute to forget certain comments which irritated me and having re read the thread I realise I was not as clear on certain things as I should've been, f is looking to explore her sexuality, obviously out of this I get to experience another woman for the first time in 5 years, we got together whilst still in school, at which point she hadn't had the chance to act on her feelings towards girls and I myself couldn't have honestly been certain I would be okay with only having sex with her for the rest of my life, 5 years on and the rest of our lives together is something now pheaseable, so we sat down and discussed her sexuality & me wanting to be with other girls, neither of us were particularly troubled by want for these things, but nonetheless, we decided we would try another girl now, to avoid either of us getting hung up on it in the future, hopefully this should go some way to explaining my distain at the idea of another man seeing her naked (something she doesn't want herself but is far less opposed to than I am), simply because at this point in our journey, it's something I've scarcely even considered |
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If you are going to post don't attack people while doing it. Don't be nasty or bitchy either as all of the above will get you a ban
Can people also remember that you can offer advice but the OP doesn't have to take it if they don't want to.
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"Right, having now taken a minute to forget certain comments which irritated me and having re read the thread I realise I was not as clear on certain things as I should've been, f is looking to explore her sexuality, obviously out of this I get to experience another woman for the first time in 5 years, we got together whilst still in school, at which point she hadn't had the chance to act on her feelings towards girls and I myself couldn't have honestly been certain I would be okay with only having sex with her for the rest of my life, 5 years on and the rest of our lives together is something now pheaseable, so we sat down and discussed her sexuality & me wanting to be with other girls, neither of us were particularly troubled by want for these things, but nonetheless, we decided we would try another girl now, to avoid either of us getting hung up on it in the future, hopefully this should go some way to explaining my distain at the idea of another man seeing her naked (something she doesn't want herself but is far less opposed to than I am), simply because at this point in our journey, it's something I've scarcely even considered"
You should only do what you are both comfortable with, not do something that other people think you should do. If that means only meeting a woman then don't let others tell you you are wrong to do that
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I didn’t see the original profile saying water sports was vulgar. Just because somebody chooses to engage in that with somebody else, why does that mean they’re not the type of person you want to meet? It’s irrelevant if they do it with other people imo.
As a bi woman, firstly not interested in meeting a couple where it’s her first time and ‘experimenting.’ When I decided I wanted to explore my bi side I discussed with my husband and met girls myself on regular dating/hook up apps. Lots of other woman are in similar position in my experience. I also booked a professional for a three some.
And of course you don’t have to show face pics on a profile but I won’t/don’t reply to couples or anybody who doesn’t send me a face pic first. At the end of the day, the bi single female holds the power initially of who she replies to and meets so you should do what guy can to stack it in your favour by sending face pics first |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?"
Serious advice. If you aren't even comfortable with men you will never meet seeing your pics reconsider why you are here.
A second point as a queer woman who has been on here as a single woman, being someone's testing ground is never a tempting offer. It's fine to want to explore your sexuality but why on earth would anyone else get anything out of it currently?
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
Serious advice. If you aren't even comfortable with men you will never meet seeing your pics reconsider why you are here.
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They are here to look for a woman so don't show their pics publicly to people they don't want seeing them. It isn't compulsory to have everyone on the site see your pics |
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You are looking for unicorns. And having met (but not played mff with) unicorns, often they are wary of being used for a straight guys ‘living in a porno’ girl on girl fantasy. Show you want more than that. Also bathroom photos are to be avoided! |
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"Your profile is your shop window and whether you like it or not the only way anyone is going to consider chatting never mind meeting is by attracting then with window dressing.
You have joined fab and need to accept that the only way of finding what you seek is to follow certain rules and one of those is the law of attraction.
A blank shop window with angry words and a don't look at me attitude will not entice anyone. "
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"You are looking for unicorns. And having met (but not played mff with) unicorns, often they are wary of being used for a straight guys ‘living in a porno’ girl on girl fantasy. Show you want more than that. Also bathroom photos are to be avoided! "
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I've attended a few high end sex parties and I've seen guys like you dreaming of their partners playing with another girl but when it came to join in they bottle out! Keep the fantasy going.
