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Hi guys
Just a quick bit of advice needed. Most of the attention we are getting for the last couple of months have been from the slightly older side of the spectrum even tho our preferences are up to 49. It's flattering as hell and we have been speaking to a couple that are fantastic company but for us the physical side just isn't there with older couples. We feel terrible when we have to say that too. Is there something about our profile that makes us stand out to the older crowd? We are just a bit confused by it at the min |
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Set your message filters to block anyone outside your age range - that way the awkward conversation never has to start lol! Just a small point, but your last couple of veris are from those over your age limit - might lead others to believe you’re flexible towards age. Best of luck xx J |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
A lot won’t read profiles, maybe put your “Lastly” bit as a “Firstly”?
Might cut them down a touch then. You can block based on age but we’ve never really found it necessary. You might also find that some are not couples & are guys pretending seeking out “innocent newbies”. To do the old pic swap boogie 
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
As others have said, set your filters to block those outside your age preferences. It is a bit annoying that only one half of a couple has to be within for them to be able to message though, you should be able to block them too. |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"As others have said, set your filters to block those outside your age preferences. It is a bit annoying that only one half of a couple has to be within for them to be able to message though, you should be able to block them too. "
Agree with you there!! We find couples with male halfs older than our top end still get through because she is younger. |
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Thanks guys, most who have been contacting us at from mid 50s up to mid 70s. Seems strange to us that that's the demographic that's attracted to us. Not saying it's a bad thing but it's not for us. I may be 47 but Rhiannon is only 35 so 50s to 70s is just a little much for her and it's getting us a little down that so few in our preferred and stated range are contacting us |
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"Probably because you guys look quite old and out of shape yourselves so they think you are kindred spirits."
Cancer and a digestive disorder will do that to you my friend. I hope you never find that out. |
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"Hi guys
Just a quick bit of advice needed. Most of the attention we are getting for the last couple of months have been from the slightly older side of the spectrum even tho our preferences are up to 49. It's flattering as hell and we have been speaking to a couple that are fantastic company but for us the physical side just isn't there with older couples. We feel terrible when we have to say that too. Is there something about our profile that makes us stand out to the older crowd? We are just a bit confused by it at the min"
It's probably just coincidence, if you want to avoid the awkwardness just mention it in the first reply - hi thanks for messaging happy to chat but you are outside pur age range for play. If they then just want to be friends then thats all fine and dandy
And as a couple outside your range don't let ppl say you should change just for them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably because you guys look quite old and out of shape yourselves so they think you are kindred spirits.
Cancer and a digestive disorder will do that to you my friend. I hope you never find that out. "
Now THAT is a put down. Well done you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably because you guys look quite old and out of shape yourselves so they think you are kindred spirits."
You’re no gentleman nor are you polite and respectful. I’d alter your profile if I were you.
Not that you’ll need to after that nasty, spiteful comment. |
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He's entitled to his opinion guys, the rest of you are awesome. I hope he looks back and realises that comments like that can damage people more than make them or others laugh.
I have serious self image issues anyway but luckily my wife is stunningly beautiful and supports me every step of the way. She's had issues with her weight ( as I said I think she's stunning) so this has set her back months.
I do wish you well tho. And pray you age well and stay healthy
Everyone else thank you. Your the reason we love fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking through his veris, its gangbangs and doggging, not for his company. For someone with the people skills of a crocodile that's just had its arse fingered, I'd say he has done well to get that far. |
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"Probably because you guys look quite old and out of shape yourselves so they think you are kindred spirits.
Cancer and a digestive disorder will do that to you my friend. I hope you never find that out. "
Leo and Aquarius here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He's entitled to his opinion guys, the rest of you are awesome. I hope he looks back and realises that comments like that can damage people more than make them or others laugh.
I have serious self image issues anyway but luckily my wife is stunningly beautiful and supports me every step of the way. She's had issues with her weight ( as I said I think she's stunning) so this has set her back months.
I do wish you well tho. And pray you age well and stay healthy
Everyone else thank you. Your the reason we love fab"
What a lovely couple you are. You’re the type of people that make Fab a pleasure.
And we all have our issues but I will say hand on heart that you have no need. You’re a lovely looking couple and your wife has a fabulous body.
You will find the right people on here and when you do it’s more than worth it. Good luck to you both xx |
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"Hi guys
Just a quick bit of advice needed. Most of the attention we are getting for the last couple of months have been from the slightly older side of the spectrum even tho our preferences are up to 49. It's flattering as hell and we have been speaking to a couple that are fantastic company but for us the physical side just isn't there with older couples. We feel terrible when we have to say that too. Is there something about our profile that makes us stand out to the older crowd? We are just a bit confused by it at the min"
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"so sorry to hear about your Cancer
whats wrong with older couples/guys. . at least they have more experience . . . There has to be an attraction,a desire, an excitement and often a certain age(too young or too old) is unattractive to many. Its a preference,.. I won't play with people I don't find attractive.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We won't play with people we don't find attractive especially Yasmin with females, but mostly it's not about age and because we still look younger than our years we still attract young people , we are more attracted to body size and faces.. but everyone has their preferences . |
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Think a lot of it is to do with the guys being close to her father's age that she can't get past. Personality is much more important than looks to us but there still has to be an attraction and there just hasn't been at that age difference. There is nothing wrong with older couples, it's just not our thing. |
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Just reading through all the comments the one thing that occurred to me was that it feels you are waiting for couples to message you and not being proactive yourself... Of course that could just be you haven't mentioned that side of it...
Some people will always ignore preferences and the only way you can stop that is to block as others have said.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Off topic re: couples but it would put me off ‘she is curious to receive but does not want to give yet.’ Obviously everyone has their own likes/limits but as a bi woman that doesn’t sound like a whole lot of fun for me |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Off topic re: couples but it would put me off ‘she is curious to receive but does not want to give yet.’ Obviously everyone has their own likes/limits but as a bi woman that doesn’t sound like a whole lot of fun for me "
Yea that is off topic |
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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago
Tipton |
Im having the same problem with my age. . . as quite a lot o look for in my search don't want to be with a guy my age, but i don't feel or look my age as some people have said of me . . . or are they just being nice towards me ? |
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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago
Yorkshire |
"Be the ones to message the couples you like first!
Plus the Male half of you is almost 60 so people in 50's or 60's probably wouldn't think they were too old for you. "
That's like saying we are almost 60, when is 47 almost 60?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Set your message filters guy and block those that don’t meet them .
Ignore what that idiot said we all have back stories and we are allowed then it’s what makes us unique and not all the same . Wish you luck! |
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"Be the ones to message the couples you like first!
Plus the Male half of you is almost 60 so people in 50's or 60's probably wouldn't think they were too old for you. "
Didn't think I looked that old lol!!! |
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