Also, totally agree with the above advice everyone has so kindly given you. Re: you don't want men to look at your lady - I hate to brake it to you but you are on a sex site so people will look.
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"I didn’t see the original profile saying water sports was vulgar. Just because somebody chooses to engage in that with somebody else, why does that mean they’re not the type of person you want to meet? It’s irrelevant if they do it with other people imo.
As a bi woman, firstly not interested in meeting a couple where it’s her first time and ‘experimenting.’ When I decided I wanted to explore my bi side I discussed with my husband and met girls myself on regular dating/hook up apps. Lots of other woman are in similar position in my experience. I also booked a professional for a three some.
And of course you don’t have to show face pics on a profile but I won’t/don’t reply to couples or anybody who doesn’t send me a face pic first. At the end of the day, the bi single female holds the power initially of who she replies to and meets so you should do what guy can to stack it in your favour by sending face pics first "
I didn't read this through fully as my interest in this thread has wained a little however, about. The watersports part, this is stereotyping almost but I'd still say it's fairly accurate, people that are down for that kind of thing I could imagine most being quite experienced, with a much different taste in activities to our own, as such we probably wouldn't click due to how 'vanilla' we are, that's what I meant by that comment |
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"I've attended a few high end sex parties and I've seen guys like you dreaming of their partners playing with another girl but when it came to join in they bottle out! Keep the fantasy going.
Also, totally agree with the above advice everyone has so kindly given you. Re: you don't want men to look at your lady - I hate to brake it to you but you are on a sex site so people will look.
Best of luck to you both x"
luckily an issue I'm confident I won't have lol, I don't exactly dream of her playing with another girl, I I'm in this for the physical experience as much as she is x |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
Serious advice. If you aren't even comfortable with men you will never meet seeing your pics reconsider why you are here.
They are here to look for a woman so don't show their pics publicly to people they don't want seeing them. It isn't compulsory to have everyone on the site see your pics"
going to go out on a limb and assume you're an admin? Either way I appreciate you're input, thank you for putting what I was trying to say in more civil terms |
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"Oh right so you also admit to not even bothering to read comments from your ‘target market.’ Good luck, you’ll need it "
no, I've just lost nearly all interest as the thread as it was mostly negative towards myself, I answered the part I presumed you took offence to as nothing I've said here has been intended to offend anyone, unless they have said something which I seemed was intended to offend me, which you havent
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OP, do you both take an equal part in running your profile? If so it might be a good idea for your partner to comment on the thread and let people know what she is looking for. |
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"OP, do you both take an equal part in running your profile? If so it might be a good idea for your partner to comment on the thread and let people know what she is looking for."
I'd say no simply because she works a lot and never has time so it's mostly me trying to arrange anything, I've no doubt that would be the case if she had as much time me, I've more or less stated what she wants anyway we want the same thing just for different reasons, honest reasons nonetheless but different
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
What would happen if a man saw the pics ? "
lol hey people here perv and thinking about that detracts from what you want, you're young and are looking for the most sought after meet a single bi woman, it will be difficult you're competing for her attention with many so your profile which is your advert here has to be the best it can be otherwise why pick you? put pics up that show physique dressed is fine but think about pics the background, what you're wearing etc and be patient, when you message be polite and use target profiles information, do all this and you will eventually get success    |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
What would happen if a man saw the pics ? lol hey people here perv and thinking about that detracts from what you want, you're young and are looking for the most sought after meet a single bi woman, it will be difficult you're competing for her attention with many so your profile which is your advert here has to be the best it can be otherwise why pick you? put pics up that show physique dressed is fine but think about pics the background, what you're wearing etc and be patient, when you message be polite and use target profiles information, do all this and you will eventually get success "
it isn't just the fact we don't want men to look, we used to have nudes public but someone we know found out we were on here, they didn't see the account but from that moment on we've been kinda petrified of the idea of someone we know figuring out it's us so we made them private and swapped them for the blurred pics, thought about just putting our faces but they they'd deffinately know it's us and I've no doubt there's people that know us that would be sad enough to make a fake and try trick us into getting on our friends list, as much as we don't want men to see, we'd show 500 strangers before 1 person we know lol |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
What would happen if a man saw the pics ? lol hey people here perv and thinking about that detracts from what you want, you're young and are looking for the most sought after meet a single bi woman, it will be difficult you're competing for her attention with many so your profile which is your advert here has to be the best it can be otherwise why pick you? put pics up that show physique dressed is fine but think about pics the background, what you're wearing etc and be patient, when you message be polite and use target profiles information, do all this and you will eventually get success it isn't just the fact we don't want men to look, we used to have nudes public but someone we know found out we were on here, they didn't see the account but from that moment on we've been kinda petrified of the idea of someone we know figuring out it's us so we made them private and swapped them for the blurred pics, thought about just putting our faces but they they'd deffinately know it's us and I've no doubt there's people that know us that would be sad enough to make a fake and try trick us into getting on our friends list, as much as we don't want men to see, we'd show 500 strangers before 1 person we know lol"
well i get what you're saying but one kinda kills the other, if you want to get somewhere here being relaxed and available is more appealing but completely understood about privacy, some of the best pics if you look at others profile are the ones dressed in outfits, lingerie a suit or unbuttoned jeans etc |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
What would happen if a man saw the pics ? lol hey people here perv and thinking about that detracts from what you want, you're young and are looking for the most sought after meet a single bi woman, it will be difficult you're competing for her attention with many so your profile which is your advert here has to be the best it can be otherwise why pick you? put pics up that show physique dressed is fine but think about pics the background, what you're wearing etc and be patient, when you message be polite and use target profiles information, do all this and you will eventually get success it isn't just the fact we don't want men to look, we used to have nudes public but someone we know found out we were on here, they didn't see the account but from that moment on we've been kinda petrified of the idea of someone we know figuring out it's us so we made them private and swapped them for the blurred pics, thought about just putting our faces but they they'd deffinately know it's us and I've no doubt there's people that know us that would be sad enough to make a fake and try trick us into getting on our friends list, as much as we don't want men to see, we'd show 500 strangers before 1 person we know lolwell i get what you're saying but one kinda kills the other, if you want to get somewhere here being relaxed and available is more appealing but completely understood about privacy, some of the best pics if you look at others profile are the ones dressed in outfits, lingerie a suit or unbuttoned jeans etc "
fair enough, I'll take your input on the chin since you weren't a nob about it like some others, appreciate it bud |
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"Updated it to something more like what it was, we blur our faces as we don't want people we know to know what we're doing, we don't put body pics publically as we don't want men looking at them, unless you think fully clothed pics would be fine?
What would happen if a man saw the pics ? lol hey people here perv and thinking about that detracts from what you want, you're young and are looking for the most sought after meet a single bi woman, it will be difficult you're competing for her attention with many so your profile which is your advert here has to be the best it can be otherwise why pick you? put pics up that show physique dressed is fine but think about pics the background, what you're wearing etc and be patient, when you message be polite and use target profiles information, do all this and you will eventually get success it isn't just the fact we don't want men to look, we used to have nudes public but someone we know found out we were on here, they didn't see the account but from that moment on we've been kinda petrified of the idea of someone we know figuring out it's us so we made them private and swapped them for the blurred pics, thought about just putting our faces but they they'd deffinately know it's us and I've no doubt there's people that know us that would be sad enough to make a fake and try trick us into getting on our friends list, as much as we don't want men to see, we'd show 500 strangers before 1 person we know lolwell i get what you're saying but one kinda kills the other, if you want to get somewhere here being relaxed and available is more appealing but completely understood about privacy, some of the best pics if you look at others profile are the ones dressed in outfits, lingerie a suit or unbuttoned jeans etc fair enough, I'll take your input on the chin since you weren't a nob about it like some others, appreciate it bud"
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